How to become a great leader


​How to become a great leader

How to be a powerful leader, Becoming a leader of leaders, Making leadership simple

Becoming everyday leader. IN ADDITION TO THIS ARTICLE - PLEASE ALSO CHECK my another blog "How to be a great Leader" - which focuses on #howto be #great #coach in our another Blog Values Based Leadership.

Anyone can become a real leader, as Like nature, the Leadership is simple and is very basic.

These basics needs to be understood, followed and practiced till they become part of your nature.

But in the world, we are living in, simple and basic things are not considered cool or intelligent, because they lack the dazzle and the irresistible glamour.

Most of our definition of leadership comes from the case-studies created by globally elite or ivy-league universities. These institutions might have recognized some external elements of leadership, but they don't really capture the true essence of leadership.

Because of the false academic impression of who the leaders are, the people or institutions [whoever creates the definition of leadership] usually take successful people [mostly in businesses or politics as leadership role-models] and study their external traits.

On the other hand, The leadership is actually about your inner wiring and software, whereas the institutions focus on the external elements and sometimes they could be the result of the skewed perception of the person and the intellectual manner it is being done.

That is why, if anyone focuses on and tries to emulate these external factors, FAILS in becoming a leader.

As many of these traits would be impossible to imbibe [as it is as per the conditioning, situation and circumstances of these role-models, which were unique to them, and can't possibly be same with yourself].

If you study many of the revered world leaders, you may find, few of them were great failures in other essential areas of life and few were even considered by their family members as heartless, cruel, monster, selfish, dictatorial etc. These facts are many times not well known or suppressed.

If you analyze the world as it is today, with people suffering both emotionally [internally], and through unemployment, financial crisis, violence, hatred, war, crime[externaly] - you would discover that the biggest void and most essential need of today - is to have real leaders in all the areas of life, mainly in


How many of you wish for and dream of being a leader. Very few. And fewer would still consciously, make effort to understand and play the role of a leader, in whatever roles they are in all aspects of life.

The reason why there are not many leaders is that, most of us look for and look up to others to take the lead, or we may want to be leader because of the benefits the people enjoy, whom we consider leaders and our role models.

Although most of us may want to leaders, but we don't want to go through the initial disciplined processes of understanding, learning and practicing leadership in all our important areas of life, beginning with our very own personal life.

In most of the countries and places, the today's so-called leaders [ they are not the real leader, but somehow have managed to grab leadership positions], these would be of following types

1.Arrogant people who have need to control others
2.Religious zealots brainwashing people
3.People with the agenda of influencing others, because of default power vested with them through position, money, muscle etc
4.People who are businessmen, and if takes to create war to expand their empires, then let it be
5.Conmen, who manage to fool masses, through many creative methods
6."Political + Religious+ Criminal" nexused Cults, followed blinding by solid masses of ignorant people, who are taken prisoner by false yet charming propaganda

People who belong to any of these categories are occupying powerful positions, are the cause of the many ills being faced by all of us throughout the world.

Let us start with the basics of leadership - what you don't need to be a leader

1.You don't have to be somebody established to be a leader
2.You don't need to be well-known to be a leader
3.You don't need a specific position to practice leadership
4.You don't even need a team or followers to be a leader
5.You don't need lots of resources to be a leader
6.You don't have to be perfect in everything
7.You don't have to be highly qualified and educated
8.You don't have to be connected with powerful people or have very strong family money
9.You don't have to know all the answers and have all the solutions
10.You don't have to be someone, who can do it all, meaning without needing or seeking help from others

You would need absolutely, the following, the immutable basics - those would give you the solid foundation for being a leader by nature How to be a Powerful Leader When You Aren't the Leader Leadership is a CHOICE, not a title

YOUR INNER RE-ENGINEERING PROCESS - The most essential elements of your journey towards becoming an-round leader

