Why we refuse to accept reality and face facts

In this article you will learn the following

40+ tips on How to face facts and accept reality in your life

• -Become aware about your habits of mind, emotions and feelings - ask yourself these 10 questions
• -31 questions to ask yourself to move past denial
• -Understand 9 bitter-sweet facts about life - so that your expectations becomes grounded
• -A partial list of healthy ways to cope during stressful time - but you need to form the habit of doing these when everything is working fine and start enjoying them - as you can't just do it when you are stressed - it won't work

How Why and When you should face facts of life - Why we refuse to accept reality and face facts in our life

Can you identify with the following two situations

• a)Avoiding having a difficult conversation with your colleague or co-worker - because makes you very highly anxious
• b)Declining an invitation to a friend's party because you feel anxious about meeting strangers and are scared about being judged by them

Still many of those who have this type of emotional-mental disposition - don't take steps to address the issue.

Some of us may not even acknowledge - that there could be something that needs healing or mending within us.

Facing facts about ourselves - becomes even more challenging - when we have deep-rooted emotional-insecurities and as a result thereof have low self-esteem and low self-belief.

The truth is - when we avoid facing facts and refuse to accept reality- we fall in the whirlpool of ever-increasing cycle of negative emotions - which may include simmering-anger, shame, bitterness, frustrations, irritations, short-fuse, guilt etc.

And the only definite outcome this will have in your life - is to increase your sufferings manifold.

Some of us may avoid facing facts in - health related issues, financial difficulties, RELATIONSHIP-ISSUES, hurts, regrets, shames, guilt, sufferings, mistakes, failures and other worries.

Many of us have created a self-image and think of ourselves as the smartest, the most intelligent and of a person who have solutions for everybody's problems.

Yet you may find yourself struggling to find finding solutions - for few of those problems you were acting as an expert and advising others confidently.

Many of us have created a self-image and think of ourselves as the smartest, the most intelligent and of a person who have solutions for everybody's problems.

Yet you may find yourself struggling to find finding solutions - for few of those problems you were acting as an expert and advising others confidently.

We resist and turn a blind eye to all those indicators which are contrary to our perception of ourselves.

Avoiding stress might seem like a great way to become less stressed - but in reality it only leads to more complex situations and issues.

In most cases - confronting a problem that is impacting you in big-ways or dealing with a stressor is the only way to eliminate or minimize the stress or anxiety.

40+ tips on How to face facts and accept reality in your life - every point given below - has a detailed do it yourself article in this website as well as in our 2nd website

