<p><b data-redactor-tag="b">All of us have numerous significant relationships in our life</b> – in all the different areas of our lives [Personal, family, professional, business, social etc] .</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Our degree of stress and quality of life and level of happiness and success</b> –<b data-redactor-tag="b">comes from having great relationships with all the people in our lives, who have the power to affect these</b> [ of impacting and/or shattering whatever we want and desire in life]. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Y(Our) life depends on it – literally</b>. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Our success, happiness, mental and emotional health and well-being – hangs on</b> – how well we manage, nurture and qualitatively improve these critical relationships.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Having made many-many uncountable major mistakes in my parental, marital, business, professional, social relationships</b> – I have identified the following relationship breakers.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Many of these behaviors, actions, attitudes and emotional-n-mental-get-up</b> – are those we practice sub-consciously.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Some of these are definitely applicable only in the romantic/marital relationships</b> – but – majorly most of them are applicable to all the relationships – that we may have. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Again - when I say relationship these are only with those major stakeholder of your life</b> – who can make or break you emotion, physically and maybe financially and otherwise too.</p><p>As a Professional Counselor - <b data-redactor-tag="b">I find couples who come for therapy with their relationship dying a slowly and painfully</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">This article is only meant for self-corrections and not prove how wrong the others are and to identify the ways you may be hindering communication with others</b> - without realizing it.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">All the points are self-explanatory – but – those with *mark throughout this article MEANS that there is a detailed Do-it-Yourself Blog</b> [like all my other article in the DIY Blog section – from the Heart of Subhashis in Success Unlimited Mantra].</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">What you need to do is – introspect either Self or can take support and help of an emotionally balanced objective person</b> => to help you realize what and where in YOUR CRUCIAL RELATIONSHIP [which is not working] – you are using these behaviors.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Although you may use this information to identify a dysfunctional relationship</b> – please seek help of a professional – for solutions.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">35 Causes why our relationships become BIG PAIN in you know where all</b></p> <ul><li>1.Denial and Acceptance of your own role in the situation</li> <li>2.Refusal to admit your own fault</li> <li>3.Deflecting complaints back to the other person</li> <li>4.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Gaslighting</b> – this phrase is although used in connection with Narcissist – this is something that someone does or say[as well as doesn't do or doesn't say] – which makes you angry . Gaslighting is more complex than simply denying or lying (those are two foundational points, though) </li> <li>5.Stonewalling intentionally refusing to give indication of listening or giving feedback what another person saying</li> <li>6.You dismiss their concerns </li> <li>7.Showing Disinterest in Their Ideas</li> <li>8.Pointless Criticism* – for hurting someone OR to just vent our frustrations OR To boost our ego</li> <li>9.Incessant Complaining*</li> <li>10.Bribing to get something at the cost of other's rightful needs</li> <li>11.Not offering help when others need it</li> <li>12.Being indifferent to other person</li> <li>13.Accusations</li> <li>14.Blaming</li> <li>15.Faultfinding</li> <li>16.Using negative labels to attack character </li> <li>17.Just walking-out – when someone important is trying to express, complain, share etc</li> <li>18.Contempt </li> <li>19.Lack of respect </li> <li>20. Attitude of looking down at others</li> <li>21.Name-calling</li> <li>22. Put-downs</li> <li>23. Sarcasm</li> <li>24. Cynicism</li> <li>25. Swearing </li> <li>26. Rolling of the eyes</li> <li>27.Mockery </li> <li>28. Hostile humor</li> <li>29. Disgust </li> <li>30. Provocation </li> <li>31.Threatening</li> <li>32. Using silence to control</li> <li>33. Ignoring other's needs, wants and desires</li> <li>34. Using your power to suppress others feelings</li> <li>35. Disregarding other's feelings</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">76 ways on How the marriages dis-integrate – MANY POINTS HERE too are applicable in other types of relationship</b> - read in <a href="http://relationshipandhappiness.com/how-marriages-disintegrates.html">http://relationshipandhappiness.com/how-marriages-disintegrates.html</a> </p>