How to Conquer Fear and Make Fear Fear You

In this article you will learn the following

• -12 Facts about Why We Feel Fear
• -10 major common fears
• -24 techniques to help you handle your most fears effectively
• -Understand what are the biggest 5 regrets

How to conquer fear and make fear - fear you

12 Facts about Why We Feel Fear

• 1.When we conquer our fears - we attain un-imaginable level of success, happiness & relationship.
• 2.If you are feeling too scared to do something – chances are - it is beyond your current capabilities and mental-frame.
• 3.Experiencing fear in dangerous situation is not only normal but also helpful in protecting us.
• 4.Many times it creates - the Flight, Freeze or Fight - instant-auto-reflex-reaction-action.
• 5.Fear also makes our mind alert and ready for action.
• 6.Fears also indicates - a much larger opportunity for us - because if we are able to overcome our certain fears - our abilities also grows by leaps and bound.
• 7.Also many times - many of us get paralyzed into inaction - because of our fear.
• 8.Our inaction mode - stops us from taking - the most crucial first-step – And in most instances - the first step - diminishes our fears and also creates the momentum to go forward.
• 9.Many of us get limited - by our fears - otherwise we could have used more of our immeasurable potential and accomplish beyond our wildest dreams.
• 10.If you list all your major fears right now & then look back at your last year – chances are none of what you feared - would have occurred.
• 11.As per the statistics - 60% of what we fear never happens, 32% of our fear is because of our past experiences - ONLY 8% of our fear is real.
• 12.Then out of this 8% real-fears - more than 50% is not within our control [like dying] & the rest 50% can be handled by skill-upgrade, preparations and practice.

10 major common fears - which many of us would have - although all of us may not have all of them

• 1.Fear of making mistakes
• 2.Fear of being disliked by others
• 3.Fear of what others think of us
• 4.Fear of looking weak
• 5.Fear of unknown
• 6.Fear of being rejected by others
• 7.Fear of failure
• 8.Fear of public speaking
• 9.Fear of speaking our mind & sharing our inner most feelings & thoughts
• 10.Fear of insects, reptiles, animals

Then there are phobias – which are - magnification of fear by exponential degrees - with the threats getting greatly exaggerated or their being nonexistent.

For example - it very natural to be afraid of vicious dog - BUT - to be terrified of a friendly-dog on a leash - could be a sign of phobia.

24 techniques to help you handle your most fears effectively

• 1.Basic clarity about our fears
• I.In case of fears which have transformed into something debilitating - we need to seek the help of professional experts.
• II.I am a firm believer in - identifying and working on fears - to eliminate and reduce - irrational action-inhibiting fears - by taking real-time actions.
• III.Facing our fears and still taking action - is the best antidote of fear - instead of going for identifying the causes of what created & instilled- fear in you.
• IV.Understand that fear & anxiety plays a very important and vital role in our lives.
• V.Without any fear only - we will fail miserably - due to overconfidence or carelessness
• VI.Without the fear of law and order - anarchy will rule the world - which is happening right now in many countries - because the criminals are getting protection and encouragements from many governments
• VII.Fear is a major positive contributor - in our growth and development
• VIII.When you are feeling scared – it is sometimes advisable - to do nothing
• 1. Identify and note down - when, who and what triggers your fear – the specific situation, the specific tasks and the specific people
• 2.Make a list of your major fears - you can also create categories of fear
• 3.Focusing long-term - identify the big pay-offs or benefits - of overcoming all major fears – create a list which is exclusive to each of your major fears and anxiety causing triggers
• 4.Now focus on a future-event - that is making you anxious, nervous and scared - identify the following
• I.If you are getting scared of unknown – identify all the possible ways – it can go wrong
• II.Create all possible worst-case scenarios
• III.Using the creative problem solving techniques – design smart action steps that you can start implementing right now
• IV.If any of your similar past experience is causing uncertainty & doubt in you - then create a plan how & what you will do differently PLUS identify in how many ways you have become wiser
• V.Identify all your heartbeat-stopping - scenarios
• VI.Then workout and create multiple solutions - to each situation
• VII.Learn, prepare and practice– till you are most comfortable with this task
• 5.Share your fears with your mentors & people who care for you openly
• 6.Identify others who have faced similar situations & ask them what fears they had & how did they handle it.
• 7.Start challenging yourself slowly by doing things that are scary to you but otherwise safe like – rappelling, rafting, climbing mountain etc. - initially you can do small things then graduate to doing difficult things to say fire-walk, bungee jumping, para-jumping etc. – always under expert's guidance and supervision
• 8. Join a group of people – who always challenge themselves + read about
• 9.Watch movies about real people who overcame their fears - like the movie "the walk"
• 10.Learn & practice EFT – the emotional freedom techniques
• 11.Learn the art of future pacing - as given in NLP the neuro linguistic programming
• 12.Practice visualizing you succeeding in the things you fear - all the future events you are about to encounter
• 13.Learn and anchor - powerful emotions in yourself - this is again a NLP technique - to be triggered when you are feeling scared
• 14.Use NLP Modeling technique - following your role-models and experts on how they do it
• 15.Start sharing your fears openly with trusted people, groups and forums - Accept that fear is a natural emotion & feeling scared and sharing that you are afraid with trustable people does not make you weak – on the other hand sharing your fear actually would reduce the effect of your fears
• 16.Get in the company of people who are positive & who never give up without trying because of fear
• 17.Drop your ego – Don't try to impress others with your false - to show-off your fearlessness - it is more damaging especially if it is faked
• 18.Learn to control the breathing and relaxing your stomach muscles - as in the case of acute-fear - relaxing the stomach-muscle and changing your breathing-patterns to slower and controlled ones - puts you in control
• 19.Learn & practice meditation - to self-reflect and get comfortable with your fears
• 20.Identify and find your pressure points at the back of your neck & head. Learn to message them through fingers till you feel good - at the time of fear as well as after that initial phase is over
• 21.Start taking challenges and keep on raising the bar on difficulty-level - to increase your toughness and resilience level
• 22.Volunteer for those task which involves risk
• 23.Seek out proactively - those dreams - which thrills as well terrifies you - then take the first step - after that it is to keep the momentum

Understand what are the biggest 5 regrets identified by Bronnie Ware - an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last days of their lives.

You will find that - the biggest regret is not what people did - most of them have listed their biggest regret as something they did not do because of lack of courage or due to fear.

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She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called inspiration and chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called the top five regrets of the dying.

1. I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard for materialistic possessions and spent time creating memorable moments

3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

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