<p><span>In this article, you will learn the following</span><br></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-44 tips to deal with absolute jerks and assholes effectively</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">48 Warning Signs You are Dating or dealing with a Jerk</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">28 reasons Why Do They Do What They Do - Psychology Behind Jerks & assholes </b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">6 major reasons Why people Fall For assholes and jerks</b> </p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">16 Little Ways You Act Like a Jerk and Don't Even Know It - How you treat other people is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself</b></p><p>How to deal with Jerks and Assholes</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Have you ever come across Jerks or assholes?</b></p><p>There is a proverb that says - <b data-redactor-tag="b">unlike our brain, our stomach tells us when it is empty.</b></p><p>But in the case of <b data-redactor-tag="b">Jerks even if their brain tells them that it is empty - they would probably rejoice at their fortune</b>.</p><p>If you live in India - <b data-redactor-tag="b">one ideology cult has almost 100% of people who fall under this - and their numbers are so great as to be unbelievable</b>. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">How can such a large mass be so downright Jackasses</b>?</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">You don't even have to try to find them</b> - because if you happen to - <b data-redactor-tag="b">see hoardings, read newspaper, travel, watch news-channels, take walk in the park or go to the social-media</b> OR listen to a bunch of people talk- <b data-redactor-tag="b">they are there glaringly obvious</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">I come across at least few everyday - only the sufferer knows the pain and distress the jerks and assholes cause to the people</b> who have to face them -It is a torture of mammoth proportions.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Have you ever received emails promising millions of dollars - you will find that they are mostly a bunch of crooks </b>with very less knowledge and qualifications along with poor grasp of English - <b data-redactor-tag="b">jerks and assholes also have similar competence.</b></p><p>Basically the Jerks or assholes are- <b data-redactor-tag="b">self-obsessed arrogant, egoist, cunning, completely self-centered and with crazily high sense of entitlement - people who are manipulators.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">As per Wikipedia</b> THE DEFINITION OF ASSHOLEs- <b data-redactor-tag="b">given under quote unquote in the following paragraph only</b></p><p>"Asshole word is mainly used to describe people <b data-redactor-tag="b">who are viewed as stupid, incompetent, unpleasant, or detestable</b>. A person, <b data-redactor-tag="b">who is almost always male, who considers himself of much greater moral or social importance than everyone else</b>; who allows himself to <b data-redactor-tag="b">enjoy special advantages and does so systematically</b>, who does this out of an <b data-redactor-tag="b">entrenched sense of entitlement; and who is immunized by his sense of entitlement against the complaints of other people</b>, He feels he is not to be questioned, and he is the one who is chiefly wronged". </p><p>You may <b data-redactor-tag="b">find similarity between this word and Cockwomble</b> - read my article on this "<b data-redactor-tag="b">How leaders Use Whataboutery to shift blame</b>".</p><p>You may wonder - <b data-redactor-tag="b">are these assholes are born or made</b> - <b data-redactor-tag="b">YES some assholes are born with such a privileged genetic wiring</b>.</p><p>But <b data-redactor-tag="b">most people turn into jerks and assholes through brainwashing as well as under some situations</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">These jerks and assholes are most of the time males bullies</b> [but <b data-redactor-tag="b">females in the genre is fast catching-up</b>] - <b data-redactor-tag="b">Cockwomble, hypocrites and people who project their faults</b>, weakness and lacunas on others.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">It does not matter whether you met them in person or online or even read about them</b> - jerks and assholes has the capacity <b data-redactor-tag="b">to bring you down to their level</b> - they will waste your <b data-redactor-tag="b">time in the most insignificant matters while making you distracted by covering up the real important ones</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">If you happen to spend time with jerks and assholes</b> - it is so <b data-redactor-tag="b">contagious and so annoying that for the rest of the day</b> - you may also start behaving like them.