Dealing with insecure Bosses

Dealing with bosses who are highly insecure.

In this article - we will learn the following

-General ideas about insecure people
-51 Signs of insecure bosses
-6 Basic mindset needed - before you can prepare yourself to deal with insecure bosses
-55 Tips - How to manage and deal with insecure bosses
-10 Advantages of working with insecure bosses

Dealing with bosses who are highly insecure.

How to recognize people who are killing your self-esteem - eroding you confidence - making you feel bad about yourself - bull-dozing you and wrecking you emotionally PLUS professionally and in many-many other ways - because of their personal insecurities.

Most of us have our own insecurities.

But many people are driven and ruled by insecurities.

Insecure people are generally those who

1.Don't feel good about themselves
2.Don't respect, love and accept themselves
3.Are highly conscious of their lacunas, inadequacies, weaknesses
4.AND do anything to prevent getting their weaknesses exposed
5.Have very low self-worth/self-confidence/self-esteem

These emotionally insecure people use - all types of techniques like berating, insulting, controlling, suppressing, dominating, mocking, bullying, shouting, ridiculing, demeaning others - to cover-up their feelings.

Because they don't value themselves - they try to devalue and reducing others - instead of evolving themselves higher by inculcating qualities and acquiring confidence.

Highly insecure people are toxic people, who pull everyone around them down - They do not have any guilt or realization of - making others feel bad.

And when more and more people give-in to their tactics – many of them turn into monstrous bullies, dictators or people with very unhealthy social-disorders.

Whoever has to deal [live] with these insecure people - have miserable and hellish life.

51 Signs of insecure bosses

1.The following are the behaviors that you may notice [many of them would not be visible, as these people become experts in hiding their true feelings under the mask of superiority, power and 'don't give a damn attitude"]
I.Arrogance
II.Egoistic
III.Most of the time on short-fuse
IV.Controlling
V.Vindictive
2.Entirely unpredictable
3.Jealous and envious
4.Comparing themselves with everyone - especially with juniors with better qualifications, skills and knowledge
5.Feel threatened with their junior's qualifications, intelligences, exposures, personalities [many times if it is attractive to opposite genders] etc.
6.They micro-manage everyone and everything
7.Can't delegate
8. Don't believe in empowering others
9.Make threats on a regular basis
10.Never share information in full - operates on need to know basis
11.Have great fear of losing control over people
12.Terrified of their weaknesses getting exposed
13.Take credit - for work done by juniors
14.Blame others - even if they are responsible
15.Doesn't take personal responsibility for anything
16.Delay taking decisions as long as possible
17.Highly critical and resist change - the status-quo is their way of ensuring that they are in control
18.Try to keep control of all aspects of decision-making
19.Highly suspicious, doubtful, mistrusting
20.Very shrewd about what would make them look good
21.Cunning and scheming and highly perceptive
22.Developed sense of what is threatening their image and how to eliminate these threats
23.Use politics, gossips and divide-n-rule etc. - to retain control and power
24.Highly self-centered
25.Need constant recognition and acknowledgements of how good they are from others
26.Surround themselves with people who are incompetent yet always praise them
27.They normally don't honor their verbal agreements
28.They love meetings - to show-off and boost
29.They normally can't trust anyone
30.Finds it next to impossible to laugh at themselves - but are quick to laugh at others
31.Have regular mood swings
32.Don't put any efforts for development of others
33.Insults juniors in public
34.Emphasis on I am right & I am the boss
35.Issues project directives without asking questions of the technical experts
36.Sets deadlines without involving the team on what is most optimal schedule
37.Can't say no his/her superior's unreasonable demands
38.Would rarely acknowledge other's contributions and never show their gratitude UNLESS they need them badly
39.Can't give clear directions
40.Never provides positive feedback
41.May make you wait for the meeting - where they have called you OR may not even come for meeting
42.Seems too busy - when you want to meet them - so won't listen to you ONLY pretend to listen to you
43.They will never explains their decisions
44.Many of them use the sentence - Just do what I say
45.They try to avoid issues that may result in confrontation
46.They will never seek clarifications when they don't understand or ask questions when they don't know the answer - as they don't want to be seem ill-knowledgeable
47.They may not be respectful of other's feelings
48.They may show signs of nervousness - when they find themselves in unchartered territory
49.They flip-flops - after saying something
50.They are great manipulators
51.Some of them have sadistic pleasure tendencies and feel happy to make others feel upset, pressurized and shaken

How to survive with insecure bosses - First Develop these 6 Basic understanding

1.You need to fine-tune yourself - them as per your boss's personality - because even if you have had the bad luck to work under more than one insecure boss - each of them will have their unique-nuisance-qualities
2.Understand their ill-treating you - is not about you - it is them
3.Recognize that your boss's distrust doesn't reflect on your capabilities
4.But it is all the more reason - you need to learn how to manage them - to be peaceful and successful
5.Understand that if your insecure boss - hates or jealous of you - it's probably because you are good
6.Understand that insecure bosses are not just insecure bosses - they are also insecure human-being.

