<p><span>In this article you will learn the following</span><br></p><p>21 Tips How to stop taking it Personally when you don't Get Invited</p><p>15 Tips How to respond when you are left out of important meetings</p><p>32 Tips on How to deal with feelings of not being invited</p><p>How to be ok with not being invited included considered & recognized</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">You have to realize that there is a great happiness in joy of missing out </b>– <b data-redactor-tag="b">in not wanting anything</b> – <b data-redactor-tag="b">of feeling fulfilled with what you have.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">For this you need to be </b>ambitious and don't have to make any compromise with your dreams, standards and values.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">People with purpose vision and dreams have no time or need for drama and show-off</b> – <b data-redactor-tag="b">they invest their time, energy and efforts ingeniously</b> - <b data-redactor-tag="b">to create and live a powerful life of positivity and meaning</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">On the other hand some people make their happiness and self-worth dependent on others</b> – and <b data-redactor-tag="b">when they don't get invited to some events</b> [which they consider important] – <b data-redactor-tag="b">they become resentful, hurt, embarrassed, ashamed, angry and even revengeful</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Yes it definitely sucks when you find yourself excluded from any group, activities or events that you</b> feel your right to be part of.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Not getting invited or included - impacts the people with low self-esteem more</b> - making them– as they feel unnerved, rattled and disturbed, lose their self-control and <b data-redactor-tag="b">take this phenomenon very-very seriously and negatively.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">This article is about taking ownership and full control of your life's quality as well its directions – and focusing on the most important things in life </b>- love, peace, joy and gratitude it all works out in the end.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">To get that focused you have to learn to be ok with not being invited, included or considered</b> – and not to worry what others think and say about you.</p><p>But <b data-redactor-tag="b">when you don't get invited to something that have the potential to add real positive value to your objectives and dreams</b> – then you must take empowering actions to claim your rights.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Confidence is not about believing that people will like you</b> <b data-redactor-tag="b">BUT about how your being fine irrespective of whether they like you or not.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">21 thought process adjustment you need to make to stop taking it personally - how to handle the pain of rejection or feeling excluded and how to get rid of fear of missing out or FOMO</b></p> <ul><li><b data-redactor-tag="b">1.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">When it is about them AND not about you</b></li> <li>I.When your not getting invited is happening because you never went to the other events they invited you - so they have stopped including you</li> <li>II.They might have assumed – that you would not be interested in this particular event – as they may believe that you have shown your dislike for this type of events in the past</li> <li>III.They feel that they are safeguarding your interest by not inviting you</li> <li>IV.They might have thought that you are not going to be available because of your own pre-arranged engagements</li> <li>V.This event might have happened on the spur of the moment – and whoever was there got included</li> <li>VI.Maybe this is a circle where they have different focus and completely different type of people – and they believe you may find yourself a misfit</li> <li>VII.It could be due to oversight and wrong assumption or even financial [yours of theirs] or logistic related issue – which made them you left out</li> <li>VIII.It could also be that you yourself missed – inviting this person few times – and they feel that you are not keen on this relationship</li> <li>IX.Maybe they find that when you are there – you steal the limelight </li> <li>X.Maybe they feel that you dominate the discussions </li> <li>XI.You might make them feel little or criticized or insulted or judged – which they don't want</li> <li>XII.You might have the habit of creating scenes or drama or some sort of unpleasant experience for others</li> <li>XIII.They may feel that they will lose out on something if they invite you</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">2.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Could the reason has something to do with you - ask yourself</b></li> <li>I.Introspect objectively and ask – <b data-redactor-tag="b">are you doing something that is putting people off </b>– although it is <b data-redactor-tag="b">very difficult if not impossible – creating self-awareness about your negative impact on others</b></li> <li>II.Become aware of times and situations and groups – <b data-redactor-tag="b">when you go overboard and not only control the conversation but also take the limelight at the cost of people</b> who are not assertive or who are submissive </li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">III.