How to identify and deal with fake people in your life

In this article you will learn the following

-6 signs of people who are the extreme-end of fake-ism - in these people you can observe - symptoms of severe anti-social disorder and psychopathic-tendencies - we have the example of this type

-9 intuitive feelings - you may get-sense-experience - if you are with fake friends [add your own experiences]

-16 habits of truly genuine people - things genuine friends and people do

-30 ways on How to deal with fake people

-80+ signs and patterns to spot the fake people in your life - few of the points are for the people are at the extreme unhealthy and toxic worst FAKE-O-LOGY - and if you notice even 10 of these points in someone - start safeguarding your emotional-mental-physical wellbeing on priority basis

How to spot and deal with fake people - How to identify and deal with fake people in your life - Signs of fake people - how recognize a person putting-on an act

All of us - time to time - fake our behaviors-actions-expressions-words - to impress others, to satisfy our EGO, to show-off and to get what we want from others.

Many people live their entire life - trying to be someone else - this type of life and existence is the most miserable and pathetic living.

In the extreme-end of this totem-pole are the people who focus all their energies trying to create-build-reinforce a false-image of being Omni-powerful, Omni-expert, Omni-leader, Omni-hero, Omni-knowledgeable and so on - this they do through all types of unscrupulous means-tools-people-group.

And if these people happen to reach powerful-positions - then people go through disastrous-catastrophes of unimaginable plights-miseries-horror.

Gullible people [at times the so-called highly-educated(although these have only paper qualifications) too] get taken by these - highly-unhealthy and very-toxic antisocial-disordered persons.

But because faking is based on assumption that - no one can see through the 8 feel wall or façade - so it creates colossal-waste of resources-opportunities-growth - and is harmful for the masses and creates misery which could have been avoided totally.

You need to understand a very-basic-fundamental - that if you be authentically-genuinely yourself and focus on accomplishing your meaningful-goals - YOU WOULD GET AUTOMATICALLY ALL THAT YOU ARE TRYING TO get through false PROJECTIONS.

6 signs of people who are the extreme-end of fake-ism - in these people you can observe - symptoms of severe anti-social disorder and psychopathic-tendencies - we have the example of this type.

• 1.These people are highly image-conscious and project their own weaknesses-guilt-shame-incapability AND what they are not - on others.
• 2.To create a favorable impression - they can go to any length - including war-murder-extortion-blackmail-dominance-dictatorship.
• 3.At the heart of fake-people - is fear, deep emotional-insecurities and very-low self-image, self-respect, self-pride etc.
• 4.This they make [or hide] up by creating a false image through external means and cover-up actions - which they believe to be working as most people they have around them would be feeding their ego by supporting and saying yes to whatever they do.
• 5.Although they manage to project the image of a powerful formidable person - internally they are basically cowards and because of this they avoid getting into any types of confrontations and discussions with experts and people who challenge them.
• 6.Their idea of becoming bigger - is through making others smaller - so they badmouth-suppress-bulldoze - everyone.

9 intuitive feelings - you may get-sense-experience - if you are with fake friends [add your own experiences]

• 1.You feel that you can't be yourself fully
• 2.You hesitate to share information with them - because your past experience with them have taught you that they can't be trusted with sensitive-confidential information
• 3.You too laugh when they are laughing - but you feel phony - as you know they are faking their laugh
• 4.You even feel unsure - whether you want to share good news from your side - as you have felt that even though they seems to express happiness - your intuition tells you otherwise
• 5.You find spending time with these people - harder, uncomfortable and unnatural - as you have to constantly guess and be on your guard - so as not to offend them - as they feel bad for so obvious reasons
• 6.You feel drained - being with them
• 7.You pretend having a good time with them- although you want to run away
• 8.You dread spending time with them - because you do this more from your sense of obligation than pleasure and attraction
• 9.You feel good whenever you are in company of other people than them

16 habits of truly genuine people - things genuine friends and people do - read my blog on how to be yourself plus another one about how to be genuinely authentically yourself

• 1.They will be with you especially during your tough and trying times
• 2.They genuinely feel thrilled with your success and happiness
• 3.They will express their feelings in case you have done something wrong but they are quick to forgive
• 4.They respect your opinions - even if they don't with them
• 5.They take interest in you - by asking-listening-understanding-learning about you
• 6.They put equal efforts in the relationship
• 7.They express their feelings - without blaming - using i statements
• 8.They accept themselves the way they - therefore they are able to accept the way you are
• 9.Because they respect themselves - they respect others
• 10. They accept their mistakes and apologize without feeling ashamed
• 11. They take full responsibility for their part and their life
• 12. They understand and accept that failures are art of life - only that they have to get up and try again
• 13. They can admit their faults-flaws and weaknesses
• 14. They don't judge others on flimsy things
• 15. They seek feedback from others and can handle criticism well
• 16. Because of all these - they have very strong self-esteem

