<p>In this article you will learn the following</p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">60 techniques to look sophisticated, being in complete control- when you are pushing-back and saying NO</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-10 situations in work - in which you need to push back and say NO</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-7 strategies I use - When I am pushed [these are not effective 100% of time but since I have started using these I get less upset when others are pushing me]</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-20 tips how to push back when life is pushing you down</b></p><p>Stop being a pushover - push back when you get pushed against wall.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Acquiring and mastering the abilities to push-back - in the workplace as well as in other areas of your life</b> - is not only an important leadership skill but also one of the most essential life-skills.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Developing the habit of pushing back in right manner would not only help you maintain your sanity but also create your image as a more competent, knowledgeable, in-control and balanced person</b> besides making you become more skilled.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">When, where, who, why and how you push-back</b> when pressurized and pushed against the wall - <b data-redactor-tag="b">starts from understanding your limitations, your most important objectives and your priorities</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Ask yourself - when you are pushed</b> - what do you do - do you bring a drama element in your excuses - or do you take a firm stand and say NO assertively - <b data-redactor-tag="b">or you just give-in and later blame yourself for taking all that sh*t.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">At times - You also need to push back against yourself</b> - when your self-esteem is based too heavily on what others think of you.</p><p>Please read my 10+ articles including Mastering the art of assertiveness in Success Unlimited Mantra Blog section in addition to this article.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">10 situations in work - in which you need to push back and say NO</b></p> <ul><li>1.When you don't have the resources</li> <li>2.When the timeline is unrealistic and highly unreasonable</li> <li>3.When you feel the request is unethical</li> <li>4.When your safety is getting compromised </li> <li>5.When you find yourself putting your health and well-being on jeopardy</li> <li>6.When an impossible 100% perfection is demanded</li> <li>7.When you are asked why you need personal time off</li> <li>8.When you are supposed to be available round the clock at all hours</li> <li>9.When your boss assigns you something that definitely isn't your job</li> <li>10.When you keep on getting piled up with work although you are working horrible hours already</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">60+ techniques to look sophisticated, being in complete control- when you are pushing-back and saying NO</b></p> <ul><li>1.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Before you challenge anyone by pushing them back</b> - ensure you have already </li> <li>I.Create and establish your value - by displaying - your capacity of delivering result</li> <li>II.Your creating excellence</li> <li>III.Your attitude</li> <li>IV.Your dependability</li> <li>V.Your commitment</li> <li>VI.Your value-addition to team as well the organization</li> <li>VII.Building rapport and good relationship with all stakeholders</li> <li>VIII.Created the image of being a problem-solver</li> <li>2. <b data-redactor-tag="b">Always focus on the issue - demonstrate that you understand the issue from theirs as well as multiple angles</b> and why what you are suggesting is superior using solid data and evidence</li> <li>3.Ensure that the words you use during pushback - <b data-redactor-tag="b">does not make them look foolish and press their triggers to up their defenses</b> - </li> <li>4.Make your push-back sound non-threatening to them - assume that they have bloated EGO</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">5.</b>Never attack their personality - <b data-redactor-tag="b">use I sentences instead of YOU sentences</b></li> <li>6.Let go of your own EGO</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">7.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Never make your sentences come out like you are attacking their position and challenging their superiority and authority</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">8.</b>Keep everything - <b data-redactor-tag="b">evidence-based, issue-based and specific-solution based</b></li> <li>9.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Best thing you can do - before you push-back - is to be thoroughly prepared by anticipating their objections and insecurities and fears - in case you want to propose something new</b> [as many people equal - new or unfamiliar to being dangerous]</li> <li>10.Develop a holistic view - understand the big picture </li> <li>11.Understand the culture and background of the person </li> <li>12.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Also understand the - consequences of your pushing back - are these are something you can't deal with</b> - THEN PLEASE don't even think of pushing-back - till you get the capabilities to deal with resulting eventualities</li> <li>13.Ensure that you respect the chain of command - and you are not working behind your senior's back</li> <li>14.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Explore the number of different approaches to push-back - because if you chose the wrong approach</b> - you may create unnecessary friction and damages to yourself</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">15.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to ask questions to understand the situation and why you are saying NO</b></li> <li>16.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Identify in how many different ways your push-back message can be interpreted - </b>create clarifying statements</li> <li>17.Also ensure that you - yourself are interpreting their request correctly </li> <li>18.