42 tips stop worrying unnecessarily and self-inflicted stress

In this article you will learn the following

-45 causes of self-inflicted stress why do we worry so much

-42 tips on how to stop worrying unnecessarily and causing self-inflicted stress - create optimum self-control

-30+ Signs to help you identify your stress

This saying is profoundly true - that if the problem can be solved why worry - and if the problem cannot be solved how can worrying help you feel better.

Although most of us might know this subconsciously - many of us are still unable to stop overthinking - and worry, put ourselves under pressure, create tension and stress ourselves - unnecessarily.

Contrary to popular belief - nobody performs better under negative-pressure - unnecessary pressure impacts our judgment, our decision-making, our focus and our performance in every area of life.

Many of us use the word stress and pressure interchangeably - inability to differentiate stress from pressure can be very harmful.

Pressure can be a temporary state due to a present-cause - whereas stress is what happens if you live in a pressure-cooker life for long.

Stress can be broadly put in two categories - life-induced and self-induced.

Life-induced stress is caused by events which might not be in your area of control and might not have been triggered by you.

Self-induced stress usually happens through wrong habits of mind and your emotional immaturity - as self-inflicted stress gets created by poor management of your expectations, your time, your relationships and due to your mindset.

You might have experienced - that even holidays which are supposed to be relaxing and stress-buster - can create serious stress and pressure.

Everyone experiences stress to some degree - in almost every day basis.

The way you respond to stress - decides your quality of well-being - you have a choice either you can change the situation or change the way you respond to disruptive changes that life throws at you.

Stress can also be positive - when it fills you with positive energy of expectations, motivated, keeps you alert and ready to avoid danger.

But when you are under stress for a prolonged period of time - continued activation of the stress response in your body - create detrimental physical, emotional and behavioral symptoms

Your body's built-in instant stress response -of fight, freeze or flight - helps you face stressful situations - at the time they occur - later it is your coping mechanism which has to be strengthened

Many people with chronic stress - resort to unhealthy behaviors and habits -like alcohol, drugs, gambling, overeating, compulsive shopping, uncontrolled sex, smoking, and addiction to internet/social-media/mobile.

Worry is that feeling of uneasiness that occurs when your thoughts are focused on current difficulties in your life or potential problems that have not actually occurred - worry is just one aspect of anxiety.

While some stressors are out of our control, others are avoidable -and self-inflicted.

30+ Signs to help you identify your stress

• 1.Physical symptoms of stress include - unexplained aches and pains, irregular heartbeat, suffocation or difficulty breathing, exhaustion, fatigue, sleep-disorder, sexual-dysfunction, digestive issues, weak immune system, anger, losing self-control, dizziness, high blood pressure, changes in weight, frequent colds or infections, and changes in the menstrual cycle
• 2.Mental symptoms like - anxiety, irritability, sadness, melancholy, depression, sadness, mood swings, decreased libido, angry, irritated,
• 3.Psychological signs such as difficulty concentrating, worrying, anxiety, and trouble remembering moody, or frustrated

45 causes of self-inflicted stress why do we worry so much

By understanding why we worry so much, we can find ways to cope with and minimize unhelpful thoughts - as worrying too much can prevent us from living a happy and healthy life.

• 1.Your natural in-built danger-sensor takes perceives situations as real and sounds alarm
• 2.You focusing only on what is wrong and not asking what you can do to minimize your sufferings
• 3.You are trying to figure out how to solve the challenge that you are facing
• 4.Your 10 fears
• I.Your fear of losing control
• II.Your fear of appearing weak
• III.Your fear of what others would think about you
• IV.Your fear of becoming a laughing stock
• V.Your fear of being judged by others
• VI.Your fear of your perceived inability of handling a future event
• VII.Your having lot of responsibility at work or at home
• VIII.Your fear of meeting accident for yourself or your loved ones
• IX.You fear of falling sick
• X.Your fear of unable to pay your debt
• 5.In life you are going through a bad phase of uncertainty and chaos
• 6.Giving too much damn about trivia
• 7.Your caring too much for mundane
• 8.Your habit of overthinking - your own thinking actively plays a role in creating your stress
• 9.Your risk-appetite as well as your risk-appetite - many of you are programed take risks - few of naturally to be cautious and risk-averse
• 10.Your being a perfectionist
• 11.Your blaming other people or luck or any external factor - as the source of your negative feelings or situation - but by blaming someone else or some external situation, you fail to take any responsibility for your role in contributing to a possible negative outcome - as even if someone or something else is at fault - your focus has to be on what you could do to change or fix the situation
• 12.Your living in regret - which makes you focus on what all you could have done in the past
• 13.Your inability to correct your perceptions - even with new information you have which negates your beliefs completely
• 14.Your rejecting truth - by justifying your beliefs
• 15.Your feeling great in playing victim
• 16.Your discounting or downplaying the positives in your life
• 17.Your magnifying the non-significant
• 18.Your saying yes to the demand of others - even if you are unable to complete your own high priority tasks
• 19.Your not planning thoroughly for important and critical event
• 20.Your not exploring all options, all solutions and all possibilities - which can solve your problem more effectively
• 21.Your being disorganization and living with mental, physical and emotional clutter
• 22.Your living your life wallowing in guilt of what mistakes you made in past
• 23.Your not having enough money and your sinking in debts and struggling to make ends meet
• 24.Your going through multiple illnesses yourself or of your loved ones
• 25.Your not spending enough time with your loved ones
• 26.Your not taking breaks and vacations and relaxing
• 27.Your work being full of pressure and culture is of exploitation
• 28.Your being uncertain about your children's education and their future prospects
• 29.Your living with toxic people
• 30.Your poor skills in handing difficult people
• 31.Your worrying about your image in the eyes of others as per your imagination
• 32.Your need to be liked and accepted by others
• 33.Your seeking validation from others
• 34.Your not having friends with whom you can share
• 35.10 point checklist assess if you are anxiety prone
• 36.Do you experience stomach issues or other physical anxiety symptoms - regularly
• 37.Does anxiety affect your activities and day to day living
• 38.Do you lose sleep worrying about anything
• 39.Do you get into road-rage in a slow-moving traffic
• 40.Do you continuously fear about any major crisis that's beyond your control?
• 41.Thinking about future does it make you worry unnecessarily
• 42.Do you worry about accidents and your flight crashing
• 43.Are you concerned about what others think of you - does it make you tense
• 44.Do you worry about your death
• 45.Do you worry about those things that are beyond your control - and in the process unable to do what is within your control

