40 Ways to deal with your emotional turmoil and inner conflict

In this article we will learn the following

-26 types of destructive emotions-behaviors-feelings patterns - you may have if you struggle with inner-conflicts and turmoil

-14 types of inner-conflict you may have - add yours - the following is given as indicators

-40+ tips on How to Manage Your Inner-Conflicts and Emotional-Turmoil - most of the single-word or line solutions given in this article - HAVE separate do-it-yourself blogs in our both the websites and videos on our YouTube channel

How to deal your emotional turmoil & inner conflict

Many of us avoid conflict - to maintain a feeling of peace [which is superficial and temporary] - but we manage to create a long-term - self-sabotaging & self-destructive war inside ourselves.

This may reach a stage when it cannot be ignored and will create permanent trauma and pain within us - and may become our biggest impediment - in our growth-peace-success-happiness-relationship-health-wealth-bliss etc.

Rarely do we choose to see the existence of conflict as positive and as an opportunity to move forward and make things better.

Most people dread conflict– they relate with conflict as being uncomfortable, stressful, and scary-thing.

As a result - we learn to avoid, suppress or withdraw from conflict or even act as if - it doesn't exist.

This world that we live-in - is rarely the source of our peace but is a constant source of constant disruptions and disturbances - when we let it to be.

Turmoil seeks reasons to justify itself - and at times - we even invent these justifications.

To manage turmoil from external sources - we need to learn how to relate to people-circumstances and situations - better and in more-effective manner.

When you are being pulled in multiple-directions [because of equally damning inner-conflict is with equally damning consequences] - it is very-very distressing-challenging-confusing - besides being totally counter-productive.

The conflict between our hearts and head is real - and - when we are unable to find a balance between what we want [our heart] and what we really need [our head] - it creates a perfect recipe for confusions-conflicts-turmoil.

The more attached we are with people, things and outcomes - the more inner-conflicts and inner turmoil we will experience.

Because we can only be at peace - when our values are aligned with our actions.

When our life doesn't work out the way we were hoping-for - we are filled with various negative symptoms like - anger, frustration, indecisiveness, fear, confusion, annoyance, etc.

There is no simple formula for resolving inner conflict.

A simple analogy [if you look at this theoretically] - the silver medalist should be more-happy than the bronze-medalist.

But because the human brain doesn't work like mathematics - you will find that the bronze medalist is generally more-happy than a silver medalist.

Because the Silver medal is won only after losing to the Gold-winner [and it causes disappointment] - whereas the Bronze medal can be only won after defeating the opponent.

26 types of destructive emotions-behaviors-feelings patterns - you may have if you struggle with inner-conflicts and turmoil - on regular basis

• 1.Indecision
• 2.Overthinking
• 3.Anxiety
• 4.Building up of stress-levels
• 5.Unable to let go of mistakes-hurts-regrets-shames-guilt
• 6.Unable to see other options
• 7.Magnifying small incidents into huge
• 8.Creating external conflicts in our relationships
• 9.Makes us unable to take action at the right time
• 10. Losing opportunities
• 11. Unable to correct the mistakes
• 12. Covering-up for the slipups you made
• 13. Stagnating in your growth
• 14. Unable to share your fears-concerns-anxieties
• 15. Get easily influenced by the opinions of others
• 16. Feel insecure and unstable
• 17. Would feel the need of support due to lack of conviction in yourself
• 18. Experience sudden changes in mood
• 19. Feel uncertain and unsure about your goals, desires and plans
• 20. Go for short-term fixing rather than long term-corrections
• 21. Will focus more on having fun and entertainment to avoid difficult yet important-task
• 22. Will find it difficult to make up your own mind
• 23. Give more importance and value to the opinions of others than your own
• 24. You may find yourself willing to bend backward for others
• 25. Will have doubt on your abilities and strengths
• 26. Will be scared to enforce healthy personal-boundaries

14 types of inner-conflict you may have - add yours - the following is given as indicators

• 1.To start working to maintain finances better or to continue studies for greater long-term prospects
• 2.Go for show-off to create false impressions or let people think whatever they feel to hell with it
• 3.To enjoy now or to postpone having-fun for larger goals
• 4.To leave job for stating your own or to keep-working
• 5.How to let go or get out of a toxic relationship OR to live with it
• 6.To get married or to stay single [even though feeling lonely]
• 7.To study further or to take up job and study later
• 8.To marry young or when we have accumulated wealth
• 9.How do you say NO
• 10. How do you ask for favor
• 11. Should you do this or that
• 12. What would others think if you do this
• 13. Will you be ashamed of doing this
• 14. How can I be assertive - with a powerful and authoritative person

