70 intelligent ways to deal with people with Big-EGOs

How to avoid EGO clashes in life

In this article you will learn the following

-33 ways to deal with people with Big-EGOs

-45 tips How to manage your own EGO in healthy way

Persons with big EGOs - are very-very emotionally insecure people.

To cover their insecurities and their need for admiration, appreciation and recognition - they generally create a façade of superiority by being arrogant AssHoles.

These people use all types of manipulative tactics including dirty-politics and below-the-belt techniques - to get their ways.

They blame others not only when things go wrong but for even for their own failures - they generally put their own needs first and can be without any empathy and consideration.

Some people who have become highly Successful through intense struggle might develop EGO and may have difficulties acknowledging other people's ideas and opinions - these people get their EGOs from over-confidence because of their great accomplishments all through their own efforts.

Chances of your working under an insecure boss with huge overinflated-EGO - at least once in your working life is 100% guaranteed.

You may have a more painful experience if you happen to be smarter, more qualified and have qualities that establishes you as superior.

If you happen to be insecure and your BOSS has big EGO - then your sufferings can be immeasurable - as your boss can use his/her power to dominate and suppress you in multiple ways every day.

And if your boss happens to be a narcissist of unhealthy type - then your woes will be manifold and you will be utterly miserable until you are able to find different alternative.

But if you use your experience with a bloated-Ego boss - to make yourself more resilient, more assertive and become a person who can managing his/her emotions effectively - it would help you in life in big-ways and big-time.

If you want to deal with others EGO effectively - you also need to learn to manage your own Ego - EGO-clash happens when both parties have bloated-EGO.

If you are emotionally-secure and fully comfortable with who you are - you would be able to not only deal with this type bosses and colleagues - without stress but may also make him/her your fan.

The trick is to create a personality - which does not get upset, disturbed or becomes insecured by what others do or say.

You can do this by creating a right mindset - which makes you view other's insecurities objectively and in disassociate mental state - without taking it personally.

All of us judge others most of the time - sometimes consciously and in other times subconsciously - but going by my own experience I can tell you I was always 100% wrong - when I judged without verifying and corroborating my pre-conceived notions.

33 ways to deal with people with big-EGOs

• 1.I have written articles on how to deal with Toxic, insecure, egoist, manipulative, arrogant, difficult and narcissistic people - you can read my 900+ blogs in my both websites as well 2000+ answers on Quora on the related topics - additionally all the one sentence tips given below have detailed in do-it-yourself format.
• 2.Learn, practice and master assertiveness in every aspect of your life
• 3.Create, Set and maintain your emotional personal Boundaries - you can - you can say - I know you are feeling upset but I need you to respect my boundaries
• 4.Learn to be in dis-associative emotional mental state - tell them firmly and politely that -I won't allow you to treat me with disrespect
• 5.Ignore, Avoid and walk-away from drama and tantrums - if you can
• 6.It is not easy to ignore their sarcasm, anger, hostility and their verbal attack - but the only way is to remain aloof to their drama
• 7.Learn and practice - not to take personally - what others say and do
• 8.Always take a pause before you respond to them - you need to master stopping to react impulsively as per your EGO
• 9.Be straightforward and direct - highlight the Facts and focus on the core issues only
• 10.Never try to bat them in their ground using their techniques - they will beat you hands-down as they are masters in their territories
• 11.Practice Humbleness - you too learn to manage your own EGO - by becoming aware when it is making you react
• 12.Tell them - I am responsible for my own words and action - and that you would appreciate that they do too
• 13.Move on - tell them that you have heard and understood their point of view - now you need to move on
• 14.If you can - learn to distract and divert the focus on something that is seemingly more important
• 15.You can also acknowledge their qualities and accomplishments by sandwiching it with what they need to see
• 16.Repeat and paraphrase their words back to them to avoid getting stuck in a conversation with them for long
• 17.Never use words - which makes you look unsure of yourself - this they will pick up and up their attack
• 18.Never get into argument with people with EGO - especially when you know what you are talking about
• 19.If to stop their bulldozing you - you need to be little rude and abrupt - please use that as a technique with them - in case it works
• 20.Stop trying to make sense of their behavior - and also stop making them see the irrationality of their actions - they will never do that instead this will make them increase their attack
• 21.If you know you are going to have conversation with a person with big-EGO - get rid of all your expectations - instead work on how they will respond to you and how you can deal with their irrationalities
• 22.Never gossip about them - then you are only increasing their hold on you more powerfully
• 23.If you don't have an obligation to put up with them - walk away or cut them off
• 24.Learn to protect your time and your energy by minimizing the time you spend with this person
• 25.Give them a little less space in your mind - by overanalyzing and overthinking about them
• 26.Learn to maintain your calm and composure
• 27.Learn how to handle arrogant, toxic and difficult people
  all the time make self-care part of your daily ritual and routine
• 28.Find ways to softens their EGO rather than boosting it further - by identifying and acknowledging their positive qualities sincerely
• 29.Learn to be yourself and learn to love and accept yourself completely
• 30.In your place of work - find healthy ways to involve senior Leadership and Upper-Management
• 31.Align and Make Alliances - Use Support from Your Colleagues
• 32.However distasteful it may sound - make attempt to get to know them personally
• 33.Understand their insecurities and find ways to support them

