By Subhashis on 07-01-2021
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How to stop your shyness make your life miserable

        <p><span>In this article you will learn the following</span><br></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">19 ill-effects and negative-impacts as well as pains-hurts-disappointments I suffered because of my shyness - many shy-people may identify with few of these</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">15 Signs to check whether you have social anxiety disorder - ask and check if these applies to you - often</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">12 types of shyness - which has the various degree from being shy to having social-phobia or SAD or to a megalomaniac-fake]</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-About SAD or social-anxiety-disorder - signs and symptoms</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">60 Tips to overcome your shyness</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">14 questions to identify your triggers - the situations and people which triggers different degrees of shyness - some examples to make you get started with your own list</b></p><p>How to overcome your shyness when it is making your life miserable&nbsp;- How to use the advantages of being shy and manage negatives - How to stop your shyness ruining your life</p><p>How to overcome your shyness and manage social anxiety disorder.&nbsp;</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Many people in the world suffer from mild to extreme shyness and are struggling not knowing how to overcome it.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Those who are not shy - cannot empathize-with - how debilitating extreme form of shyness can be.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">I have lived my most of the life - as an-introvert, highly-shy and submissive person </b>- still because of my nature I get into that state in non-threatening, irrelevant and insignificant situations.</p><p>I also have come across - <b data-redactor-tag="b">many people who are recognized globally - for their accomplishments and the impact and positive differences they created in the world</b> - few of them were highly-shy - humble - polite and unassuming.</p><p>From these people - <b data-redactor-tag="b">I learned that being shy and introvert is - no reason - to not to have success and happiness and quality of life that you desire.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">If your shyness has become debilitating and impacting your emotional-social-mental-physical-professional-relationships-famliy life</b> - then you need to learn how to overcome or manage this nature of yours.</p><p>To overcome shyness - <b data-redactor-tag="b">you will need to understand your triggers - like which situations-specific people - other's expectations from you - makes you feel shy.</b></p><p>In this article - <b data-redactor-tag="b">I have given simple-practical-basic action steps - which you need to customize as per what works for you - through learn and applying the most effective strategies for overcoming your shyness &amp; your social anxiety issues.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Even if you are not shy - this article can propel your growth and improve your quality of life exponentially better.</b></p><p>In many places - <b data-redactor-tag="b">I have used - the clichés like - practice and become assertive or learn how to be confident [for all these - I have more than 350+ blogs in my two websites as well as 250+ videos of YouTube (all this contains Do it yourself techniques for each one of them in detail)].</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">You may feel overwhelmed with all these action-plans - they do look too-huge and too-many to be able to manage and remember.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Understand that many of the actions are common [for most elements of the shyness] - and required such small fine-tuning that once you start applying they will become part of your nature.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">But please-please-please understand that - this will not happen magically and overnight. </b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">You will have to put consistent-persistent-focused-motivated efforts - for long [depending on your levels on insecurity and shyness] - even though you may find you are unable to experience the changes and the results. </b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">19 ill-effects and negative-impacts as well as pains-hurts-disappointments I suffered because of my shyness - many shy-people may identify with few of these</b></p> <ul><li>1.I lost opportunities of learning big-time - because of the fear how stupid I would look</li> <li>2.Because I was shy-introvert-submissive - I could not ask tough questions of myself and from others - in many situations to convert them to opportunities </li> <li>3.I did not challenge experts and authority figures and was in awe of everyone who had one skill that I wanted to have - although in many areas I was better - and I also realized that my doubts were solid and that the experts in that particular situation had skewed perspectives </li> <li>4.I could not share my ideas and solutions in large brainstorming seasons which had so-called global-experts - which could have impacted the organization's future big-time [and these did create big difference later when I applied these] - this also stunted my professional rise.</li> <li>5.I did not express my true feelings of care-love-appreciation in right-time - with my most-loved ones.</li> <li>6.Although I appreciated other's for even the most insignificant deeds.</li> <li>7.I could not claim my rights - although no one would have refused</li> <li>8.I could not ask for help - when I was struggling and suffering</li> <li>9.I kept bothering about what others are thinking about me</li> <li>10. I Did not ask penetratingly questions in the meetings where people in powerful-positions were present and neither did I could challenge some of their illogical and irrational ideas</li> <li>11. I accepted bad and shabby service without protest [especially at the places good-service is taken as natural].