28 Dangers of Overconfidence for High-Performing Leaders 70 Proven Tips to overcome the Icarus paradox

 When too much self-confidence is Bad

In this article you will learn the following

-What advantages healthy confidence levels can give

-Traits & Characteristics of Overconfident People

-70+ Tips for Building Healthy & Empowering Confidence

-28 Dangers of Overconfidence – the Damages & Negative Consequences of Overconfidence - The Problem of Having Too Much Confidence

-20 Tips to Identify and keep toxic people away from you to maintain your sanity, self-respect & self-worth – when to Walk away from someone

-12 SOCIAL RULES THAT MAY HELP YOU maintain your healthy confidence levels – a sample list [read my other blogs for do-it-yourself tips]

-4 Signs of Indian Style of overconfidence [you may find it right now – if you look closely for the following sings]

-15 Ways Your conditioning triggers unhealthy overconfidence

You can be either confident, have no or little confidence in yourself or be overconfident - at any given time.

These mental-emotional states are very dynamic - You may be completely unnerved & rattled in one situation or with one person AND over-confident with another set of people and circumstances.

Sometimes even a timid and submissive person without any confidence in self – can take outrageously courageous actions in life-threatening situations.

All of us also have a pre-dominant state – confidence level wise.

A healthy level of self-confidence as a dominant state can boost the quality of your important relationships and would create a positive impact in your professional and career fronts.

Having healthy levels of confidence would also boost – your self-image, self-pride, self-worth, self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-love, self-esteem, self-control, etc., etc.

AND you will dream big and accomplish your big-goals, and successful- also will be able to bounce back from - your mistakes, failures, crisis, disruptions, faster.

People with a healthy level of self-confidence lead a - contented, happier, and blissful life.

However, in this article, we will be focusing on the impact of over-confidence as well as the types of damage and dangers of overconfidence.

Too much self-confidence is as harmful as lack of self-confidence.

You don't become overconfident - because you know everything and can do everything.

Overconfidence is a façade that you have acquired – to mask – your very uncomfortable feeling of inferiority.

Overconfident people also acquire a superiority-complex to compensate for their insecurities – to hide their weaknesses, their lack of knowledge, maybe their lack of qualifications and education.

Most overconfident people are poor readers and learners.

Overconfident people believe that what they know is the absolute truth – because they themselves seldom verify if there are other possibilities [in case if what they know is correct] - simply because they lack healthy curiosity which makes one go for learning and updating oneself.

Because of their lack of self-belief and self-acceptance – deep in their heart they don't respect themselves – as a result their EGO also becomes very inflated, delicate & fragile - they may take everything personally.

Overconfident people generally don't respect others – especially those who are genuine experts.

Because they start believing their own lies - they begin to assume that others don't know anything.

Everyone gets the feelings of Overconfidence which crosses the line of healthy levels of confidence – time to time – BUT – in most emotionally healthy people - this overconfidence is often self-correcting as it was triggered by a temporary situation.

Whenever you get overconfident – you not only become less productive but also end up delivering shoddy work.

Overconfident people feel lost and scared and have a very shaky belief in themselves internally - and when challenged and questioned – because they don't want to look vulnerable, weak, lacking knowledge and powerless – either they show-off or act arrogant devil may care.

They use many tricks and techniques of narcissists -To protect their image of a powerful superman/superwoman [especially those who have risen to the top without any merit and credentials and managed to create false image through deceit, manipulation and support of their blind-followers].

Maintaining posture of overconfidence is very taxing and takes a heavy toll on ordinary insecure people.

BUT the people with serious psychological disorders like The Icarus complex (attention seeking or admiration seeking narcissistic behaviors) - are able carry this act that for long.

The story of Icarus is a metaphor for self-sabotage through ego and overconfidence.

You can recognize many when you read about - the current ruling politicians especially in India + Senior Bureaucrats + The Celebrity Godmen/God-Women/ Gurus/BABAs + and the most Toxic & GOTALABES media [GOTALABES means Giving Oral, Taking Anal, Licking Ass/Balls & Eating shit].

Now for a moment let us talk about people who have genuine & solid knowledge, skills, expertise, and exposure and a proven track record – they are often humble, quiet and thoughtful.

The overconfident people at power [who lack everything that the aforesaid gem of human possesses] – criticizes, ignores and laughs at them as being weak or indecisive.

We are currently living in a world - Where false self-assuredness hides - deeper insecurity and deep-rooted psychiatric issues of very serious nature.

Overconfident people often are highly self-centered and selfish – they are only focused on making theirs and their crony's life powerful and wealthier.

Whereas self-assured people with high levels of healthy self-confidence are caring, empathic and concerned about improving and helping other's lives.

