50 tips if you have lost your interests, drive and hopes

In this article you will learn the following

-48 reasons why you lose your zeal, interest and enthusiasm - most of these could be within your area of control - if you take the right steps and seek other's help

-12 reasons for loss of interest in your important relationships

-48 ideas on - how to keep your enthusiasm alive and rekindle your interest and what can you do to go on after your enthusiasm wears-off

Did it ever happened to you - that you started a project with very high motivation, enthusiasm, energy, hope and intent - but lost your zeal within a short while.

Instances of losing your energy, will and focus - the following list can go on and on - please tick what resonates with you from the following - you can also add what is exclusively your happenstance - all of these and more happens to me so frequently - that I have stopped counting.

• 1.You may find that you lack energy in taking action and doing what is most essential tasks
• 2.You have picked up a goal - like exercising, going to gym, learning to play musical instruments or learning martial-arts, learning a new language etc. On getting inspired by someone
• 3.You have an idea which makes you very-very excited - but when you go into action mode - the magnanimity of actions and the time it would takes - makes you overwhelmed and you give up
• 4.You started with certain assumptions about the type and quantum of work - of a project - but - then it became so complex that your initial motivation waned
• 5.You go to a workshop or seminar and return with full of enthusiasm and actions that you are going to take - but after a few days - you have forgotten all about this resolve of yours
• 6.You may discover that your initial euphoria evaporates - as it was due to some wishful-thinking [I call this phenomenon the Bruce-Lee effect - after what happened to me - way back when "Enter the Dragon" movie was released - immediately after coming out of movie-hall - I felt if I see anyone doing something wrong or if someone attacks me how I will beat the sh*t out of them]

Loss of interest is not always necessarily linked to a mental disorder - but can create a cycle from which you may find it very hard to break-free from.

Please understand that - enthusiasm can only help you start a new project or a plan like the 1st gear in your car - which helps move the car but cannot be used to drive it later.

To sustain and maintain your resolve, focus and determination and also to sail through boring as well as challenging phases - you need to strengthen your inner strength, stamina and the power of your purpose.

48 reasons why you lose your zeal, interest and enthusiasm - most of these could be within your area of control - if you take the right steps and seek other's help

• 1.You may have not fully understood - your real interest and hence on discovering the real-thing lost interest
• 2.Your priorities might have changed
• 3.Your situation have been altered so as to make this insignificant
• 4.You found some very meaningful and purposeful goal
• 5.You found something more attractive and interesting
• 6.It could also be due to your personality, attitude and mindset of losing interest fast
• 7.You may also lack the habit of disciplined follow-through
• 8.You were forced to take-up this goal against your will
• 9.Your focus is skewed - you might be focusing on temporary gratifications like fame, power, recognition, money etc. And not on your core values
• 10.Maybe you are in a profession or job - which is not aligned with your interests, goals and personality
• 11.You are living and doing things to please others
• 12.You look for approval and validation from others - too much
• 13.You are overworked
• 14.You have not taken vacations and breaks
• 15.You ae stuck in a rut
• 16.You are not learning anything new
• 17.You are doing things the same way - you have been doing since long
• 18.You are resisting change
• 19.You are too comfortable in your comfort zones
• 20.You are into toxic or dead relationships
• 21.You are not doing things that used to interests you a lot
• 22.You are not socializing at all
• 23.You have abandoned self-care
• 24.You have taken too much responsibility and it feels like huge burden
• 25.Your whys of doing things are not clear and inspiring enough
• 26.You have an unhealthy lifestyle
• 27.You are afraid to ask for help
• 28.Your have used your willpower too much to make it lose its power
• 29.You are wasting energy on less crucial tasks
• 30.You are ready for something new
• 31.You don't feel valued
• 32.You are emotionally exhausted
• 33.You have too much shackles limiting autonomy
• 34.You are focusing only on the negative
• 35.Because of your burnout - you stopped pushing yourself and you are not aiming high enough
• 36.You are acting on very short-term objectives with no larger vision
• 37.You don't have or don't see any growth and development opportunities
• 38.You are involved in perpetual conflict
• 39.You have unrealistic workload
• 40.You are bored with your routine
• 41.You feel as if you are incapable of making a difference
• 42.You are feeling stressed about your current work load
• 43.You compare yourself with others - in orange and banana comparison
• 44.You have gone through a grieving or traumatic experience recently - emotionally-physically-mentally healthy people will bounce back from these in 6-9 months' time. But if someone has not been able to - then they have to seek expert medical help from qualified and experience professionals
• 45.Financial setbacks of mammoth proportions
• 46.Job loss and not getting another job
• 47.You are tired of old mental roadmaps and lost your purpose and have strayed away from your passion pursuits
• 48.You lack patience