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Paraphrase their request in front of them so that - they may themselves tone it down</b> if the request sounds unreasonable</li> <li>19.Become a great listener - listen to understand </li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">20.</b>Before you say no - <b data-redactor-tag="b">create few alternatives which would create better outcomes and actually help the person better when you refuse their original request</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">21.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Choose your battles - you don't need to push back on everything that doesn't meet hundred percent your approval</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">22.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Avoid any battle just to satisfy your EGO</b></li> <li>23.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Work on your self-brand and image through building a healthy social reputation with the others</b> - be known as helpful, respectful, articulate, sophisticated and elegant person</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">24.</b>Always help others when it does not require significant effort for you <b data-redactor-tag="b">YET it is very helpful to them </b></li> <li>25.Know, establish and maintain healthy emotional-physical boundaries </li> <li>26.Create a mindset of being consistent and persistent - when and how you push others back </li> <li>27.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Always ensure that you are seen as a team player who is easy to work with and who cares about others</b> - when you are pushing-back - you are only demanding the same care in return</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">28.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Don't make a big deal of</b> - when you were able to push someone successfully - <b data-redactor-tag="b">keep doing your job in better and better ways and communicating with the person you refused a request as if nothing happened</b></li> <li>29.Practice being transparent and authentic and of a person with solid integrity</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">30.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Take small but powerful steps - to start the practice of assertiveness</b></li> <li>31.When someone attacks you - <b data-redactor-tag="b">ask clarifying open-ended questions to - to make those bully you - distracted</b></li> <li>32.Learn not to react - by hitting them with blows below their belt</li> <li>33.Learn to remain calm and assertive - and never allow them to browbeat you </li> <li>34.Figure out what's really bothering you - clarify first - before you pushback</li> <li>35.Practice Practice Practice and then Practice some more of all the techniques given here </li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">36.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to give-way in certain situations for certain issues to get your way - by outlining that you are willing to entertain an alternative view to facilitate solving the problem</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">37.</b>Offer information that may be of value - <b data-redactor-tag="b">acknowledge their arguments and appreciate their position</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">38.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Be clear - do you want to win or solve the problem - both are not same all the time</b></li> <li>39.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Understand your story and their story- educate, don't sell, blame, or accuse</b> -communicate your hopes and goals -stay interested - <b data-redactor-tag="b">understand that there are no guarantees that you would get your point across - however you can always remain respectful</b>, interested, and purposeful and set limits and expectations</li> <li>40.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Stop using accusatory, attacking and opposing language</b> - Lead your stance with positive recommendations and alternatives </li> <li>41.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Work on creating their buy-in - build bridges by identifying common goals</b> - focus your discussions around how we can accomplish</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">42.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Don't yell, don't shout -make sure you explain the reasons WHY you are refusing their requests</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">43.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Keep your high standards high and raise the bar yourself</b></li> <li>44.Understandthe culture and the code of conduct in your workplace determines how you handle disagreement</li> <li>45.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Before you speak - compose a thoughtful response</b> - it is not always easy, but effective pushback strategies are essential for productive communication and growth.</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">46.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Work-on and develop your emotional as well as social intelligence</b></li> <li>47.Involve and encourage participation</li> <li>48.Document processes and procedures meticulously</li> <li>49.Accept that sometimes you might need to enforce change</li> <li>50.Also identify what mindset-habits-attitudes - you need to change in yourself</li> <li>51.Demonstrate to the person that you understand their perspective</li> <li>52.Hold firm or compromise, but do not let your ego make decisions</li> <li>53.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Be firm with your strategic direction - address the social aspects of the change</b> - identify any existing trust issues and be transparent-communicate the logic for the change</li> <li>54.Develop a plan for those who will be negatively affected</li> <li>55.Practice and learn to be effective conflict handling and conflict-resolution</li> <li>56.Always show respect - resist the temptation to belittle the opinions of others</li> <li>57.