<p><span>In this article you will learn the following</span><br></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">12 major causes of Jealousy - What makes us Jealous</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">57 tips on How to Deal With Jealousy</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-28 ways people react when jealous</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-15 Signs of jealousy in a relationship</b></p><p>How your unmet-desires and unrealistic-expectations can trigger jealousies in you</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Jealous people inadvertently - sabotage their own growth-success-happiness-relationships-peace</b> and anything that is worth in their life.</p><p>Have you met few or do you have those people in your circle - <b data-redactor-tag="b">who are jealous of you and your accomplishments.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Do you yourself feel jealous of others</b> - Do you feel jealous of few people most of the time - <b data-redactor-tag="b">Do you feel jealous of successful and happy people.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Jealousy is a very disempowering and un-resourceful state-inducing emotion.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Like all our negative and uncomfortable emotions - jealousy too - is a signal and a message</b> [that your body and your subconscious is giving] <b data-redactor-tag="b">for taking immediate corrective actions to resolve a deeper issue and to prevent bigger damages.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Jealousy offers us an opportunity to introspect and reflect and to get in touch with our own deeper needs within</b> along with giving a chance to know how we want to be treated by others.</p><p>Jealousy can happen <b data-redactor-tag="b">between your siblings, in your romantic relationships, in your professional and work-front, in your social circle</b> or even among your contacts on social media whom you may not know at all.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Jealousy happens when we are only focusing on what we don't have and blindingly ignoring our blessings</b> and what positives we already have.</p><p>When we are feeling Jealous - <b data-redactor-tag="b">our entire self is focused how miserable and unfortunate and unlucky we are</b> - <b data-redactor-tag="b">slowly this thinking become a pattern of a vicious circle of negative spiral</b> - which in turn <b data-redactor-tag="b">cripples our Self-Confidence and Damages our Self-Esteem</b> in most destructive ways.</p><p>Jealousy kills relationships and a <b data-redactor-tag="b">jealous person will have very few friends which in turn can lead to extreme feelings </b>of loneliness, depression, isolation and melancholy.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Those who have been jealous would agree that Jealousy feels so unpleasant and uncomfortable</b> and makes you feel so low.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">You may experience people displaying different types of jealousies</b> - pathological or psychological, sexual, romantic, power-based, attachment, envy and creative jealousy </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">12 major causes of Jealousy - What makes us Jealous </b></p> <ul><li>1.Jealousy is almost always due to deep-rooted emotional insecurities</li> <li>2.Jealousy happens due to our unmet desires and having Unrealistic expectations </li> <li>3.When we only dream and expect it to happen without taking appropriate actions</li> <li>4.Expecting something without putting requisite efforts</li> <li>5.Having a large sense of entitlement and not getting it</li> <li>6.Jealousy can also be due to when we focus on our biggest negatives only and on other's highest positives</li> <li>7.You may feel jealous - when you are feeling insecure, rejected, worried, ashamed, guilty or have serious self-doubt </li> <li>8.When you compare with others on totally unequal parameters </li> <li>9.Your Unresolved emotional hurts can cause jealousies</li> <li>10.Perfectionistic may find themselves feeling jealous if they often compare themselves with others</li> <li>11.Obsessive overthinking, Paranoia, Trust issues also leads to jealousies</li> <li>12.