In India a large mass of people is in trance as they have been Hypnotized by fabricated-narratives, fake-news, propaganda, false-bravado [through hollow words] and the display of outrageous overconfidence.

This bunch might realize their fallacy when they take a hard fall – sadly that does not seem possible right now.

They may realize when it is too late [which it already is] – that these people's personality got developed to compensate for their - character flaws and deficits in education, social & family background, poor self-worth, deep insecurity, shame, criminal intent and psychiatric insanity.

As we can see all the words which I read about other countries are ringing true – Banana-Republic, Crony-Capitalism, Police-State, Kangaroo-Courts, Complete Control of Democratic Rights of people.

28 Dangers of Overconfidence – the Damages & Negative Consequences of Overconfidence - The Problem of Having Too Much Confidence

1. One of the biggest harms is that unhealthy levels of too-much - overconfidence can cause damage to your closest relationships.
2. If you don't have cordial, intimate, close, and conducive relationships with the most important people in your life – say with your family members [parents, children, sibling and spouse], socially, professionally and in business – you may not enjoy a life of feeling genuinely blissful, blessed, contended and successful
3. You may also end up making disastrous mistakes in your choices and decisions.
4. You may also start getting ruled by your impulses.
5. Being over-confident can also make you overestimate your own abilities and intelligence – which would be detrimental to all that you want, need and desire from life and from others.
6. Why we overestimate and what are the dangers of overestimating and how to stop over-estimating your abilities, capacities and intelligence – this is my previous article.
7. By being Overconfident you would alienate friends and come across as arrogant, conceited and selfish.
8. You would not be able to have the right empathy, which is needed to understand your employees, your associates, your seniors, your customers & your vendors– [because you are not in touch with and are aware of your own real-self]
9. Your overconfidence may prevent you from objective self-reflection and prevent you from distinguishing between perception and reality – and as a result you may find it almost impossible to understand others and explore various better options and possibilities available with you
10. Your overconfidence may push others away – and you may not get help or cooperation when you need it
11. Your overconfidence & your EGO will not allow you to ask for help
12. When you are Overconfident most of the time – you might take projects which are much beyond your capabilities and might get into a perpetual frustrated and stressful and anxious states.
13. When you are overconfident you also might take actions which are not optimum, or you may deal with challenges in ineffective ways.
14. Having excessive-confidence without any base may make you inflexible and incapable of listening to others - it can harm your success and well-being.
15. Overconfident people may also get into blaming others and not taking responsibility for their mistakes – as they think they can never make any mistakes
16. You might miss many opportunities as you may not recognize them as opportunities [you may think that this option is beneath you]
17. You will not learn anything if you believe that you know it all – and as you know
18. Learning is never static – if you are not constantly learning you would be sliding down in terms of knowledge – so your success and growth may go for reverse trajectory
19. You may fail for the simple reason – that you have overestimated your skills, smartness, competence, expertise in such a way – that you have taken a project which is way beyond your current capacities
20. Overconfidence also feeds your EGO and because of this you will always try to prove yourself by show-off, creating a façade of success and confidence and of pretending everything being right
21. Overconfidence will make you ignorant to your blind side – others will stop showing this as they may start believing that you are too arrogant or too stupid to listen and care
22. Too much self-confidence creates a grandiose view of the self without any substance behind it.
23. You would invariably come across People who think they are the best, smartest, or most qualified and gifted person AND who in fact can be the most uninformed, and least qualified [and the worst part in this is that –they are the only ones who is unaware of their own shortcomings -a phenomenon known as the Dunning-Kruger effect [read about it in my previous article]
24. As a result, you may find that people start avoiding you – because who might want to spend time with someone who thinks he/she is better than everyone else and who only thinks about himself/herself
25. People with excessive confidence may also ignore the needs of others in favor of their own interests.
26. And all this may lead to major problems in your all kinds of relationships, including your romantic partnerships, your friends, your social relationship, marital, with your parents, with your children, with your siblings and family
27. Overconfident people keep making and repeating same mistakes repeatedly - instead of learning from them
28. Because they don't learn from their mistakes - their personal growth their personal growth gets stunted

