<p>Dealing with Your Emotional Insecurities</p><p>In this article you will learn</p><ul><li>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">27 Signs of How to spot an insecure person [Outwardly Observable Signs] - You can also identify – whether you have insecurities – the more yeses – the bigger insecurities and hence the greater need for treatment/therapy]</b></li> <li>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">34 Signs to find How Insecure You are – please understand – that all these must be your driving motivation and main focus to do – everything that you do, then only it connects with your emotional-insecurities</b></li> <li>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">18 ways our emotional-insecurity affect and impact our Life - The BIG Insecurity booby-traps</b></li> <li>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">25 Internal-dialogues and self-talk of emotionally insecure people</b></li> <li>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">43 Tips on How to deal with your insecurities – because emotional insecurities is a very-very long haul and slow-road to recovery – all the following tips given below have their own respective actions and my separate blogs and YouTube videos for each of them</b></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong data-redactor-tag="strong" data-verified="redactor">Most of us go through small-temporary phases of insecurities, uncertainties, anxieties – numerous times throughout our lives.</strong></p><p><strong data-redactor-tag="strong" data-verified="redactor">We are forced in to situations that we must deal-with - even though we don't have any clue on how to handle it.</strong></p><p>Yet the moment we get into action mode by trying, experimenting and taking-baby-steps – many of these insecurities and anxieties vanishes on their own.</p><p>On the other hand - <strong data-redactor-tag="strong" data-verified="redactor">Most of the problems that we have in our personalities, our relationships, our growth, our success, our happiness, our confidence levels, our self-esteem, our self-worth, our dependency on/substance-abuse etc. etc. – has its roots in our sub-conscious insecurities.</strong></p><p><strong data-redactor-tag="strong" data-verified="redactor">How we develop emotional insecurities is very complex and can't be fully identified in each case</strong> – it has contribution from various factors – from genetics to our conditioning to our upbringing-environment [<strong data-redactor-tag="strong" data-verified="redactor">most are beyond our area of control and influence – as at the time of happening we did not have the competencies to handle them better</strong>].</p><p><strong data-redactor-tag="strong" data-verified="redactor">But once we become aware about our emotional-insecurities - if we don't take actions to make us feel secured through inner-reengineering - it is plain suicidal.</strong></p><p><strong data-redactor-tag="strong" data-verified="redactor">When our insecurities start creating mayhem in ours [as well as lives of those who are connected with us closely] - And we don't deal with it on war-footing basis – our life become hell.</strong></p><p><strong data-redactor-tag="strong" data-verified="redactor">AND we also create pains, hurts and problems for our closest, our nearest, our dearest and our most loved ones.</strong></p><p><strong data-redactor-tag="strong" data-verified="redactor">The more deep rooted insecurities you have</strong>– the more suffering for the people who are closest to you.</p><p>Insecure people use higher Level of Aggression – <strong data-redactor-tag="strong" data-verified="redactor">the submissive-insecure people use – the most dangerous form of aggression that is passive-aggression.</strong></p><p><strong data-redactor-tag="strong" data-verified="redactor">All the dictators and many well-known powerful people are/were emotionally-insecure [whether of countries or in families or in organizations or in religious and as in terrorists].</strong></p><p><strong data-redactor-tag="strong" data-verified="redactor">It is said that Hitler was so emotionally-insecure</strong> [of exposing his weaknesses] – that he didn't get married till the last moment and after that he co-committed suicide.</p><p>In current world of Politics in many countries including yours – <strong data-redactor-tag="strong" data-verified="redactor">you can identify few of the most criminally-insane-insecure people – who are in positions of POWER and are wrecking lives of people, economy and societal structure</strong> [and they are doing it extremely well].</p><p>You would definitely have come-across and have faced highly insecure people in your close relationships, in your job as well as in your societies/ communities.</p><p><strong data-redactor-tag="strong" data-verified="redactor">In many cases professional help is needed [when we are unable to deal with these on our own].