<p><b data-redactor-tag="b">In this article you will learn the following</b><br></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-58 Ways to deal with people who drain you</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-64 Signs you are dealing with an energy vampire</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn how to identify and protect yourself from people who drain you</b> emotionally mentally physically and financially <b data-redactor-tag="b">and in many other negative ways – making yours and your loved-one's life hell.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">All of us may experience drained and exhausted,</b> time to time - physically, mentally, emotionally and consequently financially – but as these are temporary [caused by any sudden situation or your own mistake] <b data-redactor-tag="b">we are able to bounce back to our natural self</b>, fast.</p><p>In this article we will focus on – <b data-redactor-tag="b">how to identify people among your all relationships - who hijack your happiness, emotional-serenity, mental-peace and growth etc.</b> - AND how to <b data-redactor-tag="b">protect yourself from these negative human-forces using empowering ways.</b></p><p>If you look back – <b data-redactor-tag="b">you may identify the patterns –few specific people in your relationships make you </b>- mentally-exhausted, feel emotionally-drained, sense as if your complete life & physical-energy is sucked-out, <b data-redactor-tag="b">you just don't have any motivation and enthusiasm left and your willpower gone - making you feel overwhelmed, hopeless and helpless</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">It can be especially very-very challenging and difficult to deal with</b> – <b data-redactor-tag="b">if this is a person whom you love, trust and respect unconditionally</b> – who continuously drains your enthusiasm, hope, emotional energy – <b data-redactor-tag="b">making you start doubting yourself by having the feeling of being left alone, guilty, worthless, anxious and perpetually stressed</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">You may also find that there are people – who just by being around you – can cause feelings of</b> shame, guilt, dread, fear, anxiety, helplessness and hopelessness in you.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">These type of people are the – real Vampires/Evils/Devils/Satan</b> – <b data-redactor-tag="b">living among us in the guise of friends, seniors, relatives, POLITICIANs and people of authority etc. –they could also be even your romantic-partners, siblings and parents</b> [at least one of them].</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Most of these people have very unhealthy levels of psychological and mental disorders </b>– like narcissism, megalomaniac and severe anti-social disorders etc.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">These people don't have any scruple or remorse while Manipulating, deceiving, taking advantage of people, exploiting the weak and helpless people</b> and disregard the law as well as the boundaries and rights of people.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Here and in many parts of the world – these people are ruling and are transforming the culture of almost peaceful societies into</b> – banana-republic, crony-capitalistic, religiously-fanatic and kangaroo-court as well as tyrannically and criminally ruled countries.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">They thrive on power – which they get through the large army of their actively participative-supporters</b> who too are milking and looting and increasing their wealth.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">None of these people have any intention to help anyone</b> – they only help their friends.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">These are highly insecure people</b> [contrary to the impression they try to create] by <b data-redactor-tag="b">and use Violence, Whataboutery, Misinformation, Criminal Actions, Suppression tools and their power, ruthlessly</b> - to silence and muffle – anyone they feel threatened from.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">64 Signs you are dealing with an energy vampire</b></p> <ul><li>1.They are Very-very insecure and ashamed of their lacunae and weaknesses and want to hide this at any cost – they use the behaviors and attitudes given in this article</li> <li>2.They are inherently mean and of vile nature</li> <li>3.They enjoy and laugh – when someone from their own group is making some stupid, derogatory, shameful, toxic attack on others – on a made-up charge</li> <li>4.They feel good Abusing others</li><li>5. They love intimidating, <span>bullying and mob-harassment</span></li> <li>6.You may constantly feel guilty and shameful when around them </li> <li>7.Your self-esteem, self-worth, self-pride and self-confidence may take severe beating when around them</li> <li>8.They are Very Cruel and have total absence of empathy</li> <li>9.They expect you to take responsibility for them</li> <li>10.They want you to always be available on their terms</li> <li>11.You may notice people walking away from group conversations where they are present</li> <li>12.They don't respect others – simply because they are unable to respect themselves</li> <li>13.They may ask questions which could be highly personal – without bothering about other's feelings</li> <li>14.They make an ASS of themselves – all the time – YET their followers feel proud of them</li> <li>15.They ignore social cues and boundaries</li> <li>16.They Always Want to Be the Center of Attention</li> <li>17.They would Leave You Feeling Worn-Out, tired, fatigued </li> <li>18.They Use People Without Giving Anything in Return</li> <li>19.In the office or work situations - They are the office jerks</li> <li>20.You will find them Annoying and ridiculous</li> <li>21.They don't have much idea or knowledge, skills and expertise – in most areas BUT talk about everything as an expert as They think that they know all</li> <li>22.They spend their prime time photo-shooting and posting Selfies – sign of extremely poor mental health</li> <li>23.They like people who always say YES to whatever they say and applaud their stupidity and lies</li> <li>24.They indulge in gas-lighting others</li> <li>25.They use Passive-aggressive behavior to settle scores – when they are weak</li> <li>26.They are expert fakers</li> <li>27.They Have a compelling need to be the melodramatic victim and are in the center of dramatic situations which have created</li> <li>28.They are Manipulative and bully</li> <li>29.The can also be Helpless Dependent – if you happen to feel sorry for them and want to help them</li><li>30. They use your good nature