How to add value to yourself by becoming valuable

How to add value to yourself Valuing yourself by building value for yourself

 In this article we will learn

  • -15 daily reminders – to read and Remind and reinforce your self-worth and self-value - within yourself every day
  • -17 question - Checklist Do you need to work on your self-value, self-worth, self-love – the solutions and how to handle each points given in my separate videos and blogs on that topic
  • -22 inner-resources to identify, uplift yourself and Drive-up your values [this list is given only to stimulate ideas so that you can identify your own]
  • -35+ Action-Steps to build a high self-esteem
  • -14 Tips to build value in case you are unemployed or have lost your job due to this corona pandemic
  • -21 Fundamentals to understanding self-value better


There is an unwritten law of nature - the law of self-fulfillment – which governs our quality and degree of success, accomplishments, joy, happiness, growth, contentment and endearing relationships.

It stipulates that - if you want to realize your fullest potential and add best possible value to yourself – you must subconsciously feel worthy, valuable, respectable and have reasons to feel proud of yourself.

Under-valuing ourselves is the major root-cause of – why we are unable to utilize our optimum potential, capabilities, strengths and skills fully and be our greatest and bestest self - and why most of our dreams remain dreams.

21 Fundamentals to understanding self-value better

  • 1.Many people attach their self-worth, their self-value, their happiness – to others opinion and how others treat them.
  • 2.If you are a person who depends too much on others for your joy, happiness and feeling good – needless to say – you will be perpetually disappointed.
  • 3.Your value and worth - should never decrease because of the incompetence and inability of others – who can't see what a beautiful wonderful person you are.
  • 4.Neither should your value - get affected by someone projecting their insecurities on you and when they blame or criticize you for their miseries and also when they try to control and dominate you or try to make you look inferior.
  • 5.Let us understand few practical basics to make us feel jubilant naturally and internally always
  • 6.Our pride is about our feeling completely comfortable with who we are – with our complete awareness and acceptance of - all our mistakes, failures, weaknesses and strengths
  • 7.Our shame, our feeling like a loser, our feeling inferior to the world – comes from our deep-rooted insecurities
  • 8.Our self-pride, compassion, self-worth and self-value and self-respect magnifies exponentially - when we become a giver– without bothering about what we would get back
  • 9.Our self-value, self-worth and self-pride diminishes us in our own eyes - when our mindset is of – how to get the most from others and in every situation
  • 10. When we want to control everyone and everything – it also comes from a very deep sense of emotional insecurity – taking control, dominance, arrogance is just the tools we are using to cover-up our fears.
  • 11. When we want to prove to others and or when we need validation, approval and recognition from others – this too is an emotional insecurity issue and erodes our self-worth in big ways.
  • 12. The right awareness tells you that the only person you need to be honest with - is yourself.
  • 13. This article is for those who have tried very hard and yet have not been able to see any reason to value yourselves or feel proud of who you are.
  • 14. Here we have given tips to increase our self-value and become more emotionally secured along with guidelines to identify, create build and add value to ourselves
  • 15. You might be going through the toughest and most challenging phase of your life – been unemployed for long, lost your job with people depending on you financially, lost all your savings, not revenue source but huge debt, going through breakups – and a combination of few of these.
  • 16. If you were already suffering from - low self-worth, shallow self-confidence etc. Etc. – then the aforesaid would certainly make your insecurities even more profound.
  • 17. Your self-value can still be positive – even if all the above is happening with you.
  • 18. Action-steps outlined in this article – are simple, practical and within your area of influence to implement.
  • 19. In spite of being simple – for you it will be very challenging and difficult – in initial phases at least – as you won't see results and changes soon.
  • 20. But once you have persisted with it with zeal, passion and determination – you would see results in few months.
  • 21. Having said this – all these are based on your taking action highlighted here as well as the ones which are the foundation.