</strong></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">27 Signs of How to spot an insecure person [Outwardly Observable Signs] - You can also identify – whether you have insecurities – the more yeses – the bigger insecurities and hence the greater need for treatment/therapy]</b></p><p>[If you are honest with yourself and find yourself agreeing with more than 6 of these signs – which drives your day-to-day actions - Then you must deal with your insecurities immediately. You can seek Success Unlimited Mantra's help].</p><ul><li>1.Controlling and domineering attitude</li> <li>2.Urge to suppress others through Aggression and power that you have </li> <li>3.Use of positional power to subdue people</li> <li>4.Showing-off to impress others</li> <li>5.Emotional blackmail – using other's weaknesses that they have shared in good faith </li> <li>6.Being jealous and envious of others – just because others have something that you don't</li> <li>7.Bulldozing to have My-way or no-way</li> <li>8.Bullying others</li> <li>9.Threatening others</li> <li>10.Obsessed with taking and posting selfies and videos every-day on social media </li> <li>11.Regular Infidelity while being in a committed relationship </li> <li>12.Throwing tantrums to get what you want</li> <li>13.Boosting about self even when it is not needed</li> <li>14.Name dropping to impress others with how well you are connected </li> <li>15.Talking big about self – magnifying an insignificant accomplishments as something great </li> <li>16.Creating impression how busy you are or how important you are - People who want to seem important want to create the impression of how busy they are and how much they have to do – therefore if they give a time to meet you - They'll never be the first one to arrive there [By forcing you to wait give them a sense of power]</li> <li>17.Always be in rush – to portray how busy they are - People trying to seem important will act as if their schedule is so full that they can't really spend any time with you</li> <li>18.Surrounding yourself with yes-sir/yes-ma'am people</li> <li>19.Very Arrogant </li> <li>20.Know it all</li> <li>21.Poor listeners and Continuous-talkers</li> <li>22.Sometimes using "out-of-office" auto response on email - even if they're not away</li> <li>23.Exaggerating accomplishments on social media</li> <li>24.Behaving as if they're the smartest person in the room</li> <li>25.Blaming others – whenever anything goes wrong</li> <li>26.Fault finding in others – mainly to hide their own weaknesses and also to divert and distract from their lacunas </li> <li>27.Taking credit for other's efforts and results</li></ul><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">34 Signs to find How Insecure You are – please understand – that all these must be your driving motivation and main focus to do – everything that you do, then only it connects with your emotional-insecurities</b></p><ul><li>1.Always trying to seek other's approval and validation</li> <li>2.Have very strong urge to be accepted by the groups and people – whom you look up to</li> <li>3.Always trying to please others – at the cost of your rights, needs, wants etc. etc.</li> <li>4.Always trying to impress others - You have a compulsive need to impress others</li> <li>5.While alone and thinking - Your thoughts are mostly about others</li> <li>6.You let people take advantage of you – even though you know they are using you</li> <li>7.You don't protest or put your foot down – when people take away your rights</li> <li>8.You have a constant fear that your partner may leave you</li> <li>9.You say sorry more often – even when it is not your fault</li> <li>10.You can't say NO – to the demands of others - because you feel it might hurt them or displease them</li> <li>11.You say yes to others more often than you like – especially to those which you know are downright wrong</li> <li>12.You sulk – when others have done something bad to you and you could not even confront them</li> <li>13.Backbiting behind others and be part of the gossip groups</li> <li>14.When people don't thank you or acknowledge what you have done for them – you burn with rage </li> <li>15.You wait for the right moment to take revenge and create plans to settle scores or teach lessons – when someone did not do what you wanted or said no to you for something</li> <li>16.Feeling hurt – when you have done something for others and – they didn't even bother to acknowledge.