<p><span>In this article you will learn the following</span><br></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">70 Tips for Dealing with Bullies</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">13 Types of bullies, tyrants and control-freaks</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">34 tips on what actions to take if you are facing Tyrants</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">- 9 most fundamental Truths - If you are being bullied</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-5 tips for Dealing with cyberbullying</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-24 Techniques control-freaks, dominating, oppressive and suppressive people, tyrants and bullies use and why they act the way they do </b></p><p>How to face tyrants bullies persecutors</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Have you ever been bullied or faced people with very aggressive controlling and dominating nature</b> - who just don't bother about the harm, the destruction and the damage they are causing.</p><p>You will come across bullies and tormentors - <b data-redactor-tag="b">as your parents, as spouse, as your siblings, as teachers, as your bosses</b> and then off-course in the ruling-administrative-executive-political cadres.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Why people become Bully</b></p><p>No list can ever be exhaustive as - <b data-redactor-tag="b">the triggers and the reasons are so many but - most have psychological-base which develops over a long period of time</b> - and may have its origin in say - <b data-redactor-tag="b">Childhood-teen-adult abuse issues and or Suffocating and oppressive growing-up experience</b>s etc.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Many bullies also fits the DSM-5 diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder</b>. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">9 most fundamental Truths - If you are being bullied </b></p> <ul><li>1.Most of the bullies are <b data-redactor-tag="b">- emotionally-insecure, cowards, jealous, envious, and revengeful under-achievers</b></li> <li>2.Bullying is real <b data-redactor-tag="b">- many-many kids as well as adults</b> [even in their late 40s-50s and older] - <b data-redactor-tag="b">may experience bullying</b> in some form or other</li> <li>3.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Denying and avoiding facing facts - will not make</b> bullying and the bully go away </li> <li>4.If you happen to at the receiving end of - <b data-redactor-tag="b">a dominating or a pushy person or a controlling-bossy maniac or a bully or even a tyrant</b> - you will experience oppression, suppression, torturous, demeaning and suffocation and even suicidal feelings and emotions.</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">5.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">It is your personal fight - only you have to all the actions</b></li> <li>6.No one can help you deal with all aspects of bullying - <b data-redactor-tag="b">always remember Ukraine - entire world is watching and some are also trying to take advantage of the situation by selling</b> [this is how the situation you might be actually facing] </li> <li>7.Only you have to <b data-redactor-tag="b">create the resolve and learn how to get rid of bullies PLUS your inner-demons</b></li> <li>8.<b data-redactor-tag="b">There are effective ways and tools</b> [few are given in this article] - <b data-redactor-tag="b">which can help you make the bully frustrated</b> and move on to another victim</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">9.</b>Having said this - <b data-redactor-tag="b">if you are being bullied by - say hardcore-criminals or people who are connected with political-police nexus or their wards - then you need to use the techniques given in how to deal with tyrants</b> - even those may not work if your tormentors are ministers and religious-criminals - <b data-redactor-tag="b">in that case you have to only think of all the ways you can keep yourself and your loved-ones safe and protected</b></li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">13 Types of bullies, tyrants and control-freaks</b></p> <ul><li>1.<b data-redactor-tag="b">People with Low Self-esteem</b> - their Fragile self-esteem drives to disguise their feelings of inferiority by acting and projecting air of superiority - and their compelling need to Control others is one manifestation of their need to act superior</li> <li>2.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Bullies</b> - Bully's aim to harm the physically and psychologically - through verbal-bullying, social-bullying, physical-bullying and cyber-bullying etc.</li> <li>I.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Verbal bullying</b> includes name calling, taunting, rudeness, and threats of violence and harm AND the worst giving silent-treatments.</li> <li>II.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Social bullying</b> includes gossiping, ridiculing and mocking as well as trying to embarrass and belittle in front of others. </li> <li>III.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Physical bullying</b> includes pushing, hitting, violence and sexual abuse.</li> <li>IV.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Cyberbullies</b> - Cyberbullying includes sending, posting, or sharing negative, harmful, false, or mean content about someone else. It can include sharing personal or private information about someone else causing embarrassment or humiliation</li> <li>V.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Passive-aggressive bully</b> - include toxic gossip, jokes and sarcasm at their victim's expense</li> <li>VI.