In this article you will learn the following
-30 benefits of the struggles that most people go through in their life - in different forms
-40+ Tips on how to come out as winner through your struggles and the challenging, trying and frustrating phases of your life
40 tips use your struggle to grow stronger
Importance of struggle choose meaningful battles - Use your past struggles to grow stronger - How to win the battles of life
Struggle is essential for our life's most meaningful needs - like happiness, success, gratitude, mental-professional-emotional growth and healthy relationships.
Without struggle, failures and mistakes - no meaningful and worthwhile success or accomplishment is ever possible.
Suppose you start getting - all that you want every time - without much of hard work, or struggle, or challenges, or any type of pain, setbacks and failures.
What type of life you imagine this would create for you - will it help you feel happy, blissful, satisfied and fulfilled and can it make you stronger - NO-WAY.
Except feeling good for the short-time - you may feel bored, empty, purposeless, disconnected and lost.
In fact this have all the ingredients to make you - dependent, disabled, weak, unsure and incapable - and you may manage to lose all that you have acquired.
Many people chase money, fame and power under the misguided belief - that these will bring them happiness, satisfaction, bliss and joy.
Accumulation of materialistic-things, power and fame - can never make you feel successful, happy and fulfilled in long term on sustainable basis.
All your negative phases, setbacks, failures and obstacles - make your psych success-oriented - just like the larva's metamorphosis into butterfly.
96-98% of the world's population remains mediocre and average - because most don't know - which fight to choose and which one to let go.
Being highly self-disciplined is at the core of developing qualities of mental-resilience, fighting-back, bouncing-back, not giving up and being desperately hungry for your dreams.
All your pains, discomforts, anxieties, nervousness, struggles - are actually your best friend, philosopher and guide - although when you are in this phase it would rarely feel like this.
If you have not experienced feelings of frustrations, rejections, dejections, hopelessness, disappointments and other negativities - you can never acquire courage, strength and compassion.
People who have gone through struggles and have made it big in spite of all their ill-fortunes - can only understand the importance of love, family relationships.
Struggle is inevitable - everyone struggles - although there are people who struggle much more and for longer - than others.
Like Calvin Coolidge said
- ü Talent will not - nothing is more common that unsuccessful man with talent
- ü Genius will not - unrewarded geniuses is like a fact
- ü Qualifications will not - world is full of people with lot many higher degrees who are derelict
Persistence, determination and making constant improvisation to take actions towards your goals continuously - only can make you success and happy.
30 benefits of the life-struggles - that most people go through - in different forms
- 1.You can become a role-model and inspire and encourage others
- 2.You can face challenges by remaining cool, calm and unaffected
- 3.When you desperately wants to survive and thrive - then your struggles spark a sense of urgency - this propels a motivation which helps you create remarkable feats
- 4.Usually your struggles are unique and the strengths that gets developed in you - is not everyone can experience.
- 5.You are able to find beauty and joy in undesirable situations- because you have experienced many struggles which have pushed you up and high
- 6.Meaningful struggle improves performance
- 7.Although struggling is uncomfortable - it is a cruel teacher- but a good one
- 8.Yours struggle makes you flexible and less resistant to trying something new
- 9.The frustration of your struggles - will make you more open-minded about looking for alternative solutions
- 10.Struggle is giving you the feedback which is telling you - that whatever you aredoing now is not effective or working
- 11.Struggle forces you to reinvent your approach to the problem in a new way because you have to - as all that you have tried so far worked yet
- 12.Discomfort of struggling forces you to think and act differently
- 13.Struggle builds character within yourself
- 14.Your struggles is constantly polishing, up-building and strengthening your story
- 15.Your struggles helps you grow as a person, as a leader, as a family man
- 16.You also learn what you are capable of - through your struggles
- 17.You are building relationships with the people around you - when you are struggling - you also find who your real well-wishers are
- 18.Struggle brings out the hidden geniuses within you
- 19.Your struggles enables you to see a problem from a new angle
- 20.Struggles forces you to break-away from your comfort zone
- 21.Struggles also makes you less risk - which most people avoid when everything is going well. Struggle is the best way to learn
- 22.Struggling is also essential to happiness - although many times it needs to be explored how
- 23.Struggles makes you imbibe challenging and questioning your assumptions, beliefs and perceptions
- 24.Struggles help you course-correct your path and your solution
- 25.Struggles boostsperseverance
- 26.Your struggles encourages learning from mistakes and failures
- 27.Your struggles also challenges you to find multiple solutions and options
- 28.Struggles also help you implement learning from different situations into your current ones
- 29.Struggle makes you create yourlearning goal
- 30.When you face your pains and struggles - head-on - you also become a role-model and inspirations for others - because everyone want to hear stories of men and women who managed to transform their struggles into great milestones - nobody is interested in knowing the story of person who has everything.
