<p><span>In this article - you will learn the following</span><br></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">What is courage and new definition of courage in India</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">30 signs that fear is controlling your life</b> </p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">55 tips on How to stop living in fear</b></p><p><strong data-redactor-tag="strong" data-verified="redactor">Are you living in fear or in joy - What is controlling and driving your life - joyfulness or fear</strong></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Did you see the video of the Bangalore girl who is walking alone</b> - and the <b data-redactor-tag="b">uncountable large number of goons in a mob are harassing her.</b></p><p>In India now a days - <b data-redactor-tag="b">new definition of courage</b> [for many people] - <b data-redactor-tag="b">doing unimaginably horrendous things to helpless and innocent person</b> - by people in mob.</p><p>This <b data-redactor-tag="b">mob displays the classic signs of having serious </b>identity-crisis, cowardice and shame-less-ness - just like all other mobs and the mob-orchestrated incidents in India. </p><p>It should be perfectly clear who are the scared people - <b data-redactor-tag="b">And also who is the real powerful and courageous one.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">The dictators the world over - past as well as the current ones</b> - <b data-redactor-tag="b">are single-persons - who manage to terrorize and create fear among masse</b> - BUT in this they get amply supported by all the bureaucracy-administration-judiciary plus the decision makers in the regulatory institutions [<b data-redactor-tag="b">most supporting the dictator are also using this opportunity to help themselves</b>].</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">If you want to break-free from your inhibitions - try being like that girl</b> - although it will require you to build and develop mindset of solid courage.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Ask yourself if you could get rid of all your fears - what type of life you would live</b> - how beautifully different your life likely be.</p><p>And imagine <b data-redactor-tag="b">if you are not scared of following your dreams - what all you could do</b>.</p><p>Unfortunately - <b data-redactor-tag="b">by the time we are able to understand the fear and how to manage and deal-with or disregard inconsequential-fears</b> - <b data-redactor-tag="b">we are either too old or facing fear by actively taking actions - just does not matter</b> in that aspect and stage of our life. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Most of the positive emotions come from hope-faith-love-joy</b> - like - the happiness, contentment, peace, bliss, confidence, joy and the likes.</p><p>All the <b data-redactor-tag="b">negative emotions originates from - insecurity-doubt-fear-hate-anger-guilt</b>.</p><p>You need to choose - <b data-redactor-tag="b">which one you are going to allow to control your life - simply because - if you don't choose consciously to be in the realm of hope-faith-love</b> - automatically the negative-ones will occupy its place.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">These choices have to be made on every day basis</b> - especially when there are threat <b data-redactor-tag="b">that are looking to disturb to your peacefulness and calm.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Choosing to be in the joyous frame - can't make your fears go away completely</b>- but you would be able to deal-with and heal yourself of more and more fears.</p><p>There is a <b data-redactor-tag="b">popular assumption - that people are born courageous -</b> maybe some people are more predisposed to displaying courage.</p><p>But your courage <b data-redactor-tag="b">gets builds up just like your muscles - your taking actions on the face of your fears in those areas which are important to</b> you.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Nobody can ignore fear - at the best you can - repress-suppress-avoid-ignore</b> - that too for a very short period.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">But ignoring your fears - may create havoc in your as well as in the lives of all</b> those who are attached, connected and dependent on you.</p><p>Most of your illogical fear happens because of your overthinking and overanalyzing to magnify minor into major ones.