<p>How to avoid EGO clashes in life</p><p><span><br></span></p><p><span>In this article you will learn the following</span><br></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">33 ways to deal with people with Big-EGOs</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-45 tips How to manage your own EGO in healthy way</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Persons with big EGOs - are very-very emotionally insecure people</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">To cover their insecurities and their need for admiration, appreciation and recognition</b> - they generally <b data-redactor-tag="b">create a façade of superiority by being arrogant AssHoles.</b></p><p>These people use <b data-redactor-tag="b">all types of manipulative tactics including dirty-politics and below-the-belt techniques</b> - to get their ways.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">They blame others not only when things go wrong but for even for their own failures</b> - they generally put their own needs first and can be without any empathy and consideration.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Some people who have become highly Successful through intense struggle might develop EGO and may have difficulties acknowledging other people's ideas and opinions</b> - these people get their EGOs from over-confidence because of their great accomplishments all through their own efforts.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Chances of your working under an insecure boss with huge overinflated-EGO - at least once in your working life is 100% guaranteed.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">You may have a more painful experience if you happen to be smarter, more qualified and have qualities that establishes you as superior</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">If you happen to be insecure and your BOSS has big EGO - then your sufferings can be immeasurable</b> - as your boss can use his/her power to dominate and suppress you in multiple ways every day. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">And if your boss happens to be a narcissist of unhealthy type - then your woes will be manifold</b> and you will be utterly miserable until you are able to find different alternative.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">But if you use your experience with a bloated-Ego boss - to make yourself more resilient, more assertive and become a person who can managing his/her emotions effectively</b> - it would help you in life in big-ways and big-time.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">If you want to deal with others EGO effectively - you also need to learn to manage your own Ego - EGO-clash happens when both parties have bloated-EGO.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">If you are emotionally-secure and fully comfortable with who you are - you would be able to not only deal with this type bosses and colleagues</b> - without stress but may also make him/her your fan.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">The trick is to create a personality - which does not get upset, disturbed</b> or becomes insecured by what others do or say. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">You can do this by creating a right mindset - which makes you view</b> other's insecurities objectively and in disassociate mental state - <b data-redactor-tag="b">without taking it personally.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">All of us judge others most of the time - sometimes consciously and in other times subconsciously</b> - but going by my own experience <b data-redactor-tag="b">I can tell you I was always 100% wrong - when I judged without verifying and corroborating my pre-conceived notions.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">33 ways to deal with people with big-EGOs</b></p> <ul><li>1.I have written articles on how to deal with Toxic, insecure, egoist, manipulative, arrogant, difficult and narcissistic people - you can read my 900+ blogs in my both websites as well 2000+ answers on Quora on the related topics - additionally all the one sentence tips given below have detailed in do-it-yourself format.</li> <li>2.Learn, practice and master assertiveness in every aspect of your life</li> <li>3.Create, Set and maintain your emotional personal Boundaries - you can - you can say - I know you are feeling upset but I need you to respect my boundaries</li> <li>4.Learn to be in dis-associative emotional mental state - tell them firmly and politely that -I won't allow you to treat me with disrespect</li> <li>5.Ignore, Avoid and walk-away from drama and tantrums - if you can</li> <li>6.It is not easy to ignore their sarcasm, anger, hostility and their verbal attack - but the only way is to remain aloof to their drama</li> <li>7.Learn and practice - not to take personally - what others say and do</li> <li>8.Always take a pause before you respond to them - you need to master stopping to react impulsively as per your EGO</li> <li>9.Be straightforward and direct - highlight the Facts and focus on the core issues only </li> <li>10.Never try to bat them in their ground using their techniques - they will beat you hands-down as they are masters in their territories</li> <li>11.Practice Humbleness - you too learn to manage your own EGO - by becoming aware when it is making you react</li> <li>12.Tell them - I am responsible for my own words and action - and that you would appreciate that they do too</li> <li>13.Move on - tell them that you have heard and understood their point of view - now you need to move on </li> <li>14.If you can - learn to distract and divert the focus on something that is seemingly more important</li> <li>15.You can also acknowledge their qualities and accomplishments by sandwiching it with what they need to see </li> <li>16.Repeat and paraphrase their words back to them to avoid getting stuck in a conversation with them for