<p><span>In this article you will learn</span><br></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-65 ways How to remain calm-composed and in full self-control - how successful people stay calm at work and you can do it too </b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Those who have trained themselves through disciplined and structured practice</b> - to stay calm during their most trying times and toughest phases will be less stressful, happier, successful and have meaningful relationships.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Many of the great leaders have mastered the art of keeping a cool, calm, confident demeanor</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Maintaining your self-control and calm is easy - when you are having a positive phase and the going is good.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Anyone can smile, wave and take credit</b> - but the reaction a leader display - when the situations turns very bad - shows how great leaders he/she is.</p><p>Real winners and great leaders <b data-redactor-tag="b">are those who can retain their cool - when under extreme pressure and facing threats from multiple sources</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Life can be exhausting and there will be days when you are getting bombarded by numerous issues and which does not seem to end and keeps stretching endlessly</b> - and it can be difficult to keep your composure and remain calm.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Please understand that many situations cannot be changed and neither you won't any control over so many circumstances</b> - but you can still maintain your composure under pressure by learning through disciplined practice.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">In today's VUCA [volatile, uncertain, complex and ambiguous] & future-wise BANI [brittle, anxious, non-linear and incomprehensible] world</b> - most of us are <b data-redactor-tag="b">living in a time of hyper-competitiveness and an unprecedented pace of change with huge disruptions</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Intermittent temporary stressful events can make your brain more alert and more effective</b>- but a prolonged state of stress - suppresses your brain's ability to develop new cells and also handle the situation in positive manner.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Many of us under extreme stress - may go back to behaviors</b> we used in childhood when faced with an highly threatening situation [as per our perceptions] - some may run away and hide or go into your own inner cocoon or throw tantrums or shut others out or scream - <b data-redactor-tag="b">which is a classic flight-freeze-fight reaction to stress, anxiety and fear.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">How do successful people remain calm under pressure - how do they manage to take actions in face of very scary situations?</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Composure is not something that everyone is born with - these great leaders have learned to manage their negative emotions</b> in productive, positive and meaningful ways. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">There is really no quick and easy way to learn and master this skill.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">When you see a leader who is cool, calm, and collected</b> - it is because they went through many ups and downs which forced them to grow into the leader they are today.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Leaders don't scream or show fear when they are in very high-pressure situations</b> - they assure everyone looking to them for guidance that things will be fine - this mentality is what separates leaders from the rest.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">65 ways How to remain calm-composed and in full self-control - how successful people stay calm at work and you can do it too by taking care of your wellbeing - mentally, physically, emotionally, socially and relationship-wise</b></p> <ul><li>1.Create a plan of having multiple small-small meals every day including small portions of protein, greens and leafy vegetables, fruits, carbs, nuts-raisins, vitamins etc.</li> <li>2.Ensure that you get a very-deep sleep of at least 1 & ½ hours every day - learn how to achieve this through my blog on sleep in this section</li> <li>3.Go for aerobic and cardio-exercise - on the days not possible just walk and stretch even while working</li> <li>4.Spend quiet time with yourself doing nothing, thinking nothing - and by just being aware of the thoughts moving around in your mind without focusing on them till you reach the state of thoughtlessness </li> <li>5.Meditate and relax - find your own way of meditation that works for you</li> <li>6.Learn and do breathing exercises every day - inhale through your nose, counting to four very slowly - let the air fill your lungs completely -hold your breath to another count of four -exhale through your mouth, to a count of four hold your breath again for the same count of four - then repeat</li> <li>7.Play team games that involves running and jumping around</li> <li>8.When you feel overwhelmed with too much to do - or angry at something or other's incompetence, or frustrated, or disappointed - instead of saying why is this happening to me - ask what can i do now to mitigate and what I need to change </li> <li>9.Learn to stop <b data-redactor-tag="b">overthinking and overanalyzing</b> <b data-redactor-tag="b">- first become aware that you are doing it then learn from</b> my blog on this topic on how to break this habit of mind</li> <li>10.Train yourself to be comfortable with discomfort by becoming familiar with feeling pressure by taking projects that is a stretch</li> <li>11.Create routine for your forthcoming challenging project - highlighting what you would do if things don't work the way you plan</li> <li>12.Shift your attention away from your worries and towards the task at hand</li> <li>13.Step outside for a purposeful pause - when overwhelmed or facing a stressor to avoid fight-freeze-flight reaction</li> <li>14.