<ul><p>In this article you will learn the following</p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">16 Traits of people with stable self-identity</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">3 Examples of highly-confident people - who have very healthy and positive self-Identity</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">50+ tips on how to strengthen your self-identity </b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">60+ traits of people with extreme to severe-identity-crisis - check what applies to you</b> - not all is applicable to you as many of these points are given for the extreme case [<b data-redactor-tag="b">if you read the list - you will find them matching with few people and organizations you are familiar with - including the celebrities</b>]</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Are you having identity-crisis - How to deal with your identity-crisis - strengthening your self-identity</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Our self-identity gets created, developed and reinforced - through - the experiences we go through, all the memories recorded in our brain, how we relate to various situations and people </b>PLUS the <b data-redactor-tag="b">beliefs and values which gets imbibed in our core-being</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Our self-identity determines</b> - <b data-redactor-tag="b">how we define ourselves and how aware we are about our</b> hopes, desires, goals, ambitions, likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, our choices and our preferences - <b data-redactor-tag="b">and the health of our EGO</b>.</p><p>Developing <b data-redactor-tag="b">a healthy sense of self or self-identity is an essential part of becoming emotional-mature.</b></p><p>Not <b data-redactor-tag="b">having a strong sense of self may lead to anxiety and various emotional-insecurities and other psychological-issues</b>. </p><p>Largest number of people are those [the crowd or the majority] - <b data-redactor-tag="b">who are unsure, insecure, wants to belong to a group to lean on to feel a false sense of security through belonging.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Identity-crisis or identity-confusion happens when a person loses the way they used to define themselves</b> - like someone who strongly identifies with his/her job will suffer from a severe identity crisis if he gets fired OR <b data-redactor-tag="b">Someone with codependency may rely on others for their happiness</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">The only way to avoid an identity crisis is to not identify with temporary things at all. </b></p><p>When your self-worth is fragile - <b data-redactor-tag="b">you start identifying and attaching yourself with temporary insignificant things AND also vice-versa.</b></p><p>Most of our <b data-redactor-tag="b">identity-confusion stems from our deep-rooted extreme emotional-insecurities.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">The number of people who are fully at-ease, comfortable being themselves, confident and blissful - are in very-very small and minute - minority.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">60+ traits of people with extreme to severe-identity-crisis - check what applies to you</b> - not all is applicable to you as many of these points are given for the extreme case [<b data-redactor-tag="b">if you read the list - you will find them matching with few people and organizations you are familiar with - including the celebrities</b>]</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">But if you feel even 5-7 matches then you need to start working on yourself - almost all gospel like suggestions given here as preaching have separate and detailed do it yourself articles in our both the websites</b></p> <ul><li>1.You lie a lot most of the time - to create great impressions about yourself</li> <li>2.You believe your own lies</li> <li>3.You thrive on spreading rumors and misinformation through gossip and social-media</li> <li>4.You take help of external insignificant things to impress others like - wearing expensive dresses-watches, cars and other materialistic things</li> <li>5.Because your need to become part of something is very compelling - you become part of religious-cult, vigilante-group, nationalistic-organization, fascistic-group, radical, extremist and terrorist groups</li> <li>6.You are basically a coward - but when in group of similar minded people - you acquire the role of the bravest person in the world</li> <li>7.Although you use social-media for spreading hate and misinformation and lies - you are scared to death to face media in real-life</li> <li>8.You look for validation, approval and recognition from others - so much so that - this becomes your core focus</li> <li>9.Although you hate people who have real education, accomplishments, caliber, competence, qualities etc. - you are actually in awe of these same people and that is why you put them down so vehemently</li> <li>10. You philosophy - is to shorten the line of others - instead of making