70+ Tips for Building Healthy & Empowering Confidence

1. If you have a healthy self-esteem, self-acceptance, self-love, self-worth – whenever you experience bout of overconfidence which made you take wrong choices and take disempowering actions and decisions – please introspect and self-reflect deeply to investigate your developmental areas - because self-analysis may trigger and lead to a phenomenal growth and success for you.
2. Understand this basic wisdom - There is two ways to be fooled – One is to believe what is false-fake-lie-untruth OR the other is to refuse to believe what is true – know that it works both ways – If you think you are fooling others now easily - be prepared being at the receiving end too
3. Keep Learning New Things - Make Learning FUN – Example - read the following 4 sentences and then do the action given in the 5th sentence – you might discover it being an important life lesson about How to get rid of negativities
I. Laziness kills ambition
II. Anger kills wisdom
III. Fear kills dreams
IV.Jealousy kills peace
V.NOW JUST READ FROM RIGHT TO LEFT
4. To minimize the cognitive dissonance between your conflicting attitude and behavior – you can either change your specific attitude or change your actions.
5. Focus on the Effort, Not the Outcome -Learn to praise efforts to a Creates Growth Mindsets – stop praising outcomes or results -as this behavior of yours may make people use - means & ways that are not growth oriented although they may give initial success
6.This Growth mindset can help you develop the confidence and understanding that you can overcome most of the challenges - through learning, gaining experience, experimenting, trying out innovating and non-conventional ideas, improvising, practicing, and persistently putting your efforts in the right directions
7. Become an action person and focus on improving the process and enjoy the journey
8. Find new challenges to overcome to sharpens your skills to build resilience and comfort in taking risk and dealing with uncertainty and ambiguity
9. Develop the habit of discerning what is useful and what is not AND then Listen to What Others Have to Say with open mind
10. Be ready to ditch your own assumptions – when you find evidence and fact that it is not the only correct way or that there are better ways available
11. Always identify and challenge your assumptions, perceptions and beliefs
12. If you don't agree with some POV – find why that could be a better one – after thorough analysis, you can choose to accept or discard that concept
13. Take the first step in the realm of unknown and uncertain – if you believe that it might open newer opportunities for you
14. Be ready to make mistake and fail – when doing something new
15.But ensure that you don't fail – because you did not learn right or learn enough OR practice adequately OR did not change or pivot when your methods were not working
16. Make it a practice of moving on once you have learned from your mistakes or failures
17. Strive to strike the right balance with a strong sense of self-confidence without the pomposity of egocentrism.
18. Learn to challenge and question your own conclusions
19. Find a balance between confidence and humility is key, so that a person can stand up for their needs but also respect the views of others
20. Regularly assess and validate your beliefs against objective reality – based on hard evidence and fact-checking through validated & established fact-checkers
21. Seek constructive feedback from people you admire and trust
22. Develop courage to listen and act on feedback which can help you grow and maintain a grounded perspective to gain diverse perspectives and to identify areas for improvement
23. Periodically evaluate your actions, decisions, choices made, your underlying assumptions, your beliefs - to help you avoid you overestimating your own abilities and to foster humility and develop a broader perspective
24. Do the reality check on yourself – whether you really have the caliber, competence, skills, expertise and exposure to be the best in your domain OR you are overestimating your intelligence, smartness and abilities to hide uncomfortable feelings and guilt or shame
25. Ask yourself if you are being overconfident because you don't like to place yourself in below average category -And also accept that for someone to be above average -some people need to be average and others need to be below average
26. Learn newer cutting-edge skills, read, gain diversified experience and versatile exposure – constantly – to take you to the league of being the best in your category or domain
27. Identify and take actions to contribute to the society in big meaningful and sustainable ways
28. Understand and accept that Success often comes from taking risks and stretching ourselves to the limits of our abilities or beyond
29. Be Honest About Your Abilities -Acknowledge Your Limitations - Discover Your Knowledge Gaps -view your weaknesses as opportunities to learn, grow, and improve yourself
30. Find people who not only challenge you BUT also from whom you can learn a lot
31. Create a company of people where you are the dumbest person in a specific area – of course you also need to have your own niche expertise to be in this type of group by merit
32. Learning is the only thing the mind never exhausts, never fears, and never regrets - Make time for reading in your daily routine. Schedule reading into your day like you do for a meeting
33. Take notes, highlight the important insights and create an action plan out of your reading to apply to your daily life – understand that the purpose of knowledge is action, not acquiring the knowledge for its sake
34. Learn and apply the best practices of organizations and people and apply them in your own life in all the different areas of your life
35. Identify what interest you the most in the most undisciplined, irreverent, and original manner possible
36. Know that - The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn It's impossible for a man to learn what he thinks he already knows AND that the man who doesn't read has no advantage over the man who cannot read
37. 20 Tips to Identify and keep toxic people away from you to maintain your sanity, self-respect & self-worth – when to Walk away from someone WHEN THEY
I. Stop you WHENEVER you try to express your feelings
II. Invalidate, minimize, laugh at your feelings and emotions
III. Misunderstand you all the time
IV. Shame you, belittle you, mock at you, embarrass you, laugh at you – in public as well as in private
V. Manipulate you
VI. Gaslight you
VII. Stonewall you
VIII.Disrespect you
IX. Don't care about your existence – meaning don't pay attention to you and your needs
X. Don't help you when you are in dire straits, and they have the resources to help you
XI. They never reciprocate whatever you do for them – they don't help you in anything
XII. They always demand and expect you to do all that they expect
XIII. They use silence to punish you
XIV. They only hurt you – never heal
XV.They always talk sh** behind you
XVI. They make fun of you only to feel good about themselves
XVII. They are never happy for you
XVIII.They are jealous and envious of you
XIX. Even after all the above – they play victim – whenever it suits them
XX. They are never happy for you
38. 12 SOCIAL RULES THAT MAY HELP YOU maintain your healthy confidence levels – a sample list [read my other blogs for do-it-yourself tips]
I. Learn to go Dutch – means in any expensive event – share - If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time- Never order the most expensive dish on the menu when someone is treating you to lunch or dinner.
II. Create a practice of opening the door for the person coming behind you - It doesn't matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior
III. Learn to treat others with respect – irrespective of their financial, educational, social, gender, age and other background - Treat the person who cleans with the same respect as the CEO - Nobody get impressed by how rudely you treat someone below you – BUT - everyone will notice when you treat them with respect
IV. Return money that you have borrowed even before the person who loaned it to you remembers or asks for it - It shows your integrity and character
V. Learn to Respect different shades of opinions - Remember, what may seem like 6 to you might appear as 9 to someone else
VI. Even if you believe you are right – seek feedback from others
VII. Always look for a better possibilities, choice, options and solution
VIII. Seek help from others – show your need and vulnerabilities
IX. Learn to listen with patience – you may learn something valuable [unless it a gutter-rambling of someone who is only talking as he/she likes his/her own voice
X. Learn to appreciate and thank others - Praise publicly
XI. Stop giving advice until others ask you specifically
XII. Avoid arguments – create opportunity for discussions – one is the invitation to prove who is right and the other is what is right – choose the empowering one
39. You can also read 900+ blogs on different facets of how to build and maintain healthy levels of self-confidence on a sustainable basis and how to overcome challenges and achieve greater heights in all aspects of life.