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Medical Conditions that might be linked to Jealousy includes</b> - Anxiety disorders, Attachment issues, Borderline personality disorder (BPD), Depression, Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), Paranoia, Psychosis, Schizophrenia, Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">28 ways people react when jealous - indicative sample list</b></p> <ul><li>1.Jealousy provokes show-off - when we are jealous to prove that we are also somebody we may resort to unnecessary, unhealthy and unproductive and harmful ways to show-off</li> <li>2.Jealousy may also make you compare without any logic and solid rationale</li> <li>3.It makes you project your own insecurities, fears, weaknesses, mistakes on others - Projection refers to unconsciously taking unwanted emotions or traits you don't like about yourself and attributing them to someone else</li> <li>4.Jealousy triggers competitiveness - where there is none needed</li> <li>5.Jealousy may fill you with fear of missing out FOMO</li> <li>6.Attacking others without regard to how it may make feel</li> <li>7.Trying to manipulate others</li> <li>8.Trying to make others feel bad, put them down</li> <li>9.Criticizing to make others feel inferior</li> <li>10.Trying to hurt others consciously</li> <li>11.Taking actions which may result in the loss of others</li> <li>12.Backbiting and gossiping about others</li> <li>13.Trying to dominate and control others</li> <li>14.Using threat and aggressive behaviors</li> <li>15.Using unhealthy tools to feel temporarily good - like alcohol, tobacco and drugs</li> <li>16.Going for reckless behaviors and taking bad risks</li> <li>17.Self-defeating and self-harming behaviors</li> <li>18.Putting the important relationships at risk</li> <li>19.Planning revenge</li> <li>20.Playing politics</li> <li>21.Becoming anxious, lonely and depressed</li> <li>22.Social-withdrawal</li> <li>23.Criticizing, Fault finding, Blaming</li> <li>24.Distrustful of others</li> <li>25.Being overprotective or suspicious</li> <li>26.Quick temper </li> <li>27.Verbal abusing</li> <li>28.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Medical/Physical Complications of Jealousy</b> - Stomach aches, Headaches, Chest pain, High blood pressure, Palpitation in extreme anxiety, Weight gain or loss, Insomnia or disturbances in sleep, Poor appetite, Weakened immunity</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">15 Signs of jealousy in a relationship</b></p> <ul><li>1.Lack of trust and suspicion -Checking up on their partners obsessively</li> <li>2.Stalking you -Following you around - openly or incognito </li> <li>3.Furious when you do something without them - especially when you have good time without them</li> <li>4.Intervening in your social circle</li> <li>5.Questioning your friendship with other people</li> <li>6.Wanting to know about your past</li> <li>7.Telling you how to dress</li> <li>8.Failing to see the good in you</li> <li>9.Flaring up when you mention another person</li> <li>10.Accusing you of cheating</li> <li>11.Discouraging you from going out</li> <li>12.Controlling others and other's behavior</li> <li>13.Puts you on defensive and forces you to explain yourself</li> <li>14.Getting angry when you give compliments to others</li> <li>15.Feel bad when you compliment or appreciate others</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">57 tips on How to Deal With Jealousy - </b>many of the tips given below have detailed do-it-yourself-blog among my 900+ articles in my two websites and 2000+ answers on my Quora page<b data-redactor-tag="b"></b></p> <ul><li>1.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Jealousy can occur at any time, especially in situations that feel threatening</b> - jealousy can also get build-up over time - and then gets triggered into explosive behaviors </li> <li>2.Learn not to take anything personally </li> <li>3.Understand that your success and happiness DOES NOT GETS REDUCED - <b data-redactor-tag="b">because of other's success and happiness</b></li> <li>4.Learn to get motivated and inspired from other's success and happiness</li> <li>5.Become authentic - become yourself - be honest with yourself</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">6.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Know what you want - what is your big picture AND all the WHYs of why you want them</b></li> <li>7.Learn to be vulnerable and show your vulnerabilities</li> <li>8.Accept your mistakes and Learn to apologize when wrong</li> <li>9.Accept yourself - identify and know your weaknesses as well as your strengths</li> <li>10.Practice assertiveness</li> <li>11.Express yourself using I sentences</li> <li>12.Know the situations and people - which triggers jealousies in you</li> <li>13.Identify through inner-exploration - why some people and certain situations make you jealous</li> <li>14.Find out what are your unmet-needs and unfulfilled-desires</li> <li>15.Identify which of your strong desires are really important - create action plan to achieve what is real important to you</li> <li>16.Create a learning and upskilling regimen that can give