<p><b data-redactor-tag="b">In this article we will learn -</b></p><ul><li>Basics about irritations and irritants</li><li>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">37 Everyday Major and Minor Irritants </b></li> <li>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">26 reasons Why we get irritated</b></li> <li>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">36 Ways on How to work on Handling Irritants in Our Life</b></li></ul><p><b data-redactor-tag="b"><br></b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Most of our life's pleasures comes from the collection of memories - of our numerous day to day - small-small joys</b>.</p><p>Similarly, <b data-redactor-tag="b">most of our stresses comes from accumulated little-little small irritants</b>.</p><p>Many of these irritants [<b data-redactor-tag="b">if they can be viewed objectively and individually</b>] – <b data-redactor-tag="b">are insignificant</b>.</p><p>But <b data-redactor-tag="b">Accumulations of many small-little irritants</b> [if not dealt-with properly] over a period of time <b data-redactor-tag="b">leads to major disruptions and depressive emotional-being</b>.</p><p>If we can <b data-redactor-tag="b">learn* the art of – ignoring the small annoyances and the art of focusing on small-small everyday elations</b> – we will have a blissful, peaceful, happy and contended existence.</p><p>On the other hand - <b data-redactor-tag="b">We need to learn to live with few irritations</b> – which are the immutable part of the game called life.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">When stress* and anxiety* begin to control* your day-to-day life, it is the time to seek professional* help</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Habits of yours those irritate others</b> - if left to fester can break down relationships, erode happiness, stagnate growth.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Minor irritations usually reach an exploding point if not sorted out.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">You may not be able to change other people's behaviors - but you can certainly change</b> your perspective and your reactions and reframe them to mean positive.</p><p>When ignorable incidents – <b data-redactor-tag="b">starts bothering us and when we get caught in the negative overthinking mental/emotional state</b> – it is a sure sign of our being depressed, requiring immediate attention and remedy.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">I have given few common everyday occurrences</b> – that singularly on their own normally should not disturb you [<b data-redactor-tag="b">if they happen once in a blue moon</b>].</p><p>But <b data-redactor-tag="b">if from the following list many of them – make you feel upset, angry, go-off your handle, lose calm* and makes you tense – regularly</b> - Then please take action right-away.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">37 Everyday Irritants [includes both Major and Minor Ones] – add your very own personal irritants</b></p><ul><li>1.Blow-up with a family member/colleague</li> <li>2.Being denied a promotion at work</li> <li>3.Getting dressing-down for no fault of yours</li> <li>4.Snoring of our partner</li> <li>5.Messiness - Disorganized habits of partner – of leaving things scattered [if you are perfectionist – this is very-very big irritant]</li> <li>6.Road-rage [this in other countries may come under minor annoyances – BUT – in India it is major big irritant]</li> <li>7.Complete Empathy-less-ness of our partner and close family-members</li> <li>8.Infidelity in committed relationship</li> <li>9.When those habits that you loved in your partner during honey-moon period – starts making you mad</li> <li>10. When others try to put you down, boss-over you or try to bull-doze you – and you are unable to respond* assertively*</li> <li>11. Constant nagging by others</li> <li>12. Blaming you for all their woes</li> <li>13. Taking credit for your efforts without any acknowledgement</li> <li>14. Doing wrong themselves and the making you responsible for it</li> <li>15. Showing-off</li> <li>16. Constant Boasting about themselves</li> <li>17. Always trying to prove that they are right</li> <li>18. Always expecting you to do as per their wishes</li> <li>19. When you are made the designated[unofficially] – to do menial chores</li> <li>20. When you talk with people and they don't remove headphones</li> <li>21. When people throw away stuff that's yours without asking first</li> <li>22. When people leave the used teabag in the sink instead of putting it in the rubbish bin."</li> <li>23. When someone licks their finger before touching a piece of paper, they're going to hand you</li> <li>24. When in the airline they simply try to cross you from window to isle seat without bothering to ask you</li> <li>25. When the plane lands and everyone gets up and start taking their baggage from the bins – even though the plane is still moving</li> <li>26. When you are talking and someone cuts you off in conversation</li> <li>27. When people try to correct your spelling, grammar or any such thing instead of focusing on the matter</li> <li>28. Cut you off in traffic at the last possible second before a turn, entryway, exit</li> <li>29. Turning without using indicators</li> <li>30. Driving on wrong lane + with full headlights on</li> <li>31. Insistent Honking</li> <li>32. Traffic jams</li> <li>33. Kids not listening</li> <li>34. Public rudeness</li> <li>35. Buffering Video</li> <li>36. Tangled Earphones</li> <li>37. Long and Slow Queues</li></ul><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Being Upset About Little Things - on a regular basis - Usually Means There Are Big Things in the background we must deal immediately.