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Intelligent sarcasm is the best way to limit jerks from crossing the limits of decency</b>- which they do all the time- IF YOU CAN"T get rid of them.</p><p>Some <b data-redactor-tag="b">people are jerks and assholes - because they put so much effort persistently to make you agree</b> with their ideologies.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Most of the jerks can't think on their feet - they have what is called bully-mentality</b> - the <b data-redactor-tag="b">origin of their personality is deep-rooted insecurities, shame because of their low knowledge, education</b> and any other significant qualities they want to have but see in others.</p><p>The Jerkism and Assholism <b data-redactor-tag="b">becomes their lifestyle - for masters of this class.</b></p><p>Many of us can too - <b data-redactor-tag="b">can be jerk and assholes with some people and under few typical situations</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Only by Standing-up to them assertively</b> - can help you deal with them effectively - <b data-redactor-tag="b">because there will always be jerks around you -</b> BUT if can learn to deal with them effectively - <b data-redactor-tag="b">your well-being and happiness will increase.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">This article is about exploring and developing an outlook and your own personal strategy</b> to help you preserve your sanity every aspect of your life - be it work, professional, business, social, personal - <b data-redactor-tag="b">so that you ensure upto certain extent that your perfectly good days does no ruined by some jerk.</b></p><p>You also need to ensure <b data-redactor-tag="b">that you yourself are not acting like a jerk or and asshole - when you are d</b>ealing with an annoying jerk or just because you are having bad days.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">28 reasons Why Do They Do What They Do - Psychology Behind Jerks & assholes </b></p><ul><li>1.They are into themselves all the time</li> <li>2.Because they feel low they act high and might and almighty</li> <li>3.They feel their jerkiness and assholism is very rewarding</li> <li>4.Sometimes people would act like jerks is because they felt you hurt them</li> <li>5.People may see you as a threat and start acting like a jerk</li> <li>6.They are insecure and have a compulsive need to push others down to feel better about themselves</li> <li>7.They have been a bully - to avoid their weaknesses coming out or any negative attention turned to them</li> <li>8.They have never learned how to control their impulses</li> <li>9.<b data-redactor-tag="b">You might be triggering their deep-rooted insecurities because you are completely different from them</b> - which makes them trying hard to compete and also try to control you</li> <li>10.They are xenophobic and wants to control you - anyway anyhow </li> <li>11.Because of their insecurities, anxieties and fears they have become sadists</li> <li>12.They don't have sophisticated and polished social skills and accidentally do little things to offend people </li> <li>13.They may be feeling socially anxious</li> <li>14.They have very poor sense of humor and don't have empathy to know when they are crossing line of respect and decency</li> <li>15.They might be using a technique which worked in another group but is inappropriate in this current situation</li> <li>16.They have a real mean, vile and evil streak</li> <li>17.They get feedback from their YES people who always shower praise on their bad behaviors - reinforcing this behavior more</li> <li>18.They're insecure, and try to feel better about themselves by putting others down</li> <li>19.They are insecure and know that they will be rejected sooner or later - so are on attack mode to cause irreparable damage</li> <li>20.They see certain people as a threat and competition and use all tools to undermine them</li> <li>21.They are generally unhappy and feel better when they make others miserable </li> <li>22.They are trying to elevate their position by lowering others</li> <li>23.They feel inadequate at confronting some people directly - that is why they go on direct as well as passive -aggressive attack</li> <li>24.Because they were rejected and failed earlier - so they feel great to be in a position where they can cause damage to others</li> <li>25.Their deep emotional insecurities have made them put-up a facade of false sense of superiority - which they show it by being belittling, critical, and dismissive</li> <li>26.They are convinced that the way to be popular is to act like a jerk</li> <li>27.They believe they need to attack all those whom they don't respect or agree with </li> <li>28.They have multiple psychological disorders - But being a powerful position - it is getting increasingly toxic - because of vile and power hungry supporters</li></ul><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">6 major reason Why people Fall For assholes and jerks</b></p><ul><li>1.