<p> <b data-redactor-tag="b">Your degree of comfort with being-yourself decides</b><span> how free you would be communicating with others AND the </span><b data-redactor-tag="b">Quality of your</b><span> relationship, success and popularity.</span></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">If you want to become a Master-Communicator</b> – then you have to constantly work on <b data-redactor-tag="b">sharpening the finer aspects of communication</b>* like – </p> <ul><li>1.Asking-questions*</li> <li>2.Empathy*</li> <li>3.Listening* [with intent to understand and not reply]</li> <li>4.Resolving-conflicts* through open-dialogue*</li> <li>5.Courage-to-express*-yourself, Assertiveness*</li> <li>6.Having-Discussions*[rather than arguments to prove yourself right and also to show-off how smart you are] etc.</li></ul> <p>{all the <b data-redactor-tag="b">*marked ones have detailed DIY blogs in</b> "from the heart of Subhashis" in "Success Unlimited Mantra"}</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">If you have polished refined the subtle art of the aforesaid finesse – then</b></p> <ul><li>1.The world will look up to you </li> <li>2.You would attain an enviable and unparalleled Personal-power*.</li> <li>3.You would attract and build relationship* with right type of powerful* people</li> <li>4.You would get help from the right people</li> <li>5.You would have meaningful relationship with those who matters and are power-to-be You will be yourself*[this is the best gift you can give to yourself as well people closer to you</li> <li>6.You will also have lesser degree of anxiety* and stress*</li> <li>7.Your personality will that be of Sophisticated-Classy-Sassy one</li></ul> <p>On the other hand, <b data-redactor-tag="b">if you don't focus on polishing your communication and conversational-intelligence</b> – you would not be able to build trust, rapport and connectivity with people. </p><p>I<b data-redactor-tag="b">t is possible that You are already a natural conversation-starter and being and extrovert you love meeting and connecting with new people </b>-BUT – are you comfortable with walking up to <b data-redactor-tag="b">someone powerful at an event—and start talking and leave a lasting-impression</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">The process of starting a conversation</b> in any of the meeting, gathering, event or even with a stranger <b data-redactor-tag="b">starts with breaking-ice to make both parties comfortable with each-other</b>.</p><p>And if you are an introvert and shy – <b data-redactor-tag="b">it is definitely advisable if you have a collection of</b> [well-thought of + practiced + tested] – icebreakers.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Most introverts are misunderstood, ignored or not considered weighty</b> – as far as their abilities, skills and competencies are concerned.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">This article is about creating a bouquet of situational questions as well as conversational topics</b> – you must create your own – these are just example starters.</p><p>The best <b data-redactor-tag="b">ones are those which are spontaneous and directly from your heart</b>.</p><p>A <b data-redactor-tag="b">big misconception among the masses about introverts and Shy's is</b> – that they don't enjoy the company of people.</p><p>They <b data-redactor-tag="b">enjoy the company of people as extrovert do – but they need me-time* to re-energize themselves</b>.</p><p>The challenge for introverts <b data-redactor-tag="b">is not having a conversation – BUT - initiating the interaction</b>.</p><p>Whether we are an introvert or an extrovert - <b data-redactor-tag="b">all of us can remember and recall awkward moments in initiating and maintaining conversations</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Pre-requisite of a great conversation starter</b></p> <ul><li>1.Curiosity element</li> <li>2.A topic that is non-threatening or non-judgmental [to involve the insecured/ low-self-esteem people]</li> <li>3.A subject – where all can participate</li> <li>4.Element of controversy – are – good conversational starters – as long as they don't hurt or attack anyone in anyway </li> <li>5.Should have broad scope of answering to solicit engaging responses</li> <li>6.Non-routine, non-conventional topics</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Sample Conversation Topics - Professional Networking Events </b></p> <ul><li>1.The Global Scenario Affecting That Particular Industries </li> <li>2.Technological Changes </li> <li>3.The disruptive trends </li> <li>4.The cultural in various organization </li> <li>5.The challenges you are facing </li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Questions/Topics for DATING and/or with Strangers</b></p><p>[Just don't mix the dating questions with the other people] </p> <ul><li>1.Your date has probably figured out you are an introvert and has agreed to go out with you - so you should never try speak all the time out of sheer nervousness</li> <li>2.Practice Classy Pick-up lines* </li> <li>3.Read my blog Master-Pillow-talks*</li> <li>4.Don't try to impress but to express yourself*</li> <li>5.Read my blog on Humor* and making-others-laugh*</li> <li>6.Talk about your nervousness </li> <li>7.Turn your weakness into your strength* by having a conversation around it</li> <li>8.Assume that your date is an old friend and start conversing as if you have known him/her since ages</li> <li>9.Say the things you normally say, not what you think she expects to hear</li> <li>10. On your initial dates – take walk in park, visit places of interest like galleries and museum or zoo etc</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Questions/Topics to talk - When ice is broken </b></p> <ul><li>1.Their biggest dreams </li> <li>2.What makes them come alive</li> <li>3.What makes them feel bored</li> <li>4.What makes them go out of their ways</li> <li>5.Their struggles past and current</li> <li>6.Their most </li> <li>7.Embarrassing moments</li> <li>8.Happiest