<p><span>Art and science of Whataboutery and cockwomble-ness</span><br></p><p>In this article you will learn the following</p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">What is Whataboutery</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-Who are Cockwomble</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">How Whataboutery works</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">19 tools Narcissist Whatabout-leaders use to make their opponents/ victims crazy and confused</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">10 Examples of Whataboutism - when the other person is guilty and you point it out to them</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">20 tips on how to deal Whataboutery and Whatabouters</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Use of Whataboutery is on all time high</b> in today's time - <b data-redactor-tag="b">it is because of The number of extremely insecure people who are in the highly powerful positions has also become all time high - globally</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Because of their deep-rooted emotional-insecurities as well as the resulting psychological disorders</b> - <b data-redactor-tag="b">Whatabouters</b> use various tricks to - not only create <b data-redactor-tag="b">impressions of being powerful</b> but also to control gullible masses.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Many of the people who practice Whataboutery also happen to be a Cockwomble.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Cockwomble is a person who is typically a male - who has reached position of power and who makes outrageously stupid and irrational statements and indulges in inappropriate behavior</b> and who has a very high opinion of his own wisdom and importance.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">How many of you will accept any of the following four incidents and similar ones</b></p> <ul><li>1.If your kid said that he/she failed in his/her exams but nothing to worry as each of his/her friends also failed </li> <li>2.Or that he/she is not going to do his/her homework because none his/her friends are doing it</li> <li>3.Or this one - where you went to complain about a defective product and the salesperson asks what about others products that you bought which failed and goes on saying - that all brands and all products fails </li> <li>4.Or if you have a complain about the food at a eating joint and the manager says that the food at other places are worse</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Above are the examples of say harmless for of Whataboutery.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">In this article we will be exploring the toxic practice of Whataboutery and its impact.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">You will be surprised about times you have actually accepted the Whataboutery of politicians and leaders and even applaud them for making such effective retort or comeback</b> to counter their opponent's factual and logical and truthful claims.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">All the tricks and techniques of Whatabouters - are driven from inherent cunningness, scamming and conning mindset and intent</b>.</p><p>The techniques and tools <b data-redactor-tag="b">that they have mastered are subtle and initially most people can fall in their trap</b> - later only those people remains with them, who have their own axe to grind.</p><p>Because one person alone cannot control the world - <b data-redactor-tag="b">he enrolls a large army of supporters for his objectives</b> - One of the <b data-redactor-tag="b">major manipulating technique</b> that they use is Whataboutery<b data-redactor-tag="b">.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Invariably you will find that the master practitioners of Whataboutery and Cockwombleness</b> are - <b data-redactor-tag="b">corrupt tyrannical politicians, power-hungry bureaucrats of all levels</b> [includes judiciary as well as administrative cadres], <b data-redactor-tag="b">unethical businessmen, unscrupulous media, celebrity religious characters and big criminals</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Almost all these people have excellent communication skills fine-tuned to establish their lies as truth</b>. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">They create an impression of their opponents being morons - through various ways to put-down, humiliate and insult - using media and all institutions that they control - to troll</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Whataboutery is used to suppress the truth and confuse others.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">The large mass of people who support these highly toxic people in positions of power</b> - <b data-redactor-tag="b">are mostly unemployed, ill-educated, uneducated - brainwashed youths and even highly qualified well to do people who have secured their own interests fully well</b> and now are indulging in their <b data-redactor-tag="b">vile pursuits</b> to satisfy their <b data-redactor-tag="b">evil nature</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Whataboutery is used by hypocrites and who also use psychological projection as their defense mechanism -</b>Their awareness is such that <b data-redactor-tag="b">they are blind to the fact that they do just what they are complaining about- by making an accusation of hypocrisy of corruption, cheating, inciting violence etc. Of which they themselves are guilty.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">They actually feel proud while using continuous multiple blame games and finger pointing. </b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Whataboutery is bit hard to recognize, because they look deceptively valid - and is used as an argumentative tactic where a person or group responds to an accusation or difficult question by</b> deflection. Instead of addressing the point made, they counter it with "but what about x</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">The practitioner of Whataboutery attacks others - whenever they feel threatened by bringing out something from the</b> distant past or an altogether irrelevant issue - it is used to <b data-redactor-tag="b">ignore their major blunders and yap about something that is not of any significance.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">They deliberately choose an out-of-scope, hostile counter-argument</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">In many instances Whataboutery may feel very eye-catching and influential - but it is only side-line the real issues </b>- ultimately nothing changes</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Whataboutism is the most popular tactic for RW-politicians.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">They view everything as battles to be won and their goal is to suppress their opponent by always being on offensive</b> to puts their opponent on the back foot.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">They are not interested in finding solutions or having a healthy open discussions or solutions</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">They will never say sorry or accept their mistakes - unless to gain something great </b>- that too in a manner that shows their total disregard to the serious issues - <b data-redactor-tag="b">resembling crocodile tears</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Whataboutery is a way of responding to any subject which rattles them making a counter-accusation</b> to gain control and to make themselves feel better.