40+ Tips on how to come out as winner through your struggles and the challenging, trying and frustrating phases of your life
- 1.Understand that if you have survived all challenges up to this point - chances are that you will survive whatever is coming
- 2.Ask yourself - whether you want people to feel sorry for you - or do you want people to look up to you
- 3.Understand that the struggles that you have is actually a shaping process
- 4.This process is not always energizing and motivating - that is why you need to choose and make positive changes - in your mindset, your values, your outlooks, your beliefs, your habits and your behaviors - for the most meaningful and worthwhile pursuits
- 5.Learn, educate, upskill yourself - on a continuous basis
- 6.Identify what mental-physical-emotional habits - you need to develop
- 7.Also what mental-physical-emotional habits - you need to unlearn
- 8.Ensure that struggles do not become the reason for your downfall
- 9.Every entrepreneur faces challenges and struggles but that doesn't mean every entrepreneur comes out as a great leader
- 10.Different people have very different talents - you need to recognize and tap those talents that are innately yours
- 11.Practice being flexible - because staying true to your beliefs and vision is important - but your blind-spots can turn you into arrogant, over-confident and know-it-all - and thereby limit your growth and success
- 12.Develop your decision making faulty by creating a balance between - the two systems - automatic pattern-matching mind [which sees the similarities and patterns of past experiences] and the reflective and questioning or challenging mind [which see the differences and our limitations as to why we could be wrong]
- 13.You have to continually reinvent yourself to be in the firm control of the fast emerging changes and trends
- 14.You need to understand and accept that - your life is not about personal records and medals - it's about challenging yourself to do something meaningful - the hard work in the middle of any difficult challenge is more important than the ending
- 15.Become a pro-active change-seeker and change-maker - shake up the status quo - because things won't always be as you expect them to be
- 16.Learn to make the best out of what you have
- 17.Accept the fact that struggle is an important learning tool - mistakes are helpful for brain growth and connectivity and if we are not struggling - we are not learning
- 18.Understand why is it important for you to be productive - by being productive you become efficient enough to meet the challenges and tasks that are needed to achieve your goals and aspirations - productivity gives you purpose and increases your output and creates a sense of accomplishment and pride
- 19.Become curious, tenacious and creative problem solvers through becoming resourceful
- 20.Look beyond your struggle and approach problems from a new perspective
- 21.Become adept in problem solving skills by seeking challenges and problems in different areas of life
- 22.Choose your battles and fight for what matters - Avoid all those - which at the very best - only is your ego-boosts
- 23.Be selective of the problems, arguments, and confrontations that you get involved in - and spend your efforts, energies, emotions, time and money
- 24.Save your time only for those highest of high pay-off activities, pursuits and things that matter ultimately
- I.Ask yourself what matters to you most
- II.What are your most important goals
- III.Who are the most important people to you
- IV.When you strategically choose which battle you want to fight - you are already on the way to win the big game called life
- V.Understand that not everything is important - most things simply won't matter in 5, 10, even 20 years from now
- VI.Every battle will suck your energy, time and opportunity - ask yourself that - the battle you are fighting is real-worth and not a ego-trip - victory does not matters all the time - making the best use of your time does
- VII.Evaluate the problem and its importance and impact - is this problem really important - do i need to deal with it - can my time be better spent elsewhere?
- VIII.Do a cost-benefit analysis- does the costs outweigh the benefits [if yes - then move on] - what are the odds of success [if the odds of success are very low, then it may be better to just move on as well]
- IX.In case you have chosen something to fight for - work toward a win-win situation - because when you have a mindset to squash others -where there must always be a winner and a loser, where there is a lack of opportunities for everyone.
- 25.Have an open discussion - respect that the other person has their views and goals that may be different
- 26.Seek to understand others by letting that person share their perspective
- 27.Be supportive - brainstorm the best solution together -remember - your goal is to achieve a win-win - not to make your opponent lose
- 28.Have an exit point - which tells you that it is time to cut your losses and move on
- 29.Let go of unresolved problems - success comes not from -winning every battle - but learning to let go when it's time to do so
- 30.Never Ignore your feelings and Emotions -Acknowledging your feelings - understand why you are feeling this way - if these feelings are creating
- 31.Learn to identify and understand - when - you are struggling with - who you are now and who you want to be
- I.Understand that the person you are now is the obstacle in your path to be who you want to be - because you are holding yourself back from being who you want to be
- II.If you want to step it up to a new level -you have got to eliminate the same old nonsensical beliefs, biases, prejudices, habits, excuses and assumptions as well as your associations - that traps you to the life that you don't want to live
- III.You can keep on doing what you have always been doing - and you will most definitely remain the same person forever
- IV.The toughest battle you'll ever fight in your life is the battle within yourself
- 32.If you want something - go for it - giving up should not be an option because only by going forward will you succeed.