moments</li> <li>9.Proudest moments </li> <li>10. Successful moments</li> <li>11. Memorable moments</li> <li>12. Heart-break moments</li> <li>13. Their hobbies and interests </li> <li>14. Their Most Annoying pet-peeves </li> <li>15. A tricky problem that needs solving</li> <li>16. The parts of you that you don't share with just anyone</li> <li>17. An event that changed your life</li> <li>18. Books, Music, Movies</li> <li>19. Anything genuine and intelligent</li> <li>20. Make a statement to express your opinion or views – the seek theirs by asking a question</li> <li>21. Being honest and being yourself</li> <li>22. Some classy jokes – these you have to master the art of delivery</li> <li>23. Something that you feel many of them or that particular person may agree – like These networking events are so crazy and start a conversation about your mutual distaste</li> <li>24. Something about your own what you might be feeling awkward with like - I can't believe how under-dressed I am for this event OR The only person I know here is myself and the person serving drinks and I just met him two minutes ago</li> <li>25. Ask about something that the other person would be happy to share with you Like Any chance you know a great sushi place around here</li> <li>26. Their turn offs</li> <li>27. What countries have you traveled to - What was your worst vacation experience – which one was the best ad most memorable</li> <li>28. Compliment something other than someone's looks<a name="card-3/"></a></li> <li>29. Ask for their honest opinion<a name="card-6/"></a> on a topic you are really interested in</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Few Interesting Questions – </b><b data-redactor-tag="b">taken from Internet</b><b data-redactor-tag="b"></b></p> <ul><li>1.If You Could Have An All-Expenses Paid Trip To See Any Famous World Monument, Which Monument Would You Choose</li> <li>2.What Job Doesn't Exist Now But Will Exist In The Future?</li> <li>3.What's Your Favorite Cheesy Pick-Up Line</li> <li>4.Who Would Be The Worst Person To Be Stuck In An Elevator With?</li> <li>5.If You Could Break Any World Record Which One Would It Be?</li> <li>6.Do You Think That Age Matters In A Relationship Or That It's Just A Number?</li> <li>7.How Important Is Family To You?</li> <li>8.What Activity Calms You Down The Most?</li> <li>9.What's Something You To Do The Old-Fashioned, Non-Tech Way?</li> <li>10. What's Your Favorite Childhood Memory?</li> <li>11. Have You Ever Been On A Blind Date?</li> <li>12. What Was The Most Dangerous Situation You've Ever Been Involved In?</li> <li>13. If Someone Asked You To Give An Impromptu Ted Talk, What Would You Talk About?</li> <li>14. If You Could Instantly Master Any Skill, What Would It Be?</li> <li>15. Do You Dream - What Was Your Last Dream About</li> <li>16. What Accomplishments Are You Most Proud Of?</li> <li>17. What Are Some Of Your Greatest Hopes?</li> <li>18. What Do You Think others would say about Your Most Attractive Quality</li> <li>19. Where Do You Go/What Do You Do When You Need Inspiration?</li> <li>20. If A Genie Gave You Three Wishes, What Would They Be?</li> <li>21. What's The Most Meaningful Complement You've Ever Received?<a name="deep"></a></li> <li>22. What Skill Do You Wish More People Took The Time To Learn?</li> <li>23. What Is The Biggest Waste Of Time In Your Life?</li> <li>24. What Is Something That Can't Be Taught And Can Only Be Learned With Age?</li> <li>25. What Is Increasingly Becoming Socially Acceptable, But Shouldn't Be?</li> <li>26. What One Job Do You Think Computers/Machines Will Never Replace?</li> <li>27. Who Do You Compare Yourself To Most?</li> <li>28. Is There Something You Stopped Doing, Even Though You Love It? Why'd You Stop?</li> <li>29. Are You The Type Of Person With Lots Of Friends Or Just A Few Close Ones? Why?</li> <li>30. Where Have You Gone And Felt The Most Out Of Place?</li> <li>31. Who Or What Is The Greatest Enemy Of Mankind?</li> <li>32. What Does Love Mean To You?</li> <li>33. What Or Who Would You Sacrifice Your Life For?</li> <li>34. What Do You Wish Your Brain Was Better At Doing?</li> <li>35. What Is Your Current Life Mantra?</li> <li>36. What's Your Weirdest Talent?</li> <li>37. What's the most interesting thing you've read lately?</li> <li>38. If you were in charge of the playlist, which song would you play next?</li> <li>39. What's the best gift you've ever gotten?</li> <li>40. If you were giving a presentation, what would the topic be? </li> <li>41. Have you traveled anywhere interesting lately?</li> <li>42. Working on anything exciting lately? What's the most important thing I should know about you? </li> <li>43. When you were a kid what did you think your life would look like now? </li> <li>44. What was your worst fashion disaster? What's the most embarrassing thing you did at school / when you were a kid? What's your plan if there was a zombie apocalypse</li> <li>45. What is something popular now that annoys you?</li> <li>46. What's the best / worst thing about your work/school?</li> <li>47. Are you a very organized person?</li> <li>48. What is the strangest dream you have ever had?</li> <li>49. Who in your life brings you the most joy?</li> <li>50. Where is the most beautiful place you have been?</li> <li>51. Where is the most beautiful place near where you live?</li> <li>52. What is the most disgusting habit some people have?</li> <li>53. Where is the worst place you have been stuck for a long time?</li> <li>54. What is something that really annoys you but doesn't bother most people?</li> <li>55. How should success be measured? And by that measurement, who is the most successful person you know?</li> <li>56. What do you do to improve your mood when you are in a bad mood?</li> <li>57. What are you best at?</li> <li>58. What cartoons did you still watch</li> <li>59. Do you like horror movies? Why or why not?</li> <li>60. What old trend is coming back these days?</li> <li>61. What is a fashion trend you are really glad went away?</li> <li>62. What is your favorite cuisine or type of food?</li></ul>