<p><span>In this article you will learn the following</span><br></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">9 qualities of Realistic-optimists</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-7 traits of Un-realists optimists & People with Pollyanna-concept</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-4 tell-tale signs of Pessimists</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-35 tips on How to be optimistic-realists</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">For the optimum emotional wellbeing of yours and exponential growth in every area of your life</b> [professionally, financially, relationship-wise, mentally etc.] - <b data-redactor-tag="b">You have to be optimistic about your biggest and most audacious dreams</b> - BUT - <b data-redactor-tag="b">be realistic about the action-steps you have to take and things you will have to do to get there</b>.</p> <ul><li><b data-redactor-tag="b">1.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">9 qualities of Realistic-optimists </b></li> <li>I.Realistic optimists accept the situations and their circumstances - just as they are. </li> <li>II.Realistic optimists work hard and do as much as they can to obtain the desired results while remaining cautiously hopeful of favorable outcomes.</li> <li>III.Realistic optimists get better grades - because they understand that good grades don't come without studying and working hard.</li> <li>IV.Irrespective of their situation - realistic optimists generally manage to be happy. </li> <li>V.Realistic optimists believed they had more self-control and control over their interpersonal relationships.</li> <li>VI.When Realistic optimists face tough challenging situation or a difficult problem - instead of giving up - they use their creativity to create alternative solutions and plans - which allows them to stay cheery and upbeat about the future - even if they are aware of the challenges of the present.</li> <li>VII.Realistic optimist are more likely to feel - more anxious than their completely unrealistic peers- because they understand and accept the possibility of failure.</li> <li>VIII.Realistic and unrealistic optimists are of very different personality types</li> <li>IX.Realistic optimists send out more job applications, find the courage to approach potential romantic partners, and work harder on their rehabilitation exercises—in each case, leading to much higher success rates.</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">2.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">7 traits of Un-realists optimists </b></li> <li>I.Un-realists optimists believe that it will all turn out well in the end - and may not do what is needed to accomplish their goals.</li> <li>II.Un-realists optimists use positive illusions to ease their anxiety</li> <li>III.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Un-realistic optimists are only too happy to tell you that you are being negative</b> - when you express concerns and challenges that needs to be addressed.</li> <li>IV.Looking for the silver lining is healthy - but ignoring reality is self-destructive.</li> <li>V.Un-realistic optimists get easily disappointed if they're always assuming good things will happen. </li> <li>VI.Un-realistic optimist's overly optimistic outlook leaves them unprepared for life's inevitable challenges that everyone encounters.</li> <li>VII.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Then there are People with Pollyanna-concept - who have irrepressible optimism and a tendency to find good in everything</b> - which makes them unable to ever see - the downside of their situations - <b data-redactor-tag="b">these people become foolish entrepreneurs</b> -they believe that no matter what happens, things will always work out - but they don't do anything to make things work out -They just stay the same course - assuming that because they have a vision of success, it is going to happen - that is why almost 80% business wind-up in first 3 years.</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">3.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">4 tell-tale signs of Pessimists </b></li> <li>I.Pessimists tend to have more depression and anxieties.</li> <li>II.Pessimists are afraid of taking risks - scared of trying new things - resist going out of their comfort zone. </li> <li>III.Pessimists only foresee obstacles but are unable to seeing themselves finding solutions to those obstacles. </li> <li>IV.Pessimists fail to recognize that by struggling - people can learn and improve - because their view is limited to only what is possible right now - so they can't imagine what can become possible later.</li> <li></li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">35 tips on How to be optimistic-realists </b></p><p>All the one sentence tips have detailed do-it-yourself tips in my 900+ articles, blogs and answers in my both websites as well as on my Quora page</p> <ul><li>1.Develop habit of focusing on positive things - <b data-redactor-tag="b">start the practice of going through what all went well that day</b> - every day </li> <li>2.You will have challenges and setbacks in your everyday life - <b data-redactor-tag="b">create the habit and mindset of getting into exploring alternatives and possibilities and creating multiple solutions to move forward towards your larger goals</b> - instead of dwelling on you hardships</li> <li>3.Choose to surround yourself with practical, positive and generally happy </li> <li>4.<b data-redactor-tag="b">If possible be with people who are smarter and more intelligent and more successful </b>than you and those who challenge you to do better and people who are doers rather than talkers</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">5.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Make excellence your base - whenever you do anything do it exceptionally - giving your 100%</b></li> <li>6.Smile at others - time to time recall happy memorable incidents and smile yourself</li> <li>7.