14 Tips to build value in case you are unemployed or have lost your job due to this corona pandemic

  • 1.Act as if you had a job - create a daily routine and set objectives for learning, acquiring additional plus in-demand skills, knowledge, competence etc. Etc.
  • 2.Because post corona jobs are rare – you need to apply to each job – as if your life depends on it – that is go through your cv and cover letter and the job's roles and responsibility along with the industry challenges – to design the best cv and cover letter
  • 3.Don't apply just because you have time and that job is there
  • 4.Apply only if you feel that you are fit for job
  • 5.Spend time practicing for interviews and tests
  • 6.Investigating companies and adapt your cover letter for each position
  • 7.Become member of many professional forums – participate actively by becoming a contributor, speaker or panelist
  • 8.Exercise for motivation and sanity
  • 9.Expand your social and professional network
  • 10. Find out how you can add value to people who can propel your career
  • 11. Take advantage of the available time – to be more culturally, socially and professionally active.
  • 12. Get involved in projects where you can make meaningful difference to underprivileged people
  • 13. Acquire a hobby that makes you stretch mentally, emotionally as well physically – by challenging you to do things which thrills and scares you at the same time
  • 14. Identify those things which excites you but you never had the time to do them – and then go and do them if you can

35+ Action-Steps to build a high self-esteem

  • 1.Take responsibilities for taking powerful action to create massive positive changes in your life
  • 2.Choose to practice discipline daily in all important areas of your life - do the right thing even if it's the hardest thing to do -be true to yourself and your values
  • 3.List all the failures and setbacks you bounced back from
  • 4.Identify and celebrate small victories
  • 5.Create an inventory of achievements – just list all – don't bother about whether it is small and huge
  • 6.List all the ways you have done so far in your life for others – the meaningful positive differences – which can be measured
  • 7.Always believe that you need to update, upgrade and reinvent yourself to stay employable and in demand
  • 8.Learn learn learn
  • 9.Compete with yourself only - stop comparing yourself to others.
  • 10. Be consistent in what you say, what you promise and what you do
  • 11. Identify in how many specific ways you can add value to yourself in all situations and environments
  • 12. Take action- take the charge and lead of your life - Become an action person rather than talk-person
  • 13. Learn to develop thick skin – so as not to bother about what others think about you – no one does
  • 14. Course-correct your values by understanding few essential facts about values – which actually gets ignored by most of us
  • I. Identify your values and categorize them into glamour-values, action-values, means-values and end-values
  • II. Shift your focus from glamour-values to action values
  • III. Glamor values are things which are in many instances outside your area of control – like - money, name, fame, power etc.
  • IV. Focusing on action-values – like using creativity, industriousness and experimenting by trying out newer ideas – to take a small step towards your big dreams – creates massive uplift to our self-value and worth
  • V. Understand that we need values we can control - otherwise our values would start controlling us.
  • VI. Practicing strong work ethic and personal and professional standards are good values because we can control them
  • VII. Some examples of constructive and positive values - building something new, standing up for oneself, standing up for others, self-respect, curiosity, helping others to make them become their best
  • VIII. There are some bad and destructive unhealthy values [although they come from our deep-rooted insecurities] – like – controlling, suppressing and dominating others, taking advantage of weaknesses of others, manipulating or violence, trying to always be in limelight, trying to be liked by others, using power to harm others, betraying trust to hurt etc. Etc.
  • 15. Help strangers and appreciate others by giving them genuine sincere compliments
  • 16. Refine your communication skills
  • 17. Enhance your awareness and knowledge about what is happening in the world
  • 18. Polish your social skills
  • 19. Practice being vulnerable - accept your faults, mistakes and not knowing something
  • 20. Never short-sell, undersell or undercharge for what you give- but once you accept the job - do more than you are expected or paid for - go the extra mile
  • 21. Give your 100% and your best at that time – never compromise with discipline, excellence, values
  • 22. Manage your energy – as much if not more than you manage your time
  • 23. Support the weak and underprivileged
  • 24. Let go of the urge to be popular
  • 25. Work on being respectable rather than being popular
  • 26. Become comfortable in your own skin – stop trying to be someone else
  • 27. Make people around you feel good
  • 28. Find multiple solutions to your every challenge, problem as well as opportunities – explore from all different angles possible
  • 29. Get different perspectives
  • 30. Challenge your assumptions
  • 31. Challenge the experts
  • 32. Create classy personality
  • 33. Practice fine etiquette
  • 34. Be professional - get the job done – be dependable
  • 35. Choose to be around people who make you feel good about yourself.

