60 Tips on How to Develop resilience

In this article you will learn the Following

-18 Attributes of Resilient People

-60 Tips on how to Build your Resilience

-How VUCA-BANI world is adding to the stress 

-How parents are creating - insecure, unsure kids

-​TEST Your Resilience -Find out whether you are Resilient enough

How to develop resilience and mental toughness to bounce back in life

How we look at adversity and stress and how we respond to these situations impact strongly on whether we succeed and or are happy and peaceful.

The fact is that we're going to fail from time to time, we would be facing many life threatening crises several time and we would make mistakes and fall flat on our faces occasionally.

It's hard to imagine what our world would be like if Edison & people like him had given up after their first few failures. This is the most important reasons to have a resilient mindset.

Resilience is our ability to adapt and bounce back after crisis, emergency, accident, life changing events & crippling diseases, financial/career/ relationship disasters & all the time when things don't go as planned. Resilient people don't wallow or stick with their failures & miseries, they acknowledge the situation, learn from their mistakes, and then take actions to move forward in life.
18 Attributes of Resilient People

1.Resilient people view a difficulty/obstacles/down-turn/set-backs as challenge – something to get over & not as a paralyzing event

2.They look at their failures and mistakes as lessons to learn from and opportunities for growth. They don't view them as a negative reflection on their abilities or self-worth.

3.Resilient people are committed to their lives and their goals

4.Their Commitment isn't just restricted to their work – they commit to their relationships, their friendships, the causes they care about and stand for.

5.Resilient people use their time and energy focusing on taking actions in every situations and events that they have control over. Because they put their efforts where they can have the most impact, they feel empowered and confident. They do not bother about what they cannot control or what is beyond them right now. They understand that in everything seemingly impossible, there are few possible actions within their area of control

6.Although their big picture in always in their sight, their main focus is only on the immediate actions rather than the results or outcomes.

7.Resilient people do not generalize their experience or situation, they don't let setbacks or bad events affect other unrelated areas of their lives

8.Resilient people accept the set-back, mistakes & failures without blaming themselves for these events

9.Instead they find out the cause and go about correcting them, if they feel it is important otherwise they let go and move on

10.They're realistically optimistic. Resilient people have a positive expectation towards their the future

11.Resilient people have solid goals, and a desire to achieve those goals

12.Resilient people are empathetic and compassionate, however, they don't waste time worrying what others think of them

13.They maintain healthy relationships with people socially, professionally & personally, but don't bow to peer pressure

14.Resilient people never think of themselves as victims, they accept these as part of life & take personal ownership

15.Resilient people do is immediately look at the problem and say, 'What's the solution to that? What is this trying to teach me?'They look at all the pains as opportunities to learn, solve the problem and changing themselves

16.They are not cowed by rejections

17.They seek out opportunities for growth and learning

18.They practice attitude of gratitude

Because of their zeal to bring up a great child, today's parents are creating children who believe in YOLO & because of it they get into a psychological disorder called FOMO - today's parents are creating anxious & insecure children, teenagers & adult

How this VUCA-BANI world ,the technology, the competition, the insecurities, the children become anxious and look for fast gratification, which in long term creates hell of a lot of social, psychological and health issue

• 1.Because of over use & easy availability of gadgets & social media platforms – the kids escape the uncomfortable emotions like boredom, loneliness, or sadness by immersing themselves in video games when they were in the car or by chatting on social media
• 2.Because the entire generation spent their childhoods avoiding discomfort, they didn't gain the coping skills they need to handle everyday challenges
• 3.Parents go out of their ways to make their kids happy Happiness is emphasized so much in our culture right now that some parents think it's their job to make their kids happy all the time. When a child is sad, his parents cheer him up. Or when he's angry, they calm him down Kids grow up believing that if they don't feel happy around the clock, something must be wrong. And that creates a lot of inner turmoil. They don't understand that it's normal and healthy to feel sad, frustrated, guilty, disappointed, and angry sometimes too.
• 4.Parents are giving unrealistic praise due to false notion of keeping them motivated. Making their kids feel that they are best all the time breaks them away from reality
• 5.Parents are getting caught up in the rat race & passing their insecurities in their kids
• 6.So much is focused on academic preparation for life that the parents put little effort into teaching kids the emotional skills they need to succeed. Knowing how to manage your time, combat stress, and take care of your feelings are key components to living a good life. Without healthy coping skills, it's no wonder teens are feeling anxious over everyday hassles
• 7.Somewhere along the line, many parents began believing their role is to help kids grow up with as few emotional and physical scars as possible. They became so overprotective that their kids never practiced dealing with challenges on their own
• 8.Because of their own fears due to VUCA Adults don't know to help kids face their fears the right way
• 9.On one end of the spectrum, you'll find parents who push their kids too hard. They force their children to do things that terrify them. On the other end of the spectrum, you'll find parents who don't push their kids at all
• 10.Kids aren't being given enough free time to play

60 Tips on how to Build your Resilience

• 1.Take Care of Yourself, Get enough sleep , Exercise regularly, Eat Healthy
• 2.Learn effective stress management techniques suited to you
• 3.Develop strong relationships happy, confident, secure and caring People

4. Make Learning your number one priority

5.Help the underprivileged people, whenever you can

6.Identify what are the life's good things past & present those are your personal blessings

7. Learn to look at the funny side of even the tragic things, events & circumstances