Master the powerful art of ignoring people and things

How to develop thick skin Secret of living a peaceful and fulfilling life - Master the Art of Ignoring

What's the secret to living a peaceful and fulfilling life - You must Master the Art of Ignoring.

In this article we will learn

  • -15 Basics Clarifications about the Art of Ignoring and Developing the Right type of Thick-skin
  • -Choosing the Correct Hard from 10 Areas - as Life is tough most of you would agree
  • -39 things you need to learn to ignore and develop a thick-skin for - that is neither bother about these OR let them bother you
  • -19 things what you should never ignore
  • -68 ways to Learn and Master the art of ignoring and developing thick skin strategically


15 Basics Clarifications about the Art of Ignoring and Developing the Right type of Thick-skin

  • 1.By ignoring the noise, the non-essentials, the distractions, and what is neither important nor helpful and all those people who are toxic - we can create place and space for things that we love and those which uplifts us mentally, emotionally and physically.
  • 2.To practice and master this art of ignoring - we have to develop crucial understanding to discern WHOM and WHAT to ignore and WHOM and WHAT to not ignore - both are equally important.
  • 3.When we have thick skinned - we don't get emotionally overwhelmed and our self-worth, self-esteem etc. etc. - does not get crushed by the anger, criticism, insults and pulling us down by others.
  • 4.But the Negative side of being thick-skinned at the extreme is that - you develop such thick-skin and ignore all those things by allowing and accepting verbal, emotional and physical abuse.
  • 5.When someone's anger, criticism or behavior is meant to hurt - it is NOT OK under any circumstance.
  • 6.Only when someone who shows anger at you or criticizes you [maintaining the boundaries of respect] - has the focus of ONLY helping you - then having thick skin can make you listen, understand and take action - without getting hurt, sad or depressed.
  • 7.Many times - all of us give silent-treatment and ignore the people whom we love most - but very few realize - the hurts we have caused.
  • 8.Although all of us have experienced the horrible feelings - when we are IGNORED by our loved ones.
  • 9.Many times - this skill and habit if used properly - can be the best and the most effective way to protest and show our displeasure.
  • 10. The trick and the art lies in knowing where to draw the line.
  • 11. There are two ways to ignore people or things
  • I.First is the negative way - many people use this way to hurt - which is intentional and planned
  • II.The second when we ignore things and people - to avoid unnecessary quarrels, arguments plus to avoid hurts, resentment and sadness in yourself and others [THIS WHAT WE ARE FOCUSED ON in this article].
  • 12. The second way does not condone the wrongs done by others - but instead of getting into quarrel, fight or argument - we simply choose to ignore what they said and carry on with our life.
  • 13. It is definitely not easy - because - when someone insults us, demeans us or criticizes us - we get the instant urge to fight back, to settle the score, to teach a lesson and so on.
  • 14. But if you have experienced life's ups and downs both - you will find that - in the long run many of the things we lose peace for, fight and quarrel about - actually does not create bliss, contentment and happiness
  • 15. That is why we are going to learn what we can ignore and what should not be ignored at all


Choosing the Correct Hard from 10 Areas - as Life is tough most of you would agree

I have given two tough choices in the following 10 areas [you can add yours to this list] - It will be tough and hard in both the choices - But if you want your life to be more satisfying, more fulfilling, happier and more successful - you need to choose the right-tough.

  • 1.Maintaining relationship is tough – living alone and lonely is even tougher
  • 2.Blaming others, making excuses, justifying is easy – taking ownership and full responsibility is very tough
  • 3.Relaxing and having fun is easy - Discipline is tough
  • 4.Being obese is easy as well as tough – exercising to remain fit is tough
  • 5.Not expressing is easy – expressing yourself honestly is tough
  • 6.Asking tough questions is tough – not asking and living in ignorance is easy
  • 7.Spending is easy – earning and saving is very tough
  • 8.Working hard is tough – finding means to avoid work is easy BUT needs creativity
  • 9.Taking risks and making mistakes and failing is tough and accepting these is tough – regret of not doing is tougher
  • 10. Getting into argument is easy – avoid proving yourself right is tough


39 things you need to learn to ignore and develop a thick-skin for - that is neither bother about these OR let them bother you

