<p><span>In this article you will learn the following</span><br></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">40+ tips on How to face facts and accept reality in your life</b></p> <ul><li>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">Become aware about your habits of mind, emotions and feelings</b> - ask yourself these 10 questions</li> <li>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">31 questions to ask yourself to move past denial</b></li> <li>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">Understand 9 bitter-sweet facts about life - so that your expectations becomes grounded</b></li> <li>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">A partial list of healthy ways to cope during stressful time - but you need to form the habit of doing these when everything is working fine and start enjoying them - as you can't just do it when you are stressed - it won't work</b></li> <li></li></ul> <p>How Why and When you should face facts of life - Why we refuse to accept reality and face facts in our life</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Can you identify with the following two situations</b></p> <ul><li>a)Avoiding having a difficult conversation with your colleague or co-worker - because makes you very highly anxious</li> <li>b)Declining an invitation to a friend's party because you feel anxious about meeting strangers and are scared about being judged by them</li></ul> <p>Still <b data-redactor-tag="b">many of those who have this type of emotional-mental disposition - don't take steps to address the issue.</b> </p><p>Some of us may not even acknowledge - <b data-redactor-tag="b">that there could be something that needs healing or mending within us.</b></p><p>Facing facts about ourselves - <b data-redactor-tag="b">becomes even more challenging - when we have deep-rooted emotional-insecurities</b> and as a result thereof have low self-esteem and low self-belief.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">The truth is - when we avoid facing facts and refuse to accept reality- we fall in the whirlpool of ever-increasing cycle of negative emotions - which may include</b> simmering-anger, shame, bitterness, frustrations, irritations, short-fuse, guilt etc. </p><p>And the only definite <b data-redactor-tag="b">outcome this will have in your life - is to increase your sufferings manifold.</b></p><p><span>Some </span><b data-redactor-tag="b">of us may avoid facing facts in - health related issues, financial difficulties, RELATIONSHIP-ISSUES, hurts, regrets, shames, guilt, sufferings, mistakes, failures and other worries</b><span>.</span></p><p>Many of us have created <b data-redactor-tag="b">a self-image and think of ourselves as the smartest, the most intelligent and of a person who have solutions for everybody's problems</b>.</p><p>Yet <b data-redactor-tag="b">you may find yourself struggling to find finding solutions - for few of those problems you</b> were acting as an expert and advising others confidently.</p><p>Many of us have created <b data-redactor-tag="b">a self-image and think of ourselves as the smartest, the most intelligent and of a person who have solutions for everybody's problems</b>.</p><p>Yet <b data-redactor-tag="b">you may find yourself struggling to find finding solutions - for few of those problems you</b> were acting as an expert and advising others confidently.</p><p>We resist <b data-redactor-tag="b">and turn a blind eye to all those indicators which are contrary to our perception</b> of ourselves.</p><p>Avoiding <b data-redactor-tag="b">stress might seem like a great way to become less stressed - but in reality it only leads to more complex situations and issues</b>.</p><p>In most cases - <b data-redactor-tag="b">confronting a problem that is impacting you in big-ways or dealing with a stressor is the only way to eliminate or minimize the stress or anxiety.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">40+ tips on How to face facts and accept reality in your life</b> - every point given below - has a detailed do it yourself article in this website as well as in our 2nd website</p> <ul><li>1.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Become aware about your habits of mind, emotions and feelings</b> - ask yourself these 10 questions</li> <li>I.What you are doing now </li> <li>II.Why are you doing these - pay especial attention to those task you start doing just to avoid something</li> <li>III.What you are avoiding </li> <li>IV.Why are you avoiding these</li> <li>V.Which situations makes you run away - WHY</li> <li>VI.Which people you feel like avoiding - why</li> <li>VII.What are your biggest fears and anxiety causing triggers</li> <li>VIII.Now stay with your feelings of fear, discomfort, uneasiness and distress</li> <li>IX.What lacunae, weakness, flaws and shortcomings - in yourself - you try to hide</li> <li>X.Identify what actions can you take - once you have experienced these negative emotions for some time</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">2.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Ask yourself [to see if you are in denial] - you can identify other similar incidents and your behaviors</b></li> <li>I.Are you trying to protect yourself by refusing to accept the truth about something that's happening in your life</li> <li>II.Are you using unhealthy means to suppress and avoid feeling bad</li> <li>III.You don't have money for everyday expense - but you are spending freely through credit-card</li> <li>IV.You pant with exhaustion in slightest exertion and have chest pain and shortness of breath - but still you avoid going to doctors - to avoid facing - the fact that you may have some serious medical conditions</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">3.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">31 questions to ask yourself to move past denial</b></li> <li>I.Do you try to change things that you don't have any control over - list when and where you go for this behavior</li> <li>II.List all that makes you scared or highly agitated</li> <li>III.List all the potential negative consequences of your not taking action</li> <li>IV.Express your fears and emotions - with someone you trust or with a trained counselor</li> <li>V.Identify and challenge irrational beliefs that you have</li> <li>VI.Talk through problems that are causing stress in your relationship</li> <li>VII.Reframe your situation to recognize the positives rather than only focusing on the negatives</li> <li>VIII.Budget more carefully to minimize financial stress all demonstrate active coping.