• 1.Become aware about your habits of mind, emotions and feelings - ask yourself these 10 questions
• I.What you are doing now
• II.Why are you doing these - pay especial attention to those task you start doing just to avoid something
• III.What you are avoiding
• IV.Why are you avoiding these
• V.Which situations makes you run away - WHY
• VI.Which people you feel like avoiding - why
• VII.What are your biggest fears and anxiety causing triggers
• VIII.Now stay with your feelings of fear, discomfort, uneasiness and distress
• IX.What lacunae, weakness, flaws and shortcomings - in yourself - you try to hide
• X.Identify what actions can you take - once you have experienced these negative emotions for some time
• 2.Ask yourself [to see if you are in denial] - you can identify other similar incidents and your behaviors
• I.Are you trying to protect yourself by refusing to accept the truth about something that's happening in your life
• II.Are you using unhealthy means to suppress and avoid feeling bad
• III.You don't have money for everyday expense - but you are spending freely through credit-card
• IV.You pant with exhaustion in slightest exertion and have chest pain and shortness of breath - but still you avoid going to doctors - to avoid facing - the fact that you may have some serious medical conditions
• 3.31 questions to ask yourself to move past denial
• I.Do you try to change things that you don't have any control over - list when and where you go for this behavior
• II.List all that makes you scared or highly agitated
• III.List all the potential negative consequences of your not taking action
• IV.Express your fears and emotions - with someone you trust or with a trained counselor
• V.Identify and challenge irrational beliefs that you have
• VI.Talk through problems that are causing stress in your relationship
• VII.Reframe your situation to recognize the positives rather than only focusing on the negatives
• VIII.Budget more carefully to minimize financial stress all demonstrate active coping.
• IX.Learn to use Active-behavioral coping - which addresses the problem directly.
• X.Take help of trained mental-health professional to learn and practice Active-cognitive coping to change how you respond to the various stressors
• XI.Find New Ways to Relieve Stress
• XII.Use Emotional Coping Techniques
• XIII.Practice Communication Skills
• XIV.Have Someone Hold You Accountable
• XV.Learn to Tolerate Uncomfortable Feelings
• XVI.Work on Improving Your Self-Control
• XVII.Learn to delay Gratification and to Avoid Temptation and impulsive reactions - Remind Yourself of the Consequences
• XVIII.Create a clear motivating goal to change your life situation
• XIX.Focus on One Goal at a Time - Track your actions toward the achievement of the goal
• XX.Learn and Meditate the right way - everyday
• XXI.Use your willpower strategically and in the most crucial times to overcome taking tough decisions
• XXII.Learn How to face criticism and rejections and frustrations of life
• XXIII.Learn to enjoy the sense of suspense that pleasurable events provide
• XXIV.Learn to accept what had happened instead of constantly fighting to change things
• XXV.Write a few paragraphs about what's important to you and how you practice that in your life.
• XXVI.Remind yourself that you have some control over the situation.
• XXVII.If you are avoiding facing your health-issues - understand that getting to know everything about your illness will give you options to decide what type of treatment to go for
• XXVIII.If you are avoiding going deeper into any issue - ask yourself what you are actually scared off and explore the possibility that this information might be helpful
• XXIX.People in general, hold onto beliefs that are shaped by early experiences, the media, and detrimental-influences
• XXX.Share your personal challenges with trusted people and seek their help and advice
• XXXI.Stop accepting mediocrity in life - focus on improving your life and whatever you do with excellence in mind
• XXXII.Realize that your whole life is like not a race - only to live for each day and making it the most fulfilling
• 4.Understand 9 bitter-sweet facts about life - so that your expectations becomes grounded
• I.You may not become famous - like you imagined you would be
• II.People tell you good things about you - because they know that you want to hear them.
• III.You can't change anyone
• IV.Very few people will be grateful to you
• V.Everyone will not like you and some people will even hate you - irrespective of what you do and how good you are to them
• VI.Even if you don't bother anyone your whole life - there will be people that judge and criticize your actions
• VII.You are fully dispensable - most of the people will not miss you at all
• VIII.Even if you are right - understand that Facts alone don't win arguments
• IX.Accepting the reality Does Not Mean Giving Up - it only needed - for you to create options and solutions to come out of this pathetic condition
• X.Nobody gives a damn about what are you doing - because they are so immersed in their own insecurities and agendas
• 5.How can you - live your life -being yourself all the time - CREATE ACTION PLAN
• 6.What goals if you are able to achieve - will make you feel fulfilled and at the top of the world - create action plan to achieve these
• 7.Ask yourself - which tasks you must do YET you don't have a clue as to how to do that - make a learning plan
• 8.A partial list of healthy ways to cope during stressful time - but you need to form the habit of doing these when everything is working fine and start enjoying them - as you can't just do it when you are stressed - it won't work
• I.Cry if you are feeling overwhelmed and helpless - it is a great catharsis
• II.Spend time talking with your loved ones, friends, and trusted confidants.
• III.Turn to hobbies and soothing activities -walking in nature, playing your favorite music etc.
• IV.Read or listen to books that inspire or entertain or makes you feel lighter
• V.Play Chess [even with yourself] to slow down, concentrate, use precise thinking, active both inductive and deductive reasoning, as well as recognizing difficult and complex patterns.
• VI.Use Gardening to improves to enhance your learning abilities by being in the outdoor
• VII.Learn to play instrumental Music
• VIII.Learn a new language
• IX.Start cooking try out new recipes
• X.Get involved in theatre and comedy
• XI.Play team outdoor-games - to make failure as another learning experience.
• XII.Go for Daydreaming - spend time with yourself and visualize your dreams coming to fruition and use this time to understand and find solutions to the challenges and problems you are facing