40+ tips on How to Manage Your Inner-Conflicts and Emotional-Turmoil - most of the single-word or line solutions given in this article - HAVE separate do-it-yourself blogs in our both the websites and videos on our YouTube channel

• 1.Become aware of all the different internal-conflicts you are having
• 2.Make a list of all of these turmoil you are currently experiencing - You may be in conflict about a major life issue or significant lifestyle change - for example
• I.It could be about making decision - for quitting or continuing with your current job
• II.Getting out of a current-relationship or to work on making that relationship work
• III.Creating and enforcing personal-boundaries with a person in your life who take advantage of you and makes you feel bad about yourself
• 3.Write-down for your own-clarifications - on how these internal-conflicts - are playing havoc - by preventing you live a fulfilling life
• 4.Acknowledge these Inner-conflict
• 5.Gain Clarity - why you are having these conflicts by asking yourself
• I.Are you not clear about your values
• II.Are you doing something [or forced to do something] - which is not aligned with your values
• III.Are you not clear about your priorities
• IV.Are you not clear about what is the right-direction and way to move-forward
• 6.Ask yourself Are you feeling insecure because
• I.You lack skills
• II.You lack exposure
• III.You lack experience
• IV.You lack knowledge
• V.Because you tried - but failed in the past
• VI.You are scared to venture into uncertain and unknown
• VII.You feel comfortable in your comfort-zone
• VIII.You don't want to take risk - because of losing something
• 7.Make a List of Things You Like About Yourself
• 8.Share what you are feeling with someone trusted - e.g. - right now I'm feeling like sh*t and don't know what to do to get out of this
• 9.Identify what do you really want
• I.Identify your core values - which are non-negotiable
• II.Identify your current priorities - on what you must do right now AND important to do
• III.Identify your larger than life dreams - which makes you thrilled
• IV.Work backwards to create a schedule from the end goals to daily-weekly-monthly-yearly milestones
• V.Create your own expectations - be aware of your needs, wants, and desires
• VI.Create your own choices - ask yourself that in the long-term - what would be the wisest choice - sleep-over these and then choose
• VII.Identify your own solutions
• 10. Stop being influenced by others - you may get advice from well-meaning people yet they might be in agreement with either your thoughts or your emotions - everyone will have their perspectives but they may not have solutions that will work for you
• 11. Understand that many of your inner-struggle happens when you are giving more than you are receiving.
• 12. To reduce your suffering see the disturbing thoughts - as temporary fluctuations of energy within the brain
• 13. Practice to distinguish between intuition and fear
• 14. Identify and challenge your beliefs - which are creating confusion
• 15. Identify your fears and all that which makes you scared-anxious-fearful
• 16. Ask yourself - should you live with your fear - or deal with it by facing-acknowledging-learning and taking actions
• 17. Relax and calm your mind - try exercises, swimming, meditation, listening to soothing music - because often the best answers and solutions come when we aren't looking for them but are relaxed and having fun
• 18. Most of us try to resolve known inner conflict by trying to find solutions where both needs can be met without having to neglect either of them - in very-less occasions this is possible - by identifying a work-around or a compromise
• 19. When you are sufficiently aware of the full inner conflict and are able to understand yourself - start by repeating the following [example - you have to create your own as per what you need] - then start applying them in smaller-less threatening situations and people
• I.I want to live my life - by working on the goals which makes me feel come alive
• II.Some people in my life - have added meaningful positive values - I must cherish and nurture these relationships
• III.I have to get rid of these Toxic people - who only make me miserable
• IV.My self-care is most important for me and my loved-ones
• V.I can take care of these I love and care for only when my wellbeing is taken-care of
• VI.I am adequate enough - I don't need validations and approval from others for working on y life-goals
• VII.I respect others and be respected by others
• VIII.I will have to say no to short-term in favor of long-term benefits
• IX.I need to learn ways to handle my stress-fears-anxieties better
• X.I also need to learn how to work on finding and applying solutions
• XI.I need to learn how to deal with difficult and arrogant people

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