Few medical reasons - that might be triggering your loss of interest, zeal, motivations, inspirations and hopes - many of the following are treatable and few others are manageable

• 1.Disorders like - CFS, Auto immune disorder, POIS etc.
• 2.Psychological causes like - depression, sad, bipolar and schizophrenia etc.
• 3.Sleep disorders - like insomnia, over-sleeping, or other sleep disturbances
• 4.Social-phobias
• 5.Symptoms you need to pay attention and seek medical help - if you feel happening continuously for more than 30 days
• I.Sadness, hopelessness, emptiness, or tearfulness
• II.Outbursts of anger, irritability, or frustration - without any reason or over minor occurrences
• III.Loss of interest in activities you used to enjoy
• IV.Prolonged tiredness and lack of energy such that small tasks require a lot of effort
• V.Loss of appetite or unexplained increased appetite or cravings which is lead to weight gain and obesity
• VI.Restlessness
• VII.Slowed thinking, speaking, or body movements
• VIII.Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
• IX.Fixation on past failures or self-blame
• X.Difficulty thinking or concentrating, making decisions, and remembering things
• XI.Frequent or repeated thoughts of death or suicide
• XII.Suicidal actions
• XIII.Unexplained physical ailments such as headaches or back pain

12 reasons for loss of interest in your important relationships

• 1.You may have lost interest in your relationship - if you recently realized that you and your partner's values differ in a major way
• 2.Your feelings for your partner might have changed and you are seeing them in a new way
• 3.You may have been subtly feeling this way for a while - but not feeling like having honest conversation with your partner
• 4.You might be entertaining the idea that it might be time to end the relationship.
• 5.You or they have found someone more interesting
• 6.You or they don't feel intimate with them
• 7.You fight over every little thing
• 8. Your or their emotional-insecurity - which has got nothing to do with you
• 9.You are trying to force love
  
• 10.You or they are finding other people more attractive
• 11.You may find your partners utterly annoying at times
• 12.Toxicity or violence in relationship

48 ideas on - how to keep your enthusiasm alive and rekindle your interest and what can you do to go on after your enthusiasm wears-off - what can you do to go on after your enthusiasm wears-off

