Master the powerful art of ignoring people and things

In this article we will learn

-15 reasons why Art of Ignoring and Developing Thick-skin of right-type is most essential for you to learn and practice everyday

- If you agree - Life is tough - then choose the Correct Tough and Hard from these 15 example areas

-39 things you need to learn to ignore and develop a thick-skin for - meaning neither you bother about these nor should you let these bother you

-19 things should never ignore

-69 Tips to Learn and Master the art of ignoring and developing thick skin strategically

Master the powerful art of ignoring people and things

What's the secret to living a peaceful and fulfilling life - You must Master the Art of Ignoring.

15 reasons why Art of Ignoring and Developing Thick-skin of right-type is most essential for you to learn and practice everyday

• 1.By ignoring the noise, the non-essentials, the distractions, the toxic environment and toxic people and what is neither important nor helpful - we can create space for things that we love and which will uplifts us mentally, emotionally and physically.
• 2.To practice and master this art of ignoring - we have to develop crucial understanding to discern WHOM and WHAT to ignore and WHOM and WHAT not to ignore - both are equally important.
• 3.When we become totally thick skinned - we don't get emotionally overwhelmed and our self-worth, self-esteem etc. - does not get crushed by the anger, the criticism, the insults and all the tactics others use to pull us down and belittle us
• 4.But the Negative side of being completely thick-skinned - is that - you ignore, allow and accept - even verbal, emotional and physical abuse.
• 5.When someone's anger, criticism or behavior is meant to hurt - it is NOT OK under any circumstance - and should be dealt in the right, empowering and positive ways.
• 6.When your real well-wishers - show anger or criticizes you [maintaining the basic respect AND - have the focus of helping you] - then having thick skin can make you listen, understand and take action - without getting hurt, sad or depressed.
• 7.Many times - all of us give silent-treatment and ignore the people whom we love most - but very few realize - the hurts we have caused.
• 8.Although all of us have experienced the horrible feelings - when we are IGNORED by our loved ones.
• 9.Many times - this skill and habit of ignoring things and people - if used properly - can be the best and the most effective way to protest and show our displeasure.
• 10. The trick and the art lies in knowing where to draw the line.
• 11. There are two ways to ignore people or things - First is the negative way - many people use this way to hurt - which is intentional and planned - and has to be avoided
• 12. The second when we ignore things and people - to avoid unnecessary quarrels, arguments plus to avoid hurts, resentment and sadness in yourself [THIS is WHAT WE ARE FOCUSED ON in this article].
• 13. The second way does not condone the wrongs done by others - but instead of getting into quarrel, fight or argument - we simply choose to ignore what they said and carry on with our life.
• 14. It is definitely not easy - because - when someone insults us, demeans us or criticizes us - we get the instant urge to fight back, to settle the score, to teach a lesson and so on.
• 15. But if you have experienced life's ups and downs both - you will find that - in the long run many of the things we lose peace for PLUS fight and quarrel about - actually does not create bliss, contentment and happiness

That is why we are going to learn what we can ignore and what should not be ignored at all

If you agree - Life is tough - then choose the Correct Tough-n-Hard from these 15 example areas - I have given two tough choices in the following 15 areas in each sentences [you can other areas to this list].

It will be tough and hard in both the choices - But if you want your life to be more satisfying, more fulfilling, happier and more successful - you need to choose the right-tough.

• 1.Sulking and not let others know about your expectations is easy - telling them frankly in the correct manner is tough
• 2.Not claiming your right is easy - knowing and asking for your rights is tough
• 3.Maintaining relationship is tough – living alone and lonely is even tougher
• 4.Blaming others, making excuses, justifying is easy – taking ownership and full responsibility is very tough
• 5.Whiling-away time having fun is easy - Discipline is tough
• 6.Being obese is easy as well as tough – exercising to remain fit is very-tough
• 7.Not telling what you feel is easy – expressing yourself honestly is tough
• 8.Asking tough questions is tough – not asking and living in ignorance is easy
• 9.Spending is easy – earning and saving is very tough
• 10. Studying is tough - playing is easy
• 11. Finding solutions is tough - ignoring the problems is easy
• 12. Working hard is tough – finding means to avoid work is easy [although needs creativity]
• 13. Taking risks and making mistakes and failing is tough and accepting these is very-tough – BUT - the regret of not doing is tougher
• 14. Getting into argument is easy to prove yourself right - is tough - not letting your EGO drive your motivation is tough
• 15. Letting the misunderstanding continue is easy - taking initiative to resolve conflict is tough

39 things you need to learn to ignore and develop a thick-skin for - meaning neither you bother about these nor should you let these bother you

