60 tips how to assertively Push back when you are getting pushed

In this article you will learn the following

-60 techniques to look sophisticated, being in complete control- when you are pushing-back and saying NO

-10 situations in work - in which you need to push back and say NO

-7 strategies I use - When I am pushed [these are not effective 100% of time but since I have started using these I get less upset when others are pushing me]

-20 tips how to push back when life is pushing you down

Stop being a pushover - push back when you get pushed against wall.

Acquiring and mastering the abilities to push-back - in the workplace as well as in other areas of your life - is not only an important leadership skill but also one of the most essential life-skills.

Developing the habit of pushing back in right manner would not only help you maintain your sanity but also create your image as a more competent, knowledgeable, in-control and balanced person besides making you become more skilled.

When, where, who, why and how you push-back when pressurized and pushed against the wall - starts from understanding your limitations, your most important objectives and your priorities.

Ask yourself - when you are pushed - what do you do - do you bring a drama element in your excuses - or do you take a firm stand and say NO assertively - or you just give-in and later blame yourself for taking all that sh*t.

At times - You also need to push back against yourself - when your self-esteem is based too heavily on what others think of you.

Please read my 10+ articles including Mastering the art of assertiveness in Success Unlimited Mantra Blog section in addition to this article.

10 situations in work - in which you need to push back and say NO

• 1.When you don't have the resources
• 2.When the timeline is unrealistic and highly unreasonable
• 3.When you feel the request is unethical
• 4.When your safety is getting compromised
• 5.When you find yourself putting your health and well-being on jeopardy
• 6.When an impossible 100% perfection is demanded
• 7.When you are asked why you need personal time off
• 8.When you are supposed to be available round the clock at all hours
• 9.When your boss assigns you something that definitely isn't your job
• 10.When you keep on getting piled up with work although you are working horrible hours already

60+ techniques to look sophisticated, being in complete control- when you are pushing-back and saying NO

• 1.Before you challenge anyone by pushing them back - ensure you have already
• I.Create and establish your value - by displaying - your capacity of delivering result
• II.Your creating excellence
• III.Your attitude
• IV.Your dependability
• V.Your commitment
• VI.Your value-addition to team as well the organization
• VII.Building rapport and good relationship with all stakeholders
• VIII.Created the image of being a problem-solver
• 2. Always focus on the issue - demonstrate that you understand the issue from theirs as well as multiple angles and why what you are suggesting is superior using solid data and evidence
• 3.Ensure that the words you use during pushback - does not make them look foolish and press their triggers to up their defenses -
• 4.Make your push-back sound non-threatening to them - assume that they have bloated EGO
• 5.Never attack their personality - use I sentences instead of YOU sentences
• 6.Let go of your own EGO
• 7.Never make your sentences come out like you are attacking their position and challenging their superiority and authority
• 8.Keep everything - evidence-based, issue-based and specific-solution based
• 9.Best thing you can do - before you push-back - is to be thoroughly prepared by anticipating their objections and insecurities and fears - in case you want to propose something new [as many people equal - new or unfamiliar to being dangerous]
• 10.Develop a holistic view - understand the big picture
• 11.Understand the culture and background of the person
• 12.Also understand the - consequences of your pushing back - are these are something you can't deal with - THEN PLEASE don't even think of pushing-back - till you get the capabilities to deal with resulting eventualities
• 13.Ensure that you respect the chain of command - and you are not working behind your senior's back
• 14.Explore the number of different approaches to push-back - because if you chose the wrong approach - you may create unnecessary friction and damages to yourself
• 15.Learn to ask questions to understand the situation and why you are saying NO
• 16.Identify in how many different ways your push-back message can be interpreted - create clarifying statements
• 17.Also ensure that you - yourself are interpreting their request correctly
• 18.Paraphrase their request in front of them so that - they may themselves tone it down if the request sounds unreasonable
• 19.Become a great listener - listen to understand
• 20.Before you say no - create few alternatives which would create better outcomes and actually help the person better when you refuse their original request
• 21.Choose your battles - you don't need to push back on everything that doesn't meet hundred percent your approval
• 22.Avoid any battle just to satisfy your EGO
• 23.Work on your self-brand and image through building a healthy social reputation with the others - be known as helpful, respectful, articulate, sophisticated and elegant person
• 24.Always help others when it does not require significant effort for you YET it is very helpful to them
• 25.Know, establish and maintain healthy emotional-physical boundaries
• 26.Create a mindset of being consistent and persistent - when and how you push others back
• 27.Always ensure that you are seen as a team player who is easy to work with and who cares about others - when you are pushing-back - you are only demanding the same care in return
• 28.Don't make a big deal of - when you were able to push someone successfully - keep doing your job in better and better ways and communicating with the person you refused a request as if nothing happened
• 29.Practice being transparent and authentic and of a person with solid integrity
• 30.Take small but powerful steps - to start the practice of assertiveness
• 31.When someone attacks you - ask clarifying open-ended questions to - to make those bully you - distracted
• 32.Learn not to react - by hitting them with blows below their belt
• 33.Learn to remain calm and assertive - and never allow them to browbeat you
• 34.Figure out what's really bothering you - clarify first - before you pushback
• 35.Practice Practice Practice and then Practice some more of all the techniques given here
• 36.Learn to give-way in certain situations for certain issues to get your way - by outlining that you are willing to entertain an alternative view to facilitate solving the problem
• 37.Offer information that may be of value - acknowledge their arguments and appreciate their position
• 38.Be clear - do you want to win or solve the problem - both are not same all the time
• 39.Understand your story and their story- educate, don't sell, blame, or accuse -communicate your hopes and goals -stay interested - understand that there are no guarantees that you would get your point across - however you can always remain respectful, interested, and purposeful and set limits and expectations
• 40.Stop using accusatory, attacking and opposing language - Lead your stance with positive recommendations and alternatives
• 41.Work on creating their buy-in - build bridges by identifying common goals - focus your discussions around how we can accomplish
• 42.Don't yell, don't shout -make sure you explain the reasons WHY you are refusing their requests
• 43.Keep your high standards high and raise the bar yourself
• 44.Understandthe culture and the code of conduct in your workplace determines how you handle disagreement
• 45.Before you speak - compose a thoughtful response - it is not always easy, but effective pushback strategies are essential for productive communication and growth.
• 46.Work-on and develop your emotional as well as social intelligence
• 47.Involve and encourage participation
• 48.Document processes and procedures meticulously
• 49.Accept that sometimes you might need to enforce change
• 50.Also identify what mindset-habits-attitudes - you need to change in yourself
• 51.Demonstrate to the person that you understand their perspective
• 52.Hold firm or compromise, but do not let your ego make decisions
• 53.Be firm with your strategic direction - address the social aspects of the change - identify any existing trust issues and be transparent-communicate the logic for the change
• 54.Develop a plan for those who will be negatively affected
• 55.Practice and learn to be effective conflict handling and conflict-resolution
• 56.Always show respect - resist the temptation to belittle the opinions of others
• 57.Be honorable and respectable - be a person of your word -think in terms of possibilities and solutions be constructive be a positive thinker