your line bigger</li> <li>11. You are not a learner but you believe that you are know it all - so you have opinion about everything</li> <li>12. Because your knowledge is questionable - you fall on to the mythologies and past- to seek your personal glory</li> <li>13. You try to use your power to make your supporters thrive by stepping on and suppressing others and taking away their rights</li> <li>14. You are not open to having yourself exposed to face critiquing and criticism</li> <li>15. You surround yourself with people who revere you - so it goes without saying that - they are even more incompetent</li> <li>16. You normally don't have any moral or scruples</li> <li>17. You want to take credit for everything good - even if your contribution is nil or maybe even negative</li> <li>18. You want to blame others - for everything gone wrong </li> <li>19. You are into social-media - to troll and criticize and put-down- people who are opposed to your philosophies</li> <li>20. You are living your life being someone else - if you can see objectively - you may find that this someone you ae trying to live like - is someone you show your anger</li> <li>21. You are generally incompetent - have less schooling - and are even less knowledgeable but you are a show-off master </li> <li>22. You don't want others to know the truth and cover-it up with all the means</li> <li>23. When everyone who questions - is your enemy only to be made into your supporter or banished-tormented-destroyed-persecuted</li> <li>24. You and your supporters create and live in a disillusioned and make-believe world </li> <li>25. You biggest argument in showing your accomplishments is pulling others down</li> <li>26. You slowly become your mission - of eliminating all those you presume as your enemies - using all the power and your influence</li> <li>27. All people who don't accept your point of view - blindly are your enemies</li> <li>28. You start pulling down - what meaningful things others have built and which gets admired</li> <li>29. You try to incite mob mindset</li> <li>30. You just bulldoze to have your ways - almost all the time </li> <li>31. You only give-in to others when under extreme threat or as a strategic retreat</li> <li>32. You use religion, myth, fiction and politics - instead of facing facts and science and scientific data</li> <li>33. You have a fear of experts and established qualified people</li> <li>34. You try to break the institutions</li> <li>35. You want others to follow you blindly</li> <li>36. You suppress - every voice that questions and challenges</li> <li>37. You use your power to harm and destruct - rather than build and create</li> <li>38. You surround only those people - who either are of similar psychological- issues or find their identity in associating with you</li> <li>39. You are very highly-egoist, hard-headed, arrogant, mean-minded</li> <li>40. You don't have patience to understand</li> <li>41. You don't any empathy and can't understand the damage and pain you are creating for others</li> <li>42. You could have used your power to actually create long-lasting impact and could have had accomplishments of huge-proportions - but you used that power and influence to break and destroy everything that you could</li> <li>43. You don't have any plan for the future no any solutions for real challenges and problems you are facing </li> <li>44. You are a master of pulling wool over eyes to distract and divert attentions from your mistakes</li> <li>45. Your biggest weapon is attacking someone's integrity and character</li> <li>46. You just don't have any pain or regret over what catastrophic destruction you have caused - in fact you might be gloating-over your blunders proudly</li> <li>47. You are extremely jealous of other's accomplishments and others success bothers you too much - so you downplay and instead project your own non-achievements through bragging </li> <li>48. Someone with delusions of grandeur might believe they are a spiritual figure or a celebrity. </li> <li>49. You don't like being asked about yourself.</li> <li>50. You get bored easily.</li> <li>51. Your relationships don't run deep</li> <li>52. Deep down you don't trust yourself</li> <li>53. You don't trust others</li> <li>54. You can't have intimate relationship or any strong relationships</li> <li>55. You are extremely sensitive to criticism</li> <li>56. Your emotions change quickly and suddenly</li> <li>57. You have a strong fear of abandonment</li> <li>58. Thee was probably a trauma in your past, like sexual abuse</li> <li>59. You might have what is called 'borderline personality disorder' (bpd) or 'emotionally unstable personality disorder'. </li> <li>60. You are convinced that everyone is against you</li> <li>61. You're unsure of who you are, either in general or in connection to a specific element of your life, such as relationships, age, or profession.</li> <li>62. You're having a lot of turmoil on the inside because you're not sure who you are or what your place in society is.</li> <li>63. You're doubting your values, faith, beliefs, interests, or job choice, all of which have a significant influence on how you view yourself.