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Whataboutism is having double standard</b> [unfair application of different sets of rules for different situations] countering accusations with accusations.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Whataboutery allows people to make incredibly self-contradictory arguments </b>which they are never going to actually address it. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Whataboutery is thus extremely useful for propagandists who don't give a damn about logical consistency</b> but are only focused about appealing to their loyal followers.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">These propagandists can - use the same incident to project two opposite claims -</b> like - they may show people happy through photos in media of smiling people to claim that people are happy to be liberated - <b data-redactor-tag="b">and when needed they may show photos of children killed in bomb blasts to project as an attack on humanity.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">They always show the evidence that fits their narrative and never show the truth </b>- although they get entangled on many contradictory lies of their own making - <b data-redactor-tag="b">but surprisingly their followers are always happy - as a result the propagandist does not need to defend their point any further</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">In politics - when a party don't do what they promised - they would almost always point what was wrong in earlier</b> and during the opposite party's rule.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">All of us need to learn to avoid the dangers of Whataboutism for better relationships, better mental health, growth and sanity.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Whataboutery is a highly negative and self-defeating, self-sabotaging and self-harming habit</b> - because its rewards are so intoxicatingly high - you may find it very difficult to break.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">In long term it can stunt your happiness, growth, success, relationship, health, financial independence etc.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">19 tools Narcissist Whatabout-leaders use to make their opponents/ victims crazy and confused</b></p> <ul><li>1.Trolling is a great supporting tool for Whatabouters</li> <li>2.Constant criticism</li> <li>3.Showing contempt</li> <li>4.Attacking below the belt </li> <li>5.Stonewalling</li> <li>6.Physical abuse</li> <li>7.Mass hysteria</li> <li>8.Creating mob violence</li> <li>9.Mass violence</li> <li>10.Mass</li> <li>11.Going for emotional abuse</li> <li>12.Cheating on their commitment</li> <li>13.Fake news</li> <li>14.Suppressing truth</li> <li>15.Repeating lies till their supports accept these as truths</li> <li>16.Division on religious line</li> <li>17.Fanning riots</li> <li>18.Encouraging criminals</li> <li>19.Ridiculing, mocking, insulting - without any bars</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">10 Examples of Whataboutism - when the other person is guilty and you point it out to them</b></p> <ul><li>1.Suppose you raise a point - they will counter it by saying - but you did it first [whether or not it is true - especially when it is not true]</li> <li>2.You ask them - that they did not do the shopping [or anything] - they will counter it by saying - what about the last week when you did not take children out </li> <li>3.If you are discussing male violence against women and the unsafe conditions women live under - they will counter it by saying - what about the attacks men are under now</li> <li>4.When you talk about the massive number of women who suffer sexual assault - they will counter it by saying - what about the men who get sexually assaulted </li> <li>5.When you raise the point racism - they will counter it by saying - how other religion do the same </li> <li>6.You point out their brutality and human rights issues - they will counter it by deflecting by pointing to the history of slavery in the united states - irrelevant you say but they continue to harp</li> <li>7.You point out their lie -they will counter it by pointing out how everyone lies</li> <li>8.You ask your children about bad grades - they will counter it by questioning your never going to college or you too having poor marks</li> <li>9.You point out their performance issues - - they will counter it by saying - they counter by saying - say Africa has worse record</li> <li>10.If you ask them not to drink - they will counter it by saying -but how come someone you respect can</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">20 tips on how to deal Whataboutery and Whatabouters </b></p> <ul><li>1.When you are getting the urge to lash-out or strike-back or attack - take few deep breaths</li> <li>2.Take a break - get out of the situation if you are unable to calm yourself</li> <li>3.Seek time to have this discussion other time</li> <li>4.If the conversation or discussions are getting derailed or going off-track - bring the conversation back to the original subject - by saying maybe what you are saying is true but right now we need to focus on this issue</li> <li>5.Use critical thinking and assertively point out their trick of using Whataboutery for what it is - point out how they are trying to deflect and change the subject to avoid the original subject </li> <li>6.Force them see their Whataboutery</li> <li>7.Practice to learn to actively listen to the speaker - seek clarifications by asking open ended questions</li> <li>8.Learn to use facts and evidence instead of hearsay</li> <li>9.Learn to get rid of the urge to control others</li> <li>10.Learn to get rid of your ego which makes you go for unfair means to establish one-upmanship</li> <li>11.Learn to accept your weakness and flaws</li> <li>12.Learn to show to true self to the world</li> <li>13.Learn to be comfortable in being genuine you</li> <li>14.Learn how to handle difficult, toxic, manipulative, tyrannical person effectively</li> <li>15.Learn ways to manaage your anger</li> <li>16.Learn the effective ways to deal with your uncomfortable emotions and feelings</li> <li>17.Practice to have discussions to search for truth rather than trying to win an argument and to prove yourself right</li> <li>18.If you're in a relationship - especially marital one - you have a ready stage for </li> <li>19.Understand that even if your spouse is cause for 90% of the problem -you still have to deal with your 10% role in the issue</li> <li>20.You may get some success with few less expert Whatabouters but master Whatabouters will still disagree, argue and Whatabout - because it is their field they are experienced at doing this</li></ul><div> #Whataboutism, #toxicWhataboutery, #defensemechanism, #narcissisticbehavior, #narcissists, #personalitydisorders, #toxic<b data-redactor-tag="b">Whatabouters</b>, #narcissisticabuse, #cockwomble, #whoisacockwomble, #cockwombleness, #whousewhataboutery, #<b data-redactor-tag="b">Whatabouters, </b>#Whataboutery, #whoarecockwomble, #<b data-redactor-tag="b">WhatisWhataboutery, #toolsNarcissistWhataboutleadersuse, #howtodealwithWhataboutery</b> Whataboutism<b data-redactor-tag="b">Whatabouters, #examplesofWhataboutery</b><span class="redactor-invisible-space"></span><br></div>