80 ways to raise your personal standards and benchmarks

Setting high personal standards How Having High Personal Standards Create Exceptional Quality of Life Quality

In this article we will learn

  • -12 reasons why people struggle life-long and are in perpetual crisis one after another
  • -15 ways our personal standards and benchmarks – creates the life we live
  • -8 basic fundamentals about standards, benchmarks and milestones
  • -19 disadvantages of having poor personal standards
  • -18 benefits of having high personal standards
  • -29 ways How to set standards, benchmarks and milestones
  • -19 tips to identify and living your core values
  • -12 minimal standards to set for yourself


Standards relate to choices and our choices decides the quality of our life, our success our happiness and our contentment from our close relationships.

For many of us our past decisions and their outcomes dictates the standards we have set for ourselves in present and interestingly we make our future decision based on our current standards.

Setting good standards is imperative for living a very satisfying life.

12 reasons why people struggle life-long and are in perpetual crisis one after another

  • 1.One of the basic reason is – that because they make so many bad decisions, choose wrong priorities and focus on external and meaningless [in long-term] goals and objectives.
  • 2.How many of us would be able to relate with our following unhealthy habits
  • 3.We spend-more than we earn
  • 4.We save-less and leave savings to be something that happens after our expenses are over
  • 5.We buy just on impulse without any reason to use them in future
  • 6.We waste resources, time, energy, relationships, opportunities
  • 7.We don't learn on a regular basis
  • 8.Absolutely no unlearning takes place – as we are in the know it all mode
  • 9.We eat and drink unhealthy
  • 10. We fall back on unhealthy quick-fixes
  • 11. We exercise less
  • 12. Whenever you find people with the above habits – you also will discover that - these people are the ones
  • I.Who are more arrogant
  • II.Who believe in miracles without putting the needed efforts for the time it is needed
  • III.Who blame everyone else other than themselves
  • IV.Who have all the perfect excuses for things gone wrong
  • V.Who can justify anything very easily

15 ways our personal standards and benchmarks – creates the life we live

  • 1.Our personal standards are reflected in how we treat ourselves as well as how we treat other people also how we expect others to treat us.
  • 2.When we have high standards we treat others with respect and also ensure that we are treated with dignity
  • 3.How we dress and our personal hygiene
  • 4.The quality of our work
  • 5.How we manage our health
  • 6.The way we speak, communicate and express
  • 7.Our manners and etiquettes
  • 8.We appreciate and recognize the efforts and contribution of others vis-a-vis criticizing and blaming them
  • 9.How easily we are able to bounce-back from upsets and failures
  • 10.Are we joyous or jealous
  • 11.Whether we fight back or give on ourselves
  • 12.How much we honor our promises and commitments
  • 13.Having low standards are generally indication of having low self-esteem, low self-worth, low self-proud etc. etc.
  • 14.When we have low, poor and unhealthy standards – we let others take advantage of us and get easily influenced by other's demand as well as wishes and opinions
  • 15.It happens because we fail to stand up for our rights, our values and for what we believe in.

8 basic fundamentals about standards, benchmarks and milestones

  • 1.Setting standards, benchmarks and milestones requires measurable, specific and quantifiable parameters to clearly evaluate our success and progress
  • 2.Well-designed milestones are gives clear directions towards our big picture and becomes the compelling reasons to excel in life
  • 3.When we have a pre-defined measurable metrics – monitoring, tracking, improvising and evaluating results becomes easy and inspirational.
  • 4.Our standards have to be flexible – so that on a regular basis we are able to refine and create a more powerful motivating ones
  • 5.Because of unprecedented rate of changes taking place in our professional, business, career, relationship, finances, physical-emotional-mental health and well-being – benchmarks and standards may become irrelevant over the time – this is specifically true in this corona times.
  • 6.Benchmarks and standards are the reference points for evaluating whether or not we are growing and usually compares our performance with industry best practices or our past performance as well as compare with others who are in the same situation.
  • 7.Creating standards and benchmarks is not the total solution – for complete solution we have to have clear goals, clarity on our capabilities, the challenges we face, the resources we have and the resources we need to acquire
  • 8.For implementing our benchmarks and standards - we need to create kpis and start implementing our action plans – then track and compare our performance against your goals and benchmarks.

19 disadvantages of having poor personal standards

  • 1.We compromise and tolerate poor service from others
  • 2.We tolerate things we should not be
  • 3.We suffer from low self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence and self-respect
  • 4.We lack belief in ourselves
  • 5.We become pushovers – anyone can walk over us
  • 6.We make bad choices in relationships
  • 7.We don't have will-power – strong enough to say no
  • 8.We become submissive
  • 9.We often break promises and resolves we make with ourselves
  • 10. We have a great need for validation from others
  • 11. We show-off to create a false impression
  • 12. We are constantly concerned about what others think about us
  • 13. We want others to admire, recognize, appreciate and resect us – and we will do anything to get it
  • 14. We become habitually lazy and procrastinate
  • 15. We are generally disorganized
  • 16. We work within our comfort zones and don't stretch to go beyond to achieve more
  • 17. We seldom have big dreams
  • 18. We feel good being part of the crowd – being in limelight terrifies us
  • 19. We don't excel in anything and we feel comfortable in mediocrity and being average