</li> <li>64. You're looking for a deeper sense of purpose, cause, or passion in your life.</li> <li>65. Reduced motivation and indifference toward education, job, and life in general</li> <li>66. Suffering from a sense of foreboding about the future</li> <li>67. Feeling depressed, which might include melancholy, changes in appetite, mood, ability to focus, and interest in previously pleasant activities.</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">16 Traits of people with stable self-identity</b></p> <ul><li>1.You know what you want</li> <li>2.You know what you don't like and what you like</li> <li>3.You are clear about your goals, dreams, desires, wants & the difference between all these</li> <li>4.You know when to stop and when to go on full steam</li> <li>5.You have clear principals, standards, values</li> <li>6.You maintain healthy personal boundaries</li> <li>7.You take responsibility for your actions, decisions and consequences</li> <li>8.You do most of the things with clear understanding</li> <li>9.More or less you live your life - being genuinely yourself</li> <li>10. Other's comments, criticism and rejections - don't affect you for long </li> <li>11. You overcome your disappointments </li> <li>12. You have very few regrets</li> <li>13. You can express your views comfortably</li> <li>14. You respect others because you respect yourself</li> <li>15. You don't take-away other's right neither you let anyone take away yours</li> <li>16. You are assertive and can say NO comfortably</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">3 Examples of highly-confident people - who have very healthy and positive self-Identity</b></p> <ul><li>1.There is a story about <b data-redactor-tag="b">Rahul Dravid</b> of refusing the honorary doctorate degree by a university - with acknowledging that his wife got her medical degree only after decades of countless, sleepless nights and days and that his mother who is a professor reached this stage only with years of perseverance - and that although he has put lots of hard work and practice in cricket - he did not study that much to deserve a doctorate.</li> <li>2.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Einstein</b> was offered the Prime-Minister-ship by the then Israeli government - who refused by saying that he is an inexperienced student of physics and that what he understands about the governance and administration of a state </li> <li>3.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam</b> - who is one of the most distinguished Presidents of India so far - had almost no materialistic assets - although his academic and research accomplishments awesome are jaw-dropping</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">50+ tips on how to strengthen your self-identity </b></p><p>Build on your strengths. Identify the areas in your life in which you excel, and take time to develop and build on those strengths.</p> <ul><li>1.Try new things to discover what you like. Think about your passions and interests. Brainstorm some ideas around things that excite you.</li> <li>2.Make commitments and set goals. While you can set goals in any part of your life, consider thinking about some common areas like health, career, finances, and education.</li> <li>3.Participate in activities that are related to your interests. Whether church events or clubs for sports, take the initiative to become part of something that interests you.</li> <li>4.Think about the qualities and characteristics that define you as you are today</li> <li>5.Examine your values. What is most important to you -what principles define how you live</li> <li>6.Assess whether those qualities and values have changed over the course of your life, or remained fairly constant. Whether or not they have changed, examine why that has been the case</li> <li>7.Think about the relationships that mean the most to you. How have those relationships shaped you, for better or worse</li> <li>8.Now think about why those relationships are important to you. Why do you surround yourself with the people you choose to be with</li> <li>9.Ask yourself - are you someone who does not seek out intimacy with others</li> <li>10. Is that something you like about yourself, or something you wish to change?</li> <li>11. Ask yourself honestly whether you would still be the same person without the relationships that you have had throughout your life.</li> <li>12. Examine your interests. In addition to relationships, personal interests are often what help keep people grounded in life. </li> <li>13. Whether you realize it or not, your relationships and your hobbies/interests probably occupy most of your free time outside of work. </li> <li>14. You may have chosen interests because of your personality and identity, or perhaps your sense of self was shaped by those interests and hobbies. </li> <li>15. Think about how you spend your free time. Why these interests are important to you. </li> <li>16. Visualize your best possible future self. Examine your current self, then visualize and write about the best possible version of yourself you can realistically work toward becoming</li> <li>17. Think about ways to make the vision you have for yourself become a reality. </li> <li>18. Reassess your life. Loss and change can be devastating, but they also offer us new opportunities to evaluate who we are and what we are doing. </li> <li>19. Ask yourself honestly if your current goals and personal values are the same as they used to be. </li> <li>20. If they are not, find ways to incorporate your new goals and values into your life.