</p><p>Our most irrational fears where we use overthinking and overanalyzing - <b data-redactor-tag="b">are -WHAT-IFs - which makes you get entwined in the ever-increasing perpetual cycle of worries, anxieties, fears and hopelessness etc. </b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">30 signs that fear is controlling your life</b></p> <ul><li>1.When you feel suffocated and still can't express what is right when you give away your rights</li> <li>2.When you let life pass you by - you are too scared to take action</li> <li>3.When you are full of regret - for not taking actions - which were in your area of influence</li> <li>4.When you are unable to take stand - for what is just and right</li> <li>5.When you embrace perfectionism. </li> <li>6.When you start compromising, adjusting with lower standards and accepting what you don't deserve - too quickly</li> <li>7.When you procrastinate and delay taking most essential actions </li> <li>8.When you only give excuses</li> <li>9.When you blame others for things which are your fault and responsibility </li> <li>10. When you feel you have to crush others - to survive</li> <li>11. When you throw muck to feel good</li> <li>12. When you lie and lie and lie</li> <li>13. When you take actions - they are those which cannot be challenged by anyone </li> <li>14. When you want to please everyone</li> <li>15. When you are scared of offending someone in authority and power</li> <li>16. When you are living in denial - not able to see - what everyone is seeing</li> <li>17. Living in a cocoon or shell or cutting yourself from reality </li> <li>18. When you see someone getting taken advantage of or being harassed but you don't lift even your eyebrows</li> <li>19. When you act like a cat after shitting - try you hide your lies with more lies</li> <li>20. When you can't accept your mistakes</li> <li>21. When you start eliminating your opposition by using all tricks</li> <li>22. You try to create a façade of false glory</li> <li>23. When you are only a show-off</li> <li>24. When you are shit-scared of getting discovered by others of your true self - and go to all the length to project otherwise</li> <li>25. When all you do is project all your insecurities, all your weaknesses on to others - sometime even on those who are long gone and have actually done great things</li> <li>26. When you hate the achievers</li> <li>27. When you surround yourself with people of questionable backgrounds, morals and values</li> <li>28. You are living a life being trying to be someone else</li> <li>29. You are afraid to go for your own happiness</li> <li>30. You feel bad if you think about your own wellbeing </li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">55 tips on How to stop living in fear</b> [given randomly] - please also read my blog conquer you fear make fear - fear you along with do-it-yourself articles on most of the points </p> <ul><li>1.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Decide that remaining fearful is not a choice or an option for you</b> - you have to take actions </li> <li>2.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Understand that your fear responses are often out of sync with the actual danger</b> - when you consciously confront those fearful situations- <b data-redactor-tag="b">by taking actions - you will discover that you are able to manage</b>your fears better with higher productivity and outcomes</li> <li>3.Take time out to get out and view things objectively <b data-redactor-tag="b">- it's impossible to think clearly when you're flooded with fear or anxiety</b></li> <li>4.Ask yourself <b data-redactor-tag="b">why can't you create Halloween every day - the day when you look forward to feeling scared and afraid</b> - and transform your feeling scared a cool thing mentally</li> <li>5.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Understand most of us tend to avoid fear - as being afraid is not a pleasant experience or a positive sensation</b></li> <li>6.Accept the consequences of avoiding <b data-redactor-tag="b">fear - is manifestation of worry, anxiety, stress and many-many more terrifying </b>outcomes </li> <li>7.List the things you fear most</li> <li>8.Then ask yourself - <b data-redactor-tag="b">why you have these fears - what triggers these fears</b> and anxieties</li> <li>9.Determine <b data-redactor-tag="b">what you can do to reduce — or completely eliminate</b> — the level of fear in each area</li> <li>10. Identify w<b data-redactor-tag="b">hat is within your area of control - start taking actions with what you can control</b> and let go of what you can't.</li> <li>11. If your <b data-redactor-tag="b">fears are psychological or relational fears, such as fear of failure or rejection</b>, typically stem from our own insecurities - then read my 900+ blogs on how to overcome many of your fears and anxieties</li> <li>12. Identify <b data-redactor-tag="b">your strengths or talents- find ways to use them more and</b> more every day</li> <li>13. Identify - recognize - challenge your own self bullshit - and then stop the making excuses</li> <li>14. Let go of pre-existing ideas of doing things - <b data-redactor-tag="b">all those which do not have logical explanations</b> - others than that - you have always done them that way or that you were told that it was the only right way to do that</li> <li>15. Look through your self-doubts - challenge them - and face the reality</li> <li>16. Look carefully at the things you are afraid of</li> <li>17. Trust yourself - <b data-redactor-tag="b">look at all of the seemingly impossible times you have had to deal with. Think about all the times you asked yourself if you would make it through- somehow you did it. </b>You may not have done it gracefully, but you did it - have faith that whatever happens in the future, you will find a way to deal with it.