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Emotional Bullies </b>- these are the people - who know how to take advantage of your emotional-vulnerabilities and your shared secrets - they are the classical sadists who gets the thrill when they see you suffer</li> <li>VII.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Stalkers</b> - a person who pursues someone obsessively and aggressively to the point of harassment or a man following or contacting a woman, despite clear indication of disinterest by the woman, or monitoring her use of the Internet or electronic communication</li> <li>3.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Self-centered Egotists</b> - They lack empathy for others and their motivation happens when they are only for their own self-interests - they become controlling because only their needs matters</li> <li>4.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Narcissists</b> - they expect to be recognized as superior, even when their accomplishments are ordinary - plus they have a grandiose sense of self-importance - as a result they not only exaggerate their achievements but also fantasize attaining unlimited success, fame, recognition and power. they have a very high sense of entitlement - as they believe they are special and should get admiration - they become controlling because except them nobody's needs matters and hence they exploit others to achieve their own ends</li> <li>5.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Psychopath</b>s - these have very unhealthy levels of anti-social disorder - they totally disregard the rights of others and they harm others by planned and focused efforts - they blame others for everything - they are deceitful, aggressive, tough minded, glib, superficial, exploitative, irresponsible, and impulsive - and don't have any remorse for the harm they cause others - but they manage to charm many people to making them their followers</li> <li>6.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Tyrants</b> - Tyrants often appear as strong and effective leaders - initially and that is why so many tyrants attain leadership positions - often the majority makes the most damaging mistake of trusting and granting these tyrants positions of power - as most confuse tyranny with leadership </li> <li>7.<b data-redactor-tag="b">MOB</b>-Bullies - these are the people who torment weaker people in groups</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">9 Reasons Why a Bully bullies</b></p> <ul><li>1.Some bullies are looking for attention -They might think bullying is a way to be popular or to get what they want. </li> <li>2.Most bullies are trying to make themselves feel more important. </li> <li>3.When they pick on someone else, it can make them feel big and powerful.</li> <li>4.Some bullies come from families where everyone is angry and shouting all the time. They may think that being angry, calling names, and pushing people around is a normal way to act. </li> <li>5.Some bullies are copying what they've seen someone else do</li> <li>6.Some have been bullied themselves.</li> <li>7.Sometimes bullies know that what they're doing or saying hurts other people. But other bullies may not really know how hurtful their actions can be. Most bullies don't understand or care about the feelings of others.</li> <li>8.Bullies often pick on someone they think they can have power over. </li> <li>9.Getting a big reaction out of someone can make bullies feel like they have the power they want. Sometimes bullies pick on someone who is smarter than they are or different from them in some way. </li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">24 Techniques control-freaks, dominating, oppressive and suppressive people, tyrants and bullies use and why they act the way they do </b></p> <ul><li>1.Basically all these people are coward, with no or negligible education and don't have any achievements - which makes them highly envious of people who are big accomplishers</li> <li>2.They have severe identity crisis - as a result they use and incite the mob-madness to promote their goals</li> <li>3.They feel that controlling people and situations - will help them reduce their anxieties resulting from their perceived vulnerabilities</li> <li>4.They have this mistaken belief that what they control won't make them feel inferior</li> <li>5.They also have very high levels of fear of looking weak by getting their weaknesses exposed - to overcome this they try to control every aspect of the environment and the people in it</li> <li>6.Because they are unsure of themselves - they start micro-managing everything</li> <li>7.Because they know - that they Don't Know - <b data-redactor-tag="b">they show-off by giving explanations and theories and lectures and teachings on every topic on the earth</b> - which fails miserably [because mostly they have to rely on other's knowledge - and the people they surround themselves with also are uneducated - <b data-redactor-tag="b">so the teleprompter-failure-syndrome happens</b>]</li> <li>8.They also forget what they can change and what is beyond them</li> <li>9.They choose <b data-redactor-tag="b">an ineffective approach to coping with their anxiety - using lies, deceit, false-promises and threats, coercion</b> etc.</li> <li>10.They deal with most challenges - <b data-redactor-tag="b">by blaming and ignoring and by avoiding </b>- instead of taking right action</li> <li>11.Tyrants reduce their own fear by removing anyone who poses a threat to them</li> <li>12.They use your fears, anxieties, shame, hate and guilt</li> <li>13.They use tantrums everywhere</li> <li>14.