85 easy ways to increase your social intelligence

In this article you will learn the following

-85 Tips to enhance your social intelligence

-16 cues of poor social and toxic behaviors

- Few Interesting online social intelligence tests - you can take for free

Boosting your Social Intelligence

People with prominent Social intelligence and high emotional intelligence are the most fulfilled and successful person.

Emotional intelligence(intrapersonal) and social intelligence (interpersonal) are separate but inter-dependent entities - Social intelligence helps you respond most effectively to complex situations and people.

Having strong fulfilling relationships can improve your immune system and help you remain mentally and physically healthy.

Loneliness and poor-quality relationships can trigger - stress, health problems and depression.

Social-intelligence is the ability to observe, analyze and understand - yours as well as other people's - moods, temperaments, feelings and inner-motivations.

High social-intelligence can boost - your adaptability to changing circumstances and help you maintain a positive attitude when going through challenging phases and trying-times.

Social intelligence also reinforces your emotional intelligence along with strengthening your others forms of intelligence.

People with higher levels of social intelligence are likely to bounce back faster from the setbacks and manage complex situations involving people.

Your workplace adaptability, your own emotional self-regulation, building fruitful relationships and teamwork - also can make you highly admired and effective leader.

85 Tips to enhance your social intelligence

[Given randomly - most of the single sentence tips have detailed do-it-yourself blog and articles on my two websites as well on my Quora page]