22 inner-resources to identify, uplift yourself and Drive-up your values [this list is given only to stimulate ideas so that you can identify your own]

  • 1.Your sense of humor
  • 2.Your caring and listening abilities
  • 3.You empathy
  • 4.Your noticing positives about others – this you also need to practice on yourself – if you have this powerful quality
  • 5.Your passion to create positive difference
  • 6.Your giving back through volunteering, teaching, helping others
  • 7.Mange your appearance optimally with what you have in a cultured classy manner
  • 8.Letting go of what is not within your control
  • 9.Doing things that scare you
  • 10. Feeling all your emotions
  • 11. Giving permission to yourself for having fun and joy
  • 12. Sharing vulnerably with another person
  • 13. Asking for feedback from the people whom you trust fully
  • 14. Accept your mistakes, and learn from them.
  • 15. Commit to making your self-care priority one – which includes your physical health, mental energy and emotional well-being
  • 16. Don't be busy to show others - be productive
  • 17. Foster healthy relationships
  • 18. Learn to say no
  • 19. Set healthy boundaries
  • 20. Stop bothering about being accepted by others
  • 21. Do the best with what you have, regardless of circumstances
  • 22. Identify, Cherish and celebrate your uniqueness

17 question - Checklist Do you need to work on your self-value, self-worth, self-love – the solutions and how to handle each points given in my separate videos and blogs on that topic

  • 1.Check whether the following applies to you – more than 3 yeses would indicate - that you need to immediately start working on your self-[every-word that has been used here]
  • 2.You need approval and validation from others
  • 3.It bothers you if others don't acknowledge your help
  • 4.You keep thinking about remarks made by others for days
  • 5.If people look at you – you start checking your physical appearance
  • 6.You feel inferior in front of or in the group of people – who show-off
  • 7.You feel you don't look good
  • 8.You compete even when there is no competition
  • 9.Winning in a competition is must for you
  • 10. You constantly compare with others who are doing better than you in any area – even if your this assumption is based on social media
  • 11. You care more and give more weightage and importance to outsider's opinion – than your family members
  • 12. You don't feel loved
  • 13. You don't feel close with your family members
  • 14. Certain people can make you feel like shit - anytime
  • 15. Questions to Know yourself
  • I.Where do you struggle most – in social gatherings, in professional forums, in family functions
  • II.What are your shameful areas or what you are ashamed of
  • III.What you feel guilty about
  • IV.What you constantly curse yourself about
  • V.When and how often you get hurt by others and by whom
  • VI.Who are the people you feel – totally powerless with
  • VII.What are your major fears
  • VIII.What wishful thoughts you have time to time – which begin with – I wish I had, I wish I had done that or that I should never have done that
  • IX.What mistakes you are unable to forgive yourself for
  • X.Who are the people you are unable to forgive
  • XI.Where all you feel that you have let yourself and others down
  • 16. Finally – now – ask - what abilities you have and what makes you feel come alive
  • 17. What you are passionate about

15 daily reminders – to read and Remind and reinforce your self-worth and self-value - within yourself every day

  • 1.You don't have to live to please others
  • 2.You don't have to do anything under pressure to change to your values and ethic
  • 3.You have to do what makes you feel good about yourself
  • 4.You have to take care of people who care for you
  • 5.You don't have to fix and change anyone
  • 6.You don't have to bother about people who are not well-wishers and what they think about you
  • 7.You have the power to respond to events and circumstances and take actions as per your true values and value
  • 8.You are fully responsible for every action that you take r don't take, every decision you make or don't make
  • 9.Only you have to solve all the challenges that you face
  • 10. Nothing happens only by thinking – you have to take real-time action
  • 11. You can only take actions from your area of influence and control – so don't bother about what is beyond your area of influence
  • 12. That you are fully capable to handle and face all the crises that you are facing
  • 13. You are valuable and important as anyone else
  • 14. The best you – is the real you
  • 15. Mistakes and failure will happen – without these no one can succeed


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