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Identify your triggers - which makes you lose your self-control and calm - both people and situation </b>- after identifying how you react and what presses your triggers - <b data-redactor-tag="b">create a plan to manage those responses</b> - if it is an important meeting - take the time to think about what will be said in the conversation and figure out which of those things might rattle you and determine what your response will be</li> <li>15.<b data-redactor-tag="b">When someone throws you an unexpected curveball- learn and practice the art of asking questions</b>-use this to create a pause and buy- to think [while breathing and exhaling and counting backwards from 10 to 1]</li> <li>16.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Understand that it is very difficult to control your triggers and even more difficult to control your emotions</b> as they happen before you have even realized it</li> <li>17.Ask yourself if the thing causing you the stress is really worth it</li> <li>18.Stay passionate but don't allow your emotions to get in the way - don't take things personally</li> <li>19.Respond decisively speak with conviction, confidence, and authority – whether you know the answer or not - don't show any signs of doubt to instill belief in others </li> <li>20.Take accountability by being fully committed to resolve the issue at hand during times of crisis and change - it is only your responsibility to solve all your problems</li> <li>21.Be willing to listen to understand and learn</li> <li>22.Approach the matter at hand with a sense of elegance and grace - focus on finding the best solution by exploring multiple solutions</li> <li>23.Reframe the situation by putting the situation into right context</li> <li>24.Create solutions for the worst-case scenario </li> <li>25.Face your fear by taking action - one small action towards what makes you scared and this action if the way forward to mitigate your fears</li> <li>26.Lead by making decisions - in case your solution doesn't work - you take what you learned, and then immediately take another shot by improvising</li> <li>27.Make decisions from facts not feelings</li> <li>28.Winners operate in the real world, not in the idealized world that exists in an individual mind. Become decisive</li> <li>29.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Keep your eyes on the ball to ensure the most important thing stays the most important thing</b> - as it is very easy for your team to get sidetracked - because every project has in-built distractions, interferences, and complications and a lack of focus will lead to failure.</li> <li>30.Expect success- don't fall into the trap of visualizing and anticipating failure—it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy</li> <li>31.Learn to use your emotions as a tool channel your emotions constructively and not let your emotions control you</li> <li>32.Learn to accept feedback as your best friend and gift - learn the art of giving and receiving feedback.</li> <li>33.Learn alternative approaches to handling conflict-try out a few of these techniques until you find one that works for you, and you'll be seen as a leader that stays calm and can take the heat when it gets hot in the kitchen.</li> <li>34.Stop whining - move forward</li> <li>35.Stop thinking about what will happen and what else can go wrong</li> <li>36.Stop doing what you do - start doing things differently</li> <li>37.Stop and ask what you can do - don't wait start doing</li><li>38. Plan ahead - focus on one thing at a time - remain flexible - don't sweat the small stuff</li> <li><span> 40. Seek support and help from others - as </span>no one succeeds in a silo<br></li> <li><span>41.Act like you have been there before</span><br></li> <li>42.Slow down - never ask -what if -but develop a coping strategy for all things going wrong</li> <li>43.If nothing is working lower your expectations especially of yourself – try not to put added pressure on yourself and just do the best that you can</li> <li>44.Learn to process large amounts of complex information, contradictory views, and strong emotions</li> <li>45.Keep informed but don't drown in information overload- it always select the most reliable sources of information</li> <li>46.Mix confidence and hope with realism - challenge and reframe your perspective</li> <li>47.Adapt your personal operating model - learn to prioritize and use your time and energy in optimum manner</li> <li>48.Learn to manage your energy</li> <li>49.Learn to make jokes</li> <li>50.Avoid assumptions -identify the true source of your frustration -view the situation objectively</li> <li>51.Give yourself a break - work on something productive</li> <li>52.Consider the possibilities</li> <li>53.Be tactful and respectful</li> <li>54.Avoid toxic people </li> <li>55.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Admit that you're anxious or angry - challenge your thoughts ask yourself the following questions</b> - Is this likely to happen -are you thinking rationally and logically -What's the worst that can happen - Can I handle that - how can I plan to deal with these</li> <li>56.Release the anxiety or anger - visualize yourself being calm, collected and composed</li> <li>57.Think it through - change your focus</li> <li>58.Identify pressure points to calm anger and anxiety</li> <li>59.Chew gum - listen to music-dance it out - squeeze a stress ball</li> <li>60.Play with puzzles, Rubik's cube</li> <li>61.Determine if you're stressing about something that is in the past - Determine whether you're stressed about the future -Choose your response</li> <li>62.Train yourself by practicing all above to be able to deal with unknown and uncertain situations - the more practice and training you get, the more competent and confident you will feel</li> <li>63.Nothing substitutes for experience - rehearse the various challenging situation and find solutions of highly pressure-filled environments on a regular basis</li> <li>64.Don't become paralyzed if you find yourself messing up here. If you ever fly off the handle, apologize and commit to doing better in the future.</li> <li>65.Being a leader means that you can't be afraid of failure - everyone fails sometimes here failure is not a problem but how you react to it</li> </ul><p><span><br></span></p> <p>#howtoremaincalmandcomposed, #howtoretainselfcontrolunderpressure, #howsuccessfulpeoplestaycool, #greatleadersandwhatmakesthemgreat, #VUCA, #BANI, #artofkeepingcoolcalmconfident, #staycalmduringstressfultimes, #managingstressfulsituations, #remainingcalminfaceofadversity, #manaageyournegativeemotionseffectively </p>