</li> <li>12. I did not negotiate and lost big-time</li> <li>13. I had big difficulty in asking for remunerations for my services - which were substantial - and others did not give</li> <li>14. I always undersold myself</li> <li>15. I kept helping people who least deserved and also those who were using me and taking advantage of me.</li> <li>16. I compromised on my rights and needs and ALSO the rights and needs of my most-loved ones.</li> <li>17. I wanted to be perfect - so I kept on acquiring knowledge - but did not apply these or use them for my advantage.</li> <li>18. Because I did not express my feelings with my loved-ones - the quality of relationship and the understanding even with my most loved ones was not very strong</li> <li>19. This impacted my growth and also stunted my levels of success, happiness, accomplishments etc.</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Extreme shyness can interfere and diminish not only your self-confidence and self-esteem but also can prevent you from taking advantage of opportunities, experimenting with or trying new things</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Now let us spend little time understanding - the terms - social-anxiety-disorder or social-phobia. </b></p><p>Although <b data-redactor-tag="b">social-anxiety-disorder and shyness have few similar signs and symptoms</b> - SAD or social anxiety disorder is a debilitating condition - whereas shyness up-to a level is manageable.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">In its extreme unhealthy form people with social anxiety disorder start avoiding - even the most essential tasks - because of their having a very strong terror of being watched and judged by others.</b></p><p>A person <b data-redactor-tag="b">with social anxiety disorder may avoid eating, drinking, or writing in public because of a fear of being embarrassed by having others see their hands-shaking</b> - and as result they may spill food or do something that attracts attention which they were trying to avoid.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Social anxiety disorder often disrupts day-to-day life in a way that shyness doesn't.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">12 types of shyness - which has the various degree from being shy to having social-phobia or SAD or to a megalomaniac-fake]</b></p> <ul><li>1.Complete recluse</li> <li>2.Total asocial </li> <li>3.Totally uncomfortable with self</li> <li>4.Shy within their own family and known person</li> <li>5.Shy with the people of opposite gender </li> <li>6.Shy with strangers</li> <li>7.Shy with people of power and authority</li> <li>8.Shy when in the company of people who are SMARTER, more qualified, better experienced and have knowledge and expertise that makes them iconic</li> <li>9.Comfortable with self - Comfortable with people</li> <li>10. Having contagious confidence levels - people who are emotionally-secured</li> <li>11. Being Overconfident - without any solid base</li> <li>12. People with complete FAKE-persona and tyrant-dictator-despotic-autocrat [this interestingly also results from a different type of anti-social disorder]</li></ul> <p>Shyness of the type like given in the points 5, 6 &amp; 8 being shy with strangers and opposite-genders AND being shy with people SMARTER, more qualified, better experienced etc. are manageable.</p><p>Rest of them have psychological and genetic causes - some treatable [these would need treatment from expert-professionals] and some are part of your core and hence difficult to get rid of ALTHOUGH few of them are manageable.</p><p>Unless you have an extreme-unhealthy-state of social-anxiety-disorder or phobia [this means you are anywhere points 1 to 4 </p><p>People who are Sociopaths or psychopaths point 12 - not only manage to hide their emotional-insecurities, fears and anxieties through superficial ways BUT also create havoc on the people - who look-up to them or depend on them. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">15 Signs to check whether you have social anxiety disorder - ask and check if these applies to you - often</b></p> <ul><li>1.Do you pay excessive attention to avoid humiliating or embarrassing yourself in public</li> <li>2.Do you feel terrorized in certain social situations </li> <li>3.Do you go out of your way to avoid social situations </li> <li>4.Are you always creating meaning from even the expressions or the way they looked at you or did not pay attention to you and go bonkers thinking about</li> <li>5.Does your social-anxiety is impacting your day-to-day functioning like - professional-interactions, work, relationships or even your interests and hobbies</li> <li>6.Do you use any medications or substances - to feel good or confident or powerful</li> <li>7.It fill you with sheer fright - with meeting and introducing yourself and strangers</li> <li>8.Public-speaking or giving presentations - so much so that - you go overboard to avoid if you can</li> <li>9.Talking with authority figures&nbsp;makes you feel

like treating them like GOD and do anything to please them PLUS makes you very scared of them OR you just can't ask them of any favors - even if your life depends on it

  • 10. Expressing your feelings to a person you love or going on a date
  • 11. Being in perpetual fear of being judged
  • 12. Eating on table with people whom you considered very cultured - fills you with dread so much that you drop-spill-do many things to attract attention
  • 13. Fear of being seen while doing - even those things that you are well proficient in
  • 14. Being the lime-light gives you cardiac-arrest
  • 15.

    You feel as if the sky has fallen - if someone even questions or criticizes you

    • 60 Tips to overcome your shyness

    Types of Social Phobia

    Few Symptoms of social anxiety disorder or social-phobia - These two list very common fears people with social anxiety disorder experience - but is not comprehensive and exhaustive at all.


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