<p><b data-redactor-tag="b">How to be in demand and sought-after</b> in your job, business, profession, relationship, society.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Have you ever wondered WHY some people for the same position get enviable high remuneration packages</b> than their peers [who may have similar qualifications and experience].</p><p>OR <b data-redactor-tag="b">some products, brands, organizations command premium</b> prices, awareness and demand.</p><p>In cases <b data-redactor-tag="b">of relationships too - you may notice some very ordinary looking person</b> having very-very attractive partners. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">All These happens due to the value they bring to the stakeholders</b> OR because of the perception of giving more value [off-course to create this perception – <b data-redactor-tag="b">very hard strategic planning and actions are needed backed with solid performance</b>].</p><p>Your <b data-redactor-tag="b">SUCCESS pivots ON YOUR ABILITY TO DELIVER VALUE TO OTHER PEOPLE</b>.</p><p>This is true for everything <b data-redactor-tag="b">– from getting a job to getting promotion to getting a global recognition to getting an ideal life partner</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">You can't create wealth unless you master some skills that makes you unique</b> – and which others need badly-enough to pay you for it.</p><p>You <b data-redactor-tag="b">have to acquire these capabilities and create the impression of being valuable to your target-audience – much before</b> others realize that they need them. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Your Value is always Judged in real time</b>.</p><p>But - <b data-redactor-tag="b">while you are being evaluated, you don't get any say in that interpretation</b>.</p><p>Yet, <b data-redactor-tag="b">the outcome could change the rest of your life</b> – depending on where, who and for what you are being appraised.</p><p>T<b data-redactor-tag="b">hat is why before you are being assessed – your value should be established</b> in measurable terms.</p><p>We <b data-redactor-tag="b">can't feel blissed and blessed without becoming valuable to others – which only can happen through</b> building value for ourselves.</p><p>The <b data-redactor-tag="b">real opportunity to thrive and create a niche for yourself lies between being invaluable and being of no use</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">And in between those two extremes lies a world of opportunity</b>. A chance for you to carve out a unique space where you thrive. </p><p>Yet, <b data-redactor-tag="b">Most of the people spend their life – doing everything – just so that OTHERS</b> Value Them, Respect them, appreciate them, accept them etc etc.</p><p>This article is about – <b data-redactor-tag="b">how to Shift from wanting to be valued to being valuable</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">When we are focused on creating value for others – we are on a sustainable winning path</b> ON THE OTHER HAND – wanting to be valued is always full of pain, rejections, frustrations, heart-burn and so on.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Being able to add unparalleled value to others makes you invaluable</b> – which is brilliant – as the outcome/consequences/end-results - of these would be grudging admiration, respect and recognition automatically.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">The trick is to be RESPECTABLE* and Valuable</b> - not likable. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">This is actually basic common-sense*</b>-The Individuals whose lives are driven by the need to be valued by others create their lives filled with - emotional instability, constant worry about what others think about them, lack of control over their emotions, dependency on others to feel happy, and a tendency to personalize other people's gestures as being that of disapproval, suspicion etc</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">When we are into the vicious cycle of "only when others value me – I can feel valuable and worthwhile" – it is a suicidal thinking process</b> – that almost always leads to giving huge power to circumstances and people – in turn making you lose complete control of your life. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Additional pitfall is that - You become overly critical of others, start blaming others for their own feelings and circumstances and to start controlling people</b>, engage in mind reading other's, creating meaning which probably is not their to the actions of others and jump to assumptions about what other people might be having about them. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Frankly no-one gives a damn about you</b> – as they are busy in their own world full of challenges - to be bothered about you or thinking about you.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Having a mindset of "What would other think of me or say" – is like investing in those market stocks</b> [which don't have any chance of recovering ever especially when the stock-market is crashing during recession]– <b data-redactor-tag="b">and feeling miserable</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">This negative spiral - can be altered by asking the question – how can I add maximum positive value and how do I make impactful positive difference to others</b>, e.g. to my family, to my work, to my organization, to my community, to my country, to humanity [but it can't happen instantly as it would take lots of time, consistency* and practice].