  • 1.Ignore that feeling which tell you to fix and change others
  • 2.Ignore planning the revenge [especially if you are submissive] - it is more hurtful and become toxic for you in long run
  • 3.Ignore thinking about the remarks made by others over and over - which make you feel bad
  • 4.Ignore the drama, the tantrum, the show-off and the outburst - that others create
  • 5.Ignore people who only come to you for gossip
  • 6.Ignore people who only feed you with negative things
  • 7.Ignore anything that makes you feel worthless, as if you don't matter.
  • 8.Ignore the hatred spread by others
  • 9.Ignore the poison spewed by people
  • 10. Ignore the people who only criticize you for the purpose
  • 11. Ignore unsolicited advice, opinions
  • 12. Instead of getting angry and shouting at others especially your kids and partners - learn the art of distracting AND learn the art of making them feel that you are least bothered by their behaviors, outburst, tantrums
  • 13. Ignore poisonous arguments
  • 14. Ignore getting into argument for the sake of proving yourself right and other person wrong
  • 15. Ignore those who laugh at your dreams
  • 16. Ignore everything that makes you compromise with your values
  • 17. Ignore avoid and get rid of all the toxic peoples from your life
  • 18. Ignore news-channels
  • 19. Ignore political, religious discussions - where opposing opinions are expressed
  • 20. Ignore trying to show how much you know
  • 21. Ignore distractions which takes your focus away from your highest of high-payoff activities
  • 22. Ignore the urge to prove yourself to others
  • 23. Ignore the feeling to please and satisfy everyone
  • 24. Ignore what waste your time, money and efforts - and does not add value to yourself
  • 25. Ignore those who don't care for you
  • 26. Ignore what other people 'might' think of you
  • 27. Ignore the comparison on how lucky others are
  • 28. Ignore feeling sorry for yourself
  • 29. Ignore wallowing in your sorrows
  • 30. Ignore sitting on your laurels
  • 31. Ignore living a fake life - just to impress others
  • 32. Ignore the soap operas that runs for years OR the celebrity shows
  • 33. Ignore what you don't have any control over
  • 34. Ignore the failure and mistakes - after you have taken the lesson
  • 35. Ignore the hurt by forgiving others - who wronged you
  • 36. Ignore the hurtful remarks of others
  • 37. Ignore the overthinking especially if you feel that it only you - others are talking
  • 38. Ignore to internal voice to check on your ex's social posts
  • 39. Ignore begging for love and care and understanding if - you don't get reciprocations


19 things what you should never ignore

  • 1.Your physical, Mental, emotional health and wellbeing
  • 2.Your priorities
  • 3.Your passions
  • 4.Your values
  • 5.Your loved ones
  • 6.People who care for you
  • 7.Those who contributed in your life
  • 8.People who stood by when you were going through tough times
  • 9.The lessons from your mistakes and failures
  • 10. The blessings in your life
  • 11. Self-care
  • 12. Learning, unlearning and relearning
  • 13. Reinventing yourself, rediscovering yourself and connecting with yourself
  • 14. Your focus on growth of yourself and people connected with you
  • 15. Your proactive embracing of change
  • 16. Your moving-on after crisis
  • 17. Your bad-habits and weaknesses those pull you down - for the purpose of working on them
  • 18. Your etiquettes, manners and behaviors - to ensure that they are classy
  • 19. Your values

68 ways to Learn and Master the art of ignoring and developing thick skin strategically