<b data-redactor-tag="b">They are Drama-queens - and can get tears or any such emotions</b> - on demand</li> <li>15.They create an atmosphere of fear and panic</li> <li>16.They are master manipulators and divert your attention by creating smoke screen </li> <li>17.How this behavior develops - Driven by the fear of avoiding getting their weaknesses exposed can result in controlling behavior. </li> <li>18.Control freaks are deathly afraid of looking bad and weak</li> <li>19.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Their biggest fear is that they are a weakling and that they are not good</b> - <b data-redactor-tag="b">makes them control their image at all cost</b> - which leads them to fabricate lies and then more lies.</li> <li>20.Impatience causes people to seize control in an attempt to speed events along and get more done - but this is a quick-fix which seldom works. </li> <li>21.Their inner-dialogue will be something like this -Your approval is paramount for my self-worth - therefore I must control and humiliate you so you cannot question my vulnerabilities.</li> <li>22.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Control freaks may hold the mistaken belief that the person with the most toys or the biggest wardrobe</b> makes them superior.</li> <li>23.Uncontrollable adverse events often lead to learned helplessness and stress. </li> <li>24.Exerting control prevents learned helplessness, unless you try to control the uncontrollable or change the unchangeable.</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">70 Tips for Dealing with Bullies - given randomly - for most of the single sentence tip - there are few exhaustive do-it-yourself blog in my both the websites</b></p> <ul><li>1.Understand what bullying is - Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior that involves a real or perceived power imbalance</li> <li>2.Bullies may start out with more power because they are physically bigger, stronger or in a position of power and authority</li> <li>3.Bullies also suck the power from their victims - by practicing on many weak persons - so you need to put a stop</li> <li>4.Avoid getting physical - You're more likely to be hurt and get into trouble if you try to fight a bully. </li> <li>5.Build Your Own Strength - Take martial arts lessons -This will boost your confidence, prime your physique and enable you to gain combat or defensive skills</li> <li>6.Learn a few self-defense moves - like hitting the solar plexus (right below the ribs- Then when you get your first chance, run to get to a safe place and call for help</li> <li>7.Create a body language and expression like - don't-mess-with-me aura</li> <li>8.Work out your anger in another way, such as exercising or writing it down </li> <li>9.Practice ways to respond to the bully verbally or through your behavior. </li> <li>10.Practice feeling good about yourself (even if you have to fake it at first)</li> <li>11.Role-play "What If" Scenarios - and various responses</li> <li>12.Adopt a warrior gaze - Look them in the eye with an icy gaze - absolutely a deadpan experience and no smile </li> <li>13.Never reply with a comeback or an insult (that would be stooping to their level</li> <li>14.To disarm them - Ask open ended questions - this might force them to think and may distract their focus</li> <li>15.If you have to listen to them - buy time - by saying something like - I need some time to think about it - and then prepare a well-thought-out strategy.</li> <li>16.Talk about it - seek guidance, help and support from - </li> <li>17.Expressing what you feel is a healthy outlet for your fears and frustrations - and can give you space to think clearly</li> <li>18.Stand up for friends and others you see being bullied - Your actions help the victim feel supported - plus you learn how to deal with bullies of certain types</li> <li>19.Develop right-healthy-practical Coping Mechanisms - you would need many</li> <li>20.Do your best not to show any reaction—just walk away - if you can. </li> <li>21.Understand that no one can talk sense to an irrational person - Walk away with dignity</li> <li>22.Learn to stand up for yourself- <a name="step_1_2"></a>Believe that you have the strength and are stronger than they are <a name="step_1_3"></a></li> <li>23.Bullies tend to pick people who are alone - avoid them in school and social situations </li> <li>24.Change your route - if they can't find you - they can't bully you </li> <li>25.If possible try to stay with a group or at least with at least one other person </li> <li><a name="step_1_4"></a>26.When you are with bully - never make jokes on yourself - this only pleases the bully - and they will up their ante of ridicule and humiliation to lower your self-esteem further</li> <li>27.Avoid insulting the bully if they have a history of physically bullying you since this instigates a conflict you can't win. </li> <li>28.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Bullies usually aren't very smart or witty </b>-Laugh at everything they say - to frustrate your bullies because they want you to cry - not laugh.</li> <li>29.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Observe and study the surroundings for possible escape routes</b>, hangouts, conflict zones, safe zones, and territorial boundaries</li> <li>30.Be aware of the bully's connections - as most bullies have supporters and underlings - create your support group</li> <li>31.Practice power-walk - Walk with a purposeful confidence and a don't-you-dare-mess-with-me attitude. </li> <li><a name="step_2_3"></a>32.Know your strengths, weaknesses, and goals</li> <li>33.Recognize the type of bully you and others are dealing with- Does the person abuses you physically - Aggressive bullies like to hit, punch, kick </li> <li>34.Or this person pretend to be your friend - but then makes you feel bad by making fun of you in front of others - This is emotional and social bullying. </li> <li><a name="step_3_5"></a>35.Spread the word - Bullying is a real problem - although you must fight yourself - but the world should know - never try to protect the identity of bully and try to deal with this torment quietly</li> <li>36.Make everyone aware that it happens every day - Only when others are aware - they will do something about it</li> <li>37.Understand that their actions might not have anything to do with you - They might be using you as a punching bag to take their anger or sadness out </li> <li>38.Don't take what the bullies says personally - in most cases - it has nothing to do with you.