• 1.Each tip may not be for you, but try and find at least one that you can start practicing
• 2.All the following tips [especially the single sentence advice have detailed 3000+ do-it-yourself blogs, articles and answers in my both the websites as well as in my Quora page]
• 3.Identify whether your this mental state is disinterest or avoidance?
• 4.Although easier said than done - use your common sense to evaluate by measuring your interest and drive to avoid frustrations later - you need to be certain that it is not just a temporary whim -before investing time and effort in any new project
• 5.You need to accept the fact that everything worthwhile needs sustained periods of hard-work, sacrificing certain pleasures and also doing things that you may not find interesting - and during this cycle - you will also come across highly boring, demotivating and challenging tasks that you must do
• 6.In many goals only through persistence and that too after a long time - you will start to notice progress and growth as well as change taking place - but this may not happen till you have bounced back from few failures and course-corrected few mistakes - but as you see that you are making progress, your motivation and enthusiasm would grow
• 7.You have learn to nurture and replenish your willpower - and us this at strategically crucial times of critical importance
• 8.You need to work on - how to create laser-sharp focus and concentration for all the important goals and tasks
• 9.You also have to build great discipline of mind and emotions
• 10.You need to schedule brain as well as physical exercises to create emotional-mental-physical wellbeing and also to improve your mood and decreasing the symptoms of depression[even going for a brisk walk each day can help]
• 11.Get enough rest, relaxation and sleep
• 12.Learn and practice good sleep habits
• 13.Find out whether the hugeness of task is making you lose your enthusiasm - if so - break the goal into small-small tasks and milestones
• 14.Take small steps - tackle one thing at a time
• 15.Make plans for future - create contingency plans on how you will handle if certain things don't go as per your plans
• 16.Turn plans into daily-weekly-monthly action steps
• 17.Work on developing and strengthening your resilience
• 18.Create a compelling vison for future - to give you things to look forward to
• 19.Look for things which makes you excited and hopeful
• 20.In case you are struggling - turn to your friends, family and your most trusted anchors for support
• 21.Spend time with people - who normally make you feel come alive and happy and bring out the best in you
• 22.Reach out for professional help - especially if you notice symptoms and signs of burnout, depression, anxiety, melancholic low mood, mood swings, irritations, losing self-control, frustration, unreasonable anger, loneliness and feelings of worthlessness - in yourself or anyone you are connected with
• 23.Try online counseling and therapy - in case the symptoms are mild
• 24.Create plans - where you address all those which are most essential and take you forward towards your big-picture
• 25.Find ways of doing things without pressurizing yourself too-much or unnecessarily
• 26.See what you can scale-back, what you can eliminate and what you can ignore - without any adverse impact
• 27.In case it is very tough challenging phase - and you can't do anything - then sit and do nothing - till you can get back little hope to taking actions again
• 28.Practice stress reduction techniques
• 29.Find a friend with similar hobbies - take a class or join a club -take small steps toward what you once enjoyed -think about why you loved it in the first place
• 30.Practice gratitude for all the things that are going right [amidst all that are wrong in your life right now]
• 31.Reconnect with your loved ones and those who bring light into your life.
• 32.Practice mindfulness techniques like meditation, yoga, and deep breathing can help you get in touch with your body and mind and find peace
• 33.Create inspiring high standards for - how you execute and what you choose to do
• 34.Identify and act as per your core values
• 35.Everyday focus on doing something which isnot only novel but also enriching for you
• 36.Open yourself to the world of possibilities - by learning and taking on tasks which boosts your morale
• 37.Create inspiring experiences by meeting inspired individuals
• 38.Volunteer for charities, churches, schools, clubs, non-profits, and community centers
• 39.Start acting as if you are highly motivated
• 40.When you think you can't finish a job - list all the reasons and evidence that shows you will be able to complete the task
• 41.Combine a dreadfully boring - task with something you enjoy - like listening to music while you run or chatting with a friend while you are doing a mundane chore, listening to motivating tape while doing a routine task
• 42.Create and manage your to-do list and reward yourself for working - in such a way that you feel motivated to do more - like - eat one piece of chocolate after 45-60 minutes of work, write 500 words, and then take a 10-minute break, work for 1 hour and then spend 10 minutes on your social media
• 43.Understand the fallacy of the "paradox of choice"—that is having too many options makes it very difficult to choose - which almost always creates regret and a tendency to change action and course - after you have made the choice. Create your antidote for this effect
• 44.Identify a clear purpose - think beyond who you are currently - set measurable, achievable goals - create smart-goals in all your projects to make it naturally motivating as you progress
• 45.Live a life of no regrets - learn to let go of your past - mistakes, failures, embarrassments, guilt, shame etc.
• 46.Get outside your comfort zone - as living small doesn't help anyone
• 47.Work on conquering your fear
• 48.Surround yourself with people in your life who are also working on goals and share progress and challenges - listen to podcasts, videos and audios - that share positive, encouraging stories
• 49.For every task you do that you don't like, do something that makes you happy

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