<b data-redactor-tag="b">In the heart of heart of most of the insecure people</b> - bad boys seems so darn attractive - because they want to get the limelight the <b data-redactor-tag="b">assholes and jerks are getting</b> </li> <li>2.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Becoming part of a mob gives them some relief from the feelings of being inadequate</b> - yes the assholes and jerks have their own exclusive club</li> <li>3.They have their own agenda - getting power and satisfying their greed</li> <li>4.Might have criminal intent</li> <li>5.Are highly insecure and the only way they can feel better is by joining a mob</li> <li>6.<b data-redactor-tag="b">By Being an asshole and jerk - satisfies some of the needs to belong and reduces their emotional pain</b> by being able to act out their hidden regrets hurt or shame </li></ul><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">48 Warning Signs You are Dating or dealing with a Jerk</b></p><ul><li>1.This person is making you doubt your own sanity and reality</li> <li>2.This person is eroding your self-esteem, self-worth, self-pride and self-confidence in most negative ways </li> <li>3.He/she does not care or respect your feelings</li> <li>4.Being with this person is always about him/her - your wants and needs and wishes never matter</li> <li>5.You will always feel fearful</li> <li>6.This person disappear and reappear on their convenience</li> <li>7.This person jokes, insults, puts you down in public all the time</li> <li>8.This person laugh at other person's weaknesses and hurt points</li> <li>9.<b data-redactor-tag="b">When challenged - you may notice absence of spine in these people -</b> as they change their tune when confronted by someone with supposedly more power</li> <li>10.They are extremely selfish</li> <li>11.They generally treat - juniors, helpless and weak people badly</li> <li>12.They disregard and disrespect others' healthy boundaries</li> <li>13.They never honor their promise</li> <li>14.They will be perpetually late and completely unapologetic and may cancel plans without informing you</li> <li>15.They always downplay and undermine your major significant accomplishments and always boost about their insignificant ones to glory</li> <li>16.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Many of them can be some or all of</b> being a - narcissist, Megalomaniac, Whatabouter, manipulator and Cockwomble - </li> <li>17.They never accept that they are ever wrong - so will not ever apologize</li> <li>18.They hide their past - BUT - create stories of magnanimous bravery and achievements of their past which nobody other than their supporters see and believe</li> <li>19.You find that you are getting conflicted signals from your heart and brain and you feel thoroughly confused and lost</li> <li>20.They only talk about them - it is always Me, I, Mine and myself for them</li> <li>21.They tell offensive jokes or use offensive language</li> <li>22.They use all techniques to suppress and oppress - they use pushy and intrusive techniques</li> <li>23.They are mean, Manipulative, cunning and extremely opportunist person of most monstrously negative nature </li> <li>24.They are disrespectful to others and their opinions</li> <li>25.They while and complain and blame and make excuse - when get confronted or when they are not getting their way</li> <li>26.They throw tantrums</li> <li>27.They love creating drama</li> <li>28.They make outlandish claims</li> <li>29.They lie and lie and lie</li> <li>30.They make comments that cut other people deeply without any guild, shame or remorse - on </li> <li>31.Making overly-cutting jokes, under the flimsy pretense of, "I'm only kidding around"</li> <li>32.They give backhanded compliments or criticize under the guise of appreciation </li> <li>33.They purposely do something with the intent to annoy others</li> <li>34.They show insult and show contempt for other's opinions, behaviors, or sense of humor</li> <li>35.They share confidential information with the intent to cause hurt and damage</li> <li>36.They bring out other's flaws in front of lots of people publicly</li> <li>37.They try to sabotage other's reputation</li> <li>38.They equate nice-people with stupid - to be used for their objectives</li> <li>39.<b data-redactor-tag="b">They love power as power gets them what they want and then they live the proverb</b> - Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely - becoming even greater jerks</li> <li>40.They get rewarded being a Narcissist</li> <li>41.They find that their Rudeness, their cruelty, their disregard, their insensitivity gets them more Power</li> <li>42.They manaage well without giving any Apology for any mistakes they have made</li> <li>43.They are convinced that their jerkiness makes people love them as people see them as strong</li> <li>44.They enjoy tarnishing other's image to make them seem better</li> <li>45.They use Arguments as their Stress-buster</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">46.