</li> <li>39.Avoid the bully whenever possible - but don't make it obvious that you are avoiding them - as Bullies target those they know that they can get a reaction out of</li> <li>40.If they are on social media - block their profile and remove any connections you share with them </li> <li>41.But please be aware that they may create a new profile - so accept new requests only after checking thoroughly</li> <li>42.Disable comments on your social media accounts to avoid seeing this type of harassment <a href="https://www.wikihow.com/Respond-to-an-Adult-Bully#_note-2"></a></li> <li>43.Ignore the taunts completely - show no reaction at all </li> <li>44.Don't explain anything to the bully - they know that they are being ignored and why - <b data-redactor-tag="b">in fact explaining and being defensive about what you are doing will only give them the satisfaction</b> that are looking for</li> <li>45.Exhibit and practice assertive attitude - assertive people are less likely to get teased or bullied </li> <li>46.Stop feeling like a victim - changing your responses </li> <li>47.Document all offenses -Save emails and take screenshots of social media comments right away. If you wait too long, the bully may delete them.</li> <li>48.Don't reciprocate bullying with bullying - because the bully is a seasoned-pro at what they do and they are good - you can't expect them to beat them in their own game</li> <li>49.Choose not to allow yourself to become isolated by a bully - most of the bullies will try to intimidate you to the point that you may start feeling as if there is no one who can help you</li> <li>50.Deny this person the opportunity to make you a recluse </li> <li>51.Set Limits - Remain polite and professional while still setting your limits firmly</li> <li>52.Don't let the bully get under your skin—that's what he wants </li> <li>53.Practice your response so you're prepared the next time something happens and you can respond swiftly without getting emotional </li> <li>54.Instead of getting involved in exchanging hostilities - just hold on - so that you are not impulsively reacting in harmful and damaging manner </li> <li>55.Walk away when the bully approaches you - count to 100 and keep walking just practice imagining you are walking away from a stranger</li> <li>56.Keep walking and don't turn around no matter what they say.</li> <li>57.When a bully calls you a name or tells you something insulting - start laughing and Keep laughing hysterically and walk away without any additional conversation</li> <li>58.When the bully harasses you and calls you names - look them in the eyes, LAUGH and walk away without any additional conversation.</li> <li>59.Don't blame yourself. It is not your fault - No matter what a bully says or does, you should not be ashamed of who you are or what you feel</li> <li>60.The bully is an unhappy and frustrated person who wants to have control over your feelings so that you feel as badly as they do - just stop giving them this satisfaction</li> <li>61.Don't dwell and overthink on a bullying incident too-long </li> <li>62.Delete all cyberbullying messages immediately and block that channel </li> <li>63.Create focus on the positive experiences in your life -There are many wonderful things in this world to look forward to</li> <li>64.Be proud of who you are</li> <li>65.Learn to manage stress</li> <li>66.Finding healthy ways to avoid feeling overwhelmed by negative experiences</li> <li>67.Exercise, meditate, relax</li> <li>68.Spend time doing things you enjoy - involve yourself in the activities in sports and hobbies</li> <li>69.Understand the brain of these bullies - are they the spoiled-brats or the insecure attention-seekers - Keep Your Cool and Avoid Being Reactive</li> <li>70.Stay safe and keep your distance - remove yourself from a dangerous situation and get to a safe place.</li> <li>71.Take a deep breath and remind yourself to stay calm</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">72.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Few Fundamental Rights that all us have</b></li> <li>I.You have the right to be treated with respect and dignity</li> <li>II.You have the right to express your feelings, opinions and wants - without hurting others</li> <li>III.You have the right to choose your own priorities</li> <li>IV.You have the right to ask questions </li> <li>V.You have the right to say No to all that you feel bad about - without feeling guilty.</li> <li>VI.You have the right to get the proper service and value - for what you pay money for.</li> <li>VII.You have the right to have different point of view and opinion - than others.</li> <li>VIII.You have the right to take care of and protect yourself from being threatened physically, mentally or emotionally.</li> <li>IX.You have the right to live the way you want - if that does not infringe on other's right</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">5 tips for Dealing with cyberbullying</b></p> <ul><li>1.Don't respond immediately - the not responding at all</li> <li>2.Follow up - if absolutely necessary - and only when you are calm and clear</li> <li>3.Take screenshots Document as many of the details of the incident as possible. Write it down, videotape it or take photos with written or voice notes - Get the names and contact information of any witnesses, if possible</li> <li>4.Report to the proper social-media channel redressal and block the bully</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">5.