55 tips how to stop living in fear and be joyful

In this article - you will learn the following

-What is courage and new definition of courage in India

-30 signs that fear is controlling your life

-55 tips on How to stop living in fear

Are you living in fear or in joy - What is controlling and driving your life - joyfulness or fear

Did you see the video of the Bangalore girl who is walking alone - and the uncountable large number of goons in a mob are harassing her.

In India now a days - new definition of courage [for many people] - doing unimaginably horrendous things to helpless and innocent person - by people in mob.

This mob displays the classic signs of having serious identity-crisis, cowardice and shame-less-ness - just like all other mobs and the mob-orchestrated incidents in India.

It should be perfectly clear who are the scared people - And also who is the real powerful and courageous one.

The dictators the world over - past as well as the current ones - are single-persons - who manage to terrorize and create fear among masse - BUT in this they get amply supported by all the bureaucracy-administration-judiciary plus the decision makers in the regulatory institutions [most supporting the dictator are also using this opportunity to help themselves].

If you want to break-free from your inhibitions - try being like that girl - although it will require you to build and develop mindset of solid courage.

Ask yourself if you could get rid of all your fears - what type of life you would live - how beautifully different your life likely be.

And imagine if you are not scared of following your dreams - what all you could do.

Unfortunately - by the time we are able to understand the fear and how to manage and deal-with or disregard inconsequential-fears - we are either too old or facing fear by actively taking actions - just does not matter in that aspect and stage of our life.

Most of the positive emotions come from hope-faith-love-joy - like - the happiness, contentment, peace, bliss, confidence, joy and the likes.

All the negative emotions originates from - insecurity-doubt-fear-hate-anger-guilt.

You need to choose - which one you are going to allow to control your life - simply because - if you don't choose consciously to be in the realm of hope-faith-love - automatically the negative-ones will occupy its place.

These choices have to be made on every day basis - especially when there are threat that are looking to disturb to your peacefulness and calm.

Choosing to be in the joyous frame - can't make your fears go away completely- but you would be able to deal-with and heal yourself of more and more fears.

There is a popular assumption - that people are born courageous - maybe some people are more predisposed to displaying courage.

But your courage gets builds up just like your muscles - your taking actions on the face of your fears in those areas which are important to you.

Nobody can ignore fear - at the best you can - repress-suppress-avoid-ignore - that too for a very short period.

But ignoring your fears - may create havoc in your as well as in the lives of all those who are attached, connected and dependent on you.

Most of your illogical fear happens because of your overthinking and overanalyzing to magnify minor into major ones.

Our most irrational fears where we use overthinking and overanalyzing - are -WHAT-IFs - which makes you get entwined in the ever-increasing perpetual cycle of worries, anxieties, fears and hopelessness etc.

30 signs that fear is controlling your life

• 1.When you feel suffocated and still can't express what is right when you give away your rights
• 2.When you let life pass you by - you are too scared to take action
• 3.When you are full of regret - for not taking actions - which were in your area of influence
• 4.When you are unable to take stand - for what is just and right
• 5.When you embrace perfectionism.
• 6.When you start compromising, adjusting with lower standards and accepting what you don't deserve - too quickly
• 7.When you procrastinate and delay taking most essential actions
• 8.When you only give excuses
• 9.When you blame others for things which are your fault and responsibility
• 10. When you feel you have to crush others - to survive
• 11. When you throw muck to feel good
• 12. When you lie and lie and lie
• 13. When you take actions - they are those which cannot be challenged by anyone
• 14. When you want to please everyone
• 15. When you are scared of offending someone in authority and power
• 16. When you are living in denial - not able to see - what everyone is seeing
• 17. Living in a cocoon or shell or cutting yourself from reality
• 18. When you see someone getting taken advantage of or being harassed but you don't lift even your eyebrows
• 19. When you act like a cat after shitting - try you hide your lies with more lies
• 20. When you can't accept your mistakes
• 21. When you start eliminating your opposition by using all tricks
• 22. You try to create a façade of false glory
• 23. When you are only a show-off
• 24. When you are shit-scared of getting discovered by others of your true self - and go to all the length to project otherwise
• 25. When all you do is project all your insecurities, all your weaknesses on to others - sometime even on those who are long gone and have actually done great things
• 26. When you hate the achievers
• 27. When you surround yourself with people of questionable backgrounds, morals and values
• 28. You are living a life being trying to be someone else
• 29. You are afraid to go for your own happiness
• 30. You feel bad if you think about your own wellbeing

55 tips on How to stop living in fear [given randomly] - please also read my blog conquer you fear make fear - fear you along with do-it-yourself articles on most of the points