45 tips How to manage your own EGO in healthy way

• 1.Even if you are an expert - never ever believe that you know everything - simply because you don't
• 2.Develop and mindset of a learner - Become a lifelong learner - learn from every one and from every occasion
• 3.Make your hands dirty by doing everything yourself
• 4.Never think that you are better than others - because they have some qualities and you have your strengths - cannot be compared
• 5.Stop being jealous - instead work on your goals
• 6.Stop using show-off to impress
• 7.Stop trying to impress others - rather start expressing yourself
• 8.Learn about yourself - your triggers, your lacunas, your weaknesses, your weak spots and your faults, your mistakes, your limitations
• 9.Also know your strengths
• 10.Stop giving-in to flattery
• 11.Learn to accept praise in right manner
• 12.Learn to recognize other's good qualities and
• 13.Take responsibility for your actions and decisions - stop blaming and complaining
• 14.Learn to negotiate - instead of whining later when you don't get a good deal
• 15.Create a beginner's mindset - in those areas that you feel that you know a lot
• 16.Start focusing on actions and course corrections - not on results and outcomes
• 17.Let you result talk and convince others than your hollow words
• 18.Learn to accept your mistakes and apologize and make up if can
• 19.If you are very-very successful - practice humbleness - like Dr. Adbul Kalam
• 20.Learn to manage your emotions effectively
• 21.Understand your priorities - learn to say No to everything that is not important
• 22.Focus on high-pay off activities and goals - eliminate, delegate simplify all that which are low pay off
• 23.Stop focusing on getting name, fame and recognition - instead work on to create something meaningful
• 24.Learn to enjoy your life meaningfully - while creating a collage of happy memories
• 25.Stop being passive and waiting for something to happen just take actions towards your goals
• 26.Let go of your need to control everyone and everything
• 27.Stop trying to micromanage - empower others to take actions
• 28.Help others become better than you - in the process you will grow exponentially
• 29.Accept when you are unable to do it all by yourself - seek help from others
• 30.Be vulnerable - there is a courage in knowing and acknowledging your weaknesses
• 31.Stop fighting when things are beyond your control
• 32.Do only what is within
• 33.Operate from hope love faith - instead of letting fear hate and doubt destroy your
• 34.Always give your 100% and focus on excellence
• 35.Focus on a higher purpose - ignore other people's effort to make you look smaller
• 36.Encourage those who feel ignored
• 37.Stand Up for Yourself, your values and others who cannot defend themselves
• 38.Face the conflict and Address it immediately -Discuss the Problem Face-To-Face -Find Common Ground - have An Open Mind And Listen - don't let disagreements lose your own self-control
• 39.Know When You Need To Involve a Third Party
• 40.Listen carefully -understand first - Don't jump into the conversation too quickly - Learn From both The Conflict and the Resolution
• 41.Start the meeting on a positive note
• 42.Be a good observer
• 43.Never try to educate your boss - Work with them, not against them
• 44.Kill your desire to be right, every time
• 45.Stop playing the victim