</li> <li>17.Cursing and wishing them hell</li> <li>18.Being too consumed with what someone said [your impression and perception] – by reflecting on it for days</li> <li>19.Going out of your way to accommodate the feelings and needs of others </li> <li>20.Always seeking attention of others</li> <li>21.Willing to do anything to be in lime-light</li> <li>22.Becoming overly anxious when you perceive – others are judging you</li> <li>23.Unable to take compliments from others gracefully – instead proceeding to point out all the things that are actually wrong with you</li> <li>24.Putting yourself down around other people in a way that actually highlights your insecurities</li> <li>25.Lying about who you are and what you think, feel, or believe around others - by pretending or creating a mask of who you are</li> <li>26.Staying in toxic relationships - in spite of knowing that it is harming you</li> <li>27.Constantly comparing your life and yourself with others and other's life – [AND off-course you will find - that while others are living and having great times, yours is the worst possible]</li> <li>28.You have a constant need to be reassured by others – about – your being worthy</li> <li>29.You depend on others for your being happy and satisfied</li> <li>30.You Read Too Much into - What other people said or did – without even checking/verifying if your assumptions and perceptions are true</li> <li>31.You are Obsessed with your Personal Appearance – as per the media's ideal man or woman</li> <li>32.You have become a loner - you have very less social life besides your partner</li> <li>33.More often than not – you find yourself defending your views, justifying your actions, explaining your reasons – just to feel better with yourself</li> <li>34.Taking out your frustration and anger on weaker person</li></ul><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">18 ways our emotional-insecurity affect and impact our Life - The BIG Insecurity booby-traps</b></p><ul><li>1.You will always attract the wrong types of people in your life – who are either there to get whatever they can from you OR who are as screwed-up like yourself</li> <li>2.You are unable to have respect for yourself and may feel worthless</li> <li>3.You will depend on external superficial aids, quick-fixes and unhealthy methods - to make yourself feel temporarily better </li> <li>4.Your self-worth is attached with other people's appreciation and recognition of yours</li> <li>5.You will find your rights being neglected</li> <li>6.People will use you BUT when you need them – they will just create excuse to avoid helping you</li> <li>7.You won't be able to retain good relationships, in case you are able to find someone worthy – you will either say something or do something to scare them away</li> <li>8.You will often get ill-treated by others</li> <li>9.If your insecurities do not kill the relationship – then it would certainly cause lots of hurts, disappointments, conflicts, misunderstanding, pent-up feelings etc. etc. in others as well as yourself</li> <li>10.You will be living your life being someone else - as you thing you are not good enough so you need to become someone else</li> <li>11.Because you lack trust in yourself – you will have trust issues in your important relationships</li> <li>12.You will project your insecurities – on your close relationships – as their being bad</li> <li>13.You will constantly in state of panic of say losing job or a relationship etc.</li> <li>14.You will cry very easily – for no reasons</li> <li>15.You will also laugh too much at smallest reason – to mask your unhappiness and void</li> <li>16.When we laugh as well as cry for small reasons – it only indicates that you have unhealed wounds, hurts and sadness welled up within you – which actually needs healing immediately</li> <li>17.You will always be suspicious of others and feel that your partner/colleague are doing something behind your back and not telling you</li> <li>18.You will always be in internally agitated and sad and hurt state – although some people manage to show a very perfectly blissful picture for the world</li></ul><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">25 Internal-dialogues and self-talk of emotionally insecure people</b></p><ul><li>1.I am stupid </li> <li>2.I am not smart enough</li> <li>3.I will never be as good as them</li> <li>4.How great life they are having</li> <li>5.I am unattractive - I am fat, thin, dark</li> <li>6.I am inferior to other people or other are superior than me</li> <li>7.I am a failure - I am such a loser</li> <li>8.I never get anything right</li> <li>9.No one really loves me</li> <li>10.How can I be expected to do all these things </li> <li>11.Only I am the one who has to go through all these</li> <li>12.Why others put me under so much pressure</li> <li>13.Who cares – I can get away with this - let me put this off until tomorrow</li> <li>14.No one appreciates me</li> <li>15.No one believes in my abilities</li> <li>16.No one likes me</li> <li>17.No one understands my pain – although you have never shared it with them yet you expect them to read your mind</li> <li>18.She/he is too good for me</li> <li>19.I will give him/her all that he/she wants to prevent him/her leaving me</li> <li>20.As soon as she/he gets to know me - she/he will reject me</li> <li>21.If I am not in command and full control – they will control me</li> <li>22.It's my fault that she/he left me</li> <li>23.I should not allow others to see my weaknesses and vulnerabilities</li> <li>24.I should not have said that/done that</li> <li>25.If only I had done that or not done that</li></ul><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">43 Tips on How to deal with your insecurities – because emotional insecurities is a very-very long haul and slow-road to recovery – all the following tips given below have their own respective list of multiple-actions and on each there is my separate blog and YouTube video for each of them</b></p><ul><li>1.Getting in touch with yourself – finding the real you with all your fears*, anxieties*, negativities, failures*, regrets*, mistakes* AS WELL AS all your strengths*, victories, triumphs*, positivity's* etc. etc.