</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Everyone wants to feel cared about. We want to feel that we matter We want the people close to us to acknowledge our needs and feelings</b>, we want our employer to recognize our efforts and the value we add through our work- It's part of our nature as social beings. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">The Value of Being Valued</b> – <b data-redactor-tag="b">these are few what would happen</b> – when You Have Become a Person of Value</p><ul><li>1.People look for you seeking your expertise</li> <li>2.People appreciate your presence</li> <li>3.Others give you their full attention</li> <li>4.People seek your advice</li> <li>5.People talk about you in a positive way mentioning the problems you solved or helped them solve</li> <li>6.People recommend you</li> <li>7.People want to partner with you</li> <li>8.People are willing to pay much higher for your capabilities</li></ul><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Things That does not define Your Self-Worth</b></p><ul><li>1.Your Job</li> <li>2.Your Social Media Following</li> <li>3.Your Age</li> <li>4.Your Appearance</li> <li>5.Comparison* with Other People</li> <li>6.Your Grades</li> <li>7.The Number of acquaintances you have</li> <li>8.Your Relationship Status</li> <li>9.The Money </li> <li>10.The social status</li> <li>11.The position</li> <li>12.Your Likes</li> <li>13.Your weaknesses</li> <li>14.Your past mistakes</li> <li>15.Your failures</li></ul><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">How to be valuable and build value for yourself</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">There is no easy, automatic formula to being valuable</b> - <b data-redactor-tag="b">But to start there is a question that has to be asked on consistent basis </b>- What am I have Do, Change, Learn, Be => to make myself so valuable others have no choice but to help me accomplish massive success.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">96+ Simple do it yourself tips – throughout this article – all *marked ones have my DIY blogs </b>on that topic in Success Unlimited Mantra Blog Section<b data-redactor-tag="b"> – From the Heart of Subhashis</b></p><ul><li>1.Understand and accept that - Our worth and value is not variable, or dependent on other people's opinions, approval</li> <li>2.Understanding that our value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see our worth</li> <li>3.Understanding that it is within our control to set our value as high as we want – because We need to recognize that our potential is nearly unlimited - This may not mean that we all can be the Einstein the Ball Gates - but that with focus, determination and constructive actions - we all can expand in almost any possible way we choose</li> <li>4.We have to consciously and sub-consciously shift our attention and energy to - how can I be valuable to others and the circumstances around me – FROM - the hopeless hollow of how can I be admired by others</li> <li>5.We need to practice thinking and being Humble accountable and vulnerable*</li> <li>6.We need to accept ourselves fully with our weaknesses and strengths</li> <li>7.We should be free from all inhibitions* in asking for help from others</li> <li>8.We need to learn how to Be calm*</li> <li>9.Practicing to be a true professional *</li> <li>10.Developing a Classy* Personality and learning to being graceful </li> <li>11.Developing the sense of humor* [even when things are falling apart – by accepting the passage of tough time – and being able to laugh at ourselves]</li> <li>12.Practicing Compassion and kindness</li> <li>13.Developing the Ability to follow through – till we accomplish our goals</li> <li>14.Being yourself* all the time</li> <li>15.Expressing yourself </li> <li>16.Being focused on delivering Excellence*</li> <li>17.Avoiding Water Cooler politics, gossip, back-biting Conversations</li> <li>18.Always focusing on Solving the Problem* and creating multiple solutions and strategies</li> <li>19.Show off Your Work Without Being Obnoxious</li> <li>20. Develop a mindset for Developing Others</li> <li>21.Saying thank you sincerely</li> <li>22. Smiling often </li> <li>23. Listening* to others without distraction</li> <li>24. Volunteering to help the community</li> <li>25. Starting a project [the grand one that you have been thinking for long]</li> <li>26. Taking online as well as other courses</li> <li>27.Social and Professional Networking*</li> <li>28. Be busy meaningfully on your own passions* - Don't be always readily available</li> <li>29. Giving up on the unhealthy lifestyle – by Taking care of your body – through Healthy Diet, Physical Activities and exercises</li> <li>30. Focusing on Major Issues and Giving up the short-term mindset and playing small</li> <li>31.Taking full responsibility* and being accountable* - Stopping to give excuses and blame others and circumstances</li> <li>32. Being flexible* - Give up the fixed mindset </li> <li>33. Stopping to believe in the Overnight success </li> <li>34. Giving up the need to control everything and everyone</li> <li>35. Detaching from the things you cannot control, and focus on the ones you can</li> <li>36. Giving up on saying YES to things that don't support your goals</li> <li>37.Getting the toxic* people out of your life</li> <li>38. Giving up your need to be liked</li> <li>39. Give up your dependency on social media and television</li> <li>40. Crafting your value message</li> <li>41.Establishing your credibility by being consistence*</li> <li>42. Demonstrating your ability as thought leader -suggesting unconventional possibilities </li> <li>43. Creating your own critical mass of support by Complete the triathlon – of Creating demand, Creating Support and then Servicing demand</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">44.