How To Handle Emotional Grief

​The Synopsis of My Panel Talk Delivered in Women Economic Forum Kolkata, India Jan. 3rd 2017

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THE SYNOPSIS

What Is Grief

Any Incident/Event /Occurrence Which Paralyses Month Physical Emotional Function & Bring Your Life To A Grinding Halt

Grief Cycle

Shock/Stunned -> Pain/Guilt/Denial (It Is Not True/Cannot Be Happenning0 -> Anger (Why Me) -> Bargaining (Give Me This – I Will Give You This/Do This) -> Depression/Inactivity) -> Acceptance -> Moving On

About Grief Cycle

It May Not Happen In This Sequence/ Sometime People Go Through Few Of These Stages Simultaneously / Some People Don't Go Through Few Of The Stages At All/ Some People Get Stuck In One Stage Only For A Long Time Or Even Lifelong / Grief Cycle Is Very Individual & Cannot Be Same And Compared With Anyone

Causes of Grief

Death/ Suicide/Separation-Divorce/Bankruptcy/Shattering Of Very Close Hopes-Dreams-Expectations/Betrayal/Loosing Job/Rape-Molestation/Viewing A Heinous Crime/Being A Victim Of Torture, Violence, Kidnapping/ Prison-Confinement/Loss Of Care-Giver/Loss Of Friendship

Prolonged Or Complicated Grief Dis-Order

When The Grief Has Lasted More Than 6 Months & Even After This Period – There Is Physical & Psycho-Social Dysfunction – Which Includes Mental & Physical Impairment

Symptoms Of PGD/CGD – Extreme Focus On Loss/Social Withdrawal/Numbness/ Isolation/Intense Longing For The Loved Dead Ones/ Wishing That You Should Also Have Been Dead Or Should Die/Severe Guilt/Self Blame

Symptoms of Normal Grief

Emotional :- Irritation/Bitterness/Detachment/Inability To Express Joy/Inexpiable Mood Swing/Outbursts/Depression Symptoms

Physical :- Digestive Issues-Gas Bloating-Acidity/Fatigue// Migraine- Headache/Sore Muscles-Cramps/Chest Pain/Feeling Giddy/Appetite Loss/Over-Eating

What to Do Normal Grief

External :- Seek Help From Family-Friends-Mentors / Support Group / Trained Counselors

Internal :- Facing & Expressing Feelings Of Pain, Loss, Sadness/ Talking About Dead Ones/ Taking Care Of Others/ Not Letting Other People Tell You How You Should Feel Pain/ Plan In Advance Of All The Anniversaries-B'days-D'Days Etc On How Will You Handle These/ Mourning Openly/Crying Freely/ Joining Online Forum For The Similar Pain/ Faithism/ Meditation/ Listening To Audio-Videos/ Coming Back To Basic Routine ASAP/ Using Blogging-Painting Etc /To Express Your Pain/ Being In Company / Doing Social Work To Help The Helpless-Needy

Cure Of PGD/CGD – Serotonin Uptake Inhibitor + Medication + Psychiatric Treatment Symptoms of Grief

Myths About Grief

• -If I Do Not Cry – I Am Not Sorry For Loss Or I Did Not Love Them => Different People Feel/Express Pain Differently
• -I Should Feel Lot Of Pain => You Might Not Be Aware
• -If I Ignore Pain – It Will Go Away On Its Own => No It Will Manifest In Many Undesirable Ways
• -It Is Not Ok To Feel Pain => Feeling Pain Is Humane
• -It Is Important To Be Strong => Being Putting Up A Façade Will Stunt Your Growth
• -Grief Should Last For A Yean => It May Last Life Time For Some People

Pain Points – Related with Emotional Imbalance

• -Neck => Lack Of Forgiveness
• -Shoulder => Emotional Burden
• -Chest => Lack Of Emotional Support
• -Elbow => Lack Of Flexibility To Listen/Understand/Change
• -Abdomen => Financial Worries
• -Hip-Joint => Fear Of Failure
• -Knuckles => Isolation
• -Knees => Thinking High Of Themselves/Ego
• -Ankle => Need Pleasure – Lack Of Pleasure
• -Feet => Depression