42 tips on how to stop worrying unnecessarily and causing self-inflicted stress - create optimum self-control

• 1.Whenever you are flooded by what-ifs of future - note down the worst case scenarios and then create plans on how you will deal with these - should they happen - chances are they won't
• 2.Whenever you notice yourself falling into a whirlpool of vicious cycle - note down all what you are worrying about - then ask how best you can manage these and what all you can do to mitigate the situation
• 3.If you are continuously playing in your mind about your past mistakes and past embarrassments - learn to ask yourself what did you learn from those events and how can you use them
• 4.Get into the practice of saying so-what - in case you are worrying about how foolish you made yourself look - don't personalize or exaggerate the meaning of these moments
• 5.Benchmark your expectations with reality and reduce them to match your capabilities and strengths
• 6.Make it your habit of asking yourself everyday many-many time - what can i do today to lessen my stress - then take action
• 7.Learn to utilize the energy of negativities by creating and working on something meaningful
• 8.Let go of your urge to control everyone and every situation
• 9.Allow yourself to fail and feel pain of rejections - and then comeback and start working on your future dreams
• 10.Get organized and remove clutter from your mind, your laptop, your work-desk and your wardrobe
• 11.Get toxic people out of your life
• 12.Learn how to manage difficult, arrogant, dominating and toxic people
• 13.Choose people who inspire and motivate you and make you feel great in your company
• 14.Identify your strengths and work on to use them
• 15.Take break, relax, rejuvenate and energize yourself

• 16.Go for physical as well as relaxing exercises
• 17.Identify the cause of your stress — write down what is contributing to you feeling overwhelmed and stressed. - you may identify one particular issue or have a range of things contributing to how you feel at this time.
• 18.Prioritize the issues
• 19.Review your current coping mechanisms — identify what tools and strategies have you found helpful and what things are not effective
• 20.Share and talk to a trusted friend or family member
• 21.Make a positive plan — work out ways to deal with the situation or how to approach it step by step - then take action by implementing these
• 22.Take care of yourself — we need eat well, exercise and get adequate sleep
• 23.Understand that you cannot control all the external forces - but you can learn to manage how you deal with pressures of life
• 24.Give yourself one more chance - when you fail
• 25.Enjoy the fun of journey
• 26.Be vulnerable - it does not make you look bad - on the contrary it may motivate few others
• 27.Practice, practice, practice and rehearse both to perform and to manage pressure
• 28.Improvise and keep upgrading and updating your methods, your processes and your plans
• 29.Stop worrying about what you can't control - avoid anticipating.
• 30.Allow yourself to feel the negative emotions fully - then feel better by telling yourself that you will take action to bounce back
• 31.Accept your weaknesses - and everyone else's
• 32.Don't pay too much attention to your thought of or worry about what others might think
• 33.Stop performing to get others' validation and approval
• 34.Forget about perfectionism - instead focus on excellence by continuous improvement
• 35.Start focusing on the action and process - not on the outcome.
• 36.Be ok with mistakes and failure
• 37.Take action just do it - to avoid getting stuck in procrastination
• 38.Prioritize and focus your 80% time on the issues of biggest importance - stop trying to look busy by doing unimportant stuff
• 39.Don't take things too seriously
• 40.Stop taking things personally
• 41.Learn to solve problems better
• 42.Create some great pass-time which not only relaxes you but also aids to your mental growth

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