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Increase Your Self-Understanding by asking</b></li> <li>I.Who I am</li> <li>II.What key life moments define who I am today</li> <li>III.What brings me the most passion, fulfillment, and joy</li> <li>IV.Where do I struggle most</li> <li>V.Where do I need to improve</li> <li>VI.What fears* often hold me back</li> <li>VII.What emotions* hurt me most<br> <br> </li> <li>VIII.What abilities do I have</li> <li>IX.What am I really good at</li> <li>45. Remind yourself that - You don't need to please other people </li> <li>46. No matter what people do or say, and regardless of what happens outside of you, you alone control how you feel about yourself</li> <li>47.Your value comes from inside, from an internal measure that you've set for yourself</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">48.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Boost Your Self-Esteem by Telling yourself regularly</b></li> <li>I.I believe in myself</li> <li>II.I am just as valuable as other people</li> <li>III.I would rather be me than someone else</li> <li>IV.I am proud of my accomplishments</li> <li>V.I am good at solving problems</li> <li>VI.I love trying new things</li> <li>VII.I respect myself</li> <li>VIII.I like the way I look</li> <li>IX.I love myself even when others reject me</li> <li>X.I am not afraid to make mistakes</li> <li>XI.I am happy to be me</li> <li>49. Learning to handle difficult people*</li> <li>50. Learning how to take criticism*</li> <li>51.Learning to say No*</li> <li>52.Learning to be Assertive*</li> <li>53. <b data-redactor-tag="b">Multiplying Your Value with List-Building Skills</b> - If you can help your clients build a list of responsive, eager-to-buy leads, you will multiply your value and find yourself in demand as both writer and consultant</li> <li>54. Understand your value – learn how by showing rather than telling</li> <li>55.Deliver on your value consistently and get testimonials</li> <li>56. Increase your value through education, skill-upgradation and taking newer projects</li> <li>57.Focus on your own growth.</li> <li>58. Offer More Value to others than they expect</li> <li>59. Sharpen Your Skills - Work Harder on Yourself</li> <li>60. Value your Time – manage your energy*</li> <li>61.Learning how to be lazy* productively</li> <li>62. Make it your problem and solve problems* of others</li> <li>63. Develop your soft-skills*</li> <li>64. Develop the 36 types of intelligence*</li> <li>65. Learn to change* pro-actively</li> <li>66. To Increase Your Value, Think Of Yourself As A 'Product,' And 'Upgrade' Yourself Every Year</li> <li>67.Determine how you can 'upgrade' yourself. Improvement doesn't have to be expensive. <b data-redactor-tag="b">Chose to master from the following or create your own list</b></li> <li>I.Selling Skills*</li> <li>II.Negotiation Skills*</li> <li>III.Coaching and Mentoring Techniques*</li> <li>IV.Entrepreneurial Skills*</li> <li>V.Social Quotient*</li> <li>VI.Emotional Quotient*</li> <li>VII.Communication* Techniques</li> <li>VIII.Presentation* Skills</li> <li>IX.Leadership*</li> <li>X.Strategic Planning*</li> <li>XI.Change Management*</li> <li>XII.Finance*</li> <li>68. Never stop learning or growing</li> <li>69. Offer More Value to the Marketplace - Understand that You Don't Get More Valuable With Time - Age or years on the job doesn't equal value.</li> <li>70. Bring Your Skills to the Marketplace, Not Your Needs because your expert Skills are valuable, needs are not. </li> <li>71.Become Better at Everything You Do</li> <li>72.Research your Dream Jobs - Prepare For Your Next Job Where is the Future</li> <li>73.Three Keys to Lifelong Employment - change the work that you are offering to do, change the place where you are offering to work, or change the amount that you are asking for your services</li> <li>74.Find a Mentor*</li> <li>75.Define your niche</li> <li>76.Gain third-party credibility</li> <li>77.Don't be afraid to put yourself out there - Where you need to be </li> <li>78. Engage with Those Who Most Recently Engaged with You -Get to Know Your New Followers.</li> <li>79.Fix Hassles in doing business with you</li> <li>80.Find the Trigger- Build a Steep Trajectory of Improvement</li> <li>81.Become Your Own Master Publicist - 8. Share Your Stories</li> <li>82. Connect With Experts</li> <li>83. Give Without Expecting to Get</li> <li>84. <b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn the game-changing * - Digital Marketing Skills</b></li> <li>I.SEO specialist</li> <li>II.PPC executive/specialist</li> <li>III.Social media expert</li> <li>IV.Email marketing</li> <li>V.Mobile marketing</li> <li>VI.Content management/marketing</li> <li>VII.UX design</li> <li>VIII.Java</li> <li>IX.Structural Query Language (SQL)</li> <li>X.MACHINE LEARNING</li> <li>XI.DATA VISUALIZATION</li> <li>XII.DATA ENGINEERING</li> <li>XIII.NETWORK AND INFORMATION SECURITY (CYBERSECURITY)</li> <li>XIV.CLOUD COMPUTING/AWS</li> <li>XV.BLOCKCHAIN</li> <li>XVI.Bottom of Form</li> <li>XVII.IOT</li> <li>XVIII.DATA SCIENCE & ANALYTICS</li> <li>XIX.ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE</li> <li>XX.EXTENDED REALITY (VR AND AR)</li> <li>XXI.QUANTUM COMPUTING</li> <li>XXII.HTML</li> <li>XXIII.Basic WordPress proficiency</li> <li>XXIV.Project management</li> <li>XXV.Marketing campaign management</li> <li>XXVI.Web analytics</li> <li>XXVII.Video editing</li> <li>XXVIII.Basic coding skills Give the People What They Want</li></ul><ul><li></li></ul>