How to be a confident person

In this article we will learn the following

- How to be a confident person - 100 tips to take your self-confidence to an effectively much-higher levels - on sustainable basis

-9 beliefs you need to create-accept-inculcate - in order to work on your self-confidence

All of us need to have confidence in ourselves - when we attempt the unknown, the uncertain, and the risky and also downright scary tasks.

Developing self-confidence - is a DOING-SKILL - meaning you can do all of the following but your confidence level will not increase - except giving you a feel-good feeling for a very short time.

• 1.Watching people who are big-achievers - perform [as a spectator]
• 2.Listening or watching videos of motivational-speakers Or of people who have defied tremendous odds and have created jaw-dropping and awe-inspiring accomplishments
• 3.Reading 100s of books-article and self-help guides
• 4.Repeating or Chanting affirmations
• 5.Faking the confidence
• 6.Showing-off the false courage or bravado
• 7.Dressing in Branded Clothes - Driving Jazzy Cars
• 8.Hiding behind superiority mask etc.

These external aids - will fail you - at the hint of real danger especially in the most crucial time when you need your self-confidence most.

Your self-confidence can only increase - when you take actions while slowly raising the bar of discomfort and challenges that you handle.

Please first understand that your confidence is part of your core-being and your internal sub-conscious characteristics] - which gets formed through the combination many-many known as well as undiscovered causes.

If you want to learn how to be more confident - you need to learn how to change your mental-emotional-state or mood - Our mood is influenced by how we feel about ourselves at any given time.

Most of the time all the confidence level built through these quick-fixes would disappear in real time scenario.

Your self-confidence can only increase - when you take actions while slowly raising the bar of discomfort and challenges that you handle.

Please first understand that your confidence is part of your core-being and your internal sub-conscious characteristics] - which gets formed through the combination many-many known as well as undiscovered causes.

If we lack confidence - it is just not possible to build it by external changes as most motivational experts would have you believe.

100+ tips to take your self-confidence to an effectively much-higher levels - on sustainable basis - it is going to be very-very slow processes and you would initially face insurmountable obstacles and challenges [mostly because of your own internal assumptions/beliefs/ mindset/fears/attitude /perceptions etc.].