long</li> <li>17.Never use words - which makes you look unsure of yourself - this they will pick up and up their attack</li> <li>18.Never get into argument with people with EGO - especially when you know what you are talking about </li> <li>19.If to stop their bulldozing you - you need to be little rude and abrupt - please use that as a technique with them - in case it works</li> <li>20.Stop trying to make sense of their behavior - and also stop making them see the irrationality of their actions - they will never do that instead this will make them increase their attack </li> <li>21.If you know you are going to have conversation with a person with big-EGO - get rid of all your expectations - instead work on how they will respond to you and how you can deal with their irrationalities</li> <li>22.Never gossip about them - then you are only increasing their hold on you more powerfully</li> <li>23.If you don't have an obligation to put up with them - walk away or cut them off</li> <li>24.Learn to protect your time and your energy by minimizing the time you spend with this person</li> <li>25.Give them a little less space in your mind - by overanalyzing and overthinking about them</li> <li>26.Learn to maintain your calm and composure</li> <li>27.Learn how to handle arrogant, toxic and difficult people<br> all the time make self-care part of your daily ritual and routine</li> <li>28.Find ways to softens their EGO rather than boosting it further - by identifying and acknowledging their positive qualities sincerely</li> <li>29.Learn to be yourself and learn to love and accept yourself completely</li> <li>30.In your place of work - find healthy ways to involve senior Leadership and Upper-Management</li> <li>31.Align and Make Alliances - Use Support from Your Colleagues</li> <li>32.However distasteful it may sound - make attempt to get to know them personally</li> <li>33.Understand their insecurities and find ways to support them</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">45 tips How to manage your own EGO in healthy way</b></p> <ul><li>1.Even if you are an expert - never ever believe that you know everything - simply because you don't</li> <li>2.Develop and mindset of a learner - Become a lifelong learner - learn from every one and from every occasion</li> <li>3.Make your hands dirty by doing everything yourself</li> <li>4.Never think that you are better than others - because they have some qualities and you have your strengths - cannot be compared</li> <li>5.Stop being jealous - instead work on your goals</li> <li>6.Stop using show-off to impress</li> <li>7.Stop trying to impress others - rather start expressing yourself</li> <li>8.Learn about yourself - your triggers, your lacunas, your weaknesses, your weak spots and your faults, your mistakes, your limitations</li> <li>9.Also know your strengths</li> <li>10.Stop giving-in to flattery </li> <li>11.Learn to accept praise in right manner</li> <li>12.Learn to recognize other's good qualities and </li> <li>13.Take responsibility for your actions and decisions - stop blaming and complaining</li> <li>14.Learn to negotiate - instead of whining later when you don't get a good deal</li> <li>15.Create a beginner's mindset - in those areas that you feel that you know a lot</li> <li>16.Start focusing on actions and course corrections - not on results and outcomes</li> <li>17.Let you result talk and convince others than your hollow words</li> <li>18.Learn to accept your mistakes and apologize and make up if can</li> <li>19.If you are very-very successful - practice humbleness - like Dr. Adbul Kalam</li> <li>20.Learn to manage your emotions effectively</li> <li>21.Understand your priorities - learn to say No to everything that is not important</li> <li>22.Focus on high-pay off activities and goals - eliminate, delegate simplify all that which are low pay off</li> <li>23.Stop focusing on getting name, fame and recognition - instead work on to create something meaningful</li> <li>24.Learn to enjoy your life meaningfully - while creating a collage of happy memories</li> <li>25.Stop being passive and waiting for something to happen just take actions towards your goals</li> <li>26.Let go of your need to control everyone and everything </li> <li>27.Stop trying to micromanage - empower others to take actions</li> <li>28.Help others become better than you - in the process you will grow exponentially</li> <li>29.Accept when you are unable to do it all by yourself - seek help from others</li> <li>30.Be vulnerable - there is a courage in knowing and acknowledging your weaknesses</li> <li>31.Stop fighting when things are beyond your control</li> <li>32.Do only what is within</li> <li>33.Operate from hope love faith - instead of letting fear hate and doubt destroy your</li> <li>34.Always give your 100% and focus on excellence</li> <li>35.Focus on a higher purpose - ignore other people's effort to make you look smaller</li> <li>36.Encourage those who feel ignored</li> <li>37.Stand Up for Yourself, your values and others who cannot defend themselves</li> <li>38.Face the conflict and Address it immediately -Discuss the Problem Face-To-Face -Find Common Ground - have An Open Mind And Listen - don't let disagreements lose your own self-control</li> <li>39.Know When You Need To Involve a Third Party</li> <li>40.Listen carefully -understand first - Don't jump into the conversation too quickly - Learn From both The Conflict and the Resolution</li> <li>41.Start the meeting on a positive note </li> <li>42.Be a good observer</li> <li>43.Never try to educate your boss - Work with them, not against them</li> <li>44.Kill your desire to be right, every time</li> <li>45.Stop playing the victim</li></ul><div>#manageyouregoinhealthyways, #dealingwithpeoplewithbigego, #bigego, #hugeego, #insecureperson, #emotionallyinsecure, #egoclash, #personalityclashes, #handlingbosseswithmassiveego, #insecurebosses, #egocomesfromemotionalinsecurity<span class="redactor-invisible-space"></span><br></div>