</b>Do you tend to make people <b data-redactor-tag="b">uncomfortable with the type of topics you bring out </b></li> <li>IV.Do you lack finesse or sophistication or social-grace and etiquettes</li> <li>V.Do you tend to say things or are in the habit of saying hurtful, insulting or belittling words</li> <li>VI.Do you unconsciously put-off people</li> <li>VII.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Pay attention to how many other people are saying same thing about you</b> – <b data-redactor-tag="b">if your most loved and closest people are saying same things </b>– then better take notice and work on yourself</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">15 Tips How to respond when you are left out of important meetings</b></p> <ul><li>1.You find out about an important meeting — one whose outcome affects you and your team — after it happens. </li> <li>2.When you're overlooked for a meeting it feels bad personally and professionally and being the last to learn about key decisions can set your team back, and bring your leadership into question.</li> <li>3.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Then it might impact your influence and authority as well your team's ability to collaborate, coordinate</b> – and <b data-redactor-tag="b">it is your responsibility to assertively claim your space by advocating for yourself and your team</b> – by raising the issue in an empowering and respectful manner.</li> <li>4.<b data-redactor-tag="b">You also need to master the art of navigating through the office politics without getting sucked</b> into negative implications.</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">5.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to ensure Never let drama of few insecure people derail your career</b></li> <li>6.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Introspect and objectively become aware</b> - if you are insecure and feel vulnerable or paranoid or egoist</li> <li>7.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Clarify your doubts by finding out – whether the meeting is about another team's objective</b> – even though it may seem to you as if it relates with your team's work</li> <li>8.Find out – <b data-redactor-tag="b">if you have been getting open or disguised signals giving the message that you are in your way out – then this exclusion does not matter as you are on your way out</b> [especially if the work-culture or the seniors are not vales-driven, emotionally-secure professionals]</li> <li>9.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Ask yourself if the benefits of your attending meeting outweighs the negatives of forcing yourself </b> -if you feel you want to be involved <b data-redactor-tag="b">because of your ego just drop the urge to be included</b> – as <b data-redactor-tag="b">you might antagonize people who may have power to influence your future </b>in the organization</li> <li>10.<b data-redactor-tag="b">If you find that you need to be involved – you have to create a strong case why you should be included and how it may benefit the</b> stakeholders and the organization, especially the seniors – <b data-redactor-tag="b">you case should not focus majorly on your benefits alone</b></li> <li>11.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Focus on why your role makes it mandatory to be present in the meeting</b> – all these should be based on data and evidence</li> <li>12.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Show how your presence would add value</b> to the whole group and the long-term objective</li> <li>13.Volunteer to help in organizing the logistics and meeting other requirements</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">14.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Get in touch with the organizer to reach out can convey your thoughts, feelings, and tone most clearly</b> – don't whine or complain just state the benefits - <b data-redactor-tag="b">direct the conversation toward addressing why it makes sense for you to be present</b></li> <li>15.Show how your proposal addresses the <b data-redactor-tag="b">opportunities for the organization to work together more efficiently and productively</b></li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">32 Tips How to deal with feelings on not being invited – </b>all the tips given in this article have detailed Do-It-Yourself blogs/articles and answers among my 900+ blogs in my two websites & My Quora answers<b data-redactor-tag="b"> </b></p> <ul><li>1.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Understand that it is perfectly normal and OK to feel hurt, disappointed, angry, resentful and even embarrassed</b> by not being included in someone's plans – where you were expecting </li> <li>2.<b data-redactor-tag="b">And that, you have to learn to work on your these highly un-resourceful feelings and emotions</b> – otherwise you would set yourself for a negative spiral of emotional roller-coaster</li> <li>3.<b data-redactor-tag="b">If these are close people who did not invite you in one-off event – you should give them the benefit of the doubt</b>- assuming that either it was an innocent mistake as they have good intentions and feelings towards you</li> <li>4.Identify the events when you had chosen not to invite few of these people</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">5.</b>Also identify – <b data-redactor-tag="b">when you left out someone – just because you forgot and regretted later</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">6.