• 1.If we could do the following [not given in any particular order] with dedication and absolute discipline then you would see miracles happening in your life, later at a pace you can never imagine - Our fears, anxieties and butterflies in the stomach would not go away permanently - but you would become comfortable & effective in taking actions that are imperative for your success, happiness and relationships - But only these can give you the best probability of lifting your confidence level to a sustainable one, if you keep on practicing you would see the long term impact and a sense of liberation.
• 2.Start taking tough decisions after thinking through what is the worst that can happen and creating plans to tackle them if they occur - in case our decision is wrong
• 3.Be specific about what are you not confident in- list all the places where you lack confidence - when do you feel self-doubt and your negative emotions creeping in - where do you feel your skills or abilities are limiting you - where would you like to have more confidence
• 4.And then list all the situations, places and people - where you want to have more confidence
• 5.Uncover what gives you confidence - how can you figure out what gives you confidence - Think about a couple times in your life when you felt most confident -then think about what was about those times that made you feel so empowered - was it the environment you were in - Something you were doing - A feeling you had -The more you get clear about this for yourself, the easier it will be to tap into when you need it most
• 6.Be true to you - by being brutally honest with you - think about what makes you, uniquely you.
• 7.When you're trying to be someone you're not - every part of you will resists it subconsciously
• 8.Accept that you are good-enough - with all your imperfections - we all are
• 9.Acquire new skills and experiences and abilities
• 10. Use NLP modelling technique and apply – think about someone you know who exudes confidence. Imagine what that person would do.
• 11. Surround yourself with people who uplift you, encourage you, make you feel great about yourself and are themselves are an inspiration.
• 12. Avoid and get rid of all those who drain and zap your confidence or make you feel worthless
• 13. Even if you are full of doubt and fears - just take the first step right now - if it is something that you need badly and have to be done
• 14. Be an action person - as action builds confidence and each step you take strengthens it
• 15. Consciously and proactively seek assignments - where you have go out of your comfort zones and stretch - discover your limits by exposing yourself to different situations and push yourself through discomfort - later start enjoying the thrill
• 16. Acknowledge, name and feel all your negative and positive emotions including pain and hurts - fully - never try to suppress-avoid-deny - the negative ones
• 17. Think of past successes- and then visualize your future goals and see yourself accomplishing those vividly - Then plan-prepare-learn and implement your plans
• 18. Improve your body language always look in the eyes while talking - if you are talking with a group - rotate your eyes and fix it for each person for fraction of second
• 19. Do something creative - Challenge your limiting beliefs - Be curious to learn-observe-experiment
• 20. Reach-out to others to get rid of your baggage of past
• 21. Seek help or work on yourself to heal yourself from your regrets, sadness, grief, shame and buried-anger
• 22. Stop giving a damn about what others think
• 23. Let negative and toxic people out of your life
• 24. Create healthy emotional boundaries
• 25. Care about your appearance - Groom yourself - dress nicely
• 26. Accept that failures and mistakes are inevitable part of growth
• 27. Mentor others - empower others to become their best
• 28. Know yourself - accept yourself - Love yourself unconditionally
• 29. Always prepare and practice and learn before attempting any big task
• 30. Speak slower with emphasis on important words - vary your tone
• 31. Be a good listener - Learn to manage your insecure-urge of talking more and more in any gathering
• 32. Set a small-small goals and achieve them on every day basis
• 33. Change a small yet negative and harmful habit
• 34. Always Focus-on and look-for solutions
• 35. Learn to negotiate when you feel like complaining
• 36. Volunteer for causes to help the underprivileged
• 37. Exercise - be physically and mentally active and fit
• 38. Empower yourself with knowledge - do lot of research and studying
• 39. Get organized
• 40. Proactively seek crucial & challenging responsibilities
• 41. Continuously improve whatever you do repeatedly
• 42. Develop and practice the art of humor - Learn to laugh at your own mistakes but create the mind-frame of never repeating the same
• 43. Be humble and polite - Arrogance, ego, aggressiveness and anger are the qualities displayed by the insecure, submissive and weak people
• 44. Create the habit of recognizing the contributions of others and thanking them
• 45. Make it part of your nature to accept, apologize and correct your mistakes
• 46. Learn continuously to increase your knowledge and awareness
• 47. Taking calculated risk - disrupt your routine
• 48. Develop hobbies that makes you stretch far beyond your comfort zones
• 49. Join & participate actively in your professional circle
• 50. Volunteer in social activities
• 51. Everyday taking action towards your powerful dreams
• 52. Identify and get rid of all the people who drain you, put you down, insult you and make you feel worthless - irrespective of who they are as these people are never going to be your well wishers
• 53. Practice to say NO to your own temptations and impulses and instant gratifications
• 54. Practice assertiveness [see our article on assertiveness]
• 55. Identify your core values and standing up for them
• 56. Not compromising with excellence, always doing & delivering your best by giving your 100%
• 57. Before any major assignment, job, test, examination or venture – planning, learning, practicing till fully comfortable