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">26 reasons Why we get irritated</b></p><ul><li>1.When we are stressed*</li> <li>2.When we are depressed*</li> <li>3.When we are upset* by something else</li> <li>4.When we are frustrated by something else</li> <li>5.When we have unrealistic expectations from others or ourselves</li> <li>6.When we Magnify* the problem*</li> <li>7.When we let the irrational take over and make ourselves furious</li> <li>8.When we give control to others – by being submissive* instead of being assertive</li> <li>9.When someone has taken advantage of us – and – in spite of knowing – we let them</li> <li>10. When instead of taking responsibility – we blame others/situation</li> <li>11. When we are trying to justify/prove that we are right – and it is not succeeding</li> <li>12. When we are seeing things from only one perspective – that too unverified</li> <li>13. When we are unable to face facts and reality – and insist on being ostrich</li> <li>14. When we Quit or give in – against our wishes</li> <li>15. When we jump to conclusions – without verifying the facts</li> <li>16. Our irritation may mean that we have not understood ourselves fully</li> <li>17. Many times, we are projecting what we can't accept about ourselves as the irritants triggered by others</li> <li>18. Other people don't cause our upset – we do it to ourselves</li> <li>19. When we take Things Personally for no reason</li> <li>20. When we stop taking care of ourselves*</li> <li>21. We Take Life Too Seriously and make mountains out of molehills by overthinking and over-analysis</li> <li>22. We are constantly worrying about the minor things</li> <li>23. Uncertainty and change* bother us too much</li> <li>24. We are afraid of being embarrassed and looking silly ourselves</li> <li>25. We are afraid of being wrong and making mistakes</li> <li>26. We constantly focus on threats rather than opportunities</li></ul><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">36 Ways on How to work on Handling Irritants in Our Life</b></p><ul><li>1.Go for friendly intervention - Raising difficult issues can make you feel pressurized precarious – but once it is out in the open you will feel a sense of freedom</li> <li>2.Before you raise anything with anyone - that is causing you anxiety or annoyance -you need to soothe yourself – this you do by exercising, by walking, by taking deep breath etc.</li> <li>3.Speak respectfully and put the real-issues without blaming, shaming, accusing</li> <li>4.Identify what your partner does that irritates and bothers you most</li> <li>5.Start with I statement taking responsibility and expressing how you feel – avoid You statements</li> <li>6.Ask yourself - am I projecting my intolerance or what I find unacceptable in myself</li> <li>7.Express your annoyances preferably the first time it occurs - as studies show that the earlier in our relationship, we can express what really bugs us -the better it is for our relationship</li> <li>8.Jointly Identify and Acknowledge your different drives - Many irritations derive from our basic differences in personality.</li> <li>9.When you are irritated but don't know why - try to find all words that comes to your mind to define your mood and emotions</li> <li>10. Stand still and get time to find your moment of clarity – be honest* and courageous* about what you come across</li> <li>11. Then ask questions to focus on finding solutions to the things causing you stress</li> <li>12. Understand that - A person could have done the most annoying thing in the world but how you respond is a choice</li> <li>13. Identify to pinpoint - if your this annoyance is a Justified anger – and are you getting Irritated by the irrational behaviors of others</li> <li>14. If you get pissed off at strangers, challenge the thoughts and diffuse your anger</li> <li>15. Ask the following</li> <li>A.What exactly is irritating me right now - Does this significantly impact my life, or is it just a minor inconvenience</li> <li>B.How Will it impact my professional life, my finances, my relationships etc. etc.</li> <li>C.Am I simply just blowing things out of proportion</li> <li>D.Is this something that's really worth getting emotional about</li> <li>E.How can I respond to this situation and person in more effective and more productive way</li> <li>16. Whenever you feel yourself getting overwhelmed ask</li> <li>I.Is it worth getting emotionally riled up about this</li> <li>II.What's the emotional cost of indulging in this</li> <li>III.What's the opportunity cost</li> <li>IV.What could I miss out on as a result</li> <li>17. Understand that People Won't Always Support or Like You</li> <li>18. Understand that Life is Full of Stuff That is Out of Your Control</li> <li>19. Understand that - Making Excuses, justifying our mistakes, Blaming others and Feeling/acting like victim - Are total Waste of Time</li> <li>20. Accept that Things Could have been Much Worse</li> <li>21. Call your lifeline of support</li> <li>22. Focus on the Big Picture</li> <li>23. Remember That We All Make Mistakes</li> <li>24. Forgive Others ALSO Forgive Yourself</li> <li>25. Stop Complaining* start negotiating</li> <li>26. Remember Work is Not Your Life</li> <li>27. Set Healthy Boundaries* and Be Verbal About It to know people around you</li> <li>28. Take Back Your Power* - When we allow other people to make us angry over stupid things, we are letting them control our emotions.</li> <li>29. Understand that many times not reacting is not a weakness but strength</li> <li>30. Stop assuming that the worst will only when something bad takes place</li> <li>31. Don't immediately assume the worst in people.</li> <li>32. Embrace the power of humor* as a coping mechanism</li> <li>33. As DO I HAVE CONTROL OVER THIS</li> <li>34. PINPOINT YOUR FEARS</li> <li>35. CHANGE Your EXPECTATIONS – from yourself as well as others</li> <li>36. 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