What is Real Happiness How to Find it

 Many of us confuse feeling good and momentary pleasure with happiness.

Happiness is something we all seemingly desire [at least believe that we are looking for] – but most of us don't even know what real-true-meaningful happiness is – and – very rarely we focus on being happy in our every day life.

Many of us also believe that Happiness is subjective – meaning – something needs to happen to make us happy.

In this blog we will explore – how – in spite of all the negativities in and around our life - we can still manage be happy and be in peace with ourselves.

Success, wealth, power, position, name, fame can only give us pleasure in short duration but do not define actual happiness really is.

Nobody can avoid pains, setbacks, frustrations, irritations, feeling-low – in their life, completely.

Neither we can make ourselves totally immune to the bad things happening in our lives or in the world.

It is not impossible to make ourselves immune to everything – but if we do that – the worst part is that would happen – that we would also make ourselves indifferent to positive feelings of happiness, joy, contentment.

So, what is the big secret – it is no secret at all - But with our conditioning, our belief systems, our perceptions – it very difficult to recognize and adjust our inner thought-chemistry.

21 Definitions of Real, Genuine, Authentic, True, Meaningful Happiness

• 1.Let us first understand that real-happiness – is not something that we feel at a moment and in the next it is gone.
• 2.It is not a fleeting feeling of pleasure but a lasting inner-source of joy and contentment, then that might be your true happiness.
• 3.The Real-Happiness is being aware of all the feelings both negative as well as positive – objectively.
• 4.The Meaningful-Happiness is not fighting with what we cannot change OR resisting what is beyond our control OR suppressing consciously all that undesirable emotions we are feeling.
• 5.The Genuine-Happiness is our state of being in the present with complete acceptance of and fully comfortable with our pains, weaknesses, failures, mistakes
• 6.The True-Happiness is not the absence of suffering and only having the presence of pleasure.
• 7.Happiness is letting yourself fully feel every emotion, especially the negative ones - e.g. - feelings of sadness, anger, fear or any such feelings.
• 8.We are conditioned to associate happiness with achievement and materialistic possessions and many other external factors – well to be honest – these would give you heady feelings and emotional-high, albeit in the short term – in long term we are likely to experience a bd void within us.
• 9.That is why many of us have these internal dialogue – I will be happy when I get the promotion, when I have this much bank-balance, get married, , have my own house, have children and so on.
• 10.Most of these momentary happiness [if you call that] moments come in our lives – many times but lasts few minutes or days and then they are gone.
• 11.The google and identify people who attained global fame, recognition, riches of highest kind – chances are you will also recognize that many of them turned to drugs, committed suicide or died very unhappy.
• 12.Lots of People get into relationships or marriages because they seek happiness through their partner.
• 13.When we look for happiness in the outside world – we are focusing on a path that would take us away from making us being truly happy.
• 14.True happiness is enjoying your own company and living in peace and harmony with our body, mind and soul and being in love with ourselves – irrespective of mistakes and blunders we might have committed.
• 15.But then it is not narcissistic love either.
• 16.Being truly happy we don't need other people or external factors.
• 17.Because It is not within our control or area of influence to ensure that we will achieve every goal in our life and enjoy the fruit of our actions, at the time we accomplish it - That is why many of us are actually disappointed – when we reach our destination.
• 18.But because we were focused only on reaching our goals – we forgot to enjoy the journey.
• 19.Therefore, we need to learn to practice the art of enjoying our actions and accepting the consequences by taking complete responsibility for them.
• 20. Most of our life is about the creating, taking action, correcting the course and not the outcomes or results of that process - Happiness arises spontaneously when you love the process of moving towards your Passions*.
• 21.Now Make a list of possessions, achievements and events you hoped would bring you the joy but when you got them you were not that happy OR that the happiness was very-very short-lived.