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Create your own mantra, affirmations and battle-cry - use them loud or in your head</b> - whenever you feel lost, losing control or slipping into negative mood</li> <li>8.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Understand that law of attraction -does not work without your taking all the actions </b>and going through the grind completely </li> <li>9.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Use visualization techniques - along with taking persistent actions</b> - to get yourself unstuck </li> <li>10.Never use visualizing effortless success - it is damaging</li> <li>11.Don't visualize empty-success—but <b data-redactor-tag="b">learn to visualize the actions and the steps you will take in order to make success</b> happen</li> <li>12.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Optimism and the confidence are essential sustaining the motivation you need to reach your goals</b> - that is why believing you will succeed is very-very important</li> <li>13.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Be the Realistic optimist by making your success happen yourself—through</b> putting dedicated disciplined efforts, careful and meticulous planning, persistence, and choosing the right strategies and pivoting when stuck by improvising</li> <li>14.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Whenever you are going for a big goals - identify all the challenges, obstacles and setbacks</b> that may derail your journey - then create plan on how you will overcome these</li> <li>15.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Believe that the road to grand success will be rocky but that you have the will to see you through till the end</b> - while developing and learning and improving yourself on the way</li> <li>16.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Cultivate your realistic optimism by combining a positive</b> attitude with an honest assessment of the challenges that await you.</li> <li>17.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Never let Your Desire to See the Good - Blind You to the Truth</b> - like - Trusting an untrustworthy person or becoming victimized by a master manipulator will leave you feeling cheated and a fool</li> <li>18.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Accept that when you notice others</b> - when they lie or when they make poor choices or when they display bad attitude and treats people poorly - doesn't make you a pessimist - it makes you a realist </li> <li>19.<b data-redactor-tag="b">It is good to see the good in others - but recognizing that everyone has both good and bad qualities</b> and be open to seeing the whole picture in balance is so much more meaningful</li> <li>20.Identify, accept and Acknowledge Your Strengths - But neither Overestimate nor underestimate Your Abilities</li> <li>21.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Avoid showing-off - instead focus on sharpening</b> your skills, abilities, capabilities and competences </li> <li>22.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Keep noticing your strengths - while also discovering the areas of improvement</b> - No matter how good you might be - there is always room for growth towards superlatives</li> <li>23.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Don't Confuse Positive Thinking with miracles</b> - that is expecting that you will get the job just because you applied and probably have the required qualifications</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">24.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Create a plan for normal situation - but also have a plan for worst-case scenario</b></li> <li>25.Don't Ignore Reality - <b data-redactor-tag="b">develop the resilience to face truth, handle rejection and criticism</b> </li> <li>26.Accept that in all larger than life goals - <b data-redactor-tag="b">way forward is filled with many failures - learn to bounce-back from failures</b></li> <li>27.Practice Mindfulness - <b data-redactor-tag="b">by Sitting quietly - Closing your eyes -Focusing on your breathing -Slowly becoming aware of sounds, sensations and thoughts flowing through your mind - </b>Letting these thought pass through </li> <li>28.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Develop belief in your power to make good things happen, especially through roughest and toughest phases and circumstances</b></li> <li>29.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Be an action-person and doer</b> - Identify a realistic action step to help you through changes</li> <li>30.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Understand that the buck stops with you - only you are responsible for coming out of your misery, setbacks, bad-luck, crisis and other tough situations</b> - so take actions to mitigate</li> <li>31.Observe and become aware of and then adjust your patterns of thinking</li> <li>32.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Do not underestimate challenges - but create the habit of looking into the future by taking</b> next step when you are scared</li> <li>33.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Accept that changes and disruptions will happen</b> - Covid19 has taught us that</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">34.</b>Keep yourself informed - <b data-redactor-tag="b">but limit media intake - especially avoid Indian news channels</b></li> <li>35.Develop and <b data-redactor-tag="b">master the art of Self-control</b></li></ul><div><b><br></b></div><div><b>#realisticoptimists, #unrealistoptimists, #pessimists, #<b data-redactor-tag="b">optimisticrealists, #howtobeoptimisticrealists, #howtoberealistoptimists, #signsofpessimists, #traitsofUnrealistoptimists, #qualitiesofRealisticoptimists</b><span class="redactor-invisible-space"></span><br></b></div>