you the expertise to become an expert </li> <li>17.Master few important professional, social and life skills </li> <li>18.Polish your communication, presentations, public-speaking skills</li> <li>19.Practice the etiquettes to make you come out as suave, sophisticated and elegant</li> <li>20.Be respectable - give respect to others</li> <li>21.Become a great listener - speak politely and with humbleness</li> <li>22.Learn to handle put-downs and insults assertively</li> <li>23.Learn healthy ways to handle jealous feelings - by using this energy to learn and accomplish great things</li> <li>24.Become aware about your fears and then create healthy ways to Confront and challenge and deal with your fears</li> <li>25.Identify and challenge and then suitably create solutions to Address your expectations in your important yet troubled relationship</li> <li>26.Challenge your expectations from life and make it realistic </li> <li>27.Create healthy coping mechanisms to deal with your stress, your depression and your anxieties and fear</li> <li>28.Understand that Jealous Thoughts Can't Be Removed - But You Can learn to Express Them Properly</li> <li>29.Speak Up in a resourceful and empowering manner - when you are feeling anger, insecurity, resentment and jealousy</li> <li>30.Ask For other's understanding in assertive manner</li> <li>31.Don't work on relationships those are not adding value to you - Ask Yourself if some Relationship Really For you</li> <li>32.Learn to Stop comparing yourself with others</li> <li>33.Learn to manaage and Question your negative thoughts</li> <li>34.Work on your self-esteem, self-pride, self-confidence</li> <li>35.Do what you love - learn to live life as per your own values </li> <li>36.Be aware of how jealousy is destroying your relationship</li> <li>37.Learn to create healthy self-control to prevent your own thoughts from spiraling out of control</li> <li>38.Focus on the positives of your relationship</li> <li>39.Practice self-love and self-care</li> <li>40.Work on your trust issues - Trust yourself and your partner </li> <li>41.Take Time Out to relax and to Focus On Yourself</li> <li>42.<b data-redactor-tag="b">In case you get jealous of celebrities - understand that Being jealous of celebrities is a complete waste of energy</b> - as they certainly have the fame and money - <b data-redactor-tag="b">they might have some extreme pain-areas that you would not want at any cost</b></li> <li>43.<b data-redactor-tag="b">If your jealousy is about your personal body image- it can result in disastrous self-hatred</b> - work on ways to find yourself attractive in heathy and empowering ways</li> <li>44.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Get rid of people who are always criticizing and belittling and insulting you </b></li> <li>45.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Get rid of toxic and difficult people or learn to manage them better</b></li> <li>46.Learn to have discussions and normal conversations - avoid arguments to prove why you are right</li> <li>47.Learn to Ask questions to check understanding and create clarity</li> <li>48.Give others a chance to talk - acknowledge their response or leave</li> <li>49.Share Concerns - Not Accusations -Be Patient and Compassionate</li> <li>50.<b data-redactor-tag="b">LIST YOUR INSECURITIES - Identify the SOURCE OF YOUR INSECURITY</b> - Before Pointing Fingers, First Look Inward</li> <li>51.Identify Your Unspoken & Unmet Needs, wants and desires</li> <li>52.Hold Back On Making Rash Decisions</li> <li>53.Start Appreciating Yourself More</li> <li>54.Start working to heal Your Past Wounds</li> <li>55.Get rid of toxic and draining relationships and friends</li> <li>56.Admit to yourself that you're experiencing jealousy</li> <li>57.<b data-redactor-tag="b">If the above tips don't work and you are facing very bad consequences of your jealousy - then explore these treatments</b> like Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) [which helps you Focus on identifying the negative thoughts that lead to jealousy] AND Cognitive-analytic therapy (CAT)[ which Focus on relationship patterns and how people relate to the people in their life]</li></ul><div><a href="#beingjealous, #whatmakesusjealous, #majorcausesofjealousy, #howtodealwithjealousy, #howtomanageyourownjealousy, #wayspeoplereactwhenjealous, #signsofjealousyinrelationships, #howyourunmetdesirestriggersjealousy, #jealous, #jealousy" title="">#beingjealous, #whatmakesusjealous, #majorcausesofjealousy, #howtodealwithjealousy, #howtomanageyourownjealousy, #wayspeoplereactwhenjealous, #signsofjealousyinrelationships, #howyourunmetdesirestriggersjealousy, #jealous, #jealousy</a><span class="redactor-invisible-space"></span><br></div>