  • 1.Learn to identify and focus on the most important and prioritize need - identify what usually make you distracted
  • 2.Identify and acknowledge what is distracting you at the moment -then makes a concerted effort to block it out - to create focus on your most important priorities
  • 3.To develop Thick Skin - understand that - It's not all about you all the time
  • 4.Don't take things personally - many times we have to interpret a person's bad behavior by - actually believing that they might be having a bad time - which is triggering their nastiness
  • 5.Identify which people and which situations and which behaviors - irritates you and make you lose your cool and blow-up
  • 6.Understand that for success and every meaningful things in life - all of us have to face criticism, rejections and failures
  • 7.Learn to pick yourself up and move on
  • 8.All worthwhile things will make you fall numerous times - this is part of the deal - so don't be discouraged if it takes a few times to get it right
  • 9.Never stop trying - experiment, create newer ways, try radically different approaches and perspectives
  • 10. Learn to solve problems creatively
  • 11. When something does not work - pivot, improvise, rethink and then apply the new solutions
  • 12. Focus more on actions - rather than on the outcomes
  • 13. Never mind looking stupid - if you don't know something - accept that and then go find the answer
  • 14. Learn to respond and not react on impulse to people and situation without thinking through
  • 15. Avoid blaming
  • 16. Avoid making excuses
  • 17. Take full responsibility for your actions and decisions
  • 18. Understand that like you - other people too have their ups and downs
  • 19. Do you ever feel hurt by what people say about you - this is one of the important reasons we need to develop thick skin
  • 20. You will be amazed by how quickly you and others get upset over minor things
  • 21. But when you get upset by others - you are giving power to them - to control you the way they want AND your outburst may not have any impact or effect on them whatsoever
  • 22. Never Shy Away From Confrontation- stop taking sh*t from others
  • 23. Never your or somebody's justify bad behavior - understand that others are also competing for attention, love, money, jobs.
  • 24. Express Yourself honestly
  • 25. Put Things In Perspective by challenging your perceptions and assumptions
  • 26. Work on yourself so that you can get rid of the feelings of - To Be Liked By Everyone
  • 27. Create quest to be right NOT becoming popular
  • 28. Listen intently to the criticism without interrupting - without reacting defensively
  • 29. Thank them for feedback
  • 30. Don't take criticism to heart - it is not always your sh*t
  • 31. Stop taking rejection personally
  • 32. Set your expectations from others and from situations realistic enough
  • 33. Focus your attention back to what's within your control.
  • 34. Put efforts in taking actions - those take you closer to your goals
  • 35. Work on something that resonates with you
  • 36. Identify - who are the people whose opinions and judgment you should respect most AND pay attention to
  • 37. There are people who take pleasure in criticizing - remember that this is their reaction to their own emotional and other insecurities
  • 38. These people are incapable of creating anything meaningful of their own.
  • 39. Use criticism as motivation to redirect your energy to create momentum of your own
  • 40. A meaningful, fulfilling creative life demands hard work and tough decisions
  • 41. Separate fact from interpretation.
  • 42. Nurture your important and close relationships.
  • 43. Find meaning in your life.
  • 44. Prioritize your self-care.
  • 45. Be Vulnerable
  • 46. Trust yourself
  • 47. Express yourself
  • 48. Learn how to fall
  • 49. Practice silence – You don't have to respond to everything people say or do.
  • 50. Actively invite more criticism into your life ask others their opinion
  • 51. Break out of your comfort zones
  • 52. Pay attention to things that offend you - think why they offend you - Identify exaggerating thinking - then learn to ignore them as they are worthless
  • 53. Find someone you can open up to - to share and vent your feelings
  • 54. Acquire skills which help you get over your own emotional insecurities
  • 55. Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems - Take decisive actions.
  • 56. Look for opportunities for self-discovery - Nurture a positive view of yourself.
  • 57. Ask yourself - What types of events have been most stressful for you and How have those events impacted you - What have you learned about yourself during difficult times
  • 58. Develop resilience and become Flexible - so as not to let failures, disappointments, irritations, criticism sick to you
  • 59. Experience and feel your strong emotions - both negative as well as positive ones - then find out when you may need to put under continue functioning effectively
  • 60. Instead of ignoring the problems take action to deal with them
  • 61. Reenergize yourself by taking break and vacations regularly
  • 62. Spend time with loved ones who offer support and encouragement; nurture yourself.
  • 63. Rely on others but also know when to rely on yourself.
  • 64. Identify if you are Too Sensitive
  • 65. Do you react extremely negatively when someone makes a passing comment about you
  • 66. Write down your feelings - Figure out what makes you sensitive - Identify when you overthink and magnify THEN create strategies to deal with them in future better
  • 67. We have to know and develop a thicker skin without being obnoxious
  • 68. Work on your self-esteem, self-confidence, self-worth, self-pride - on regular basis


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