Problematic Relationship Patterns and Personalities

Problematic Relationship Patterns & Personalities of People which Creates Problems in Our Relationships

Continuing from PROBLEMATIC RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS

http://relationshipandhappiness.com/relationship/marriage-issues/relationship-patterns.html

Now this is about you, how you might be making others miserable [especially those who are closest to you & really care for you]

1.We may often feel that energies, mood are dependent on others
2.We do not recognize or acknowledge that everyone has their ups and downs
3.We take others for granted
4.We may have a feeling of having the right for fulfillment of our entitlements as & that becomes the only focus in any relationship & we do it in sly way
5.We never can feel or accept that we may be wrong as we are scared to confront ourselves & understand our own thoughts, emotions and feelings
6.We enjoy the rewards of playing victim & blaming others comes naturally to us
7.We always relate that our happiness comes from others & that if we are not happy it has nothing to do with us, that is why blaming others comes very easy to us
8.We are totally undisciplined, when it comes to managing our emotions in a constructive way & the only way we know is to throw tantrums
9.We always judge others & criticism based on our perception, is the way we have learned to project these judgment on others
10.We are a poor listener & have a great filter of Ego on while listening
11.We have this need to be always right
12.We are insensitive to other's need of support & understanding in time of their crisis
13.We often use other's Vulnerability to our advantage
14.We use our power & hold over them to punish
15.We just become aloof, silent & uncommunicative, where an open communication can build the relationship. We may be doing this intentionally
16.We may never forgive others & drag the history again & again
17.We impose on others by demanding so much attention & their time, that they do not have space for growth
18.We indulge in Manipulations, Deceit and Secrets warfare
19.We try to act as martyrs all time, even claiming the crown for insignificant things, actions & gestures
20.We demand love instead of earning it while making our partner feel imprisoned by expectations
21.We may be prone to violence either in outbursts or even physically
22.We may withhold love & sex
23.We are too touchy or sensitive to little things because we may have developed a big ego due to our deep insecurities

MATURE RELATIONSHIPS, There is a relative lack of judgment and there are relatively few nonnegotiable rigid expectations.

It takes a strong intent and self-discipline to change our deep-rooted habits. Please read the articles on both our websites especially http://www.marriagesexlove.com/ for issues based tips to solve your relationship problems

Traits of Empath - How overly sensitive people or Empaths suffer – THE Complete FOLLOWING IS TAKEN FROM THE INTERNET

Empath is a person with the paranormal ability to perceive the mental or emotional state of another individual.

If you are too sensitive then you might be killing yourself in the relationship

1. Knowing: Empaths just know stuff, without being told. It's a knowing that goes way beyond intuition or gut feelings, even though that is how many would describe the knowing. The more attuned they are the stronger this gift becomes.

2. Being in public places can be overwhelming: Places like shopping malls, supermarkets or stadiums where there are lots of people around can fill the empath with turbulently vexed emotions that are coming from others.

3. Feeling others emotions and taking them on as your own: This is a huge one for empaths. To some they will feel emotions off those near by and with others they will feel emotions from those a vast distance away, or both. The more adept empath will know if someone is having bad thoughts about them, even from great distance.

4. Watching violence, cruelty or tragedy on the TV is unbearable: The more attuned an empath becomes the worse it is and may make it so they eventually have to stop watching TV and reading newspapers altogether.

5. You know when someone is not being honest: If a friend or a loved one is telling you lies you know it (although many empaths try not to focus on this because knowing a loved one is lying can be painful). Or if someone is saying one thing but feeling/thinking another, you know.

6. Picking up physical symptoms off another: An empath will almost always develop the ailments off another (colds, eye infections, body aches and pains) especially those they're closest to, somewhat like sympathy pains.

7. Digestive disorders and lower back problems: The solar plexus chakra is based in the centre of the abdomen and it's known as the seat of emotions. This is where empaths feel the incoming emotion of another, which can weaken the area and eventually lead to anything from stomach ulcers to IBS (too many other conditions to list here). Lower back problems can develop from being ungrounded (amongst other things) and one, who has no knowledge of them being an empath, will almost always be ungrounded.