55 Tips - How to manage and deal with insecure bosses

1.Identify your boss's insecurity triggers – because if it gets triggered, you are due for solid amount of hell
2.Identify when and in which situations - their insecurities take hold on them
3.Identify how they react and what they do - whenever their insecurities gets triggered
4.Now identify - what you do - when your boss use their controlling-dominating technique
I.Do you react with anger
II.Do you show your tantrum
III.Do you sulk
IV.Do you get into argument
V.Or any other negative impulsive reaction
5.Now analyze - if your reactions - help you manage your boss better OR if your relationship with him is becoming strain
6.Now - identify - in which situation - your boss shows happiness and admiration with you [if at all - it happens with you]
7.Explore in how many ways you can deal with your boss in better and effective ways in future - when your boss's insecurity gets triggered
8.Few techniques are given below – tweak and customize - it as your situation AND boss's personality type AND your comfort level - to preventing and minimizing the triggers getting pressed unintentionally and unconsciously AND managing your Boss
9.Find ways to let this person feel that they are in control - when they are interacting with you - without killing your own self-identity
10.Never-never-never try to grab the limelight -when these people are around - The real decision-makers - will always know - who is the real worker[that is you] - in the long run
11.Try to give this person - credit for accomplishments and wins - irrespective of how much they contributed or deserve
12.Identify and connect with other powerful people, who can help you get transferred to other projects, jobs, organizations, places - in case it becomes difficult to handle your boss for longer periods - Because you would start losing your own self-identity and would yourself need therapy
13.Ensure that you are always dependable
14.Ensure that your work is always - excellent
15.Build and nurture relationships with key stakeholders, decision-makers and powerful people
16.Learn the art of diplomacy - so that even if you are interacting with these other centers of power – ensure that your boss feels that - whatever you are doing promotes their interests AND does not feel threatened by your relationships
17.Make yourself indispensable to the organization
18.Make your insecure seniors shine - in front of their superiors
19.If you can let your EGO take backseat - try to deflect some of your success to your boss - if you are getting limelight
20.Always praise your bosses - behind their back – they have wonderful grape-wine and channels of people - who will report back to them
21.Ensure that your insecure boss feels that they better off with you than without you
22.Working for an insecure leader is almost as bad as it can gets - because you will have to continually put efforts to keep your own self-esteem intact - in the face of regular undermining attempts
23.Make your boss feel included and involve
24.Become the person your manager trusts - you can then help make decisions quickly
25.Empathize with your boss - look at the big picture from your boss's perspective - [many pressures on them – such as year-end goals or unfinished projects — might be the cause of the boss's anxiety]
26.Share as much information as possible
27.Appreciate the positives and strengths of your boss
28.Never ever tell your boss - how nicely you can stand-in for them in their absence [or handled better]
29.Seek your boss's guidance and suggestions
30.Never question his authority
31.Never challenge or criticize the boss in the presence of others
32.Never share your career plans with them
33.Never share your large accomplishments - like that of newer course that you are attending or the speech you would be making in your professional network for international audience[in fact never let them feel that you have talents at least yourself]
34.Never try to bypass them
35.Never even joke about how you would love to sit in their position and chair
36.Be transparent in your communications and dealings
37.Understand why they are insecure [is your boss/superior - stepping into a new role, has there been a big change in higher-management top-leadership, are you highly competent and quite successful]
38.Treat them like your boss - Don't be their best friend, never try to get them into your social and professional media network
39.Having said all the above - all the above points are just the tactics to survive an insecure boss – it should never define who you are.
40.Don't become a pushover or doormat – practice and learn to be assertive*
41.Learn how to deal with difficult people*
42.Always remain professional*
43.Keep your personal life personal
44.You need to find ways, methods and people – to vent your frustrations, angers and disappointments effectively and regularly
45.Stay away from office gossip and people with negative attitudes in the workplace
46.Seek support from loved ones outside of work
47.Make sure that you are making plenty of time for self-care
48.Get out this organization - in case it becomes very suffocating
49.Learn to love yourself unconditionally*
50.Understand different types of bosses and handling them effectively*
51.Learn How to develop self-confidence*
52.Learn How handle stress* & overcome burnout*
53.Learn How to focus on your self-development*
54.Learn How to create opportunities*
55.Learn How to go start a business* and be an entrepreneur

All these * marked ones have DIY tips in the blog section - Success Unlimited Mantra

10 Advantages of working with insecure bosses

1.Knowing what not to do when you become a boss
2.Learning diplomacy* and tact
3.Using this skill to understand, identify and
4.Ability to deal with unwarranted criticism
5.Patience*
6.Working for the creating excellence* and not appreciation
7.Working under pressure*
8.Learning the skills of handling emotional disturbances
9.Stress handling*
10.Overcoming burnout

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