• 1.Avoiding trying to fix and change others - in any case except ruining relationships - it never works
• 2.Planning for revenge [especially if you are submissive and people have hurt you or ill-treated you] - it is more hurtful and makes you toxic as well as is poisonous
• 3.Ignore thinking about the remarks made by others over and over long-after for no reason - which make you feel bad about yourself
• 4.Ignore the drama, the tantrum, the show-off and the outburst - that others make and create
• 5.Avoid and ignore people who only come to you for gossip
• 6.Avoid and ignore people who only feed you with negative things
• 7.Ignore anything that makes you feel worthless
• 8.Avoid and ignore people who make you feel as if you don't matter, your feelings does not exists and your rights have no value
• 9.Avoid and ignore people who spread hatred and poison
• 10. Avoid and ignore people who only criticize you for the purpose of feeling good themselves
• 11. Ignore unsolicited advice, opinions and dictums - of others
• 12. Instead of getting angry and shouting at others especially your kids and partners - learn the art of distracting AND learn the art of making them feel that you are least bothered by their behaviors, outburst, tantrums
• 13. Avoid getting drawn into poisonous and value-less arguments
• 14. Avoid any argument just for the sake of proving that you are right and other person wrong
• 15. Ignore those who laugh at your dreams
• 16. Ignore everything that makes you compromise with your values
• 17. Ignore, avoid and get rid of all the toxic peoples from your life
• 18. Ignore news-channels - if you happen to watch Indian-news channels for long - you would become the subject of asylum for criminally-ill
• 19. Ignore political, religious discussions - where opposing opinions are expressed - and which eventually leads to fight and maybe violence
• 20. Ignore trying to show-off how much you know
• 21. Ignore distractions which takes your focus away from your highest of high-payoff activities
• 22. Ignore the urge to prove yourself to others and to get their approval and validation for what you want to do
• 23. Ignore the urge to please and satisfy everyone
• 24. Ignore all that - which wastes your time, money and efforts - and does not add any value at all
• 25. Ignore those who don't care for you
• 26. Ignore what other people 'might' think of you
• 27. Ignore the comparing with others - if it makes you feel - how lucky others are
• 28. Ignore feeling sorry for yourself and wallowing in your sorrows
• 29. Ignore sitting on your laurels - instead work on higher goals
• 30. Ignore living a fake life - just to impress others
• 31. Ignore the soap operas that runs for years OR the celebrity shows
• 32. Don't bother about - what you don't have any control over and is beyond your area of influence
• 33. Ignore the failure and mistakes - after you have learned and taken the lessons
• 34. Ignore the hurt by cause by others by forgiving them
• 35. Avoid thinking about those people - who wronged you
• 36. Ignore the hurtful remarks of others
• 37. Ignore the overthinking - especially if it paralyses you with inaction and indecision
• 38. Ignore the urge and the internal voice telling you to check on your ex's social posts
• 39. Ignore begging for love and care and understanding - if you don't get reciprocations from people you have gone out of your ways

19 things you should never ignore

• 1.Your physical, Mental, emotional health and wellbeing
• 2.Your priorities
• 3.Your passions
• 4.Your values
• 5.Your loved ones
• 6.People who care for you
• 7.Those who contributed meaningfully and positively in your life
• 8.People who stood by you - when you were going through tough times
• 9.The lessons from your mistakes and failures
• 10. The blessings in your life
• 11. Your Self-care
• 12. Learning, unlearning and relearning
• 13. Reinventing yourself, rediscovering yourself and connecting with yourself
• 14. Your focus on growth of yourself and people connected with you
• 15. Your proactive embracing of change
• 16. Your moving-on after crisis
• 17. Your bad-habits and weaknesses - which pull you down - for the purpose of working on them
• 18. Your etiquettes, manners and behaviors - to ensure that they are classy
• 19. Your self-worth