1.You need to understand all your
F.Fears, anxieties, paralyzers
G.Passions, interests
I.Shame, guilt, angers
J.Triggers that makes you lose control of yourself
K.Your frustration areas
L.Your mind-binders
M.Areas and aspects of your life not working well
2.You need to know
A.What you don't know
B.What you need to learn
C.What you need to give up, change or correct
3.You also need to know
A.What you really want, your own innermost desires
B.What values those when violated, makes you feel miserable
C.Also which values when followed gives you biggest feeling of being on the top of the world
D.The difference between your wish, your wants and what you need
E.Why you have not achieved what you want, real reasons
F.The gap of where you are and where you want to go, in terms of above areas
G.The inner resources that you need to acquire, in order to live your idea of life
4.Then reframing all the negative traits you have discovered in yourself, as per the following methods
A.Understand and identify, what messages these negative outcomes are giving, for you to take notice*
B.What your feelings of regret or shame or anger or frustrations – are trying to tell you - What you must change
C.Why these negatives are your biggest friend and how you can use these messages to turn your life around to a meaningful one
D.Identifying, how you can use the tremendous energy created by your negative emotions, to actually create a life worthy of your potential and which that you really really want
5.Then after going through the lists of above 4 points, instead of shaming yourself [for negative ones], practicing to accept yourself and loving yourself fully and unconditionally
6.Creating a
A.Learning plan to make you effective in handling the people and situations these unnerve you or make you uncomfortable
B.Plan for managing your turning-off and feeling uninspired or Non-resourceful
C.Plan for living the life as per your passions and values
D.Identifying what values are absolutely non-negotiable
E.Step by step Plan to achieve your dreams
F.Plans of how you can keep yourself inspired, motivated, passionate, charged and healthy physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, relationship-wise and financially
G.Identifying all the help you need from others, then inviting them or enrolling them as your mentors and support network
H.Being comfortable in taking risk from sharing your wildest dreams to asking favor from others to expressing your deepest feelings with important people of your life
I.Plan and mindset for how to treat the failures and mistakes as the learning tools and then moving on
J.Planning to learn, how to bounce back from upsets, crisis, traumatic events
7.Creating a plan while working backwards to day to day action steps and Scheduling all these in your daily life
8.Putting into action, all these, by putting into practice, in small bytes initially, then upping the ante
9.Monitoring/tracking/improvising whenever facing obstacles
10.Enjoying the journey, of newer challenges, newer you and newer horizons everyday


[off course, many of these are related with your inner-re-engineering as well – the * marked have separate DIY Articles in my Blog "from the Heart of Subhashis" in Success Unlimited Mantra website]

1.Habit of Learning, as part of your nature, through
B.By experimenting
C.By doing
D.By observing
E.By asking questions
F.By challenging themselves and experts and others and set beliefs
G.By learning from experts and mentoring
H.Learning from reading books, attending seminars
I.Creating mind-maps
2.Always focusing on excellence *
3.Continuous improvement by raising the bar for themselves*
4.Focusing on helping others become bigger than themselves
5.Surrounding yourself with people who are better, smarter, more intelligent, more successful, more qualified, more knowledgeable etc*
6.Then learning how to add value to these people having superior qualities and leading them
7.Being humble and giving credit to the deserving
8.Creating teams out of groups
9.Focusing on future by creating solutions that meets unidentified needs*
10.Becoming an action person not a talking one
11.Taking initiatives and doing the things that make you uncomfortable*
12.Practicing skills that you feel you need, till you master and then practicing to make it even better
13.Creating value adding and meaningful relationships*
14.Learning how to manage complexities and uncertainties and disruptive changes*
15.Being comfortable with the change, being flexible and adaptable
16.Learning to take tough, essential yet unpopular decisions
17.Identifying and Feeling your fears, yet acting, in those areas
18.Being transparent and making your open areas wider as per the Johari window, by sharing if needed and with the right people/group, all your anxieties, fear, concerns
19.Challenging others and supporting them to go for higher pursuits
20. Asking tough questions to figure out the realities, especially those which are not at all obvious
21.Not settling for one alternative, looking for multiple options*
22. Thinking basic, think simple, while solving problems*
23. Developing empathy and ability to see things from many different perspectives*
24. Respecting others and learning from everyone, a child, older, housewife, a world leader
25. Being committed and fully accountable to yourself
26. Admit mistakes, if possible, making it up
27.Nurture your physical well-being*
28. Identifying all those who all have contributed to your growth and life, and then Thanking, appreciating and recognize them
29. Developing confidence in your beliefs, through practicing assertiveness*
30. Being meritocratic, being fair, being impartial
31.Practicing integrity
32. Getting rid of People who violate your core values
33. Not doing anything because you have to, but to find reason why you would love to do that
34. Learning to follow your intuition and polish your creativity*
35. Learning to identify the trends by being aware about development in wider subjects/industries/societies/countries
36. Learning to manage your emotions effectively*
37.Focusing on solutions not blame and excuses
38. Empowering others by letting people make mistake and stop micromanaging them
39. Having fun even on your worst day*
40. Collaborating and synergizing* with people through creating multiple mastermind groups
41.Challenging status quo
42. Breaking routine and comfort zone on regular basis
43. Keep Trying New Things
44. Connecting with people on deeper level
45. Understanding others through knowing yourself*
46. Always demonstrating through action and practice, never by telling alone
47.Using the conflicts, to build a stronger, powerful and cohesive teams*
48. Being different, seeing different, doing different, thinking different*
49. Being very authentically yourself
50. Leading through knowledge, through creativity and innovation, through decision making, through problem identifying and solving
51.Using the power of Being Vulnerable in the right way
52. Being generous
53. Plunging in the unknown and uncertainty, after going through elaborate planning for identifying and preparing for "what is the worst that can happen"
54. Facing and accepting the fact
55.Acknowledging what you can't do, focus on what is within your area of control*
56. Hold yourself and others to high standards*
57.Always finish what you start
58. Give your 100% or don't do it at all*
59. Showing others that you care
60. Don't be likable be respectable*

How can being vulnerable be a good thing
Using common sense in life