• 58. Look for change in a proactive manner and making yourself prepared to face the worst
• 59. Learn creative ways of solving problems
• 60. Keeping yourself physically active, healthy & fit
• 61. Learn to visualize and anchor powerful positive emotions for changing your moods in an instant
• 62. Use few NLP techniques like reframing to change the belief
• 63. Start competing only with yourself & ensuring that you are working on yourself always
• 64. Consciously work on to negate/let go of your desires of being approved, appreciated, applauded, admired, accepted, recognized, respected and rewarded by others
• 65. Learn to be happy for other's success and accomplishments - Helping others to grow
• 66. Slowly forcing yourself not expect anything from others
• 67. Ensure that you tackle the toughest of task at the time of your utmost level of energy and enthusiasm
• 68. Ensure that irrespective of the number of times you fall & fail, every time to get up, improvise and try again till you succeed in your objectives
• 69. Always surround yourself with people who are smarter, more knowledgeable, more intelligent, more qualified, and more competent than yourself and are people who are always optimistic and on the go people
• 70. Refine your communication and conversation skills to the highest level by mastering not only the language but also the subject and awareness level
• 71. Always try to look at any issue from different perspectives
• 72. Never settle for the first impression and first solution - but going for deeper meanings by exploring all the possible alternatives, possibilities and options that you can find
• 73. Make yourself operate only from your area of control which means - taking action in whatever is possible for you in this instant, in especially those things, which seems impossible right now
• 74. Keep a log of your learnings from your failures and mistakes
• 75. Also keep a note of what you could have improved in your success stories
• 76. Identifying and accepting your weaknesses & strengths and starting to love, respect and accept yourself unconditionally [see our article on how to love yourself unconditionally]
• 77. Learn to deliver more than you promise
• 78. Learn to act like a professional [see our blog on this]
• 79. Create a log-book of all your blessings like your family support and others
• 80. Identify and focus on the most important of your priorities as per your life's dreams and passions
• 81. Learn to express your views & opinions using "I" statements
• 82. Learn to take the personal responsibilities & ownership for your actions and life
• 83. Learn & Practice the art of asking questions - and asking uncomfortable and tough questions of yourself as well as others
• 84. Practice asking questions whenever in doubt, even it means sounding dumb. It really does not matter as no one really thinks anyone dumb-unless they are themselves ignorant
• 85. Listen to understand and not to reply and one-up-man-ship
• 86. Start a process to forgive all those who have hurt you in the past - for your own wellbeing
• 87. Compare with others [if you must] only for identifying the areas to improve as bench-marking for creating improvement
• 88. Focus more on happiness rather than materialistic or superficial issues
• 89. Take pride who you are and what you do, all the tasks are equally important
• 90. If you are feeling lost and don't know what to do - do nothing
• 91. Take actions towards all that you are feeling guilt for and ensure that your lists of regrets becomes shorter
• 92. Experiment with new ideas, experiences and create powerful memories
• 93. Find a mentor and create a solid support network for yourself
• 94. 9 beliefs you need to create-accept-inculcate - in order to work on your self-confidence
• I.Accept that you don't need to fix everything
• II.Accept that you don't have to control others to be seen powerful
• III.Accept that you don't need other's approval to do your job their way, but that you must do what is right as per your values
• IV.Accept that you don't have to prove anything to anyone
• V.Accept that you don't have to do things to please others
• VI.Accept that you have do as per your passion
• VII.Accept that if you are failing it is just because you do not have the skills & competence to handle this at this moment. Learn and fill the gap and then go back to the task again
• VIII.Believe that you worthy of happiness
• IX.Embrace your imperfections
• 95. 14 tips on How to Tackle Self-Sabotage Behaviors and Thought Patterns That Undermine Our Self-Confidence
• I.Examine your thoughts and yourself in how many ways they are self-sabotaging you

II.Examine your behavior which leads to self-sabotaging actions

III.Understand the reasons why you self-sabotage

• IV.Stop comparing yourself with people who seemingly have more material possessions or are happy, instead focus on making yourself equipped with the skills, knowledge, qualifications, experience and attitude that would make you realize your dreams
• V.Learn the suitable ways to manage your stress
• VI.Do more of the things that you enjoy
• VII.Set yourself a challenge that you can realistically complete
• VIII.Spend more time with those you hold near and dear
• IX.Do the right thing rather than doing things the right way
• X.Replace the perfectionism within you and go for excellence
• XI.Be your own best friend
• XII.Create personal boundaries
• XIII.Involve yourself in creative interests
• XIV.Learn to deal with your fear through deep breathing & EFT, read about it in our blog how to make fear, fear-you

ALSO READ - 25 Thought Processes, Habits and Beliefs of Happy, Blissful and Confident people - http://relationshipandhappiness.com/latest-posts/thought-processes-habits-and-beliefs-of-happy-blissful-and-confident-people.html & 37 Qualities of a confident man PLUS 22 Signs of a Confident Women AND things that Confident & Classy Women Would Never do - http://relationshipandhappiness.com/latest-posts/signs-of-confident-men-and-women.html

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