against you </li><li>31. They will create guilt in you and use the power of ultimatums - They are also codependent It's a vicious cycle of behavior, but energy vampires rarely recognize that they're in them</li> <li>32.For them their smallest problems need – national and international attention BUT your problems are insignificant</li> <li>33.They are Argumentative on things that are insignificant or inconsequential</li> <li>34.They are can't accept responsibility BUT will blame everyone if something happens</li> <li>35.They Hate experts and people with real knowledge</li> <li>36.They rule through division, disinformation, religion, position-power, discrimination and politics</li> <li>37.They can lie and their Lies are of magnanimous levels</li> <li>38.They Use all tools and techniques to suppress TRUTH and establish their lies as truth</li> <li>39.They are Arrogant, Controlling and Dominant and Highly Vindictive </li> <li>40.They Create situations to make chaos, unruly state – by finding the vile people who support them</li> <li>41.They Can never do any real positive work</li> <li>42.They are Focused on destroying and damaging others – who are not with them </li> <li>43.They support, encourage and promote crime and corruption – this they use as tools</li> <li>44.They are Massive show-off</li> <li>45.They can Blame blame and blame – as nothing wrong is ever their responsibility</li> <li>46.They Take credit for others idea and work – maybe by changing names</li> <li>47.They Make excuses those does not sound intelligent or logical – BUT their followers believe in these as gospel truths </li> <li>48.They are basically Coward – run away from danger</li> <li>49.They are expert in using Very high drama elements and throw tantrums at anytime</li> <li>50.They can be charming – YET are generally stupid, idiotic morons BUT think highly of themselves </li> <li>51.They are usually Very cunning and manipulative – know which side of the bread is buttered</li> <li>52.They have HUGE EGO</li> <li>53.They Exaggerate their achievement AND Undermine and don't recognize others significant accomplishments and qualities</li> <li>54.They will Play victim most of time when cornered</li> <li>55.They are extremely jealous of others real achievement and qualities – that is why constantly try to pull the people who make them insecure</li> <li>56.They have a constant need for reassurance and acceptance.</li> <li>57.They whine and complain</li> <li>58.They never have any major positive achievements</li> <li>59.They use threat and actual harassment and violence – when things don't go their way</li> <li>60.They are Overly critical and judgmental</li> <li>61.They are the one - who always take but never give anything back</li> <li>62.They could also be the People who always talk but never listen</li> <li>63.They never take responsibility and never hold themselves accountable</li> <li>64.They also can play martyrs in addition to playing victims</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">58 Ways to deal with people who drain you </b>– all the one sentence tips have detailed do-it-yourself blogs/articles/answers in my two websites and in my Quora page – 900+ articles & 2500 answers<b data-redactor-tag="b"></b></p> <ul><li>1.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to be assertive and Say NO–</b> keep repeating <b data-redactor-tag="b">till they get discouraged – learn to say NO tactfully</b> [in case you can't avoid them or they are in the position to harm you] </li> <li>2.Ignore their tantrums and when they are showing-off</li> <li>3.Pay no attention – when they are upping their theatrics</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">4.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Find out what behaviors or response of yours makes their energy high – STOP using these behaviors and reactions</b></li> <li>5.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to become emotionally unresponsive, boring and ultimately, in their eyes, unworthy of attention</b> – to make them lose their interest in you</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">6.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Keep your interactions brief - give one-word answers</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">7.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to turn the conversation on such mundane topics </b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">8.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to discourage them subtly by keeping your expressions neutral and your answers vague</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">9.</b>Learn to identify when they are trying to take you on a ride – <b data-redactor-tag="b">point out that you are not interested</b></li> <li>10.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to recognize when they are baiting or provoking you</b> – keep clear of the traps they set for you</li> <li>11.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Appear disinterested – in say by looking, checking or talking on your phone – and </b>– in between nodding or looking at them</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">12.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Keep Minimal Eye-Contact - Listen, Don't Talk -Stay Calm, Don't Reactive -Don't Feel Bad</b></li> <li>13.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Don't give them an inch -Guard your emotional capacity</b> -Cut them out entirely mentally at least</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">14.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Be too tired for them – all the time</b></li> <li>15.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Do NOT overreact -</b> Remain cool, calm Make sure you have a way to reality check</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">16.</b>Be clear and specific -<b data-redactor-tag="b">Prioritize your needs -Learn to claim your space and rights</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">17.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">While they are saying something – look somewhere else and nod at other people</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">18.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to BREATH deeply and start thinking about the next action that you need to take for your own growth</b> - When you get blamed unjustly – which will be most of the time – <b data-redactor-tag="b">learn and practice to not to actually listen to what they are saying </b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">19.