• 1.Decide that remaining fearful is not a choice or an option for you - you have to take actions
• 2.Understand that your fear responses are often out of sync with the actual danger - when you consciously confront those fearful situations- by taking actions - you will discover that you are able to manageyour fears better with higher productivity and outcomes
• 3.Take time out to get out and view things objectively - it's impossible to think clearly when you're flooded with fear or anxiety
• 4.Ask yourself why can't you create Halloween every day - the day when you look forward to feeling scared and afraid - and transform your feeling scared a cool thing mentally
• 5.Understand most of us tend to avoid fear - as being afraid is not a pleasant experience or a positive sensation
• 6.Accept the consequences of avoiding fear - is manifestation of worry, anxiety, stress and many-many more terrifying outcomes
• 7.List the things you fear most
• 8.Then ask yourself - why you have these fears - what triggers these fears and anxieties
• 9.Determine what you can do to reduce — or completely eliminate — the level of fear in each area
• 10. Identify what is within your area of control - start taking actions with what you can control and let go of what you can't.
• 11. If your fears are psychological or relational fears, such as fear of failure or rejection, typically stem from our own insecurities - then read my 900+ blogs on how to overcome many of your fears and anxieties
• 12. Identify your strengths or talents- find ways to use them more and more every day
• 13. Identify - recognize - challenge your own self bullshit - and then stop the making excuses
• 14. Let go of pre-existing ideas of doing things - all those which do not have logical explanations - others than that - you have always done them that way or that you were told that it was the only right way to do that
• 15. Look through your self-doubts - challenge them - and face the reality
• 16. Look carefully at the things you are afraid of
• 17. Trust yourself - look at all of the seemingly impossible times you have had to deal with. Think about all the times you asked yourself if you would make it through- somehow you did it. You may not have done it gracefully, but you did it - have faith that whatever happens in the future, you will find a way to deal with it.
• 18. Stop actively looking for things to fix - it only increases your anxiety
• 19. Don't sweat the small stuff - stop majoring in the minor low pay-off or no pay-off priorities
• 20. Identify why you are enough - no matter - how you look, dress or the situation you are in - start believing that - you deserve and worthy of love, happiness, and all the good things in life - the way you are
• 21. Understand that no matter what is making you feel scared -you can always do something about it
• 22. Hang out with positive people
• 23. Get rid of toxic and manipulative people from your life
• 24. Learn to handle difficult and arrogant people more effectively
• 25. Don't let anyone insult, manipulate, or use you - if someone treats you bad, just remember that there is something wrong with them, not you -normal people don't go around destroying other people.
• 26. If someone insults you, you have every right to cordially insist that they treat you with respect
• 27. Learn to fight back to defend your values and people who can't do it for themselves
• 28. Instead of focusing on reducing your fear - start focusing on increasing your levels of joy - fear and joy can't exists together - and there is place and space for only one thing
• 29. Learn and start practicing Gratitude, respecting self and others
• 30. Learn to let go of regrets and guilt and anger - start practicing Forgiveness — for your own sake
• 31. Sleep and eat well - exercise - focus on self-care
• 32. Stop watching the news channels or those trolling tweets
• 33. Spend time with children - so imbibe their way of handling setbacks and bounce back
• 34. Dance, sing, listen to music or take a look at some high quality art
• 35. Get comfortable with the idea - that when you try something new - failure is possible
• 36. Stop viewing failure as something negative and only as something to learn and bounce-back from
• 37. Avoid perfectionistic way of doing and expecting things - from yourself as well as others
• 38. Expand your comfort zone - break down the uncomfortable action into smaller-steps
• 39. Don't operate like the automobiles which go from 0 -100 in less than 10 seconds or a fighter plane which goes into super-sonic speed in jiffy.
• 40. Get yourself acclimatized through controlled exposure
• 41. Train your mind to turn your fears and threats into challenge to overcome and enjoy the thrill
• 42. Breathe through panic - if you start to get a faster heartbeat or sweating palms, the best thing is not to fight it.
• 43. Think through the worst case scenarios - then work out if this should happen how will you deal with it
• 44. Challenge your rationality by looking at the evidence
• 45. Learn to Stop the train of traumatic thoughts - through overthinking and overanalyzing
• 46. If you are a woman feel restricted in expressing your wants, needsand desires - you could be worried about appearing too easygoing, too direct, too unfeminine, too aggressive, too demanding, or too needy or even too cheap
• 47. But expressing yourself with the right person could be the most wonderful liberating thing that you ever experience and can transform your life - as there is absolutely no shame in wanting things and nor in asking for what you want - otherwise how can. people know what to give you if you don't express
• 48. Practice assertiveness
• 49. Live your life to express who you are AND not to impress others
• 50. Focus on taking actions towards your dreams
• 51. Learn newer skills and get exposed to challenging and tough situations
• 52. Create and enforce healthy personal-boundaries
• 53. Making taking risks and raising the bar a natural habits
• 54. Learn to manage your negative emotions - more effectively
• 55. Seek help and support when you just are not able to

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