66 Steps to create, nurture and maintain yourself in the state oh happiness

• 1.Learn to Identifying your uniqueness and Celebrate/Enjoy your difference
• 2.Stopping to compare* - as there is not one like you
• 3.Competing with yourself – to taking actions towards your passion
• 4.Expressing yourself*
• 5.Not trying to impress others
• 6.Giving to others unconditionally* - even if it is a silent prayer or thanks to others
• 7.Being alone with yourself – getting in touch with the real you
• 8.Losing yourself in something you love, you create the perfect space to find yourself
• 9.Experience and being in the nature
• 10.Looking for simple joys
• 11.Being grateful for goodness surrounding us
• 12.Being in Awe – be curious to learn.
• 13.Acceptance of your pain depends
• 14.Learn to feel the Present your all the senses
• 15.Waking up your inner-child and developing a playful nature
• 16.Finding humor* in everyday happening
• 17.Developing a new perspective about life, others and yourself – let us say exposure to a different philosophy like A Course In Miracles
• 18.Understanding that EVERYTHING HAS SIGNIFICANCE AND MEANING – whatever is happening in and around our life AND effecting and impacting us
• 19.Adopting the changes* – not resisting them – looking for the good in this
• 20. Accepting our own faults and weaknesses – as they are[in case they can't be improved upon – like say your core, whether you are introvert]
• 21.Being 100% honest and truthful about yourself to you
  Identifying and living as per your core values
• 22. Eat foods that are rich in tyrosine (think almonds, bananas, beans, fish, eggs, avocado).
• 23. Sleep until you are rested
• 24. Dance to your favorite music
• 25. Exercising is incredibly beneficial because it increases your dopamine
• 26. Commit to doing one nice thing for yourself every day
• 27.Forgive yourself
• 28. Letting go*
• 29. Eliminate toxic people*
• 30. Stop depending on others make you happy
• 31.Forgive other people
• 32. Learn to Be truly happy for other people's successes and happinesses
• 33. Accept the things you can't change
• 34. Focus on what you can do – and then go and take action
• 35. Surround yourself with positive people – getting rid of negative people not enough
• 36. Do everything with sincere concentration – give your 100%*
• 37.Live For Today and Choose to be happy today
• 38. Smile and laugh more
• 39. Stop expecting from others
• 40. Let Go of Trying to be happy through external means
• 41.Focus on What Matters – focus on things of your biggest inspirations AND not on minor significance
• 42. Read, learn, Relax to Reinvent yourself
• 43. Find Meaning in your life
• 44. Be fully committed to something larger than life
• 45. Create goals which Scares and Thrill you at the same time
• 46. Master taking challenges, new skills
• 47.Have Fun
• 48. Understand that no-one can be happy all the time – if it happens it would be very boring
• 49. Learned to say no to what is not meaningful to you
• 50. Don't expect the life to be easy
• 51.Stop judging
• 52. Take risk*
• 53. Encourage others
• 54. Ask for help – when you need it
• 55.STAY AWAY FROM GOSSIP
• 56. SPEND YOUR MONEY ON EXPERIENCES INSTEAD OF Materialsitic POSSESSIONS
• 57.Never get into The Blame Game
• 58. Sing in the shower
• 59. Build and nurture strong relationships
• 60. Do something every day that makes them feel fulfilled
• 61.Stop living your life based on other people's expectations
• 62. KNOW YOUR WORTH DOESN'T COME FROM EXTERNAL THINGS
• 63. BE INSPIRED (INSTEAD OF DISCOURAGED) BY Other's SUCCESSes
• 64. Understand that Your happiness and success does not have to have at anybody's else's cost – and THAT THERE is ROOM FOR each OF us TO SHINE
• 65. Get Moving and keep moving
• 66. Read my following blogs – in Success Unlimited Mantra website – Our Blog section, from the Heart of Subhashis [ along with the blogs marked with * in this article]
• I.How to Deal with Your Limitations
• II.Why, What and How of Self-Care
• III.What to Do When Frustrated
• IV.Problems in Life and Their Solutions
• V.How to Take Control of Your Life
• VI.What To Do When Confused
• VII.How to Believe in Yourself Again
• VIII.You are winning when you are winning in life
• IX.You Can Actually Win When You Fail
• X.Future Leadership Skills
• XI.Becoming a Real-Life Hero
• XII.How to Make People Laugh
• XIII.How to Be Calm
• XIV.Why being in comfort zone is good
• XV.How to Let Go
• XVI.How to create an amazing life for yourself
• XVII.How to stop comparing with others
• XVIII.How to find purpose in your life
• XIX.Creating enthusiasm in work and life
• XX.How to be Yourself
• XXI.Handling rejection
• XXII.How to Trust
• XXIII.How to understand others
• XXIV.Ways to improve your problem solving skills
• XXV.When to give up
• XXVI.How can being vulnerable be a good thing
• XXVII.Why to give your 100 percent
• XXVIII.Using common sense in life
• XXIX.Live the Life You Want
• XXX.How to enjoy being bored
• XXXI.How to be a disciplined person
• XXXII.Building power of commitment
• XXXIII.How to be lazy
• XXXIV.How to handle regrets in your life
• XXXV.DEALING WITH BIG LIFE CHANGES
• XXXVI.Don't try to be popular be respectable
• XXXVII.Manage energy not time
• XXXVIII.Problematic Relationship Patterns and Personalities
• XXXIX.Setting healthy boundaries in your relationships
• XL.How to prevent Fear of Missing Out, Anxiety, and Insecurities & Stress to ruin your life
• XLI.Managing anger effectively
• XLII.How to Build Masterpiece of Your Life
• XLIII.How to be happy in life
• XLIV.How to Handle Difficult People Effectively
• XLV.Ways to enhance sense of humor
• XLVI.Life's myths and the choices we have
• XLVII.How to turn crises into opportunities
• XLVIII.Overcoming Anxiety
• XLIX.Get Motivation To Beat Burnout, Stress, Depression
• L.How to be more assertive
• LI.How to love yourself first
• LII.How to Create Enriching Relationships
• LIII.How to turn your life around
• LIV.Change your weakness into strength
• LV.How to identify opportunities in life
• LVI.From failure to success
• LVII.How to Conquer Fear and Make Fear Fear You
• LVIII.Ways of changing attitude
• LIX.How to be unique from others
• LX.Ways to make better decisions
• LXI.Ways to change your mood instantly
• LXII.Simplify Habits To Amplify Life
• LXIII.Want To Become Great – Remain Grounded & Stick To The Basics
• LXIV.Creating Triumph from Your Adversity
• LXV.Make Your Anger, Frustrations & Irritations a Huge Power-House To Create The Life You Want
• LXVI.Revolutionize Your Paradigm To Have A Permanent Affairs With Change To Dump Stress, Frustrations & Irritations Of Life
• LXVII.Becoming spiritually enlightened
• LXVIII.Improving your social skills
• LXIX.Enhancing your emotional intelligence
• LXX.How to find your passion
• LXXI.Laughing and it's impact on life
• LXXII.why we cry and quality of our relationships
• LXXIII.Can We Make The Main Thing THE MAIN THING
• LXXIV.The Relationship Between Being Happy & Being Miserable
• LXXV.Why Being Happy Is So Profoundly Simple Yet So Difficult To Have