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Always ensure to schedule regular self-care – especially if you have to deal with toxic, manipulative and mean people</b></li> <li>20.Learn to practice – <b data-redactor-tag="b">the art of going into thoughtlessness by discovering which type of meditation is most suitable to you</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">21.</b>Seek professional help - <b data-redactor-tag="b">If you are not able to manage your emotions and neither are able to handle them effectively</b></li> <li>22.Set and enforce healthy emotional as well as physical boundaries - Be consistent with your boundaries</li> <li>23.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Work on re-building your self-awareness about why they make you feel so bad</b> – as you need to work on your self-worth and self-esteem big time</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">24.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn not to give in and learn to ignore prioritizing the needs of others to your own detriment</b></li> <li>25.Learn to stay firm in your resolve to take care of yourself and your loved ones</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">26.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to deal with bullies, difficult and toxic people effectively</b></li> <li>27.Identify what energizes you Think about the things that cause you forget to look up at the clock</li> <li>28.Also identify which activities makes you feel stressed</li> <li>29.Identify people who zap your energies and life-power</li> <li>30.Create list of relaxing techniques that work for you</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">31.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn how you can get out of your own self-defeating habits of overanalyzing, Worrying and overthinking </b></li> <li>32.Learn to do one job well avoid Multitasking</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">33.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to focus on excellence and continuous improvement and productivity INSTEAD of perfectionism</b></li> <li>34.Sleep well, relax and eat healthy</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">35.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Keep away from social media accounts of energy drainers</b></li> <li>36.Learn to find healthy empowering ways to vent your emotions instead of Bottling them up </li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">37.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn effective emotional social and relationship intelligence skills</b></li> <li>38.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Identify if you have a pattern of getting stuck in unhealthy relationship - seek help to identify and get rid of your self-sabotaging habits </b>– because Unhealthy patterns in your relationships will put you in un-resourceful emotional states</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">39.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn how to break unhealthy behavior patterns and adopt healthy ones</b></li> <li>40.Go for expectations setting – from yourself and others</li> <li>41.Learn to focus on actions rather than results</li> <li>42.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to be comfortable and accept the failures as well as mistakes</b> – create the mindset of correcting mistakes and bouncing back</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">43.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to let go of your guilt, hurt, sadness, grudges and shame</b></li> <li>44.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Identify and create a plan to avoid spending Time With Energy Vampires</b>, toxic and emotionally draining people</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">45.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn intelligent comebacks to counter demeaning put-downs and insulting comments</b></li> <li>46.Exercise and be in nature</li> <li>47.Create organized space where you live and work don't choose to Living in a cluttered space</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">48.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Surround yourself with people who uplift, challenge, encourage and motivate you </b></li> <li>49.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Spend time with people who make you laugh and make you feel great about yourself</b> Cultivate and maintain healthy relationships with right people</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">50.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Limit exposure to people who constantly complain or gossip </b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">51.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Never try to please an energy-vampires</b></li> <li>52.When you start to feel stressed - <b data-redactor-tag="b">get up and move around –Take short nap - do nothing at all for few minutes</b></li> <li>53.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Focus on making your personality and emotional-security so solid that</b> their negativity does not impact you</li> <li>54.Avoid feeling sorry for them – that means they have already trapped you</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">55.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Spend plenty of time recharging – identify activities that help you rejuvenate</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">56.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn to fight back assertively – without getting trapped in arguments</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">57.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">You must learn to Choose Your Battles Carefully</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">58.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Don't Post Your Entire Life on Social Media</b></li></ul><div><b><br></b></div><div><b><a href="#energyvampires, #mentalexhaustion, #emotionallydrained, #Financialdepletion, #physicallyexhausted, #protectingyourselffrompeoplewhodranyou, #peoplewhosuckyourlifeenergy, #identifyingpeoplewhodrainyou, #whatcausesenthusiasmloss, #peoplewhodrainyou, #howeneryvampiresmakeyouhopelessandhelpless, #peoplewhocausefeardreadandanxietyinyou, #bananarepublic, #cronycapitalistic, #religiouslyfanatic, #kangaroocourt, #tyrannicallyruledcountry, #misinformation" title="">#energyvampires, #mentalexhaustion, #emotionallydrained, #Financialdepletion, #physicallyexhausted, #protectingyourselffrompeoplewhodranyou, #peoplewhosuckyourlifeenergy, #identifyingpeoplewhodrainyou, #whatcausesenthusiasmloss, #peoplewhodrainyou, #howeneryvampiresmakeyouhopelessandhelpless, #peoplewhocausefeardreadandanxietyinyou, #bananarepublic, #cronycapitalistic, #religiouslyfanatic, #kangaroocourt, #tyrannicallyruledcountry, #misinformation</a><span class="redactor-invisible-space"></span><br></b></div>