18 benefits of having high personal standards

  • 1.We are assertive
  • 2.We have very high degree of self-confidence
  • 3.We take risks to stretch ourselves beyond our current capabilities to grow and learn
  • 4.We accept failure as an inevitable part of growth and success
  • 5.We try newer things and experiment with ideas which seems far-fetched
  • 6.We are focused on excellence and never compromise with quality and accept only the best
  • 7.We can say no easily
  • 8.We get rid of people who are toxic and pull us down
  • 9.We are constant learners
  • 10. We accept our mistakes and weaknesses openly
  • 11. We have very big larger than life dreams
  • 12. We are passionate about life and living
  • 13. We proactively embrace change
  • 14. We are respectable and don't have a need to be popular
  • 15. We can accept when we don't know something easily – but if it is important we will make every effort to learn it
  • 16. We respect everyone
  • 17. We relish and celebrate our uniqueness
  • 18. We can move-on and bounce-back from even the harshest setbacks

29 ways How to set standards, benchmarks and milestones

  • 1.Assess yourself objectively and by being brutally honest– on your weaknesses, strengths, competencies, fears, doubts
  • 2.Learn how to channelize your weaknesses into your strengths
  • 3.Understand yourself by connecting with the real you – by asking
  • 4.What makes me feel truly happy, blissful and satisfied
  • 5.Then explore-ask-sleepover on - what type of life you want – once you get a very inspiring picture
  • 6.Identify what skills, habits, discipline, attitudes and knowledge you would need to inculcate to make this dream come true for you
  • 7.Divide them into monthly, weekly and daily action steps by working backwards
  • 8.Define short term and long term smart goals in alignment to this picture of you.
  • 9.Depending on your needs enroll and engage a mentor or coach to influence the desired changes – and to elevate the level of your functional, behavioral performance.
  • 10.Start implementing and taking actions
  • 11.When faced with challenge and obstacles – create and improvise your plans and action steps – as often as it is needed
  • 12.Monitor, track and assess your progress and growth at fixed regular interval
  • 13.If you succeed in your attempts – celebrate
  • 14.If you have fallen short of the goals or if you are excelling in your goals too easily, evaluate and re-adjust your approach. Make your smart goals smarter
  • 15.Evaluate, refine and plan to enhance and sustain your standards and benchmarking
  • 16.Create parameters to measure - then start measuring yourself - then start taking actions to improve one bit a time - the most challenging is to create meaningful and sustainable improvement.
  • 17.Then as mentioned earlier – our standards have to be regularly updated – to make them relevant and useful with the changes and trends
  • 18.Taking action - benchmarking is a part of goal setting process – and they can add value only when we take action on them
  • 19.19 tips to identify and living your core values
  • I.Are you learning new things, exploring new places, and experimenting with new ideas
  • II.Are you questioning and challenging your assumptions, beliefs and limitations and putting efforts to course-correct them
  • III.Are you building habits that lead to sustainable continual improvement
  • IV.Are you utilizing your potential more and more or just operating within comfort zones
  • V.Are you allowing yourself to be happy with where you are right now with what you are doing
  • VI.Are you becoming the person you are proud of
  • VII.Are you exploring possibilities, opportunities and preparing yourself for unexpected challenges
  • VIII.Are you taking steps to overcome the challenges you have in life
  • IX.Are you helping others or just seeking help without giving anything back
  • X.Are you helping others to become the best that they can
  • XI.Are you dependable
  • XII.Are you honest with yourself
  • XIII.Do you justify and defend your actions – or – accept full responsibility for your actions and decisions
  • XIV.When you mess up – do you take corrective actions or hide your mistakes
  • XV.Do you share and delegate work and responsibilities or you do everything yourself - to get the limelight
  • XVI.Are you focused on creating and building something meaningful and valuable and adding value – rather than what you would get – payment, rewards etc.
  • XVII.Once your needs are taken care of – do you work to make this world a better place
  • XVIII.Do you ask yourself every time - after you have completed a project - how can you set a higher standard in the future
  • XIX.Do you acknowledge their contribution, give credit and thank people for their help
  • 20.12 minimal standards to set for yourself
  • I.Have standards for you to become the best every role that you play
  • A.The best father/mother
  • B.The best brother/sister
  • C.The best son/daughter
  • D.The best boss/employee
  • II.Have standards to get negative and toxic people out of your life
  • III.Have standards to have smart, knowledgeable and positive in your network
  • IV.Have standards to treat others with respect
  • V.Have standards to challenge yourself regularly to become bestest version of yourself - everyday
  • VI.Have standards on how manage your finances – savings and expenses
  • VII.Have standards for how you treat yourself
  • VIII.Have standards for how you treat your most loved ones
  • IX.Have standards for how you behave and communicate
  • X.Have standards on how you carry yourself with dignity in difficult situation and in public
  • XI.Have standards for what is the minimum level of excellence that you will accept from yourself and from others
  • XII.Have standards for who you want to become – ask yourself – are you living life the way you want to live, are you proud of who you are
  • 21.Then go and raise your standards for the one thing over which you have total control – yourself
  • 22.Assess the areas of your life you must improve to achieve your compelling vision
  • 23.Decide what your higher standards will be in each area
  • 24.Know your why
  • 25.Live up to your standards
  • 26.Respect yourself
  • 27.Learn from your as well as other's mistakes
  • 28.Take risks
  • 29.Never compare yourself with others - comparing your personal standards with other people's standards is a game – you can never win


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