Whether you are the King, the President, The Conglomerate Chairperson, a Housewife, a Student, in a romantic relationship, a parent, a person running a business, or working, or even unemployed – you must take numerous decisions every-day.
Our comfort level and attitude* towards decision making and habit of decision making can create the sky and earth differences and distinction in the quality of life we lead.
Not taking decision or avoiding taking decisions – too falls under decision-making.
All the decision taken by us as well as forced on us have long-term consequences.
Decision-making* is not only choosing an option – but also acting on it.
If we just decide but don't take any action – the decision making is not complete.
People who in spite of being uncertain, unsure and in unknown situations can take tough decisions and actions – are the ones who are more successful, happier, more satisfied, have less regrets etc etc.
Taking tough decisions constitutes risk-taking* and all risks have rewards, opportunities* as well as pains - Some decisions have irreversible outcomes.
The decision could be as big as "Shall we sell Yahoo" [I am referring to the first time when they were offered a very large amount and they didn't sell anticipating a windfall later - and - later they had to sell after few years for much-much lower price] OR which profession/career/course should I choose OR whether to continue with the relationship.
OR the decision could be AS SMALL AS what should I wear for the party or what should we have for dinner etc etc.
The magnitude of the type of decision-taken and acted upon – decides the impact and trajectory of our life.
Our Human nature makes us filled with doubts in small decisions too -and - When it is a big decision we need to take - we feel anxious, insecure, and sometimes miserable.
There are people who can take big decision on behalf of others [like for their organizations] - YET they are at loss in taking decisions in their personal life.
Then Sometimes the best decision[under the circumstances] delivers a bad outcome and in other situations a seemingly bad decision results in a wonderful outcome.
This is because we cannot see all the variables involved - let alone predict how they will all come together to determine future events
When we make a decision, we are merely deciding which path and direction to throw our energies, resources, focus and efforts.
No one makes perfect decisions 100% of the time - We date the wrong people, we stay in bad job/difficult-bosses/toxic-relationships longer than we should TO we order the wrong food.
We have to understand that whenever we are in catch-22* situations - action will always have better outcomes [irrespective of whether we failed or succeeded in our attempts] - while inaction always have hidden dangers, losses and consequences that manifests later in our life.
When we delay taking a decision and acting on it - because we are scared of messing up/failing/making-mistakes => nothing changes in your situations[excepting only those situations that miraculously fizzle out].
We can never count on miracles - But when we are proactive – we are choosing to move ahead — and that's one of the best decisions you can make.
Why Most people hate making decisions – it is because almost all of us over-complicate our situation, circumstances.
Much of our emotional strain during decision-making is really our own internal resistance to change vis-à-vis being in comfort-zone* - because We don't like the feeling of being out of control.
Unfortunately, the future is out of your control. The moment you accept that, your resistance fades, and your emotional tension fades along with it.
But Our Fears of taking the wrong option leads to a period of limbo where nothing gets done and the issue in all probability would grow bigger and more damaging.
The art of Decision-making is also the art of Problem-solving*.
All the *marked ones have separate DIY blogs on them in from the heart of Subhashis in success unlimited mantra – in addition to this article please also read another article on How to take decisions.
57 Ways to become comfortable in taking tough-decisions and acting upon them
- 1.Accept the fact that you cannot see the future and therefore cannot make perfect decisions
- 2.Accept the fact that your decision could go wrong
- 3.Identify all the different-ways the situation can become worse – and then prepare for the same pro-actively, in advance on how to mitigate, should it go wrong
- 4.Understand that you cannot perceive -let alone control, all the variables that will determine how things turn out in the future.
- 5.Focus on the variables that matter the most to you AND those within your area of control and influence*
- 6.Take full ownership of the decision -Don't wait for others to give an approval +Don't wait consensus – because in complex decisions, a consensus may never happen
- 7.Remember we can only control our decision-making process and cannot control outcomes – accepting and Realizing this can relieve a lot of stress and can make your creative intuition to work favorably for you
- 8.Identify what you KNOW and what you do not know
- 9.Identify what information you have AND what information you need the minimum level – don't get paralyzed with information overload
- 10.Identify what is the minimum level of outcome that you can live with - Figure Out What You Really Want
- 11.Identify what is negotiable [meaning you can give-up] and what is absolutely minimal needed
- 12.Identify what resources you have
- 13.Identify what resources you need
- 14.Identify what you need to change with yourself – your beliefs, your pet-peeves, your assumptions, your perceptions => to see the picture from different angles
- 15.Set a date and time when you will make your final decision, and stick to it- When you decide in advance on a deadline for your final decision, your mind will respond automatically by gradually shutting down the never-ending stream of new things to consider.