69 Tips to Learn and Master the art of ignoring and developing thick skin strategically

• 1.Learn to identify, prioritize and focus on your most important needs
• 2.Identify what makes you distracted - from pursuing your important goals - generally - work out ways to not to let that affect you
• 3.Identify and acknowledge what is distracting you - right-now at this moment -then make concerted effort to block it out - to create focus on your most important priorities
• 4.But if what is distracting you is important - first find the solution to that nagging concern and then come back to your most important tasks and priorities
• 5.Understand that - It's not all about you all the time - this is the most basic understanding to avoid feeling hurt and disappointed
• 6.Don't take things personally - many times we have to interpret a person's bad behavior by - actually believing that they might be having a bad time - which is triggering their nastiness
• 7.Identify which people and which situations and which behaviors - irritates you and make you lose your cool and blow-up
• 8.Understand that for success and every meaningful things in life - all of us have to face criticism, rejections and failures
• 9.Learn to get yourself up after you have been hit - then move on
• 10. All worthwhile things will make you fail and fall numerous times - this is part of the growth and progress process - so don't be discouraged if it takes you a few times to get it right
• 11. Never stop trying - experiment, create newer ways, try radically different approaches and perspectives
• 12. Learn to solve problems creatively
• 13. When something does not work - pivot, improvise, rethink and then apply the new solutions
• 14. Focus more on actions - rather than on the outcomes
• 15. Never mind looking stupid - if you don't know something - accept that and then go find the answer - if it is essential
• 16. Learn to respond and not react on impulse to people and situation without thinking through
• 17. Avoid blaming and making excuses
• 18. Take full responsibility for your actions and decisions
• 19. Do you ever feel hurt by what people say about you - accept that like you - other people too have their ups and downs
• 20. You will be amazed by how quickly you get upset over minor things - once you realize this and start thinking about your major goals - it works wonders
• 21. But when you get upset by others - you are giving power to them - to control you the way they want AND your outburst may not have any impact or effect on them whatsoever
• 22. Never Shy Away From Confronting for the right causes and reasons
• 23. Stop taking sh*t from others - but learn to do it in most empowering ways - so that later you don't feel bad
• 24. Sometime there is a reason for the bad behavior of others - understand that others are also competing for attention, love, money, jobs - like you do
• 25. Express Yourself honestly - without hurting others by polishing the art of communicating in the suave and classy manner
• 26. Challenge your perceptions and assumptions all the time - to get the correct perspective
• 27. Work on yourself and your larger than life dreams
• 28. Stop expecting to Be Liked by Everyone - it is neither healthy nor possible and desirable
• 29. Focus on being respectable by doing the right things
• 30. Learn to overcome the insecurities which make you do things to be popular
• 31. Listen intently to the criticism of others - without interrupting - and without reacting defensively
• 32. Thank them for their feedback
• 33. Don't take criticism to heart - it is not always your sh*t
• 34. Stop taking rejection personally - identify f you need to learn and improve yourself to win next time
• 35. Calibrate your expectations from yourself and set it at realistic level
• 36. Minimize your expectations from others
• 37. Focus your attention back to what's within your control.
• 38. Put efforts in taking actions - which would take you closer to your goals
• 39. Work on something that resonates with you and makes your passions grow
• 40. Identify - who are the people whose opinions and judgment you should respect most AND pay attention to
• 41. There are people who take pleasure in criticizing - remember that this is their reaction to their own emotional and other insecurities - These people are incapable of creating anything meaningful of their own.
• 42. Use the negative energy of anger generated by criticism as your motivation to channelize this energy to create momentum of your own
• 43. Use the following 9 ways to create a meaningful, fulfilling creative life - as it demands and needs hard work and tough decisions and right actions from you
• I.Separate fact from interpretation.
• II.Nurture your important and close relationships.
• III.Find meaning in your life.
• IV.Prioritize your self-care.
• V.Be Vulnerable
• VI.Trust yourself
• VII.Express yourself
• VIII.Learn how to fall
• IX.Practice silence – You don't have to respond to everything people say or do.
• X.Actively invite more criticism into your life ask others their opinion
• XI.Break out of your comfort zones
• 44. Pay attention to things that offend you - think why they offend you - Identify your exaggerating thinking patterns - then learn to ignore them as they are worthless
• 45. Find someone you can open up to - to share and vent your feelings
• 46. Acquire skills which help you get over your own emotional insecurities
• 47. Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems - Take decisive actions.
• 48. Look for opportunities for self-discovery - Nurture a positive view of yourself.
• 49. Ask yourself - What types of events have been most stressful for you and How have those events impacted you - What have you learned about yourself during difficult times
• 50. Develop resilience and become Flexible - so as not to let failures, disappointments, irritations, criticism sick to you
• 51. Experience and feel your strong emotions - both negative as well as positive ones - then find out when you may need to put under continue functioning effectively
• 52. Instead of ignoring the problems take action to deal with them
• 53. Reenergize yourself by taking break and vacations regularly
• 54. Spend time with loved ones who offer support and encouragement; nurture yourself.
• 55. Rely on others but also know when to rely on yourself.
• 56. Identify if you are Too Sensitive
• 57. Do you react extremely negatively when someone makes a passing comment about you
• 58. Write down your feelings - Figure out what makes you sensitive - Identify when you overthink and magnify THEN create strategies to deal with them in future better
• 59. We have develop a thicker skin without being obnoxious, insensitive and mean
• 60. Work on your self-esteem, self-confidence, self-worth, self-pride - on regular basis

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