30 ways on How to deal with fake people

• 1.Maintain distance from people with fake personalities
• 2.Stop hanging out with them
• 3.Start with spending lesser and lesser time initially and slowly move away from these people.
• 4.When you can't avoid them - try to make your interactions with them shorter - learn to use the same excuse they make especially when you ask them for help and they try to run away
• 5.Avoid becoming over-friendly with them - they will kill your identity
• 6.If you feel suffocated - confront them - stop tolerating
• 7.Understand that not every person is meant to be in your life
• 8.And not everyone who claims to be your friend is a friend - till proven over a period of time
• 9.If any supposedly close friend has started behaving like a fake - ask-tell-speak-up - the sooner the better
• 10. Stop tolerating bad-disrespectful behaviors from anyone - create healthy boundaries and tell them what is alright and what is not
• 11. Show them their limits - whenever someone cross the limits of basic courtesy-decency-respect
• 12. Get people in your circle - who accept and respect you for who you are -life is more joyous and pleasant if you are surrounded with people who are positive and genuine people
• 13. . The more you have in your life, the better are the chances for you to reach your goals faster
• 14. Seek professional advice - if you can avoid negativity and fake people from your surroundings and if this person is a significant and important person in your life
• 15. Never let their annoying demeanor get to you - it is never about you - it is about their lacunas
• 16. Never never never try to get to their levels - they actually want you to go there so they can beat you hands down - as you can never win in their expertise area
• 17. If possible - avoid sharing your personal problems and secrets - they will end up using that against you
• 18. Expand are develop your social-professional-personal relationship base and circle
• 19. Mix with different culture and people of diversified interests - meet new people.
  Don't over-react to the fake behavior
• 20. Learn to manage your emotions through learning techniques which fits your personality and are healthyavoid being part of their drama and tantrum
• 21. Show your anger at their irrational behaviors - without being-angry - know the difference
• 22. Stop trying make them feel good about themselves - because in truth you will actually be making their behaviors worse through validation
• 23. Don't take their behavior personally - learn self-control
• 24. Always trust your intuition - most of us can subconsciously pick up on warning signs and red flags - if you feel unnerved or odd - trust that instead of false bonhomie
• 25. If you feel like breaking the relationship - try the following techniques
• 26. Talk openly - to clarify boundaries - to define the relationship - to see where each person stands - to talk about a future - to bring out hidden resentments - to resolve misunderstandings
• 27. Go with a goal in mind. — do you want to clear up something? Do you want to address something? What would your ideal outcome be?
• 28. Take a break from this relationship to - calm down - to miss each other - to re-evaluate and get a fresh perspective
• 29. Slowly start filling your life with new things
• 30. Start texting this person instead of call - stop responding to their messages or respond after very hours or respond with very short answers - stop social-media interactions with this person

80+ signs and patterns to spot the fake people in your life - few of the points are for the people are at the extreme unhealthy and toxic worst FAKE-O-LOGY - and if you notice even 10 of these points in someone - start safeguarding your emotional-mental-physical wellbeing on priority basis