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Be honorable and respectable - be a person of your word</b> -think in terms of possibilities and solutions be constructive be a positive thinker</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">7 strategies I use - When I am pushed [these are not effective 100% of time but since I have started using these I get less upset when others are pushing me] </b></p> <ul><li>1.<b data-redactor-tag="b">I just smile and ignore without responding</b> - in case it is one time interaction and has no negative consequence [like making me feel guilty, angry, embarrassed or filling me with any such negative emotions] of avoiding</li> <li>2.<b data-redactor-tag="b">I try to find if what they are saying has got any merit and try to find what I can improve to prevent similar situation in future</b>- this I use in those situations where I respect and admire the person doing the pushback - because of their qualities, knowledge and skills</li> <li>3.<b data-redactor-tag="b">I accept them without reacting</b> [internally I am laughing as I know what tactics they use] - because of their insecurities and EGO they are trying to make me feel inadequate through their antics </li> <li>4.<b data-redactor-tag="b">I walk away after giving my perspective in a polite respectful manner</b> - in case it is important because it is dealing with my values</li> <li>5.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Most of the time I pushback using humor by taking one aspect of discussion and laugh out loud - using a satirical comment which can be interpreted in both intelligent-humor as well as soft hit-back</b> - this I use <b data-redactor-tag="b">when someone is arguing on a topic they have very shallow knowledge</b></li> <li>6.<b data-redactor-tag="b">I pushback with whatever may take</b> - when it a question of my or my loved one's safety and basic respect and dignity</li> <li>7.<b data-redactor-tag="b">I also react aggressively - in case I am being pushed and my tactics are not having an impact and someone is crossing my boundaries without any regards to the respect I am giving them</b> [ I use this tactic only when I need to deal with them on regular basis and they are jealous of my capabilities and these insecurities of theirs is making them bulldozing me to create win for themselves] </li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">20 tips how to push back when life is pushing you down</b></p> <ul><li>1.<b data-redactor-tag="b">In life we all face phases and situations - when life feels overwhelming</b> - e.g., financially you are in a very tight spot, your kids or a loved member is seriously ill, in workplace your job is demanding, your boss is a toxic person or you are having relationships that are putting you in resourceful mental-emotional state etc.</li> <li>2.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Each one of us eventually are able to get through tough and challenging phases and deal with our stress</b> - in our own individual ways.</li> <li>3.The tactics, methods, tools and resources we use - vary person to person.</li> <li>4.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Many people may use quick-fixes and unhealthy, self-sabotaging and self-sabotaging ways</b> - which create more problem in life.</li> <li>5.Being aware of and developing the healthy coping strategies are key to making your life meaningful, resourceful and blissful.</li> <li>6.<b data-redactor-tag="b">When you are focused on temporary relief and start using - unhealthy recourses</b> - like alcohol/drug, denial, denial, avoiding facing the truth or you may become workaholic or too much physical exercises- in long run you will reach a stage where it would be difficult to amend and correct yourself.</li> <li>7.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Please understand that - it will take some time to become aware of your personality, your triggers, your current un-resourceful coping mechanisms and then discovering which healthy methods</b> you can make part of your daily routine and which ones you can use when pushed too far by whatever works for you</li> <li>8.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Please understand that - reading about techniques will give you the idea - but you must experiment till you find what works for you</b> - suppose you are an introvert and you read that having a get together with lots of people will help you get out of your negative state - it won't - instead you may try reading an engaging book or playing a musical instrument </li> <li>9.Ask yourself what is causing you to feel stressful - and what has to happen when you will start living life in a peaceful way</li> <li>10.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Develop your unique healthy stress management techniques - you can use the broad theme</b> and all the areas then identify which is the one for you </li> <li>I.Leisurely enjoying enjoy a morning cup of coffee - early morning when no one is awake and everything is quite</li> <li>II.Enjoying nature - by go for a hike, ride your bike or spend time gardening</li> <li>III.Meditating the right way - which suits you</li> <li>IV.Playing music softly</li> <li>V.Exercising and going walk</li> <li>VI.Eating healthy breakfast, snacks and munchies</li> <li>VII.Cooking an exotic dish</li> <li>VIII.Tending your garden or plants</li> <li>IX.Sleeping well - by developing right sleeping habits and rituals</li> <li>X.Watch suspense or the type of comedies which makes you laugh naturally</li> <li>XI.Spend time with a close friend doing what make you feel good</li> <li>XII.Focusing on future action planning and exploring solutions for a big dream of yours</li></ul><div> #stopbeingapushover, #dealingwithpressure, #effectivewaystopushback, #howtobeincontrolwhilepushingback, #strategiestousewhenlifepushesyoudown, #strategiesIusetopushbackaggressivepeople, #situationsatworkwhenyouhavesayNo, #masteringabilitiestopushbackcorrectlty, #effectivepushbackstrategies, #pushback, #assertiveness, #leadershipskills, #lifeskills, #developingresilience, #stopbeingapushover, #developingmentalresilience <span class="redactor-invisible-space"></span><br></div>