- 16.You need to set a deadline is also to prevent yourself from missing important information - You do not want to make a rash decision impulsively before considering all the important variables.
- 17.If there is nothing else you can reasonably expect to discover – force yourself to make a decision right now and then sleep on it for twenty-four hours - If the decision still feels like the right one twenty-four hours later, then make it your final decision
- 18.If there are people you need to talk to, or questions you need to ask - make a time-bound plan to follow through on those things
- 19.Psychological research has literally found that our intuition guides us to make better decisions after our brains have time to sift through new data or new experiences unconsciously.
- 20. Sometimes you're not happy with any of the options in front of you because they're not right for who you are. Even if there are two choices that seem to make sense (like picking between taking summer courses or going backpacking right after graduation
- 21.Explore all the available options, alternatives, possibilities, choices - Think Long Term
- 22. Evaluate all your options and Make a Pros and Cons List
- 23. Pretend as if you are Advising a Friend
- 24. Weigh the cost of failure
- 25. Practice and Exercise Your Decision Making Muscles – by regularly going for disrupting you habits, plans etc to improve
- 26. Examine Outcome And Make Adjustments
- 27.Don't Choose Something Just Because You are Supposed To
- 28. Don't take decisions when you are under pressure
- 29. Don't take decision when you are feeling very elated either
- 30. Become assertive to avoid working as per other's directives
- 31.Consider whether or not you will be able to look proudly into the mirror after taking this decision
- 32. Meditate and listen to your instincts - Meditate on how it affects balance within your life
- 33. Make mistakes and learn from them
- 34. Learn to handle your fears*
- 35. If you find that you have to talk yourself into something, it is usually a bad decision
- 36. Contemplate options and select the one that you feel a sense of excitement for
- 37.Take a step back and try to stop thinking so much – focus on completing action – be committed
- 38. DETERMINE IF IT'S A ONE-WAY[no comeback] OR TWO-WAY DECISION [can still change and impact the outcomes]
- 39. ACCEPT THAT THERE is never a Single RIGHT ANSWER or Solution
- 40. Learn when to give-up*
- 41.Learn and practice how to take risk*
- 42. Learn and practice how to bounce back from failures*
- 43. Learn how to handle your stress
- 44. Learn how to give your 100%*
- 45. Go with the flow – in some situations Taking the path of least resistance is often the best option
- 46. Challenge your choices, you assumptions, your solutions AND Experts
- 47.Ask for help
- 48. Consider the best-case scenario
- 49. Resist FOMO – the fear of missing out*
- 50. Use the Prioritization* Matrix
- 51.Choose your battles carefully
- 52. Understand The Problem* - Rephrase The Question and the problem
- 53. Learn to ask right questions* – because Before you can make the right decision - you need to ask the right question
- 54. Limit the Amount of Information You Take In
- 55.Learn to distinguish between an impulse and intelligent decision-making*
- 56. Never take decision because you are feeling guilty – learn to let go of regrets
- 57.Questions We Need to Ask when faced with A Tough Decision In Life
- A.Is this choice good for me
- B.Is this choice good for my family
- C.If I don't do this now, will I regret it
- D.What am I afraid of
- E.What does my heart say
- F.What am I really doing this for
- G.Why I need to do it
- H.Who am I really doing this for
- I.Will I like myself after this decision
- J.Can I cope with the fall-out
What Are the Most Difficult Decisions to Make – in work and life
- 1.Deciding who to terminate if layoffs become economically necessary
- 2.Terminating well-meaning, but incompetent, team members
- 3.Deciding who to promote when you have several great candidates
- 4.Deciding when to let go of a relationship
- 5.Maybe for doctors and the kins – to continue the life of a person with sufferable pain of a person with terminal illness
- 6.Should I start this venture
- 7.Should I introduce a new product or service
- 8.Should I give this customer a discount or keep my prices premium
- 9.Should I partner with someone to help grow the business
- 10.Should I employ this person
- 11.Should I invest for future or enjoy today
- 12.Should I take a lease on an office
- 13.Should I expand and/or move overseas
- 14.Should I chose this person as life/business partner
- 15.Should I listen to what my heart says or act as per the experts