• 1.Develop assertiveness and ability to say No
• 2.Get to understand people at their deepest levels by understanding their motivations, fears, triggers and aspirations etc.
• 3.Learn what they love doing and what are their strengths and how they want to grow and what inspires and motivates them
• 4.Be genuinely interested in knowing others - invest in creating great relationships
• 5.Listen with the purpose of understanding and not replying
• 6.Start recognizing the positive and admirable qualities and traits in others
• 7.Show respect to others by giving the attention that you yourself want and need - Focus on others - shift from I to You or Us
• 8.Be vulnerable and be comfortable in coming out as who you really are
• 9.Accept mistakes and apologize
• 10.Be approachable - especially if you are in a position of serious power
• 11.Share your experiences - learn to share in story telling ways
• 12.Learn to initiate conversations - become good at small-talks
• 13.Learn to have meaningful conversations
• 14.Learn to recognize the efforts and contributing of others
• 15.Give credit to others
• 16.Give sincere appreciation
• 17.Be respectable and pay attention to your personal brand and reputation
• 18.Learn the art of asking thought-provoking, inspiring and engaging as well as meaningful questions
• 19.Speak using simple language yet through a rich vocabulary
• 20.Thank others often
• 21.Learn the art of creating great impression and sustaining it through being consistent in how you come out
• 22.Learn to be comfortable in being yourself
• 23.Avoid going for arguments - where it is a match of who is right
• 24.Instead have open discussions - where the focus is on discovering what is right
• 25.Avoid getting caught in the political, religious and gossip type of conversations
• 26.Understand and respect the cultural differences of different people
• 27.Become an inclusive leader who involves others and leverages the talents of other people for collective good
• 28.Become a great observer of people by paying Attention to the People and the Situations Around You
• 29.Understand your own Physical and Emotional Cues - then try guessing and then verifying your intuition
• 30.Stop judging others - without understanding and knowing them better
• 31.Try to identify their thoughts, feelings, and intentions - to develop Empathic accuracy
• 32.Learn to interpret the non-verbal cues
• 33.Take feedback from others - on how you come out - then create changes in your language, tone, voice as well as body language to - correct the impression
• 34.Learn to present yourself better
• 35.Develop courage to tell people - what is good for them
• 36.Create circles of acquaintances and friends from different background and cultures
• 37.Be fair and impartial
• 38.Learn to welcome change and develop the ability to adopt to changes fast
• 39.Practice and become master in Reading a group's emotional currents and power relationships
• 40.Help other people become best in what they can be
• 41.Learn the fine art of negotiation and convincing others
• 42.Fine tune your skills and tactics for persuasion
• 43.Become proficient in diffusing difficult situations and resolving conflicts
• 44.Learn to work with others toward shared goals by building group synergy in pursuing for collective goals
• 45.Practice self-control and Impulse Control
• 46.Learn to manage your stress better
• 47.Create a journey of self-awareness to recognize how your feelings and emotions impact upon your personal opinions, attitudes and judgments
• 48.Learn to manage your negative emotions and outbursts effectively
• 49.Create self-pride and self-respect
• 50.Take responsibility for your actions and decisions as well as all the consequences
• 51.Build collaborative and mutually rewarding relationships
• 52.Learn to be Straightforward, direct and honest
• 53.Stop trying to impress START expressing yourself better
• 54.Become aware when your highly charged emotions are accompanied by physical sensations like your stomach, throat, or chest - or feelings that are strong enough to capture both your attention and that of others
• 55.Become aware of how effectively you use nonverbal communication
• 56.Learn to use humor to relieve stressful situations
• 57.Use conflict to create better understanding
• 58.Understand this formula - High Emotional awareness + High Social behavior awareness = Great Team Skills
• 59.Learn and practice not to let others' emotions affect you
• 60.Understand that when you are learning to master yours and others emotions - you would be wrong time to time - just course correct and start again
• 61.Develop and sharpen your intuition
• 62.Show curiosity. Ask people questions that show interest in their lives to build rapport
• 63.Whenever you are unsure - ask clarifying questions
• 64.Go to any meeting, discussion or conversation without any preconceived notions
• 65.Identify Your Social Triggers -think about people and situations - what makes you depressed, what makes you excited, what fills you with positivity and love and what makes you anxious-fearful-stressed
• 66.Identify those situations - where - you tend to put a mask
• 67.Create a place and space where you can recharge yourself emotionally, mentally and spiritually
• 68.Hang out with people who uplift you make you come alive - help you think big and can make you thrilled, excited and cheerful
• 69.Avoid toxic and those people who make you feel suffocated, scared, depressed and fearful
• 70.Learn to deal with difficult, toxic and arrogant people
• 71.Learn to deal with rejections, frustrations, criticism and minor irritants
• 72.Learn what to avoid and when to fight with all your might
• 73.Stop forcing your whims on others
• 74.Learn to stop absorbing other's negativities
• 75.Learn to recognize - the narcissistic personality, the antisocial personality and people with deep insecurities - avoid them if you can
• 76.Learn to recognize manipulation - and point it out or walk away
• 77.Learn to deal these people - in case you can't avoid them
• 78.Focus on Being Positive
• 79.Never Use Drugs or Alcohol while Socializing
• 80.Choose company which supports your values - and has mutual respect
• 81.Know When Others Are Uncomfortable
• 82.Stop trying to hog the limelight and monopolizing the conversation One-upping others
• 83.Never correct people in front of others and stop forcing them on talking them on uncomfortable subjects
• 84.Learn How to Be Funny - but maintain your grace and dignity
• 85.Get rid of the need to Get Everyone's Approval and validation
• 86.Practice to strengthen your sensory skills of sight, smell, sound and touch to become more aware of your environment
• 87.Understand how you act and respond can help you when you encounter an unexpected situation - create effective ways and practice when things are normal
• 88.Work on your triggers - find right anti-dotes
• 89.16 cues of poor social and toxic behaviors
• I.Unfriendly - Sullen temperament
• II.Snapping at others
• III.Ignoring others
• IV.Laughing at other's miseries, mistakes
• V.Enjoying other's misfortune
• VI.Exploiting weak and helpless
• VII.Ridiculing and Putting others down
• VIII.Use profanity, abusive and demeaning language
• IX.Racial and ethnic biased
• X.Interrupting others
• XI.Bragging and boasting
• XII.Breaking promises
• XIII.Playing victim
• XIV.Gossiping and backbiting
• XV.Dominating
• XVI.Blaming

Few Interesting online social intelligence tests - you can take for free

• 1)Facial-Recognition Quiz - At the University of California Berkley, the Greater Good Web site offers a 20-question quiz that tests your ability to read facial expressions. In addition to getting immediate feedback as to whether your answers are correct, you'll also learn the major muscle movements that typify different expressions.
• 2)Eyes-Only Emotion Study - At a Web site hosted by Harvard University, you can take part in a 10-minute study about recognizing emotions by reading eyes alone. After completing the study, you'll find out your score and compare it against other participants'.
• 3)Practical Emotional Intelligence Quiz -The Psychology Today Web site offers a quick online quiz that measures your practical emotional intelligence. You'll explore how different situations affect your emotions and which reactions are adaptive and which are maladaptive.
• 4)http://kgajos.eecs.harvard.edu/mite/