</li> <li>2.Practicing to accept yourself </li> <li>3.Loving yourself unconditionally</li> <li>4.Learning how to be vulnerable to share with people who are your most trusting ones – then to gain confidence to be able to share these in forums</li> <li>5.Practicing Assertiveness in claiming your rights and saying no</li> <li>6.Understanding the triggers of your anxieties and Learning to deal with your anxieties* effectively</li> <li>7.Identifying which of your fears are holding you back and down then Learning to deal with your fears*</li> <li>8.Learning to deal with difficult people, manipulative people, arrogant people</li> <li>9.Learning to deal with Toxic People and getting them out of your life</li> <li>10.Identifying your weaknesses and Learning to turn your weaknesses into strengths*</li> <li>11.Building your confidence – by focusing on your Dreams – and taking actions towards them</li> <li>12.Committing on creating excellence</li> <li>13.Giving your 100% - in all the meaningful pursuits</li> <li>14.Use the energy of your frustrations*, irritation, anger* to build something of value</li> <li>15.Express yourself using I statements – by being fully honest with yourself</li> <li>16.Enrolling a mentor - who can help you in sharing your insecurities – with him/her</li> <li>17.Creating trust in yourself and your abilities</li> <li>18.Joining groups and creating communities for support - of people who are facing or have faced similar situations</li> <li>19.Identifying the areas your stress comes from and learning to deal with your stress* effectively</li> <li>20.Stopping to never compare yourself* with others</li> <li>21.Identifying the type of life you want to live and then taking steps to create and live this life </li> <li>22.Boosting your social*, emotional* and other 42 types of intelligence</li> <li>23.Creating a life that makes you feel great and worthy and value-based</li> <li>24.Learning how to deal with put-downs, insults and unfair treatments</li> <li>25.Focusing on self-care – through exercising, meditation, eating-healthy, rest and relaxation techniques</li> <li>26.Involving yourself in hobbies that makes you challenge yourself by stretching you beyond your current capabilities</li> <li>27.Regularly up-skilling* yourself with the current and future skills -so that you are always employable</li> <li>28.Creating financial security by generating income through multiple means*</li> <li>29.Not bothering about what you can't do – which is beyond your area of influence currently</li> <li>30.Taking actions within your area of control</li> <li>31.Challenging yourself and experts through asking tough questions</li> <li>32.Questioning and testing your assumptions and perceptions*</li> <li>33.Reframing* your beliefs in such way – so as to make you feel better about yourself</li> <li>34.Learning to be yourself all the time in every situation and with every person</li> <li>35.Finding courage to leave any relationship that pulls you down</li> <li>36.Identifying and Knowing your worth </li> <li>37.Detaching your self-pride, self-value, self-worth – from other's opinions</li> <li>38.Focusing on meaningful ends and results – like happiness, great relationships with your closest people</li> <li>39.Taking calculated risk* – to boost your situation handling capabilities</li> <li>40.Learning to solve problems creatively</li> <li>41.Accepting challenges – to boost your own belief in self</li> <li>42.Setting clear healthy boundaries with other people - Identifying what you will accept from others and what you won't and to stick with it</li> <li>43.Creating discipline and practicing to create healthy habits of mind*</li></ul><div><br></div><p> </p><p>#howtodealwithyouremotionalinsecurities, #overcomingdeeprootedemotionalinsecurities, #whatemotionallysecurepeopledon'tdo, #ouremotionalinsecuritiescreatehavocinourlifes, #howemotionalinsecuritiesdevelops, #peoplewithemotionalinsecuritiescausehurtinothers, #howtospotaninsecureperson, #areyouemotionallysecureorinsecure, #doyouseekvalidationfromothers, #doyoulivetopleaseothers, #doyouworkhardtogetacceptedbyothers, #doyougooutofyourwaytoaccomodateothers, #doyouletpeopletakeadvantageofyou, #areyougeneralyanxious, #howourinsecuritiesimpactandshapeourlives, #internaldialoguesofinsecurepeople, #loveyourselfunconditionally, #practiceassertiveness, #becomevulnerable, #challengeyourfears, #shareyourweaknesseswithothers, #acceptyourmistakesopenly, #livealifetofeelworthy, #creatediscipline, #createhealthyhabits, #createhealthypersonalboundaries, #stretchyourselfbeyondcomfortzone, #identifyandknowyourworth </p><p></p>