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">The more power they crave and the Competition they have gives them energy</b></li> <li>47.They know that saying Does not Get anything to them</li> <li>48.They believe that to look superior - they need to show-off</li></ul><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">44 tips to deal absolute jerks and assholes effectively</b></p><ul><li>1.Trust your gut -Know when to walk away</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">2.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Work on your self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence, self-pride</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">3.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">You may find letting a narcissist jerk very-very hard to let go</b></li> <li>4.Know their psychology - <b data-redactor-tag="b">why a particular jerk is doing what he/she is doing -Confront problematic behavior early and often</b> - because most people avoid confronting a jerk - jerk gain their power</li> <li>5.Understand that <b data-redactor-tag="b">You will have to restart your life by leaving this hurting phase behind</b> - by surrounding yourself with positive people</li> <li>6.Maintain Your Physical Distance, avoid them and ignore them if it is possible</li> <li>7.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Don't Be Quick to Judge - by giving tag of jerk & Asshole to some innocent people</b> because they are behaving erratically due to having real bad time and phase</li> <li>8.Learn to be understanding of people's varying moods and be sympathetic </li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">9.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Don't take it personally - what jerks and assholes say or do - IT is not about you - it is about them</b></li> <li>10.<b data-redactor-tag="b">If you have any people in your life who are constantly exhausting, make you feel bad about yourself - make you feel little and ashamed and insulted and drain you</b> - CUT them out of your life are they are invariably limiting your opportunities for growth, joy, peace and bliss</li> <li>11.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn and Practice Emotional Detachment and disassociation mentally</b>-if you feel like this person gains a sense of joy from making you feel badly about yourself</li> <li>12.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Quit and resign -If the environment where you work encourages the bully-club people</b> to make others feel ashamed, humiliated, disrespected, or de-energized</li> <li>13.<b data-redactor-tag="b">In certain situation you need to fight back but alone can't - create a group of likeminded people to stop suppression and oppression </b>BUTDon't be aggressive or try to get revenge - because <b data-redactor-tag="b">then you will become the jerk and asshole</b> of their levels</li> <li>14.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Don't engage them in arguments and try to beat them you can't as they are the masters in this game</b> - INSTEAD - Prove Them Wrong in deed and actions</li> <li>15.Work Toward Creating a Jerk-Free Environment</li> <li>16.Stop paying any attention to these vampires</li> <li>17.Learn to recognize the jerks and assholes and their tactics early - so as to avoid getting in their traps</li> <li>18.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Lay low to prevent getting caught in jerk's radar - although you could be highly talented, accomplished and productive</b> - especially if a jerk is your senior - till you find a better opportunity to move on</li> <li>19.If any jerk upsets you - think about how harmful it would to you and your loved ones if you let that emotion drive your actions</li> <li>20.<b data-redactor-tag="b">In case you can't avoid them - play strategically to make you look like their well-wishers when these petty tyrants the people</b> in low-prestige positions with some power over your current fate</li> <li>21.Wait them out while you keep building allies and you keep documenting</li> <li>22.Learn intelligent comebacks - which have the double meaning only intelligent people will understand and not the jerks</li> <li>23.Identify create and enforce healthy emotional boundaries</li> <li>24.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Never engage in arguments with an assholes - they will beat you hands-down - for two reasons - one You can never win in such engagements </b>- and 2nd don't teach a pig to play flute - as it wastes your time and it annoys the pig</li> <li>25.Confront the jerk in private is a better alternative</li> <li>26.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to identify jerks, morons and Identify idiots early – never try to change them as they will never change</b> -so don't waste your time and energy</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">27.