</li> <li>21. Open yourself to change. Many people fear change, especially big changes that can seem life-altering. But change isn't always a bad thing - in fact, it's normal and healthy for our circumstances to change</li> <li>22. Ask yourself if, in ten or twenty years, you would regret not having taken a chance at trying something new or doing things differently.</li> <li>23. Some people who have been laid off or otherwise lost a job/status may feel a sense of identity crisis, not knowing what to do or how to pick up the pieces. </li> <li>24. Seek different ways to do the same work in a different setting.</li> <li>25. Consider freelance work in your chosen field. It may not be your ideal job position, but it will allow you to continue working in a field you enjoy, which can help renew your sense of purpose.</li> <li>26. Try networking. Some employment positions are only advertised internally, to other employees. </li> <li>27. Develop new habits that will help you get where you want to be. Doing the same things you've been doing for years probably won't get you on a different track, so work hard at making the necessary changes.</li> <li>28. Live your values. If being kind and compassionate are part of your values, then find ways to practice kindness and compassion every day.</li> <li>29. If fostering a sense of community is one of your values, then get to know your neighbors and try to organize a monthly get together.</li> <li>30. Do something you're passionate about. </li> <li>31. Get outdoors. Some people find that spending time outdoors gives them a sense of purpose and fulfillment. </li> <li>32. Try using meditation to feel more centered. </li> <li>33. Work on your relationships. Friends, family, and significant others are all sources of stability for many people. </li> <li>34. Having a strong connection with your family or friends can also help you feel more stable in terms of identity by giving you a sense of belonging.[18]</li> <li>35. Call or email your friends and/or family members. Reach out to people you see often as well as people you only see occasionally.</li> <li>36. Let your friends and family know that you care about them, and tell them you'd like to spend more time together.</li> <li>37. Make plans to get coffee, go out to eat, go see a movie, grab a drink, or go on an adventure together. Putting time and effort into building stronger relationships will help you feel more happy and more sure in your sense of self</li> <li>38. Find ways to grow personally</li> <li>39. Strive to achieve</li> <li>40. If you are unhappy with your current career, look into finding ways to do something different. </li> <li>41. Challenge negative and irrational thoughts: change the way you perceive difficult situations and events, and allow time to identify what is making you uncomfortable</li> <li>42. Express yourself: practice communicating the values that are important to you</li> <li>43. Engage in self-care: work toward increased self-acceptance and self-awareness</li> <li>44. Identify unique traits in yourself: increase self-awareness and knowledge of how you want to spend your time moving forward</li> <li>45. Learn to set boundaries: when trying to figure out who you are and what you want out of life, setting boundaries with people and commitments can help you get clearer on your path forward</li> <li>46. Observe what plays on repeat instead of automatically buying into your insecurities, practice curiosity. With curious observation of your thoughts and emotions, you'll likely notice the same themes of insecurity play on repeat in your mind.</li> <li>47. Be open accepting challenges and taking risks in life</li> <li>48. Have a support system - reach out for help</li> <li>49. Build yourself by - learning when others are enjoying, working when they rest, save when they spend - to later - live like they dream</li> <li>50. Surround yourself with people who are excited to see you win and are genuinely happy for your success and happiness</li> <li>51. Don't seek freebies, favors and doles for rising in life - instead earn through your merit, talents and efforts<br> <br></li></ul></ul><p><span></span><a href="#creatingstrongselfidentity, #howtohavehealthypositiveselfidentity. #howtostrengthenyourselfidentity, #areyouhavingidentitycrisis, #traitsofpeoplewhohavesevereidentitycrisis, #doyoulackselfconfidence" title="">#creatingstrongselfidentity, #howtohavehealthypositiveselfidentity. #howto<b>strengthenyourselfidentity, #areyouhavingidentitycrisis, #traitsofpeoplewhohavesevereidentitycrisis, #doyoulackselfconfidence</b></a></p>