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">If the Cyberbullying becomes serious and won't stop</b></li> <li>I.Contact the police and lodge complaints</li> <li>II.Contact an attorney or file a complaint in court - if the police does not take any action</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">34 tips on what actions to take if you are facing Tyrants</b></p> <ul><li>1.We can choose how we respond to tyrants -There are alternatives to oppression.</li> <li>2.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Create your own methods to overcome your Fears which leads to tunnel vision and panic</b> - Bullies and Tyrants exploit your fears by using threats </li> <li>3.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Do not antagonize these people - especially if provoking them would only result in more</b> oppression, more torture and more pain and sufferings fir you</li> <li>4.Without accepting and giving up - learn to Endure and wait patiently </li> <li>5.Find out what are your areas of power and strengths - develop them to the levels of Zen-masters</li> <li>6.Find out who would be your support - there would be maybe one or maximum two - who will come openly in support of you</li> <li>7.Find out ways you can increase your support base</li> <li>8.Find out - what you can change - which is within your area of control </li> <li>9.Identify what all alternatives, options and possibilities are available to you</li> <li>10.Before taking any action - work on the worst case scenario - and then create solutions to handle them</li> <li>11.If possible try to identify - these bully's fear-factor or why they feel insecure</li> <li>12.Objectively check - <b data-redactor-tag="b">whether it is a situation where you have the strengths, resources support and opportunities</b> - to take suitable measures</li> <li>13.If you cannot do anything - <b data-redactor-tag="b">instead of beating yourself and remaining tensed - disengage and dissociate</b> - yourself emotionally - Choose to live to fight another day</li> <li>14.Fight with them - ONLY when you have a reasonable base of power, support and resources</li> <li>15.Study the tyrant to find out their weaknesses - use your strength where they are weakest</li> <li>16.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Focus on highlighting the FACTS - slowly as the facts become more widely known and understood - the irrationality and the unreasonableness</b> of the tyrant's position becomes clearer to their supporters </li> <li>17.Create and use the power of alliances - among all the sufferers pool joint resources to effect positive changes </li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">18.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Understand that most of the tyrants are childish - they lack self-control, sound judgment, refined character, respect, wisdom and visionary purpose, humility, and responsibility </b></li> <li>19.They will use <b data-redactor-tag="b">threats, abuse, violence and all types of coercive tools at their disposal</b> - to order you around and make you do what they want you to.</li> <li>20.They cross the line of decency and respect - again and again - if you don't deal with them effectively.</li> <li>21.Tyrants exercise their power in cruel, harsh and destructive manner - for all those they feel are not with them.</li> <li>22.They are oppressive, irrational, demeaning, inconsiderate and illogical people - who as a rule make life difficult for the masses.</li> <li>23.<b data-redactor-tag="b">These people expect to control the people and events around them - challenging them or exposing their tactics would result in severe and dangerous retaliation</b> - especially if they happen to be in the position of power.</li> <li>24.That is why it is not advisable to confront them - unless you have taken adequate measures to protect yourself and your loved-ones - against all types of possible assaults</li> <li>25.Spread facts, be careful, <b data-redactor-tag="b">and don't assume in democracy you are safe</b></li> <li>26.The moment you notice your government using any form of hate speech to debase a group, women, migrants or minorities - withdraw your support and oppose [it has to happen at the onset only]</li> <li>27.Spread facts – but stay safe -Use social media as "the only weapon against dictatorships but use only the most <b data-redactor-tag="b">trusted VPN channels</b> and learn how people in dictatorship concealed their online activity - to prevent the authorities come knocking at your door</li> <li>28.Assume everyone is lying - this fake news era - don't believe what the news channels shout - they are all A**-lickers </li> <li>29.Understand that all the people-protecting institutions too gets broken under tyrants</li> <li>30. Do not wait for the tyrants to leave - because they won't on their own - the criminally-corrupt-psychopathic tyrants will do whatever it takes to cling on to power.</li> <li>31.Use humor -But recognize that humor and passive resistance have limits in the face of some of the most determined regimes - The state is afraid of your thoughts – that is your power<br> <br> </li></ul><div>#howtodealwithbullies, #howtostopgettingbullied, #whypeoplebully, #typesofbulliestyrants, #techniquesbulliesusetotormentyou, #howtomakeabullyfrustrated, #standingupforothersgettingbullied, #whatgivesbulliespower, #howtodisarmabully<span class="redactor-invisible-space"></span><br></div>