</li> <li>IX.Learn to use <b data-redactor-tag="b">Active-behavioral coping</b> - which addresses the problem directly.</li> <li>X.Take help of trained mental-health professional to learn and practice Active-cognitive coping to change how you respond to the various stressors</li> <li>XI.Find New Ways to Relieve Stress</li> <li>XII.Use Emotional Coping Techniques</li> <li>XIII.Practice Communication Skills</li> <li>XIV.Have Someone Hold You Accountable</li> <li>XV.Learn to Tolerate Uncomfortable Feelings</li> <li>XVI.Work on Improving Your Self-Control</li> <li>XVII.Learn to delay Gratification and to Avoid Temptation and impulsive reactions - Remind Yourself of the Consequences</li> <li>XVIII.Create a clear motivating goal to change your life situation</li> <li>XIX.Focus on One Goal at a Time - Track your actions toward the achievement of the goal</li> <li>XX.Learn and Meditate the right way - everyday</li> <li>XXI.Use your willpower strategically and in the most crucial times to overcome taking tough decisions </li> <li>XXII.Learn How to face criticism and rejections and frustrations of life</li> <li>XXIII.Learn to enjoy the sense of suspense that pleasurable events provide</li> <li>XXIV.Learn to accept what had happened instead of constantly fighting to change things</li> <li>XXV.Write a few paragraphs about what's important to you and how you practice that in your life. </li> <li>XXVI.Remind yourself that you have some control over the situation. </li> <li>XXVII.If you are avoiding facing your health-issues - understand that getting to know everything about your illness will give you options to decide what type of treatment to go for </li> <li>XXVIII.If you are avoiding going deeper into any issue - ask yourself what you are actually scared off and explore the possibility that this information might be helpful</li> <li>XXIX.People in general, hold onto beliefs that are shaped by early experiences, the media, and detrimental-influences </li> <li>XXX.Share your personal challenges with trusted people and seek their help and advice</li> <li>XXXI.Stop accepting mediocrity in life - focus on improving your life and whatever you do with excellence in mind</li> <li>XXXII.Realize that your whole life is like not a race - only to live for each day and making it the most fulfilling</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">4.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Understand 9 bitter-sweet facts about life - so that your expectations becomes grounded</b></li> <li>I.You may not become famous - like you imagined you would be</li> <li>II.People tell you good things about you - because they know that you want to hear them.</li> <li>III.You can't change anyone</li> <li>IV.Very few people will be grateful to you</li> <li>V.Everyone will not like you and some people will even hate you - irrespective of what you do and how good you are to them</li> <li>VI.Even if you don't bother anyone your whole life - there will be people that judge and criticize your actions</li> <li>VII.You are fully dispensable - most of the people will not miss you at all</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">VIII.</b>Even if you are right - understand that Facts alone don't win arguments<b data-redactor-tag="b"></b></li> <li>IX.Accepting the reality Does Not Mean Giving Up - it only needed - for you to create options and solutions to come out of this pathetic condition</li> <li>X.Nobody gives a damn about what are you doing - because they are so immersed in their own insecurities and agendas</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">5.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">How can you - live your life -being yourself all the time - CREATE ACTION PLAN</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">6.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">What goals if you are able to achieve - will make you feel fulfilled and at the top of the world - create action plan to achieve these</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">7.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Ask yourself - which tasks you must do YET you don't have a clue as to how to do that - make a learning plan</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">8.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">A partial list of healthy ways to cope during stressful time - but you need to form the habit of doing these when everything is working fine and start enjoying them - as you can't just do it when you are stressed - it won't work</b></li> <li>I.Cry if you are feeling overwhelmed and helpless - it is a great catharsis</li> <li>II.Spend time talking with your loved ones, friends, and trusted confidants.</li> <li>III.Turn to hobbies and soothing activities -walking in nature, playing your favorite music etc.</li> <li>IV.Read or listen to books that inspire or entertain or makes you feel lighter</li> <li>V.Play Chess [even with yourself] to slow down, concentrate, use precise thinking, active both inductive and deductive reasoning, as well as recognizing difficult and complex patterns.</li> <li>VI.Use Gardening to improves to enhance your learning abilities by being in the outdoor</li> <li>VII.Learn to play instrumental Music</li> <li>VIII.Learn a new language</li> <li>IX.Start cooking try out new recipes</li> <li>X.Get involved in theatre and comedy </li> <li>XI.Play team outdoor-games - to make failure as another learning experience.</li> <li>XII.Go for Daydreaming - spend time with yourself and visualize your dreams coming to fruition and use this time to understand and find solutions to the challenges and problems you are facing</li></ul><div>#whywerefusetoacceptreality, #howtofacefactsandacceptreality, #howtomovepastdenial, #Whyweavoidfacingourselves, #healthycopingways<span class="redactor-invisible-space"></span><br></div>