</li> <li>18. Stop <b data-redactor-tag="b">actively looking for things to fix</b> - it only increases your anxiety</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">19. </b>Don't <b data-redactor-tag="b">sweat the small stuff - stop majoring in the minor low pay-off or no pay-off priorities</b></li> <li>20. Identify <b data-redactor-tag="b">why you are enough - no matter - how you look, dress or the situation you are in - start believing that -</b> you deserve and worthy of love, happiness, and all the good things in life - the way you are</li> <li>21. Understand that <b data-redactor-tag="b">no matter what is making you feel scared -you can always do something about it</b></li> <li>22. Hang out with positive people</li> <li>23. Get rid of toxic and manipulative people from your life</li> <li>24. Learn to handle difficult and arrogant people more effectively</li> <li>25. Don't <b data-redactor-tag="b">let anyone insult, manipulate, or use you - if someone treats you bad, just remember that there is something wrong with them, not you</b> -normal people don't go around destroying other people.</li> <li>26. If someone insults you, you have every right to cordially insist that they treat you with respect</li> <li>27. Learn to fight back to defend your values and people who can't do it for themselves</li> <li>28. Instead of <b data-redactor-tag="b">focusing on reducing your fear - start focusing on increasing your levels of joy - fear and joy can't exists together</b> - and there is place and space for only one thing</li> <li>29. Learn and start practicing Gratitude, respecting self and others</li> <li>30. Learn to let go of regrets and guilt and anger - start practicing Forgiveness — for your own sake</li> <li>31. Sleep and eat well - exercise - focus on self-care</li> <li>32. Stop watching the news channels or those trolling tweets</li> <li>33. Spend time with children - so imbibe their way of handling setbacks and bounce back</li> <li>34. Dance, sing, listen to music or take a look at some high quality art</li> <li>35. Get comfortable with the idea - that when you try something new - failure is possible </li> <li>36. Stop viewing failure as something negative and only as something to learn and bounce-back from </li> <li>37. Avoid perfectionistic way of doing and expecting things - from yourself as well as others</li> <li>38. Expand your comfort zone - break down the uncomfortable action into smaller-steps</li> <li>39. Don't operate like the automobiles which go from 0 -100 in less than 10 seconds or a fighter plane which goes into super-sonic speed in jiffy.</li> <li>40. Get yourself acclimatized through controlled exposure </li> <li>41. Train your mind to turn your fears and threats into challenge to overcome and enjoy the thrill</li> <li>42. Breathe through panic - if you start to get a faster heartbeat or sweating palms, the best thing is not to fight it.</li> <li>43. Think through the worst case scenarios - then work out if this should happen how will you deal with it</li> <li>44. Challenge your rationality by looking at the evidence</li> <li>45. Learn to Stop the train of traumatic thoughts - through overthinking and overanalyzing </li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">46. </b><b data-redactor-tag="b">If you are a woman feel restricted in expressing your wants, needsand desires - you could be worried about appearing too easygoing, too direct, too unfeminine, too aggressive, too demanding, or too needy or even too cheap </b></li> <li>47. <b data-redactor-tag="b">But expressing yourself with the right person could be the most wonderful liberating thing that you ever experience and can transform your life </b>- as there is absolutely no shame in wanting things and nor in asking for what you want - otherwise how can. people know what to give you if you don't express</li> <li>48. Practice assertiveness </li> <li>49. Live your life to express who you are AND not to impress others</li> <li>50. Focus on taking actions towards your dreams</li> <li>51. Learn newer skills and get exposed to challenging and tough situations</li> <li>52. Create and enforce healthy personal-boundaries</li> <li>53. Making taking risks and raising the bar a natural habits</li> <li>54. Learn to manage your negative emotions - more effectively </li> <li>55. Seek help and support when you just are not able to</li></ul><div><br></div><p><a href="#thefearfactor, #areyoulivinginfearorjoy, #areyoulettingfearcontrolyourlife, #signsfearisdrivingyourlife, #doyouoperateoutofhopefaithlove, #areyoulivingyourlifeinhatefeardoubt, #definitionofcourage, #whatismobmentality, #whobecomespartofmob, #howdictatorsterrorizeandcontrolmasses, #howtostoplivinginfear" title="" class="">#thefearfactor, #areyoulivinginfearorjoy, #areyoulettingfearcontrolyourlife, #signsfearisdrivingyourlife, #doyouoperateoutofhopefaithlove, #areyoulivingyourlifeinhatefeardoubt, #definitionofcourage, #whatismobmentality, #whobecomespartofmob, #howdictatorsterrorizeandcontrolmasses, #howtostoplivinginfear</a>, , <strong data-redactor-tag="strong">#creatingjoyinlife</strong>, <strong data-redactor-tag="strong">#breakingfree</strong></p>