Revolutionize Your Paradigm To Have A Permanent Affairs With Change To Dump Stress, Frustrations & Irritations Of Life

Have You Ever Wondered – Why We Get Annoyed/Angry, What Makes Us Frustrated Or Irritated & Causes Our Stress.

What Instigates Stress, Anger, Frustrations, Irritation, Negative Feelings About People/Situation => Can Be Attributed To The Following Main 6 Causes

1. Our Expectations That The Others Will Act The Way We Want
2. Becoming Concerned About What Others Think Of You
3. Expecting Others To Appreciate, Admire & Respect You
4. Difficulty In Accepting Change, Fighting With The Change & Not Feeling Comfortable With Change
5. Our Deep-Seated Romance With The Notion – "Lived Happily Ever After"
6. Expecting Positive Changes BUT Without Changing The Way We Think/Belief/ Act

Only A Minuscule Minority Among Us Acts Pro-Actively - Rest Of Us Are Normally Reactive To Situations & People.

The Right Paradigm Is To Constantly Anticipate VUCA[Volatile/Uncertain/ Complex/Ambiguous] Changes In All Aspects Of Life + Gearing Up/Unlearning-Learning-Re-Learning To Meet The Anticipated + Falling In Love With The Change Itself.

Very Tall Order – But Like All Things In Life Has Profoundly Simple Way.

• Why Change Is Difficult To Face & Adjust

1. Fear of Loss Of Status Or Feeling Of Insecurity
2. We View Them As Harmful
3. We Do Not Think It Is Worth The Efforts
4. Fear Of The Unknown.
5. Peer Pressure.
6. We Do Not Trust Ourselves
7. Fear Of Failure.
8. Misunderstanding About Why Should We Change- Especially When The Reason Is Not Clear Change Is Unclear
9. Lack Of Competence
10. Hopelessly In Love With Our Old Ways
11. When We Believe That This Change A Fad/Temporary
12. We Feel Mentally/Emotionally/Physically Exhausted
13. We Think It's Not Enjoyable
14. We Keep Postponing Taking Initiative
15. Poor Self-Image
16. Identifying Your Behavior With Yourself => "This Is What Who I Am"
17. Not Taking Personal Responsibility & Making Yourself Accountable And Blaming Others - Sometimes Linking Your Actions With Other's Action
18. Not Able to Write-off Your Investment - When You Have Spent A Great Deal Of Time In A Situation ,e.g. Relationship, Job; - You Feel Difficult To Write-Off & Walk Away
19. You Do Not Really Want To Change
20. Out Of Respect For The Other Person, You Are Willing To Go Through The Motions.
21. You Find Everything is Different & Difficult – We View The World From The Perspective of An Ant
22. More Work Frustrates Us - Change Is Indeed More Work
23. Follow-Through Effects Of Others – Either Perceived Or Real – Keeps Us Away From Taking Action To Change
24. The Ghosts Of The Past – Our Earlier Experience Keeps Us From Changing

• What To Can Be Done

1. Ask Yourself => Do You Take Initiative Or Do You React To The Events/People + Normally Do You Take An Active Or Passive Role + Do You Only Concentrate On The Current Nor Your Actions Are Based On Future + Do You Make Decisions Only When You Are Forced Or Do You Make Conscious Decisions
2. We Have To Start Believing => A Famous Quote "Future Is Not What It Used To Be" – Contrary To The Saying That History Repeats Itself => The Future Will Never Be Exactly Same As Per Our Expectations Or Experiences Of Past
3. Envisage - Sit Quietly & Think About All

• The Result You Don't Want But Getting And Ask Yourself What Behaviors Or Habits Are Causing That Result => The Ask Again Whether The Habits Your Behavior Are Worth The Pain
• What Changes You Can Foresee In Your Important Relationship – With Your Parents/Spouse/Kids/Boss
• What Changes You Anticipate In Your Age, Health, Maturity
• What Would Be Different In Your Profession, Business, Market
• What Type Of Financial Liabilities You May Encounter
• What Types Beliefs/Attitudes/Mindset Gives You Negative Results Or Outcome

4. Note Down

• What Specific Results You Want In Each Area Of Your Life
• What Competencies/Behavior/Attitude/Belief/Habits You Need To Develop To Get This Results
• What Would Be The Ultimate Results You Will Get If You Inculcate These "(B)"S In You
• Write Down The Priority Of Inculcating Change As Per The Results You Are Most Passionate About.
• Create A Realistic Timeline For Actions Towards Achieving
• Make A List Of People Who Will Support You In This

5. Create Urgency => WHY NOW – What Would Be The Losses In You Do Not Change

6. Set Up & Organize Links With People/Institutes/Website – From Where You Will Draw The Support/Knowledge/Counseling/Guidance/Mentoring/ Directions Etc Etc

7. Start Taking Action On Daily Basis

8. Create A Simple Single Page Monthly 1-31 Sheet for Reviewing, Monitoring & Improvisation/Correction Sheet

9. Create A Celebration & Reward Mechanism at Regular Intervals