7 strategies I use - When I am pushed [these are not effective 100% of time but since I have started using these I get less upset when others are pushing me]

• 1.I just smile and ignore without responding - in case it is one time interaction and has no negative consequence [like making me feel guilty, angry, embarrassed or filling me with any such negative emotions] of avoiding
• 2.I try to find if what they are saying has got any merit and try to find what I can improve to prevent similar situation in future- this I use in those situations where I respect and admire the person doing the pushback - because of their qualities, knowledge and skills
• 3.I accept them without reacting [internally I am laughing as I know what tactics they use] - because of their insecurities and EGO they are trying to make me feel inadequate through their antics
• 4.I walk away after giving my perspective in a polite respectful manner - in case it is important because it is dealing with my values
• 5.Most of the time I pushback using humor by taking one aspect of discussion and laugh out loud - using a satirical comment which can be interpreted in both intelligent-humor as well as soft hit-back - this I use when someone is arguing on a topic they have very shallow knowledge
• 6.I pushback with whatever may take - when it a question of my or my loved one's safety and basic respect and dignity
• 7.I also react aggressively - in case I am being pushed and my tactics are not having an impact and someone is crossing my boundaries without any regards to the respect I am giving them [ I use this tactic only when I need to deal with them on regular basis and they are jealous of my capabilities and these insecurities of theirs is making them bulldozing me to create win for themselves]

20 tips how to push back when life is pushing you down

• 1.In life we all face phases and situations - when life feels overwhelming - e.g., financially you are in a very tight spot, your kids or a loved member is seriously ill, in workplace your job is demanding, your boss is a toxic person or you are having relationships that are putting you in resourceful mental-emotional state etc.
• 2.Each one of us eventually are able to get through tough and challenging phases and deal with our stress - in our own individual ways.
• 3.The tactics, methods, tools and resources we use - vary person to person.
• 4.Many people may use quick-fixes and unhealthy, self-sabotaging and self-sabotaging ways - which create more problem in life.
• 5.Being aware of and developing the healthy coping strategies are key to making your life meaningful, resourceful and blissful.
• 6.When you are focused on temporary relief and start using - unhealthy recourses - like alcohol/drug, denial, denial, avoiding facing the truth or you may become workaholic or too much physical exercises- in long run you will reach a stage where it would be difficult to amend and correct yourself.
• 7.Please understand that - it will take some time to become aware of your personality, your triggers, your current un-resourceful coping mechanisms and then discovering which healthy methods you can make part of your daily routine and which ones you can use when pushed too far by whatever works for you
• 8.Please understand that - reading about techniques will give you the idea - but you must experiment till you find what works for you - suppose you are an introvert and you read that having a get together with lots of people will help you get out of your negative state - it won't - instead you may try reading an engaging book or playing a musical instrument
• 9.Ask yourself what is causing you to feel stressful - and what has to happen when you will start living life in a peaceful way
• 10.Develop your unique healthy stress management techniques - you can use the broad theme and all the areas then identify which is the one for you
• I.Leisurely enjoying enjoy a morning cup of coffee - early morning when no one is awake and everything is quite
• II.Enjoying nature - by go for a hike, ride your bike or spend time gardening
• III.Meditating the right way - which suits you
• IV.Playing music softly
• V.Exercising and going walk
• VI.Eating healthy breakfast, snacks and munchies
• VII.Cooking an exotic dish
• VIII.Tending your garden or plants
• IX.Sleeping well - by developing right sleeping habits and rituals
• X.Watch suspense or the type of comedies which makes you laugh naturally
• XI.Spend time with a close friend doing what make you feel good
• XII.Focusing on future action planning and exploring solutions for a big dream of yours