4 Signs of Indian Style of overconfidence [you may find it right now – if you look closely for the following sings]

1. People jump to Conclusions without any clue as to what is being discussed - assume things without facts – start preaching [ or even rioting/killing/braking] based on WhatsApp, Twitter & Facebook knowledge – which has got nothing to do with TRUTH and is mere rumor, fake-news or propaganda
2. Jumping queue – just walk to the window ignoring the line of people waiting since hours
3. Overconfident Ministers & Bureaucrats – do nothing or procrastinate or shift responsibilities [with the full dose of overconfidence that they can never be punished or taken to the task]
4. Non-Stop Honking in Indian traffic jams – these people assume that – when they honk – the kilometer long queue of vehicles in front of them will miraculously vanish

15 Ways Your conditioning triggers unhealthy overconfidence

1. Attitude is a set of – your perceptions, assumptions, beliefs, thinking-pattern and your automatic emotional reaction/response mechanism.
2. This attitude decides how you act, react or respond to any event, situation, person, thing, object or even to your own feelings and emotions. How you evaluate something or someone - positively or negatively
3. Several different factors can contribute to your excessive levels of self-confidence and an exaggerated sense of self.
4. Your attitude is a learned tendency how you view and judge things in a certain way under a specific situation
5. When you see people having fun in certain situation -This attractive and appealing imagery causes you to develop a positive association with that scenario
6. Then what types of rewards and punishment you received for emotionally significant events influences your attitudes accordingly. When someone you admire greatly espouses a particular attitude, you are more likely to develop the same beliefs
7. Social roles and cultural norms too have a strong influence on attitudes
8. Your attitude gets reinforced when - You experience something which shakes your beliefs, and your life gets altered due to this event irreversibly
9.Many cognitive biases and fallacies also play their role in shaping your attitude
10. Your deep-rooted emotional insecurities along with the accompanying feelings of guilt, shame, regret.
11.Your perceptions, beliefs, thinking-patterns and habits of mind formed because of all above
12. Your conditioning during your growing-up period, the authoritative figures in life who controlled your upbringing [although this has role in genesis of both above factors]
13. Your life-events and how you experienced and interpreted those
14. Your wants, needs, desires and expectations from the world and yourself
15. All the above six reasons – may lead you to believe that your way of thinking is superior and the only correct one
16. This fallacy rules out your accepting making mistakes ever and that you might learn anything from anyone because of your belief that you know it all AND stops you to even think - how you can get benefit from other's POV, perspectives, ideas and suggestions
17. It makes you completely blind to even consider how you may have areas to work on and improve and your lacunae and drawbacks and weaknesses and limits

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