8. Always looking out for the underdog: Anyone whose suffering, in emotional pain or being bullied draws an empath's attention and compassion.

9. Others will want to offload their problems on you, even strangers: An empath can become a dumping ground for everyone else's issues and problems, which, if they're not careful can end up as their own.

10. Constant fatigue: Empaths often get drained of energy, either from energy vampires or just taking on too much from others, which even sleep will not cure. Many get diagnosed with ME.

11. Addictive personality: Alcohol, drugs, sex, are to name but a few addictions that empaths turn to, to block out the emotions of others. It is a form of self protection in order to hide from someone or something.

12. Drawn to healing, holistic therapies and all things metaphysical: Although many empaths would love to heal others they can end up turning away from being healers (even though they have a natural ability for it), after they've studied and qualified, because they take on too much from the one they are trying to heal. Especially if they are unaware of their empathy. Anything of a supernatural nature is of interest to empaths and they don't surprise or get shocked easily.

13. Creative: From singing, dancing, acting, drawing or writing an empath will have a strong creative streak and a vivid imagination.

14. Love of nature and animals: Being outdoors in nature is a must for empaths and pets are an essential part of their life.

15. Need for solitude: An empath will go stir-crazy if they don't get quiet time. This is even obvious in empathic children.

16. Gets bored or distracted easily if not stimulated: Work, school and home life has to be kept interesting for an empath or they switch off from it and end up daydreaming or doodling.

17. Finds it impossible to do things they don't enjoy: As above. Feels like they are living a lie by doing so. To force an empath to do something they dislike through guilt or labelling them as idle will only serve in making them unhappy. It's for this reason many empaths get labelled as being lazy.

18. Strives for the truth: This becomes more prevalent when an empath discovers his/her gifts and birthright. Anything untruthful feels plain wrong.

19. Always looking for the answers and knowledge: To have unanswered questions can be frustrating for an empath and they will endeavour to find an explanation. If they have a knowing about something they will look for confirmation. The downside to this is an information overload.

20. Likes adventure, freedom and travel: Empaths are free spirits.

21. Abhors clutter: It makes an empath feel weighed down and blocks the flow of energy.

22. Loves to daydream: An empath can stare into space for hours, in a world of their own and blissfully happy.

23. Finds routine, rules or control, imprisoning: Anything that takes away their freedom is debilitating to an empath even poisoning.

24. Prone to carry weight without necessarily overeating: The excess weight is a form of protection to stop the negative incoming energies having as much impact.

25. Excellent listener: An empath won't talk about themselves much unless it's to someone they really trust. They love to learn and know about others and genuinely care.

26. Intolerance to narcissism: Although kind and often very tolerant of others, empaths do not like to be around overly egotistical people, who put themselves first and refuse to consider another's feelings or points of view other than their own.

27. The ability to feel the days of the week: An empath will get the 'Friday Feeling' if they work Fridays or not. They pick up on how the collective are feeling. The first couple of days of a long, bank holiday weekend (Easter for example) can feel, to them, like the world is smiling, calm and relaxed. Sunday evenings, Mondays and Tuesdays, of a working week, have a very heavy feeling.

28. Will not choose to buy antiques, vintage or second-hand: Anything that's been pre-owned carries the energy of the previous owner. An empath will even prefer to have a brand new car or house (if they are in the financial situation to do so) with no residual energy.

29. Sense the energy of food: Many empaths don't like to eat meat or poultry because they can feel the vibrations of the animal (especially if the animal suffered), even if they like the taste.

30. Can appear moody, shy, aloof, disconnected: Depending on how an empath is feeling will depend on what face they show to the world. They can be prone to mood swings and if they've taken on too much negative will appear quiet and unsociable, even miserable. An empath detests having to pretend to be happy when they're sad, this only adds to their load (makes working in the service industry, when it's service with a smile, very challenging) and can make them feel like scuttling under a stone.