• 1.Although they seems to have great plans for themselves - they don't get anywhere
• 2.Fake people show the attitudes of - they are never wrong - they never do cheap thing - they are always above petty everyday things - they are superior and can't be bothered about mundane issues [you add your own experiences to this list]
• 3.They will show that they care a lot - but all these are only to impressed others
• 4.They like to take credit but seldom acknowledge others' contribution and efforts
• 5.They never take accountability for anything
• 6.They feel great with flattery
• 7.They are insincere when they say nice things
• 8.They are extreme egoist and take everything personally
• 9.They surround themselves with yes-people - who follow them blindly without questions
• 10. Fake people will never honor their promises that they themselves have made - they won't even remember that they made any promise - even if that promise happens to be of calling you back the call will never come
• 11. They will always create a pomp and glitter around what they do and whom they know plus whom they met
• 12. They are into projection big-time - and all their projections are of those thing which they are not and of their weaknesses on others
• 13. They spend their time efforts and energies into - establishing what they feel is truth [although no one other than who blindly-support them - will believe this]
• 14. They are big-time into blaming - they can attribute blame for what they did not do to anyone - even remotely unrelated persons as well
• 15. They are highly image conscious but they want their image to be high - without going for and doing - positive-constructive-meaningful actions
• 16. One of the things they are too good at - is that - when you are asking for their help they may not respond - but - when they feel that you have done that - they will come and announce "why you did not ask them - they could have got it done in a jiffy through their high-level contacts and connections"
• 17. And they will show lots of enthusiasm and excitement - with your success and happiness - but they are actually very-very upset-disappointed and feel let down by your accomplishments
• 18. They will have wonderful excuses ready - like they have this project which may have national importance or that they are rushing for a meeting with the POTUS himself
• 19. Fake people generally are opportunist and people-pleasers
• 20. Fake people are likely to do anything to get into the good-books of people in power and authority
• 21. Fake people don't have deeper-meaningful-intimate relationships and real-friends
• 22. Fake people also manage to attract other fake people who leech on them for their own agendas
• 23. Fake people seek attention - have a great need for validation and recognition
• 24. They love to gossip about others when with you - and as surely about you when with others
• 25. Fake people want to be seemed as powerful, expert and invincible
• 26. Fake people will make great plans with you - but they will be totally absent and there won't be any call-follow up or apology
• 27. Fake people will so-so much happiness and excitement - but after that no call
• 28. They make commitments they never intend to keep
• 29. But they will be around you - when they need something from you very badly
• 30. Many of the fake people will ask for favors - which may make you spend your own money-resources-efforts - which as you can guess will never be reciprocated or appreciated
• 31. They will only invite you for a theatre-dinner-party - only because their partner have ditched them and the tickets or the arrangements can't be reversed
• 32. They disappear once they get what they need from you- they hang on for some time - but the minute you need something from them -they vanish
• 33. They don't listen when you talk - they only pretend to listen
• 34. They may create a great show-off of being extremely busy - on their phones - calling others and making grandiose statements to impress even the kings
• 35. They will praise you in your front and criticize you at your back
• 36. They will never question or challenge you - as they want to be in your good books - if you have something that they may need time to time
• 37. They will never give you critical and constructive feedback - even when they ask - they will say everything is alright
• 38. They say bad things about others to distract from their own shitty lives
• 39. Fake people are selfish-envious-jealous
• 40. Fake people thrive on lies, gossip and drama
• 41. Fake can never be trusted
• 42. They are perpetual attention-seekers
• 43. They brag-brag-brag and then brag-again
• 44. They exaggerate to make them look like super-woman/man
• 45. Fake people are only words and absolutely no action - unless they need something
• 46. Fake people create a façade around them so as to hide their all vulnerabilities-weaknesses
• 47. They will go extra-length - any length to hide their flaws - even to frame-accuse-blame others [often innocent people] of what is their incompetence-mistake-lacunae
• 48. They are highly judgmental and mostly form negative views instantly
• 49. They will always be telling what all flaws and weaknesses you have and what mistakes and wrongs you have don4e constantly
• 50. They will find ways to make you feel guilty and ashamed
• 51. Because most of them are submissive - when things don't go their way - they resort to highly poisonous passive-aggressive ways to hit back at you subtly and incognito - although they would be all charms
• 52. They can never feel happy for anyone's success, happiness achievements - even people who are strangers
• 53. They are scared of intimate relationship - and they don't have any
• 54. They will always put you down and belittle you - in case you express something that they don't agree with
• 55. Fake people will never stand up for you in front of others
• 56. Fake people although don't care for other's rights - they have a great sense of entitlement
• 57. They use back-handed compliments [disguised insults] to confuse and hurt you
• 58. They have no scruple and say things to embarrass you in front of others
• 59. They get offended very fast
• 60. They can hold-on to your past mistakes - can will repeat whenever they can
• 61. Then they will say - that you don't let them express them freely [in case you happen to tell them that this was a long time back and that the issue is insignificant]
• 62. You will never feel easy and comfortable and genuinely authentic yourself -when being with them
• 63. They will be the first one to say bye and disconnect - even on the drop of a hat without any reasons
• 64. Then when they come back - it is you who made the mistake and not them
• 65. They will always blame you for their mistakes
• 66. They never accept their mistake - neither they are interested in learning from their mistakes
• 67. They are never wrong - so you can never expect any apology from them
• 68. They are always full of themselves.
• 69. They are highly manipulative
• 70. They are unable to express their emotions freely and clearly
• 71. All fake people have unrealistic perceptions and expectations
• 72. Lack consistency - no values
• 73. They miss deadlines and make excuses or blame others for missing these
• 74. They have fine-tuned their muscles of emotional-blackmail
• 75. Fake people respect only those who have power and wealth. Genuine people respect everyone.
• 76. They can never go for self-reflection
• 77. They have a sense of humor filled with sarcasm and cynicism
• 78. Fake people always criticize others to make themselves look better in comparison
• 79. Fake people are arrogant, irresponsible and are pathological-liars
• 80. They get angry when you don't agree with their point of view.
• 81. They make you feel drained and rob your energy
• 82. They can't be trusted to keep your secrets

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