</b>Never take any idiot personally – <b data-redactor-tag="b">they might now be attacking you - they probably are just being idiots</b></li> <li>28.Never argue with idiots – it will always backfire to you</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">29.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Never try to explain your sound logic or try to reason with them – their idiot logic is all what they understand</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">30.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Understand that it only takes another moron to please one idiot – if you are not an idiot yourself DON'T even try to please them</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">31.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Never expect idiots to appreciate your intelligence and your bright ideas</b> – they feel they know it better and <b data-redactor-tag="b">that you are the moron</b></li> <li>32.Learn to never let any idiot trigger you into foolish actions and behaviors</li> <li>33.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Understand that depending on where you live, work and socialize – you would encounter few of them every day</b> – unless it is important an unavoidable – don't let them near you</li> <li>34.<b data-redactor-tag="b">If you have A Jerk boss - always identify how much dependent you are on this job and how long you may take to get another or better job</b> -Consider creating changes in your own tactics, mindset and behaviors -This step applies to unrepentant jerks who are in powerful positions</li> <li>35.If you're a boss -<b data-redactor-tag="b">don't wait for people to complain before you take action on jerks -</b>Take a good, long look in the mirror - whether you - yourself are the real jerk</li> <li>36.<b data-redactor-tag="b">It is always possible that you are the bigger jerk - but then BIGGEST</b>-jerks don't have the empathy to know that they themselves are the jerks</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">37.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Identify if you have crossed the line of basic decency and respect - make amends</b></li> <li>38.Admit you are not perfect -Commit to behaving differently -Monitor your behavior </li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">39.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Identify which person, situation or you own mental-emotional state - triggers your jerk behavior </b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">40.</b>Ask how you would feel if someone did the same to you <b data-redactor-tag="b">-Be more thoughtful about how you playfully tease people </b></li> <li>41.Learn to Act with compassion and kindness - Treat others with kindness, respect, love. </li> <li>42.Focus on what you can control -Stop making excuses</li> <li>43.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Understand that if you want to be a great leader - you can't focus on always being liked by others</b> - as Always being liked comes with high level negative consequences</li> <li>44.<b data-redactor-tag="b">You need to become respectable rather than likable</b> -<b data-redactor-tag="b">Clarify Expectations for behaviors, performance or attitude -Be Consistent -Relate to your expectations consistently</b> - If you are consistent, people around you also learn to be consistent.</li></ul><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">16 Little Ways You Act Like a Jerk and Don't Even Know It - How you treat other people is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself</b></p><ul><li>1.When you see your dog pooping on the sidewalk - you ignore and walk away</li> <li>2.You post selfies and party photos on hourly basis</li> <li>3.You don't return greetings of others </li> <li>4.You don't feel it is good to wish others</li> <li>5.You keep looking at your mobile while talking with others</li> <li>6.You use technical jargons that you know perfectly other people won't understand</li> <li>7.You show-off all the time</li> <li>8.You pretend to be someone else</li> <li>9.You project your insecurities on others</li> <li>10.You are a Cockwomble</li> <li>11.You are a Hypocrite</li> <li>12.You talk with your speaker phone in public</li> <li>13.You watch videos and listen to music in full volume in public places</li> <li>14.You feel proud breaking rules and law</li> <li>15.You either shake hands as if doing a favor listlessly OR as a wrestle trying to break their fingers</li> <li>16.You only talk about yourself all the time</li></ul><div>#signsofjerks, #signsofassholes, #howtodealwithassholesandjerks, #warningsignsyouaredatingajerk, #warningsignsyouaredealingwithassholes, #psychologyofjerksandassholes, #whypeoplefallforjerks&assholes, #checkifyouareactingasanasshole, #definitionofassholes, #whoarejerks<span class="redactor-invisible-space"></span><br></div>