</b>Recall times when you could <b data-redactor-tag="b">not invite someone because of some very practical reasons </b></li> <li>7.Understand that it <b data-redactor-tag="b">is ok to not include everyone in everything that you are doing </b>– <b data-redactor-tag="b">you do this as well as others do it</b> </li> <li>8.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Yes if you missed inviting them but you want to maintain good relationship with them</b> - communicate your desire to include them in the future events</li> <li>9.<b data-redactor-tag="b">If you got left out by someone</b> – use tact to let them know subtly - that – <b data-redactor-tag="b">you would be interested in being part of their group</b> </li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">10.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">You can use the energy of the feeling of rejection – to connect with people who uplifts you</b></li> <li>11.Learn to work on your insecurities and self-esteem</li> <li>12.Learn to find joy of missing out JOMO</li> <li>13.Learn to manage your negative emotions in empowering ways</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">14.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">If something like this make you upset – find out what – is it jealousy or hurt of getting ignored</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">15.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Work on your self-respect and self-pride and self-confidence</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">16.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Stop the urge to seek validations, approval and inclusion from others as your method of feeling good</b></li> <li>17.Learn not to take things personally</li> <li>18.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Later when you are calm after initial explosive feelings – audit this relationship</b> – is it something that is important to you or whether this relationship is not adding value to you</li> <li>19.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Find out – if these people are ignoring you for a while – then if need be let the relationship go</b> – it is not worth your pain and suffering</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">20.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">If it is a regular affair accept it - and move on – but let go of your resentment</b></li> <li>21.Do something nice for yourself have fun - understand that life is too short to dwell on missed invites</li> <li>22.In <b data-redactor-tag="b">case you are confused why you did not get included – share with a mutual friend and seek their perspectives</b> – it could have a very simple explanation</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">23.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">In case you are not invited by a person who is otherwise nice with you – invite them in your event and give them special attention</b></li> <li>24.<b data-redactor-tag="b">If you have limitations because of which you can't invite them – if possible – give them a simple straight forward explanation</b> – without going too much into detail or without being too apologetic</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">25.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to turn this exclusion into an opportunity to evaluate and make corrections in your own habits </b></li> <li>26.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Validate your feelings -determine how close you are to the person – if it is a casual acquaintance that you see once in a while</b> – just don't bother about getting upset of not getting invited – and don't wallow in bitterness – this is about you and not them</li> <li>27.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Check if the social media posts are creating issues for you – of the person who did not invite you</b>– then just un-follow this person so as not to see their posts in social media anymore</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">28.</b>Acknowledge your emotions -<b data-redactor-tag="b">consider the possibility that it was a mistake</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">29.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to act that you don't care being left-out – if you are with this person</b></li> <li>30.<b data-redactor-tag="b">If you are close to this person who did not invite you – ask him/her –</b> directly and when you both are alone – without any resentment or anger</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">31.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Forgive the people who excluded you – to make yourself calmer - look for inclusion elsewhere </b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">32.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to enjoy your alone time - read a book, watch a movie or do anything that makes you feel rejuvenated</b></li></ul><div><b><br></b></div><div><b>#howtodealwithnotbeinginvited, #whypeopledon'tincludeyouinevents, #howtorespondwhenyouareleftoutofimportantmeetings, #howtostoptakingpersonallywhenyoudon'tgetinvited, #howtobeokwithnotbeinginvitedandincluded, #howtoclaimyourrightfulplacewhendon'tgetinvited, #badfeelingsofnotgettinginvitedandincluded, #whyyoudon'tinviteandincludesomepeople, #gettingleftout, #managingfeelingswhengetleftoutbyothers<span class="redactor-invisible-space"></span><br></b></div>